Marjani Lane

08/12/2024

If you practice hierarchy, how do you define it? Do you use position indicators (primary, secondary, etc.)?

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08/12/2024

07/12/2024

We listen, we don’t judge: Polyamory Edition.

For those new to this trend - you can participate by sharing something related to your polyamory experience (or opinion) that may get you “judged”. Everyone else - don’t openly judge lol. I can’t tell you how to feel but don’t criticize folks for what they may share.

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07/12/2024

In light of the soon to be banned TikTok app -let’s support me in the meantime lol. This is another free way to support me btw - doesn’t cost you a think.

See that purple ticket in the corner? It’s giving me free money (you might have one too). Just click the link to TikTok below and I can be awarded just for that between $2-10 if you are already on TikTok.

If you aren’t on TikTok and join I can be awarded $50.

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTY5eUCyv/

Thanks in advance!

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07/12/2024

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06/12/2024

Poly Memes and Things is not a safe space for POC or immunocompromised people.

06/12/2024

Gonna go ahead and put this out there:

I have, again, probably been kicked out of a major polyam group.

To be clear - I was invited to this group and that was a clear note made that they wanted more POC.

I joined the group with good will and engaged here and there.

Today a topic was posed from an anonymous poster - long story short the topic was about herpes. Since day 1 I have been very clear about my stance related to de stigmatization of HSV1/2 - which is that not everyone has the same reaction the virus. While it may be “common” it is not harmless, and by saying “it’s common” or “everyone has it” is a huge discredit to the harm it can do and is ableist to immunocompromised people at a minimum.

I personally have been clear that I have OCPD and trypophobia. Additionally I have anxiety and obsessively pick at my skin. A herpes breakout or transmission would likely send me overboard. In the group I expressed this is something to be aware of that some people suffer from mental illnesses that would be further exasperated by the virus UNRELATED to the stigma.

For the better part of the day I was told I was shaming people with HSV by making note that people with immunocompromised bodies were at risk of rarer symptoms. A specific person told me to “shut up” and that I needed to get mental health care or control myself because I noted the issues it would cause me as an example for mental affects UNRELATED to stigma.

To be clear - I was, I believe, the ONLY Black person speaking against minimizing HSV’s potential effects and I was DUMPED on for hours. Additionally more importantly was the focus on ableism in said group. I was told to remove my “haha” comments despite the downpour of ableism against mentally ill people like me AND a immunocompromised people by erasing or minimizing the effects of HSV symptoms.

So yeah - I do not believe this group is safe for Black people or disabled people with immunocompromised dispositions.

The group is Poly Memes and Things.

01/12/2024

We listen, we don’t judge!

Polyamory Edition!

26/11/2024

I want to heavily remind Black women and birthing people about the risks of pregnancy and giving birth in states with abortion bans.

Georgia just disbanded their Maternal Mortality Board over supposedly them leaking confidential information - like the fact two Black mothers died and their deaths could have been prevented had they been provided proper care or given access to abortion.

Or the fact that out of 113 pregnancy deaths over the past years in the state, 101 could have been prevented. To be clear this board is made up doctors and nurses…

Additionally other states like Idaho let their board’s legislation expire after board members got dragged for suggesting Medicaid get expanded for postpartum women. Texas’s maternal mortality rate has more than DOUBLED since 1999.

I’m not saying don’t get pregnant or have babies but I’m also saying don’t get pregnant or have a baby if you aren’t willing to possibly di3 in the process. We historically have higher rates of morality in pregnancy due to racism in the medical field. This ban is not making things better for us. Pregnancy and birth are extremely painful - imagine being told you cannot be given medication to pass a deceased fetus or incomplete miscarriage or whatever and then you bleed out…in excruciating pain…till you pass?

That’s the reality of things now.

20/11/2024

Literally some of my coworkers. Sir, you drove up to our job in a fully loaded Raptor from your $700k home that sits on a ranch.

Be fu***ng forreal.

19/11/2024

This is not the only time I’ve been posted in Daily Mail and every I’m posted I get an influx of racist comments/messages, death threats, and 🍇 messages.

I find it odd that the “Senior Reporter” decided to use a uniform picture in order to stir the s**t more. So now I’m positive these people are calling my command and the Navy.

Going viral is rarely “good”. This post is from four years ago and she dug it up more than likely due to my 2nd most recent interview with USA Today.

This is another reason why I suggest for creators to not share their jobs or loved ones online. Some of these folks have nothing better to do than actually stalk and harass you.

While im not breaking any “rules”, who wants to have their job be at risk due to trolls. Furthermore - some of the messages I’ve gotten in the past when this happens have been direct threats to me or my child - including grape.

I promise yall - there is nothing I’ve ever written on my page that warrants me to get SA by a racist stranger. I will add that this is one reason why I’m happy I moved to a state where I can protect myself. I won’t be tussling with you in the streets if you run up on me.

The resurfaced post explaining what 'solo poly' means, has gone viral on X, formally known as Twitter, and is now being mocked online.

18/11/2024

Unpopular opinion:

We need to gatekeep the community a bit more…

And I know folks don’t like this because who will be the people doing the gatekeeping or whatever but my focus is mainly on the lack of education but people being accessible to every event, forum, dating space and more.

Yall just be inviting any and everyone to polyamorous spaces without making sure they are at least talking about the same thing we are.

18/11/2024

Unpopular opinion:

Monogamous people - yall are more worried about us than we are about you…

I would be more concerned about states reversing alimony laws and no-fault divorces with your chronically infidelous husband than I would about the polyamorous guy kissing his partners on TikTok.

18/11/2024

I keep bringing this up because it’s necessary…

Checks and balances. Checks and balances.

Respectfully we can only keep ourselves accountable to things. Stop idolizing creators and pay attention to how you consume our content.

Everything I say IS NOT right. Everything I do IS NOT right. I’m still actively unlearning classism, ageism and internalized transphobia.

And some of your favs are doing the same OR NOT. For some of us to amass tens of thousands (or hundreds of thousands) of followers means that at a minimum we talk a good game or are able to convey a relatable message.

This also means that we can be manipulative.

Just a warm reminder.

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18/11/2024

Unpopular opinion:

Hypergamy and polyandry is a better economic move for women than polyamory’s “3 incomes is better than 1/2” concept.

Additionally- why do you think more money will be saved in a relationship where all of the present women are getting pregnant?

How does this save or MAKE money?

If you are a woman hellbent on increasing your chances of a higher net worth - hypergamy and polyandry (if you’re interested in men).

This is why the whole concept of from our hotep brethen will only begat more poverty and hurt the women in these OPP dynamics.