How different life would be if the feelings were never there in the first place 😭
That feeling of your heart sinking when you find out they started seeing someone, and you realize you just created stories in your mind about the two of you, when in reality, they never had any feelings for you 😣
Because how do you move on from someone who is still an active part of your life?
“You’ll find someone when you stop looking”
Well, how much time do I have to spend not looking before I find them? 🤔
How many wrong people do I have to fall for before I find someone who reciprocates their feelings?
Have you ever had to break up with someone you never dated?
I’m probably the world’s worst flirt out there lol and it doesn’t help that I’m afraid of rejection, so unless I know for a fact that I’ll be okay or that I have some sort of a shot, I won’t make my feelings evident.
If I have feelings for you, 9/10 times you probably have no clue 🫣
Anyone else feel this way when they’re at the height of it? When things feel like they’re never going to get better, feelings are too intense to comprehend, and emotions are all over the place?
(spoiler alert: things CAN get better, and they most likely will if you put in the work and keep going).
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I’d like to think I’m a good actor, but I often have a hard time acting like I don’t like someone when I do.
Like, how do I pretend to have no feelings for them? Perhaps I’m not actually that obvious, but it feels quite obvious internally 🤷♂️
I remember feeling so awful during my heartbreak while constantly trying to “fake it until I make it”.
I remember constantly trying to convince myself that one day, I’ll be okay. Even though I had such a hard time believing it due to how much pain I was in.
But I kept going because I had no other choice. I kept going despite how hard it was. I kept going until one day, I was in fact okay.
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not being ready to move on from them, but knowing you got no chance with them either 😣
What are your thoughts on breaking up with someone you never dated? One sided love? Finally letting go of someone who never reciprocated your feelings for them?
Anyone else pretending they don’t have feelings because they’re afraid of admitting the truth?
If I lie and pretend I have no feelings for you, it’ll be easier to let you go, right?
Because if nothing can ever happen between us, then what’s the point of admitting to my feelings? What good will that do?
^ All thoughts I have thought a billion and a half times in a billion and a half situations…
I was just fighting too hard at certain points. Trying too hard to avoid heartbreak, but it was bound to happen. I wouldn’t be where I am today without it. I wouldn’t be as happy as I am today.
WhyWithCai wouldn’t be here today had I not gone through the pain of grief.
The two of us against the world!
Is what my mind would romanticize on a daily basis, despite knowing that I have to let go. Despite knowing that I need to move on. Despite knowing that I deserve better.
Have you maybe fallen for the idea of them rather than the reality of them?
Are you maybe romanticizing them? Falling for a fantasy?
It’s always so fascinating and frustrating whenever I KNOW very well that someone I have feelings for isn’t the right fit for me what so ever, yet I can’t stop falling for them 😣
I’ve been working really hard on challenging these insecure thoughts in my mind. Challenging things that I was told in my past. Challenging the belief that I’m not good enough for someone else. That I’m not attractive enough for someone else.
But there’s 8 billion people on this earth after all, right? There’s bound to be someone for you and I 🤷♂️
To be honest, I’m a bit nervous posting about this specific topic, but I think those are exactly the topics I need to be posting about. If it makes me nervous, it must be something that others are also going through and at the end of the day, my mission is to help you feel less alone in this world, so here’s another attempt at that :)
It’s so frustrating when I know so clearly they’re not the one, but my heart doesn’t seem to care.
When I can so clearly see all of the misalignments, incompatibilities, and subtle red flags, but my heart couldn’t care less.
Again, I could really use a “STOP NOW” switch for my feelings…
I honestly still don’t know how to truly move on from people until they’re gone out of my life 😣
And perhaps it’s because I put them on a pedestal and romanticize them extensively, but how do you truly move on from someone when they’re still an active part of your life?
It’s quite tough trying to push your feelings away and acting like you’re okay, when you’re so clearly not.
And when you want to tell them how you feel because it’s killing you inside, but you know they don’t reciprocate your love for them so you stay quiet.
It’s tough. Really tough. But I hope you remind yourself that you deserve love that is reciprocated! And as much as you want them to be the person for you, how can they be the one for you if they don’t have feelings? You know? 😔
