Finding Your Heartlight

28/10/2024

Message to myself: I am so proud of you!

16/10/2024

Thanksgiving is over but gratitude is always in season.

We shouldn't need a special occasion to remind us to be grateful for what we have.
We shouldn't need a special occasion to celebrate people in our lives.
We shouldn't need a special occasion to acknowledge ourselves.

Giving thanks, showing appreciation, expressing gratefulness, and practicing gratitude should be daily rituals if you want to live a more peaceful life.

Don't let your gratitude be dictated by a calendar.
Make it a part of who you are and what others see in you.
Let the feeling of gratitude be its own reward!

When you fully feel gratitude in your heart, you will know what I mean.

03/10/2024

03/10/2024

Life after letting go is whatever you choose!

Following up on my last post about the weight we carry.

For most of my life, I never realized the toll it took on me to try to be the person others wanted me to be, and I never imagined the effect of burying emotions. I was able to show the world a smile regardless of how I felt. I lived life and made the best of every situation. I still do. But now it is authentic!

My life changed when I discovered life coaching and chose to become one. I have always thought that attitude was everything, and I learned how to expand on this and help others shift their thinking to create the lives they desire. To become a coach, I needed to be coached, learn, heal, and grow.

What I didn't expect in this journey was that I had to explore all that I had buried and the stories I had been telling myself. I had to choose how deep I was willing to go as that would determine how deep I could go with potential clients.

I went deep! I went to my very core, my essence, my soul, my spirit, my authentic self.
I re-wrote my stories. I let go of the versions of myself that others wanted me to be. I fell back in love with myself and found peace with all that I am.

I let go of the parts of my past that no longer served me. The facts didn't change, but my viewpoint did. I let go and I found my purpose, my path, my way forward.
I let go and found renewed energy, lightness, and awareness.
I let go to be propelled forward!

Some of what I let go of provided an immediate shift in me, and some took time to fully process and release. Some of what I carried is still with me.....but only to serve as a reminder of all I have been through and the lessons I learned.

My life changed when I released the burden of my buried emotions and old stories.
I became my authentic self again, and became someone who is passionate about helping others through this journey.

I wonder who you could be and how you would feel if you let go and chose to move forward.

03/10/2024

How much weight do you carry?

I am not asking you to tell me what your body weight is, I am referring to the burdens you carry mentally and emotionally.

Our mental weight is based on all that we have learned and the stories we tell ourselves. Our thoughts have the power to weigh us down and to lift us up.

Our emotional weight is based on what we feel about ourselves with the experiences we have had and the meanings we applied. Our emotions can have limitations or be completely expressive.

Do you feel like you are carrying the weight of the world? Are you able to fully feel emotions or are they stunted?

How many secrets are you keeping?
How many of your stories focus on failures, abandonment, lack of love and support, not being good enough, generational history?
How strong is your emotional attachment to these stories?
Do you always feel like you have reached your limits emotionally?
Do you wish or believe you are invisible?
Do you worry about being alone if you were to stop putting others first?

If you answered yes to any or all of these questions, then you truly do carry a lot of weight. I know how exhausting that can be. I also know that many people will put on a mask or try to be who they are expected to be, and that only serves to compound the issues.

Can you lighten your load? Yes!
Do you want to lighten your load? You tell me.
Is it really possible? Absolutely!

How do I know?

I know because I was you. I never asked for the burdens I carried. I never showed my pain. I never thought I was worthy of your time. I held back emotionally from everyone including myself, which added even more weight.

I know it is possible to let go, re-write, process, feel, and heal! I did!
I know it is possible to become re-energized and enthusiastic! I am!
I know it is possible to feel lighter and be at peace! I show it!

If you want to learn more about this journey, stay tuned for the follow-up post.
If you can't wait, send me a message to connect.
If you know someone who needs to read this, share it with them.

In the meantime, become aware of the true weight you are carrying.....

30/09/2024

25/07/2024

My heart goes out to all that are experiencing difficult times.

The wildfires reaching Jasper and so many other communities are challenges no one wanted. My thoughts, prayers, and positive energy are with you.

For everyone that is working through life's challenges, keep the faith and know that you will get through this. Seek support as needed to help expedite the process and know that you are not alone.

26/04/2024

Boundaries are the guardians of our essence.

I love this statement! I think it perfectly encapsulates how we should look at our boundaries.

In our boundaries we can be our authentic selves, be true to ourselves, find and maintain our self-respect, and we are safe as long as we honor our boundaries.
Boundaries help us teach others how to treat us. Your boundaries are your boundaries and do not need approval or permission from anyone else!

Honoring your boundaries is saying YES to you, and showing yourself that you are your priority. You matter. You are worthy. You deserve to take care of your needs and wants. You are just as important and valued as every other person in your life!

Today is a great day to focus on your boundaries. Say yes to yourself.

If you have challenges with setting and honoring your boundaries, or have associations with guilt around your boundaries, let's connect and get you on the positive path forward.

08/03/2024

Celebrating International Women's Day!

To all the women who are role models, leaders, mothers, survivors, healers, caretakers, volunteers, known and unknown........

If you know and celebrate your greatness, I am happy for you.
If you don't know your greatness, I believe in you.
If you can't see or feel your greatness, you are here and that is greatness in it's own way.

Today is to acknowledge you. Every day should acknowledge you.

I want all the women in my life to know how much I appreciate you and support you!

08/01/2024

Time to get real!

Do you want your life to change?
Be honest with yourself.

Do you want it to change, or is this just a good story to tell yourself?
How long have you been telling yourself this?
How much longer will you tell yourself this?
Is it working for you or keeping you where you are?

If you really want your life to change, get a coach!

A coach will hold you accountable, help you see things from a different perspective, open your mind to possibilities, identify your strengths, guide you to get out of your own way, and support your journey and transformation as you heal, let go, and grow.

A coach is there for you. Without judgement. With acceptance.
A coach will fast-track your changes.
A coach will prepare you for future setbacks.
A coach will be there for you when needed.

You have tried it your way and you know the results that is giving you.
If you are curious about what a coach can do for you, contact me to schedule your complimentary introduction session. If you are committed to changing your life, contact me to schedule your coaching sessions and actually start creating the changes you desire!

Please share this post with anyone you know that could benefit from my coaching services.

08/01/2024

Does this story sound familiar?This is a story of Settling. Settling for okayness, anxiety, low self-worth, disrespect, and invisibility.

Settling lived an acceptable life. It was comfortable, it was enough, it was known. There was a lot of stress and anxiety, and often there were days filled with self-doubt fueled by the opinions of others and being blamed for the lives of others. But there were good days too, and life was easy as long as it remained silent and in the background.

Settling learned how to accept this as the way it should be and told itself that this is all it deserved. It had survived many years, and it would be okay.

But one day Settling crossed paths with Creating and was introduced to things never previously imagined! This awakened something in Settling that had to be explored. It discovered a whole new world filled with happiness, lightness, peace, respect, energy, belief, and hope. It was led to trust, confidence, worthiness, bliss, and faith.

Settling embraced this new environment and became a part of it. There was no going back and going forward Settling became a light for others known as Becoming.

Does this story sound familiar? Can you relate to Settling?
You can settle or you can create. It is your choice.

Let me know if you want to be introduced to Creating!

04/01/2024

To Sir with love......

A movie, a song, another time.

If you know this, you will get it.
The song contains the line "from crayons to perfume."

That is what I do.........
Chaos to peace. Turbulence to calm. Anxiety to excitement.
Crayons to perfume..........

I help you create the transformations you desire. I love what I do!

04/01/2024

Happy New Year!

Make 2024 the year you want it to be.
Live your life. On your terms.

Let yourself shine. Be authentic. Chase your dreams.

I look forward to connecting with you soon!

04/01/2024

Welcome to 2024!

A new year, a new day, but every day is a new day.

Was 2023 the year you expected? Planned? Hoped for? Did something you are proud of? Created? Became? Found purpose? Did what you said you were going to do?

How would you summarize or recap 2023 for you?
Is that enough to propel you through 2024?
Did you make any New Year's resolutions?

My 2023 did not look like I thought it would. Life presented me with challenges. Life provided me with opportunities. I learned from both and I grew from both. I made connections that touched my heart and soul, and I experienced helping others transform their lives. I am truly grateful for the people that trusted me with their journeys and supported me.

I continue to create the life I want and I trust my journey. I look forward to whatever life brings me going forward. I love who I have become.

Create the life you can't wait to wake to.

You deserve it.

Believe this. Act on it. Stay true to yourself. Don't give up. Change your life.

Make 2024 the year that you created the year of you!

04/01/2024

Day 4 of 2024, are you maintaining your resolutions?

I know many people set resolutions for the new year, and typically they abandon them before the end of the first month. I trust you can insert your own reasons/ excuses as to why this happens.

What if I suggested a different way to approach this year?
A way that you can create change, or start living life on your terms?
A way that you can be true to yourself, your values, your beliefs?

I am talking about setting a theme for the year. The theme can be whatever you choose: action, acknowledgement, authenticity, fearless, growth, health, love, positivity, respect. The list is extensive!

Once you choose a theme, use it to help with decision making for your choices going forward. An example is: "What would kindness do?"
Then act based on the answer. Commit to the process of asking yourself the theme question and notice the difference it makes in your life.

I recently posted about becoming accountable as a way of changing your life. Accountability is a great theme! Think of a power word for you and use that as your theme.

If power themes are not in your current state, how about compassion, self-care, survival, healing, letting go, hope, or help?

Themes do not need to be tied to the calendar year. You are free to have a different theme in whatever time frame suits you. Your greatest benefit will come from staying with a theme until it becomes second-nature to you or creates the changes you desired.

Resolve to get in better shape, or you can ask yourself "what would fitness do"?
Resolve to quit smoking, or you can ask yourself "what would health do"?
Resolve to stress less, or you can ask yourself "what would self-compassion do"?

Resolutions or themes. Which one could you honor?
What would commitment do? Do that.