Finding Your Heartlight

25/07/2024

My heart goes out to all that are experiencing difficult times.

The wildfires reaching Jasper and so many other communities are challenges no one wanted. My thoughts, prayers, and positive energy are with you.

For everyone that is working through life's challenges, keep the faith and know that you will get through this. Seek support as needed to help expedite the process and know that you are not alone.

26/04/2024

Boundaries are the guardians of our essence.

I love this statement! I think it perfectly encapsulates how we should look at our boundaries.

In our boundaries we can be our authentic selves, be true to ourselves, find and maintain our self-respect, and we are safe as long as we honor our boundaries.
Boundaries help us teach others how to treat us. Your boundaries are your boundaries and do not need approval or permission from anyone else!

Honoring your boundaries is saying YES to you, and showing yourself that you are your priority. You matter. You are worthy. You deserve to take care of your needs and wants. You are just as important and valued as every other person in your life!

Today is a great day to focus on your boundaries. Say yes to yourself.

If you have challenges with setting and honoring your boundaries, or have associations with guilt around your boundaries, let's connect and get you on the positive path forward.

08/03/2024

Celebrating International Women's Day!

To all the women who are role models, leaders, mothers, survivors, healers, caretakers, volunteers, known and unknown........

If you know and celebrate your greatness, I am happy for you.
If you don't know your greatness, I believe in you.
If you can't see or feel your greatness, you are here and that is greatness in it's own way.

Today is to acknowledge you. Every day should acknowledge you.

I want all the women in my life to know how much I appreciate you and support you!

08/01/2024

Time to get real!

Do you want your life to change?
Be honest with yourself.

Do you want it to change, or is this just a good story to tell yourself?
How long have you been telling yourself this?
How much longer will you tell yourself this?
Is it working for you or keeping you where you are?

If you really want your life to change, get a coach!

A coach will hold you accountable, help you see things from a different perspective, open your mind to possibilities, identify your strengths, guide you to get out of your own way, and support your journey and transformation as you heal, let go, and grow.

A coach is there for you. Without judgement. With acceptance.
A coach will fast-track your changes.
A coach will prepare you for future setbacks.
A coach will be there for you when needed.

You have tried it your way and you know the results that is giving you.
If you are curious about what a coach can do for you, contact me to schedule your complimentary introduction session. If you are committed to changing your life, contact me to schedule your coaching sessions and actually start creating the changes you desire!

Please share this post with anyone you know that could benefit from my coaching services.

08/01/2024

Does this story sound familiar?This is a story of Settling. Settling for okayness, anxiety, low self-worth, disrespect, and invisibility.

Settling lived an acceptable life. It was comfortable, it was enough, it was known. There was a lot of stress and anxiety, and often there were days filled with self-doubt fueled by the opinions of others and being blamed for the lives of others. But there were good days too, and life was easy as long as it remained silent and in the background.

Settling learned how to accept this as the way it should be and told itself that this is all it deserved. It had survived many years, and it would be okay.

But one day Settling crossed paths with Creating and was introduced to things never previously imagined! This awakened something in Settling that had to be explored. It discovered a whole new world filled with happiness, lightness, peace, respect, energy, belief, and hope. It was led to trust, confidence, worthiness, bliss, and faith.

Settling embraced this new environment and became a part of it. There was no going back and going forward Settling became a light for others known as Becoming.

Does this story sound familiar? Can you relate to Settling?
You can settle or you can create. It is your choice.

Let me know if you want to be introduced to Creating!

04/01/2024

To Sir with love......

A movie, a song, another time.

If you know this, you will get it.
The song contains the line "from crayons to perfume."

That is what I do.........
Chaos to peace. Turbulence to calm. Anxiety to excitement.
Crayons to perfume..........

I help you create the transformations you desire. I love what I do!

04/01/2024

Happy New Year!

Make 2024 the year you want it to be.
Live your life. On your terms.

Let yourself shine. Be authentic. Chase your dreams.

I look forward to connecting with you soon!

04/01/2024

Welcome to 2024!

A new year, a new day, but every day is a new day.

Was 2023 the year you expected? Planned? Hoped for? Did something you are proud of? Created? Became? Found purpose? Did what you said you were going to do?

How would you summarize or recap 2023 for you?
Is that enough to propel you through 2024?
Did you make any New Year's resolutions?

My 2023 did not look like I thought it would. Life presented me with challenges. Life provided me with opportunities. I learned from both and I grew from both. I made connections that touched my heart and soul, and I experienced helping others transform their lives. I am truly grateful for the people that trusted me with their journeys and supported me.

I continue to create the life I want and I trust my journey. I look forward to whatever life brings me going forward. I love who I have become.

Create the life you can't wait to wake to.

You deserve it.

Believe this. Act on it. Stay true to yourself. Don't give up. Change your life.

Make 2024 the year that you created the year of you!

04/01/2024

Day 4 of 2024, are you maintaining your resolutions?

I know many people set resolutions for the new year, and typically they abandon them before the end of the first month. I trust you can insert your own reasons/ excuses as to why this happens.

What if I suggested a different way to approach this year?
A way that you can create change, or start living life on your terms?
A way that you can be true to yourself, your values, your beliefs?

I am talking about setting a theme for the year. The theme can be whatever you choose: action, acknowledgement, authenticity, fearless, growth, health, love, positivity, respect. The list is extensive!

Once you choose a theme, use it to help with decision making for your choices going forward. An example is: "What would kindness do?"
Then act based on the answer. Commit to the process of asking yourself the theme question and notice the difference it makes in your life.

I recently posted about becoming accountable as a way of changing your life. Accountability is a great theme! Think of a power word for you and use that as your theme.

If power themes are not in your current state, how about compassion, self-care, survival, healing, letting go, hope, or help?

Themes do not need to be tied to the calendar year. You are free to have a different theme in whatever time frame suits you. Your greatest benefit will come from staying with a theme until it becomes second-nature to you or creates the changes you desired.

Resolve to get in better shape, or you can ask yourself "what would fitness do"?
Resolve to quit smoking, or you can ask yourself "what would health do"?
Resolve to stress less, or you can ask yourself "what would self-compassion do"?

Resolutions or themes. Which one could you honor?
What would commitment do? Do that.

19/12/2023

19/12/2023

Being kind starts with yourself.

We often talk about being kind to others, but we tend to forget about being kind to ourselves. We all deserve kindness and most of us appreciate kindness. So let's remember to treat ourselves with kindness too.

"Be kind to yourself so you can be happy enough to be kind to the world." - Misha Collins

It is Christmas week. Give yourself the gift of kindness.
🥲Allow yourself to feel whatever emotions come up.
😃Know that you are doing your best.
😍Believe there is good in the world.
🥰Express thankfulness and gratitude from your heart.
😁Trust yourself and love yourself.
😴Practice self-care.

It is easier to give back and help others and be kind to others when we feel we have already been taken care of.
Being kind to ourselves reduces stress and opens our hearts.
Open hearts open doors to happiness.
Happiness leads to being kind to others.

Be kind to yourself and start paying attention to how it impacts your life and everyone around you!

19/12/2023

This Christmas Season give yourself something worthwhile.

Another year has passed and another Christmas is almost here, and another year will be ending soon. I have had countless conversations with people during this time that all revolved around making changes in their lives and how things were going to be different going forward. I think this is awesome that people recognize their desires!

The sad part for me is that the vast majority that claimed that wanted change have done absolutely nothing to make it happen. It is their choice to make and I don't judge them and I still respect them. I have the luxury of seeing things from the change perspective, so I know what is possible and the rewards of living the life you desire. If you have made changes to create the life you want, you will know what I am talking about. It is something that needs to be experienced to be understood and appreciated.

As the days count down I want you to remember it is not too late to start creating changes.

Some changes are quick as the only thing required is taking action on a decision.
Some changes only need your commitment.
Some changes only require you to forgive yourself.
Some changes are waiting for you to give yourself permission.
Some changes will happen once you start healing.

I don't know what you are getting out of staying the same, and I don't know what your motivation or inspiration looks like. I do know that doing anything for yourself that makes you feel worthy and loved is worthwhile.

This Christmas Season give yourself the gift of feeling that touches your soul and fills your spirit. It won't be tangible, but it will be worthwhile! It is a gift that keeps on giving!

Twelve days until Christmas.
Eighteen days left in 2023.
You decide how to use these days.
You decide how many days until you start creating the changes you desire.

12/12/2023

Reflection Friday........

A lot has happened this week. A lot happens every week. A lot will always happen in any given timeframe.

Today I am focusing on how blessed I am through my experiences of facilitating bi-weekly group coaching sessions. This week one person in group attended her last session as she is moving on to the next chapter of her life.

In 10 months of attending group sessions, I witnessed her transformation and growth to reconnect with herself and regain her confidence. She became a role model during her last few months and shared invaluable support for everyone in group. I don't know what her future holds, but I trust and believe in her to continue being an inspiration to others going forward.

There are others in group that are well into their journey of becoming again and it fills my heart to be a part of their story and see how they are giving back while working on themselves.

Every time I think about the people that have attended my group sessions, I am filled with a sense of fulfillment and knowing that this is what I am meant to do. I know my role is to guide, and I take that to higher levels with the energy and compassion and ability to see strengths in others!

Today is a great day to reflect on the blessings in your life.
Today is a great day to do something that fulfills you.
Today is a great day to do something that lifts up someone else.

Wishing you a day of fulfillment that carries over to the days beyond!

12/12/2023

Growth doesn't have to be an arduous climb!

Growth can be a gentle walk. It may be a journey of curiosity and discovery that follows an easy path at your pace.

Imagine going on a guided tour to become who you want to be:
🚶‍♀️A tour that creates an awareness of your issues and buried emotions, and what has been holding you back.
🚶‍♀️A tour that teaches you how to process and let go so you can move forward.
🚶‍♀️A tour that leads you to your core so you can heal, reconnect, and evolve.
🚶‍♀️A tour that ignites your passions and inspires your growth.
🚶‍♀️A tour that takes you to new levels as you embrace all that you are.

Growth can be easy. It is a choice. You can choose for it to be hard or you can choose for it to be easy. The choice is yours. Either way, growth requires commitment. The journey is about becoming. It is great to say you have arrived, and it is powerful to say you have become!

Today I celebrated someone who has become as we ended her coaching requirements. We took the gentle walk that included scenic routes and opportunities to recognize her strengths and growth along the way. I got to hear her say "she loves who she has become and she now trusts herself to handle whatever comes her way, and she can't believe it was so easy"!

This is music to my heart and I am very proud of her! I will be forever grateful for all she brought into my world and for the trust placed in me to be her guide!

If you want to discuss what your growth journey could look like, message me and let's talk.

22/10/2023

Change. Growth. Reinventing. Reconnecting. Becoming. Discovering.

Pick a word that you feel describes your journey of development, and feel free to use your own word.

Many of us still don't know who we are or what we want our lives to be like. We are still figuring it out, or we have settled for what it is.

The ones who settle accept life as it is and believe that this is all there is. It is difficult to imagine anything other than what you know.

The ones that seek more in their lives will actively attempt new things and believe they are meant for more and explore possibilities.

There are many variations of people, beliefs, and attitudes among and in-between these scenarios too. We want to know our purpose in life and who we are meant to be. We tend to look externally for what has been inside us all along.

"Often, it's not about becoming a new person, but becoming the person you were meant to be, and already are, but don't know how to be." - Heath L. Buckmaster

It is possible that we don't know how to be because we were never allowed to be ourselves. The answer you seek is within you.

All the changes you make, and growing you do, and re-inventing you undertake will lead back to reconnecting with your authentic self as your journey of becoming evolves and awakens self-discovery.

You already are who you are meant to be, and you are modelling the version of that person as who you are meant to be at this moment. That version will adapt and change when it is ready to evolve. Accept yourself as you are and allow yourself to freely be yourself.

Notice what changes when you free yourself of the expectations and opinions of others.

The journey of becoming who we are meant to be is different for all of us.
We are the person we are meant to be right now, and we will become the person we are meant to be in the future. You have the power to determine what the future you will be like in the choices you make today.

Choose to be you. You will figure out who you are and you will know when you have become by how you feel about yourself.

22/10/2023

Solitude is not always a bad thing.

Solitude is great for
🤗reflection
🤗unwinding
🤗self-care
🤗processing
🤗focusing
🤗finding peace
🤗being free to be yourself
🤗creativity
🤗re-charging
🤗reconnecting with yourself
🤗practicing gratitude

Solitude provides an opportunity to discover and explore without fear of judgement.
When you can be comfortable and happy in your own company, you will have reached a higher level of empowerment and enlightenment.

Solitude does not mean being alone, it is a choice to be alone for a time period.
Choose solitude and choose yourself.......then become aware of how you feel when you choose to reconnect with others.

What do you want to add to the list of positive ways to use solitude?
Do you have an experience regarding solitude that you will share?

Solitude is not always a bad thing......sometimes it is the difference maker!

22/10/2023

Trust the journey.

The journey of life, growth, changes, challenges, becoming.

Have you ever thought about the things you never knew you were missing until you found them? What about the things you thought you couldn't give up but you did? What about the people that came into your life then moved on to live their lives?

All of this is part of our growth. Life goes on and teaches us lessons we never asked for. We choose whether to apply the lessons and grow or to ignore the lessons and remain stagnant.

"It's funny how we outgrow what we once thought we couldn't live without, and then we fall in love with what we didn't even know we wanted. Life keeps leading us on journeys we would never go on if it were up to us. Don't be afraid. Have faith. Find the lessons. Trust the journey."

The changes and challenges that present themselves are meant to allow you to become who you are meant to be!

Give yourself permission to grow and evolve. Let yourself shine. Trust yourself.
Growth is a part of life worth living.
You deserve the life you want.
You deserve the life that awaits your growth!

One of my favorite quotes that I believe applies to my life from Douglas Adams:
"I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I needed to be."

I don't know where this path will lead me, but I trust the journey I am on.

22/10/2023

WOW! I have grown!

I barely recognize myself anymore.
I am so thankful that I choose me and decided to grow!

"I already lost touch with a couple of people I used to be." - Joan Didion

Can you resonate with this statement?
I can.

I remember the roles I played, keeping myself small, putting myself last, feeling invisible. I could have continued this pattern, but I chose myself instead and I thank myself for it.

I will always remember these things, but I no longer have any emotional attachment to the memories. I learned, applied, grew, let go, and moved on with my life. I became me again in the version of who I am authentically meant to be.

I am at peace and comfortable with who I am as I am. If you thought you knew me in the past, you only knew the version you needed and I provided. That won't happen again - ever.

I outgrew the old versions of me and let them go the same way I let go of people that didn't grow with me or accept and support my journey. I have less people in my circle, but I am more fulfilled. Well worth the price I paid to become!

I wonder what growth is worth to you.........

22/10/2023

Courage - what is it?

According to the Oxford Dictionary, courage is:
➡the ability to do something that frightens one.
"she called on all her courage to face the ordeal"
➡strength in the face of pain or grief.
"he fought his illness with great courage"

To quote Franklin D. Roosevelt:
"Courage is not the absence of fear but rather the assessment that something else is more important than fear!"

Being courageous does not mean being fearless. It means not letting fear stop you.

It takes courage to do something you haven't done before, or has risk involved, or you think you can't do.
It takes courage to be vulnerable, and stand up for yourself, and stand up for what you believe.
It takes courage to change, and ask for help, and admit our weaknesses.

Whatever your dreams are, whatever life you want to live, whatever challenges you are facing, don't let fear stop you from taking action towards them.

Think about what you want, why you want it, and what it will give you to have it.
Think about what will happen if you do nothing to get what you want.
Decide which one is more important to you.
The next step is up to you.

Have enough courage to take the first step and you will find enough courage to take another step. Let that be the proof that you have the courage to keep going forward. Let courage build on itself through trusting yourself and having faith.

You are worth more than settling for less!

22/10/2023

Are you thinking it is time for a change?

Maybe you feel there is more to life, or you are contemplating that career change, or new location.
Maybe you feel you deserve better, or that your relationship needs help, or that something is missing in your life.
Maybe you know you need to make changes, but you have no idea where to start or what needs to change.

Earl Nightingale says "All you need is the plan, the road map, and the courage to press on to your destination."

This statement summarizes and simplifies the mindset needed to create the changes desired.

Decide where you want to go physically, emotionally, and mentally.
Make a plan for how to get there.
Map out the journey.
Start moving towards your destination.
Keep moving until you arrive.

When this is applied to geographic locations it is a straightforward process and easily adaptable to detours.
When this is applied to an emotional journey it may be messy and filled with unexpected challenges but staying as you are will also be like this.
When applied to a mental journey it is a journey of becoming filled with many potential detours and roadblocks that provide opportunity to assess and acknowledge your growth.

You can go on any journey alone or with a guide. The choice is yours to make.

Make your plan, map it out, and let the journey begin!

If you feel a guide would benefit you on your journey or to make sure you start on the right path, send me a message and let's talk about what I can do for you!

05/10/2023

I see me.

Do you really see you?

Do you see your strengths? Beauty? Uniqueness? Heart? Soul? Essence?
Do you see your experiences? Stories? Dreams? Future? Possibilities?
Do you see someone you love?

Or do you see your weaknesses? Age? Roles? Darkness? Emptiness?
Do you see your history? Secrets? Existence? Time? Limitations?
Do you see someone that needs your love?

The next time you look in the mirror, take a minute to reflect on what you see.
Ask yourself:
What have you done for me lately?
What are you willing to do for me?
Is this what I want to see when I actually look at myself?

The next time you look at yourself, don't get distracted by your physical appearance. Look within yourself.
Look at the parts you have hidden away and the parts you show the world.
Look at how far you have come and where you are going.
Look at what you love about yourself and keep looking at that until it is back in your immediate awareness.

Look at yourself again.

What do you see now?

I trust that you said........... I see me!

If you said anything else, let's connect and I will help you see beyond your vision.

04/07/2023

Stress reduction tip for today......start approving your own decisions!

The more you approve of your own decisions in life, the less you feel the need to have them approved or accepted by others.

The less you feel the need for the approval of others, the less stress you create in your life.

Today marks Independence Day in the USA. Make today the day you chose to become independent and start owning yourself.

Start accepting responsibility for your choices.
Start approving your decisions.
Start trusting yourself.
Strat taking control of your life.
Start living life on your terms.

Stop blaming others for your life.
Stop seeking the approval of others.
Stop letting others make you doubt yourself.
Stop letting others control your life.
Stop living life the way you think others want you to live it.

Do these things and feel your stress and anxiety go down while your peace and happiness goes up.

You have the power to choose whether you continue as you always have or you take action to create the changes you desire. Today is about independence. I believe you will make the choice that will serve you going forward!

09/06/2023

I set boundaries and now everything is changing! What do I do now?

Can you relate to this? We talk about boundaries and the benefits, but we also need to talk about what happens next.

A void in your life may be created by the people you lose, even if the relationships were not healthy for you. The demands of others occupied a lot of your time and energy and now you wonder what you will do with them.

Many people will seek out new people to fill the void either as a distraction or to avoid being alone and facing themselves. The chances of this strategy working out in your favor are low. They may provide temporary relief, but they will most likely initiate the feeling of being used. New people that come into our lives should be treated as new people and not replacements for the people we lost.

I suggest focusing on yourself. Reconnect with your authentic self, practice self-care, allow yourself to grieve and heal from the loss, and fall back in love with yourself. Make yourself a priority. Do things that light you up and give you fulfillment. Become comfortable with who you are. Respect your boundaries, they are there for a reason. Take all the time you need. You are worth it.

You will attract people into your life that want to be a part of it and want to share in what you bring to the world. They will be drawn to the real you. Being ourself should be the easiest thing we do, and the most enjoyable! When your happiness shows it becomes a magnet!

09/06/2023

Boundaries continued........

My last post about boundaries mentioned that you may lose people when you start to honor your boundaries. This is a fact. You will lose the people that you only served a purpose for or played a role for. As long as you act as others want they kept you around, but things change once you start doing what serves you.

Anything you lose when you stand up for yourself, protect your boundaries and begin to grow, was not meant to stay.

People come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. We can learn from all of them. The reasons will vary from testing us to teaching us to inspiring us, or even to model a behavior or help us transition to the next level. Some will decide when the season is over and it is time to move on, and some will have their season decided by you.

The ones that come into your life for a lifetime are the ones that proved their worthiness to be included in your world. There is no guarantee that they will always be in close proximity to you, but they will always be in your heart. These are the ones that are meant to stay. They will make you feel welcomed, seen, validated, valued, appreciated, and accepted just for being you. They respect your boundaries and support your growth.

My attitude towards the people that I lost when I set my boundaries was "thank you for showing me who you are". I will be honest, it hurt losing some of them. But I know I need to live my life. I prefer to be authentic and make myself happy rather than fill a role for someone else. Honoring my boundaries has taken me to a new level and attracted people into my world that embrace growth.

You are not going to lose anyone that is meant to stay in your life when you honor your boundaries. Feel whatever you need to feel for anyone that you lose, then let them go and continue forward with the life you choose. You deserve it and you will thank yourself for it!