The Importance of Masculinity and Self-Leadership in Personal Growth.
Unlocking Success: Safe Harbors, Mentors, & Intentional Living
🎧 "When you are comfortable in your own skin, you attract people who identify with that and can create authentic relationships." Marcus Murphy
Are you intentional about creating impactful relationships?
Are you ready to level up your mentor game?
Are the men around you lifting you toward the best version of you or do they send you the other way?
We cover all these questions and more on this episode with our special guest Marcus Murphy!
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Living Like A Savage in 2023
2022 was filled with growth opportunities (failures), But this year, I'm determined to break the pattern and reach new levels of focus and productivity. Follow me as I execute my plan for "Living like a Savage" to make 2023 the best year yet.
Overcoming Loneliness and Building a Path To Authentic Friendship w/ Lucas Krump
Our guest this week is Lucas Krump. He was working as an executive leader at a Fortune 100 technology company and was climbing the corporate ladder, reaping the benefits of a solid paycheck and a stable career.
But no matter how much he had, he felt lost, disconnected, and empty.
He discovered that many men he knew felt the same way and felt a calling to walk away and start again.
As CEO and Co-Founder of EVRYMAN, his mission is to enable men to connect with themselves and others through the powers of community, self-awareness, and emotional development.
What We Talk About:
-Creating identity around achievement and how it doesn’t look like how we thought it would
-What is “The 2nd Mountain”?
-The frustrations in finding a men’s group of “everyday guys”
-Hanging onto friendships that don’t serve us at our new phase of life
-How lone wolfing works…until it doesn’t
-Building brotherhood and community in your late 30s
-Guys don’t usually feel safe around other guys
-The consequences and drag that happens when we over-index our relationship with our spouse
-The fear around showing your true self to another man
-The phrase “Less of a man” and what it means in society
-Walking with a beginners mind
-What are the key areas of emotional fitness?
-How to expand our capacity to experience a variety of emotions and build resiliency
-Building emotional elasticity instead of numbing emotions we don’t know how to deal with
-What is somatic awareness?
#mensgroup #evryman #menshealth #mentalhealth #health
Our guest this week is an Emmy award winner, professional music artist, certified naturopath, and unorthodox spiritualist. She is also an author, motivational speaker, and performer.
Topics Discussed:
-Resisting the societal push against the masculine
-Creating balance for our boys by surrounding them with masculine men
-If men weren’t supposed to cry, they wouldn’t have tear ducts
-Holding an emotional bomb inside of us
-The connection between domestic violence and bottling up emotion
-What is the definition of a Man’s Holistic Health in 2022?
-The difference between ego and being spiritual
-The connection between high blood pressure and ED
-Creating a diet that optimizes men’s sexual health
-What to cut out of your diet now to have a healthy sexual system
-My issues with ED after my divorce
-Alcohol’s impact on sexual performance
-What we put in our mouths either contributes to our health or our destruction
-How sugar contributes to cancer and schizophrenia
The link to the episode is in the comments.
#health #menshealth #podcast #mentalhealth #resistingbeta
Today’s episode is a solocast where I document the steps I took in the first year after my divorce and what resources I used to turn my life around.
Topics I discuss:
- Being stuck in self-fulling stories
- The internal dialogue that fed my victim mentality
- How I sought external validation seeking stories that positioned me as the victim and her as the villain
- How my competitive nature worked against me. I needed to win. She needed to lose.
- My ego and unhealthy bruised bravado caused me to act childish
- The fear of being alone allowed me to sacrifice who I was.
- I had a fear of being accepted.
- I tried to be the man someone else wanted me to be and not the -man I know I am
What changed?
- I was aware of what I was doing
- I took ownership of my part
- I told myself different stories
- I surrounded myself with healthy friends outside of the relationship that weren't jaded
- I lived each day in gratitude
- I built my confidence in mental and physical fitness
- I kept promises to myself
- I intentionally did things that were uncomfortable (Cold showers, Spartan Races, Etc)
-100 Days of waking up before sunrise and journaling
- 100 Days of working out in a row for at least 7 minutes
- Started A Tiktok Channel
- Practiced moments of being my authentic self and risking the fear of judgment or ridicule
- Practiced Stoicism
Tools I used:
- The Miracle Morning
- Focused on Boosting My Testosterone
- Acupuncture
- Slow Carb Diet – the 4-Hour Body
- Supplementation
- Spending time in nature
Consumed Ownership type messaging in books like:
- Extreme Ownership
- Can’t Hurt Me
- Crucial Conversations
- Radical Candor
- MFCEO – Andy Frisella
- You Are A Badass – Jen Sincero
- Mindset The New Psychology of Success – Carol Dweck
- Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself – Joe Dispenza
- F**k Your Feelings – Ryan Munsey
- The Alter Ego Effect
- The Four Agreements (Be impeccable with your word, Don’t Take anythin
Another great episode in the books with Edward Coambs, CFP®, LMFT, CFT-I™
Ed is the founder of HealthyLoveandMoney.com an organization on a mission to help couples foster financial intimacy through learning, healing, and growing. He offers books, courses, blogs, and podcasts through this website, all aimed at helping couples understand where their relationship and money challenges come from and what they can do to change it.
Topics Discussed:
- How to deal with the insecurity you feel if your partner makes more money than you
- How can you improve your ability to lead in your relationship after understanding your attachment style?
-What is healthy masculinity?
- Reshaping the neuropathways in your brain to move past your trauma
- Micro-moments that pave the road to the best version of yourself
The positive impact of therapy during divorce
- You are not broken, but you do need to heal some past pain
- Creating an integrated brain with a healthy balance of emotion and logic
- Navigating the scenario when your partner spends too much
- Fighting about money with your partner when you are an entrepreneur
- What to do if you feel your partner’s spending habits are immoral or bad
- Finding the middle ground with money
- Getting past the glass ceiling over the amount of money you believe you can make
- The post-divorce money mindset
- Grieving your past identity and labels
Homework:
Go for a walk in the woods every day for the next 7 days without your phone.
#learning #love #help #entrepreneur #mindset #change #money #trauma #podcast #menshealth #mentalhealth #health #relationships #divorce #growth #resistingbeta
An Executives Journey From a Shell-Person to Fullfillment
Another amazing episode is live!
Mark de Grasse shares his story about how he traversed out of a valley of low self-worth to become the best version of himself.
Mark is the President of DigitalMarketer, a business strategist, and a podcast host.
Topics Discussed:
-What to do when you don’t feel like you are enough
-The steps Mark took after realizing he was depressed two years ago
-Giving up adult movies to improve mental health
-Feeling like you’re failing at life even though the outside world wouldn’t guess it
-How his life imploded after a divorce
-Having an “I have it made” moment and realizing he wasn’t happy
-Using self-destruction as a reset button
-How he felt he had zero self-worth and he used it as fuel to solve it with business success
-Dealing with a case of the “I’ll be happy when….”
-Being stuck in our heads and how it builds a lonely and miserable life
-How Mark uncovered his authentic self and became comfortable sharing it with the world around him
-Shattering the lens of misery
-Are you causing your “Cycle of suck”?
-Therapy and its ability to open you up
-How you may be inflamed and not fat
-Eliminating the elements preventing your path to happiness
-If we don’t have problems, we are going to make problems. That’s what we do.
#mentalhealth #menshealth #podcast #success #fullfillment #happiness #selfworth #youareenough #divorce
Luke Briggs went from a weak, unconfident high school kid to a personal trainer who’s helped hundreds of clients transform their lives through diet and proper training and a competitive bodybuilder and powerlifter.
(Episode Link in comments)
Topics Discussed:
-Making a drastic change to change the course of your life
-Getting past inner narratives
-Key steps to becoming a more confident man
-How Luke developed the discipline to not miss a strength training
workout since January 27th, 2010
-Keeping the most important promises to yourself
-Summoning the motivation to work out when you are tired, sick, or just don’t feel like it
-What identity do you have that is keeping you where you are at?
-Taking small actions that back the man you want to become
-What is the fastest way to change your life?
-How a 60 y/o went from not believing she can lift 10 pounds to deadlifting over 200 pounds
-Calling yourself on the BS that’s preventing you from improving
-Luke’s opinion on the Body Positivity movement
-How to stop “shoulding” all over ourselves and other people
-How to help navigate the “am I fat” conversation with our kids
-Overcoming the mindset “Women just don’t like me”
-Dealing with “probably” moments and how they prevent us from approaching women
#training #workout #fitness #mindset #confidence #identity #motivation
Another episode is live!
Topics Discussed:
-Wyatt’s struggle with anxiety and feeling like he wasn’t further ahead in life
-How cold showers allowed Wyatt to reset his system and restart his life in his 20s
The benefits of Cold-Therapy:
-Pulling yourself into the present moment
-Becoming more patient with your family
-Boosting your libido and sexual health
-How a first-responder went from snapping at his kids after work every day to a completely changed household dynamic.
-How being in the fight or flight response impacts your sexual performance
-Shifting perception to reduce your stress
-How surrendering can be a link to a better life
Wyatt is the Founder and CEO of Ice Barrel, with expertise in product innovation,
manufacturing, and eCommerce marketing. Before Ice Barrel, he worked in corporate
aviation, buying and selling jets. Like so many, he bought into the fiction our society tells
us; work harder, sleep less, and don't complain. The stress and anxiety of the 60-80 hour
work week took a toll on his physical and mental well-being. Eventually, reality caught up
with Wyatt. "I was broken, sick, and desperate for a change."
Shortly after hitting bottom, a stranger approached him at the gym and offered some
candid advice. Saying, "you don't look well," the man then went on to explain the power
of breathwork, meditation, and cold showers. Wyatt was skeptical but was desperate to
try anything. He started researching the science of cold therapy and was hooked. It
wasn't long before his wife noticed the results of these new practices. "It was like he was
a new man."
After growing tired of cold showers and ice baths in the house, Wyatt decided to invent a
cold therapy device that would allow him to simplify the practice. He started sharing a few
of these prototypes with others and quickly realized that there were so many people
looking for a solution for their recovery. That's when he set out on a mission to create the
most accessible and effective cold th
Episode 7: Mark Melvin - Finding the Perfect Amount of Happiness
Our guest this week is Mark Melvin. He was an accomplished corporate attorney in the the alcohol industry for over a decade until he left the industry to pursue a more centered life. He now helps people answer the question “Who am I”? He does this by sharing techniques in yoga, meditation, and breathwork.
We Discuss:
☑ Mental Time Traveling - How to deal with thinking about the past stories that haunt us or future stories that cause anxiety
☑How to stop intrusive and unwanted thoughts from controlling your emotions
☑What’s the cost of numbing the “voices” of anger, overwhelm, and anxiety
☑Breaking the conditioning from your upbringing
☑Figuring out what YOU want to do
☑Discovering how to play again and the benefits of getting to know your inner child
☑How to slow down and regain control of your mind
☑Developing an Indiana Jones Mentality
☑Practicing micro-moments of creativity and failure
☑Finding more joy in life by exploring creative outlets
☑Breaking through the worry of the judgment of others
☑Building resilience and self-efficacy
☑Stopping the unraveling when you start to lose control of your emotion
☑Becoming more centered
☑How Yoga can reduce the disturbances distracting our mind from living our best life
☑Finding the “perfect amount of happy” with breathwork
☑How to enhance mental performance and focus
☑Evolving into a fully realized human being
☑How to come back from “Losing Your Mind” in stressful or combative moments
☑Eliminating the “burry it down” moments” and how they can lead to immense stress and even death
☑A call to selfishness that could change the world
