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10/10/2023

World Mental Health Day!!
So Important!! 💜💜
Truly, every day should be mental health day until everyone understands.

I myself struggle with my mental health and have since I was first diagnosed chronically depressed at the age of 12.

I have been through some sh*t, I'm not gonna lie. It was ugly. But take it from me, a woman who has stood in the bottom of a hole getting dirt thrown down on her, the view is much better from the top.

Help is out there. If you cannot afford help or cannot wait a year for the next appointment, call 988.

If you can afford help, even have an appointment soon, but have too much anxiety about going or leaving your house in general, call 988.

If you need someone to just listen so you can get over the pain of one moment, call 988.

YOU MATTER! You matter so much! You are worth it, and it may not happen quickly, but it will happen. You will feel better one day. If you are reading this, know that I care. I know how it feels, nobody should live like that.

#988

10/10/2023

Halloween costume ideas for twins & more.
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07/10/2023

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30/09/2023

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Twins Celebrating Their 100th Birthday

13/09/2023

Yes!

07/09/2023

Right! 😝

03/09/2023

03/09/2023

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02/09/2023

Do you feel stuck in an endless discipline loop?! Using threats/yelling/timeouts only to find them repeating the SAME "bad" behavior immediately after??

So many of us use punishment-based discipline because a) it's how WE were raised b) it SEEMS to work in the moment since it's rooted in fear.

When a child, or even an adult, is afraid, they go into fight, flight or freeze mode: They stop in their tracks - freeze. Or kick and hit you on their way up to their punishment - fight.⁠ Or try to run away from you - flight.⁠
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BUT, these tactics actually end up causing MORE unwanted behavior🤯⁠

We have a secret for you.🔑 We have a way to get your kids to listen the first time (okay, within the first 3 times, they are toddlers after all)⁠ WITHOUT fear based discipline. The key? Swiftly, calmly, CONFIDENTLY hold that boundary RIGHT AWAY, every.single.time.

Now, you're probably avoiding the boundary bc you don't want to DEAL with the tantrum that ensues.🌪️ BUT, when you hold the boundary calmly, confidently + IMMEDIATELY, your kid will learn that when you say "iPad is all done," you mean it. Conversely? When you say "FINE! Just ONE more episode" to make the tantrum stop? Well, your kid just learned if he screams loud + hard enough, he gets more iPad.🤯

So, instead, swiftly, calmly and confidently SAY THIS:⁠

✨CLEAR BOUNDARY: “Do not move the iPad to the ground please.”

✨ACCEPT & ACKNOWLEDGE: “Hmmm, looks like you’re having a hard time not moving the iPad to the ground.”

✨OWN THE SITUATION: “I’m going to put the iPad away for now.” This is what we call a “related consequence” and it’s CRAZY EFFECTIVE for disciplining, aka teaching them to use objects safely and appropriately.

The consequence here is that after my very clear and calm warning, the behavior continued, and the result is that the iPad goes away for a bit. And you can add ✨”We will try again tomorrow. I know that tomorrow, you'll be able to use the iPad without putting it on the floor!"✨
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✨Struggling with tantrums, power struggles and disciplining in a way that both WORKS and protects your kid's self esteem? Our course, Winning the Toddler Stage, is here to help! For kids aged 1-6. Link in bio!

31/08/2023

Yum! ☕️

24/08/2023

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15/08/2023

"I’d love a day where I could just be with my kids.

And I don’t mean just physically or even emotionally, although they are privileges I never take for granted.

I mean mentally there. For the duration of all moments. For an entire day.

So I can sit with them, and soak up their little conversations and questions without my mind being half there, and half in the next thing.

“Did I turn the washing machine on?”
“What are we having for dinner?”
“I MUST email her back”.

Imagine if I could just turn my brain off. Imagine if I could just not worry about everything else.
Imagine if, for just one day I could be a mother, without all the strings attached.

I do imagine sometimes.
Normally when my child asks “mama are you listening?” Or “watch this, mama, watch this…are you watching?”

Because they pull me back into the present, when my mind is elsewhere. Even though it doesn’t want to be.

“Imagine”, I think.

I crave a deeper presence with my kids, often.

An “all in” mental presence if you like.

One they don’t ever have to question because of the mental load of motherhood.

Because I’m all in physically and emotionally.

But mentally - the mother load steals so much of that from me.

I resent her.
Often.
More than anyone else in my motherhood journey.

But I imagine she’s tired too." —

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02/08/2023

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02/08/2023

Ready for a chill in the air, warm drinks, and falling leaves!! 30 days until September! 🎃

01/08/2023

Helping a toddler learn to talk means we need to talk... a lot!
However, not all talking is created equally.

Be sure to use all THREE of these talking types:
Talk TO them
Talk WITH them
Just GIVE them the words

Shared via The Communication Company

For extra resources to help your family manage the ups and downs of parenting, visit our website at 1800EarlyOn.org