Ill Advised

31/08/2024

28/08/2024

Episode 132- "A British Southerner From Canada" is live now! Stefani and Ray visit Susan Writer's column, Ask Someone Else's Mom, this week. The Biffs read about potentially rigged, by-chance encounters with former flames; an inter-familial rivalry that has two uteruses vying for first; and a long-distance open relationship without rules on track for marriage. [Patrice Grasset Vin de France 2021 Chenin Blanc].
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21/08/2024

Episode 131- "Best of the Biffs (Part VII)" is live now! In this week's episode, relive some of the Biffs' favorite moments of Ill Advised. From episode 78 - How to Kidnap Us, a man's self-proclaimed stupid face is putting his wife off to s*x with him. In episode 11 - God Damn It, Kourtney, her partner's weight gain has a woman questioning the future of her relationship. And from Episode 22 - Dick, Thom, & Beelzebub, a woman's lackluster s*x life leaves her wondering if she can have extramarital affairs while staying with her husband.
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14/08/2024

Episode 130- "I Can Pretend it's a Manhole" is live now! Out of the Vault: This week, the Biffs bring you an episode with unaired segments from previous recordings. From Reddit’s AITA, a father wonders if laughing at his son’s self-sabotage makes him an as***le. From Metro.co.uk, a man promises to suppress his homoseuality in exchange for shelter with his wife and their children. And from Ask Amy, a woman starts a Facebook dating profile after her husband does, but is asked to shut it down when she receives more attention.
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07/08/2024

Episode 129 - "Besties Use Your Vi*****rs" is live now!
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In this week’s episode, the Biffs read from one of their favorite columns - Natalie Bencivenga’s, Ask Natalie. A series of unfortunate events in a contentious relationship leaves a grieving widow wanting to sever ties with her late husband’s son. A writer’s roommate-turned-close-friend crosses an unspoken boundary and violates her privacy when she borrow’s her s*x toy. Another writer’s emotional capacity to handle her best friend’s grief fuels an interesting discussion between Stefani and Ray. [Stefano di Blasi 2021 Zibibbo Catarratto]
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31/07/2024

Episode 128 - "Get Rich'd Down" is live now! Stefani and Ray attempt to weigh in on questions sent to the Slate.com’s How To Do It Column, by Rich Juzwiak and Jessica Stoya. A coupled individual’s want to connect intimately with girlfriends is interrupted by b***y calls and one-nighters. Another writer’s realization that they’re non-binary, along with their penchant for masochism, leaves them wondering if their husband is the one for them. Finally, a woman’s attempt at back-door, d***o play activates her gag reflex.[Benjamin Darnault 2022 Grenache Gris Plus]
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24/07/2024

Episode 127 - "We Are the Kool-Aid That Others Drink" is live now! This week, the Biffs revisit Reddit’s Am I the Assh*le (AITA) thread. A man’s disagreement with his wife’s unusual punishment of their underaged drunk son stalls communications at home. Another father questions whether he’s as***le for kicking his son out, when it’s revealed that he’s been staying with them because he cheated on his pregnant, bed-ridden wife. And a man’s dash cam footage reveals what he really did to the family dog. [Yalumba Y-Series 2022 Viognier]
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18/07/2024

Episode 126 - "Throw Some Cheese on that, B*tch" is live now! The Biffs, Stefani and Ray, put new columnist, R. Eric Thomas of Asking Eric (Washington Post), to the test. He’s got big shoes to fill as he steps in following Amy’s (Ask Amy) departure. An anti-gay rights in-law puts together a family tree and leaves the writer’s husband of ten years out, because of her stance on same-s*x marriage. A man who enjoys just about everything in his marriage can’t stomach another one of his wife’s home cooked meals. Finally, a DNA test has a sister questioning a moral dilemma: remaining loyal to her brother, or making herself known to his secret, estranged love child. [Chris Baker 2022 Willamette Valley Rose]
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10/07/2024

Episode 125 - "Ass First. Adult Later" is live now! The Biffs celebrate twenty-one years of Ask Amy with a send-off/tribute, including some of her best advice to date. Amy gets pranked in our first question, when a writer's scenario is the movie plot of the 2003 cult-classic, The Room. The second writer is a woman whose unchecked privilege, along with that of her family/friend group, gets in the way of her being a good sister. Finally, a dinner guest is upset following a party where the hostess fails to disclose that one of her guests was transitioning. [Beringer Bros. 2022 Bourbon Barrel Aged Chardonnay]
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03/07/2024

Episode 124 - "Say Uncle & I'll Stop" is live now! This Biffs read through Laura Collins's column in the Metro.co.uk this week. One writer asks for guidance on coming out to her mother about sleeping with her uncle. Another questions that status of his marriage when his postpartum wife cheats on him, following his unplanned vacation with his friends. And finally, a young man, s*xually harassed by his dad's young girlfriend, doesn't know how to tell him. [Prophesy 2022 Rose]
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27/06/2024

Episode 123 - "McMuff Me” is live now! In this week’s episode of Ill Advised, Stefani and Ray read from Miss Manners column from UExpress. One writer asks for help in determining when to relate and when to express empathy when someone close is sharing a personal problem. Another writer takes a tumble and becomes the joke of the friend group. Finally, a change in a cancer survivors appearance has them wondering how to redirect compliments. [Chateau Laborde 2018 Sauvignon Blanc]
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20/06/2024

Episode 122 - "Best of the Biffs (Part VI)?” is live now! It's another trip down memory lane as we relive some our favorite advice columns from our early days. From episode 13 - Swipe if You Want the Pipe, the Biffs address a writer's plan to get down and dirty with an internet beau. A man's uncut member becomes a Jewish mother's biggest worry, in episode 32 - Was Jesus Circumcised. And from Episode 72 - In the Privacy of Your Public, should Mom have knocked when the son uncharacteristically used the vacuum?
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13/06/2024

Episode 121 - "Peen or Not?” is live now! Coleen Nolan, the Mirror.co.uk's agony aunt's column, is the topic of this week’s conversation between the Biffs. A woman’s insecurities over the life her daughter lives prompts her question to Coleen. Another woman’s husband doesn’t like it when she’s barefoot on vacation, when she just wants to air out the puppies. Finally, when your Biff doesn’t like your significant other, which side of the fence do you play on? [Aperol Spritz]
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06/06/2024

Episode 120 - "Little Piece of Pork Rind.” is live now! The Biff’s read through advice from Jenee Desmond-Harris of the Slate’s Dear Prudence, this week. A woman finds her husband’s notes to himself on the best way to handle her in several scenarios. A husband cheats on his wife with the person she has a restraining order on, and now she’s ready to give notice at their co-owned business. Lastly, when the rat-tail when out of style, this writer thinks their baby book should’ve gone with it. [2022 J Vineyards & Winery Sauvignon Blanc]

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30/05/2024

Episode 119 - "Ketamine. Okay, We'll Start Here.” is live now! In this week’s episode, Stefani and Ray read from “Dear Abby.” A woman struggles to support her daughter through divorce when she learns about their open marriage. An ornate cut glass cake stand is the final straw after a writer feels snubbed by their family friend. Finally, a young woman is torn about her parent’s divorce after her father lays blame directly on her. [Rapaura Springs 2022 Sauvignon Blanc]

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15/05/2024

Episode 118 - "You're a Glory Hole” is live now! Out of the Vault: This week, the Biffs bring you an episode with unaired segments from previous recordings. From Boston Globe's Love Letters, Stefani and Ray discuss a twenty-four years old's serial monogamy and her plea to ditch the habit. From The Slate's How To Do It, the Biffs learn about garden party- and kitchen table-polyamory when a writer's efforts at having all of their partners at their birthday party are stalled due to group dynamics.

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08/05/2024

Episode 117 - "Runneth Up Bitch” is live now! The Biffs take on Reddit’s Am I The Assh*le again this week. A man’s culinary skills are challenged when his sister’s boyfriend marches out in a huff in search of his own hot sauce. When a man is sniffed by a dog at a pet-friendly eatery, he barks at it’s owners. Self-sufficiency is a lesson best learned at self-check out. Finally, a grown man is butt-hurt and lashes out against his girlfriend’s daughter for referring to him as creepy during school drop-off. [Casillero del Diablo 2022 Sauvignon Blanc]

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24/04/2024

Episode 115 - " Forgive Me Father” is live now! Sally Land's Dear Deidre of the Sun.co.uk takes the stage this week, with some controversial advice topics. What do you do when the man of your dreams turns out to be your long lost half-brother - and you want to keep sleeping with him? A man is pocket dialed by his wife and listens in to her moans and groans before busting her at home. A love child threatens a family's livelihood. [Bonterra 2021 Zinfindel]
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