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“It takes decades to build a reputation. It takes a few minutes to destroy it.” Warren Buffett

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“It’s a huge mistake to impose interest on yourself. Don't choose hobbies - they will choose you." Jeff Bezos

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Sun Tzu, Master of Habits Let's look at examples of how the ideas of a victorious strategist can be applied to mastering new habits. Example 1 Sun Tzu: "Only then will you be sure of the success of your attacks when you attack unprotected places." What does this mean. Only then will you develop a habit when it is easy to learn. Example 2 Sun Tzu: "He will win who knows when it is worth fighting and when it is not." What does this mean. He will change his behavior who knows which habits to acquire first and which ones to postpone for later. Example 3 of Sun Tzu: "A reasonable commander avoids a collision with the enemy when his spirit is strong, but strikes when he is sluggish and thinks of fleeing." What does this mean. A reasonable person avoids fighting bad habits where they are strong, but fights them where they are weak and easy to change.

26/10/2022

The Battle for the Right Habits Too often, we strive to master new habits, realize grandiose plans, and achieve other victories by relying solely on strength and acting too straightforward. We boldly go into battle and attack the enemy - in this case addictions - at the point where he is strongest. Trying to stick to a diet while having lunch with friends. Trying to write a book when there is noise around. Trying to eat right when cupboards are full of sweets. Trying to work with the TV on. We are trying to focus, having a smartphone at hand with social networking applications, games and other distracting garbage. When we quite naturally endure a fiasco, we begin to blame ourselves: they say, they didn’t strive so hard for the goal or showed insufficient willpower. However, in many cases, failure is a perfectly logical result, not of cowardice, but of poor strategy. Sun Tzu never went into battle if its conditions did not provide a sufficient advantage. And he certainly did not start with an attack on the areas where the enemy concentrated the main forces. You should do the same: move into new habits in small steps, gathering strength and getting into the best position to strike.

25/10/2022

unusual studies1. Social laziness In 1883, French agronomist Max Ringelmann conducted an experiment on agricultural college students that proved that working in groups actually makes us lazier. During this experiment, a group of people were asked to lift the load, doing it together with the team and on their own. An instrument applied to the end of the rope measured the applied force. The results showed that those who work in a group work the least. The larger the team, the lazier its members. In a group of eight people, each participant tried exactly half their strength from their real capabilities. Is this not proof that the team turns a good worker into a lazy person? 2. Thinking Out of the Box We have prepared a small task for you, which you can do at your leisure. There are three boxes in front of you. In one of them there is a candle, in the other there are buttons, and in the third there are matches. Your task is to attach a small candle to the door. Don't ask why, it's just a game. How will you do it? Of course, use the box as a candlestick, and use the buttons as a holder. However, when the German psychologist Karl Dunker offered this task to his subjects, only three out of seven people completed it. In the next experiment, he took all three objects out of the boxes. And then the subjects found the solution quite easily. Dunker wanted to determine how original we think and how we perceive the functions of objects. When things were kept in boxes, it prevented the subjects from imagining them in a new role (for example, in the function of a candlestick). 3. Consequences of insomnia Experiments with sleep were carried out as early as 1894, when the cold-blooded female doctor Maria Manaseina tortured four puppies with insomnia. The first of them died after 96 hours without sleep, the turn of the last came after 143 hours. Not content with killing four puppies, Manaseina made another experiment, this time with six puppies. He showed the same results. The following year, the experiment involved people: three men agreed to go 90 hours without sleep under the supervision of scientists at the University of Iowa. All of them began to see hallucinations already on the second night of wakefulness. After 90 hours of unbearable agony, the volunteers fell into such a deep sleep that even strong electric shocks could not wake them up. 4. Images acting on the subconscious The first experiments with the subconscious were carried out in the USA in 1957. Then the ambitious market researcher James Vikeri invited the press to watch a short film about fish. During the featurette, journalists pounced on popcorn and soft drinks because the footage from the film allegedly secretly told them to do so. The messages "drink cola" and "eat popcorn" appeared on the screen with a duration of at least 1/24 second. As a result, it turned out that sales of popcorn and Coca-Cola increased by 57.5% and 18.1% in 6 weeks. Despite the fact that now the existence of the 25th frame seems to be rather controversial. 5. Stanley Milgram's experiment This is one of the most shocking experiments in the literal sense of the word. Each stage of testing required the participation of two people, and they had to be completely unaware of what they would be doing. After meeting each other and a quick draw, the two people dispersed to different rooms. One was tied to an electric chair and warned about possible electric shocks, painful, but harmless to the body. Meanwhile, the second person took on the role of "tormentor". He sat in front of the microphone and read out a series of questions. The wrong answer of the victim led to electric shock. With each wrong answer, the voltage increased. The trials began, and after a few wrong answers, the tension quickly reached "painful" levels. When the executioners heard desperate cries in the next room, many asked the laboratory assistant if everything was going according to plan. To this they were told that the experiment should be continued. And most continued! After a few minutes, the number of incorrect answers reached such a level that the voltage of the electric current increased to 375 volts. Over a thousand volunteers took part in the Milgram experiment in the 1960s. It turned out that the majority prefers to blindly obey the authorities, even in cases where following orders can be harmful. 6. The truth about the beard In almost all cultures, facial hair is a symbol of wisdom. From childhood, we are taught that a man with a beard is worthy of respect and praise. But is it really so? Professor Jürgen Klaproth conducted the research at the University of Nuremberg-Erlangen. He suggested that faculty wear beards for one semester and shave them off at the beginning of the next. According to the results of the survey, it turned out that the students were unambiguously against the beard, arguing that with it the teachers look much less friendly and authoritative, and even not at all intelligent. 7. Christ and the clones What happens if you leave people in the same room claiming that each of them is Christ? This question was asked in 1959 by the American psychologist Milton Rokeach, who planned to confuse all three crazy people. So, one of these people claimed that he was God, another said that he created God, and the third - that he is the same Christ of Nazareth, although he has nothing to do with the men who claimed that they were his relatives. The purpose of this experiment was simple: to find out what happens when people are faced with an apparent paradox. Will they ask new questions about their personality, will it lead to a cure? Unfortunately, none of the three hypostases of God doubted themselves. It is curious that the "gods" did not conflict with each other at all, despite the obvious disagreements on the existential level. 8. Experiments on Little Albert Anyone who has read Brave New World by Aldous Huskley is familiar with the idea of artificially "programming" a child's reflexes. It turns out that this idea came to psychologist John B. Watson back in the 1920s, when the scientist decided to create a fear of rats in 9-month-old Albert. He got what he wanted by making a sharp and frightening noise whenever the boy approached the rat. The result of the experiment on Albert was his persistent phobia in relation not only to rats, but also to fur, fluffy blankets and small animals. It is not known how the fate of Albert after such studies. 9. Telekinesis Over the past century, several experiments have been carried out to establish once and for all the boundaries of the mind. The simplest example is the experiment on a group of volunteers who were asked to move something tiny, such as a coin, with their eyes. These experiments revealed a striking tendency towards success, but were never backed up by objective data on the existence of telekinesis. 10. The Power of Faith and Ignorance The experiences of Arthur Ellison, professor of electrical engineering at University College London, with the human mind could easily be called quackery if they did not prove how great the importance of faith and ignorance in people's lives. Ellison challenged a group of volunteers to make a vase of flowers levitate. To the surprise of the subjects, the vase hovered over the table. Of course, this was a hoax, and Ellison did his trick with powerful electromagnets. The reaction of the unsuspecting participants was interesting. For example, one old lady claimed to have seen a gray substance enveloping a vase. However, the physics professor reacted quite differently. As a great scientist, she denied the supernatural, and this conviction obscured the living fact before her. She maintained to the last that the vase did not budge. “I don’t understand why all this noise,” she admitted, “the vase didn’t take off.”

24/10/2022

Methods of Psychotherapy to Return to YourselfCLIENT-CENTERED THERAPY Marina Khazanova, client-centered therapist “You can feel what it means to be yourself only by allowing yourself to experience everything that happens to us. If something hurts, accept that it hurts us. If something makes us happy, do not be shy about it and express our joy. Do not deny in yourself what you do not like, but admit: this is also part of my "I". Client-centered therapy allows you to express any feelings and emotions in an atmosphere of safety and freedom. At a meeting with a therapist, the client talks about what worries him, upsets, angers or makes him laugh, what he is not sure about, what he likes or dislikes about himself. The therapist listens - attentively, respectfully, trying to understand what is happening, what the client is experiencing. His task is to be near and unconditionally accept the patient, that is, internally agree with what he is at the moment. This helps the interlocutor to stop being afraid of his feelings, to become closer to himself. The creator of this method, the American psychologist Carl Rogers, was sure that "every person is positive by nature" and strives for internal development and spiritual growth, but unfavorable conditions and circumstances prevent this. After client-centered therapy, many begin to feel better, literally. A person acquires the ability to assess the situation based on their own values and act in accordance with their interests. He becomes calmer and more confident, copes with troubles more easily, treats people better and trusts himself more. Becoming a person" Carl Rogers (Progress, 1994). GESTALT THERAPY Nifont Dolgopolov, Gestalt therapist refuses to recognize this or that feeling in himself, he cannot be completely himself.This method helps to realize yourself, understand your real feelings and desires, feel the boundaries of your "I". When these boundaries are strong and at the same time flexible, it is easier to adapt to to the world around, including to other people, without whom it is impossible to satisfy your needs.Direct questions help to define your boundaries (and sometimes build them): "Who am I?", "What is most important for me in life?", "What do I consider my values?" An important part of the work is the recognition of one's own rights: "I have the right to be different from others, I have the right to say "No", I have the right to any feelings, even if they are unpleasant for someone. By recognizing our right to be ourselves, we will be able to determine what of what we have is useful to us and what is not. Gestalt therapy also helps when we want something, strive for something, but cannot achieve it in any way. In this case, the task of therapy is to "complete" this experience, and not necessarily positively: sometimes we may admit that it is simply impossible to achieve what we want. The result is a feeling of lightness, as we free ourselves from what we fail to make “ours” and open up to new possibilities. Contact Serge Ginger (Culture, 2010) INTEGRATIVE KINESIOLOGY Olga Troitskaya, psychotherapist Integrative kinesiology, like other methods of body-oriented psychotherapy, works with experiences and sensations "imprinted" in our body.This method is primarily aimed at working with the consequences psychological trauma, which many years later can have a devastating effect on a person's life.Our body instantly reacts to danger, preparing to fight or flee.But the body can behave the same way when there is no real threat.For example, speaking on defense diploma, the student suddenly becomes speechless and covered with red spots.It turns out that once at school he was ridiculed and humiliated after speaking in front of class assom. In a similar situation, the body "remembered" that incident and, deciding that the situation was threatening, launched a stress response. At the moment of danger (real or apparent), reflexes work. Our method, with the help of special exercises, helps to “remove” the automatic reaction that prevents a person from being aware of the situation and acting adequately. We teach to listen to our bodily sensations, to be aware of our reactions to a particular movement. And we offer to do the exercises until the client feels that this is enough for him ... Performing them, he observes the changes taking place in himself. He asks himself questions and listens to the bodily reactions that appear in response to them. Such an experience helps him to further distinguish his impulsive reactions from genuine feelings". About this: Integrative Kinesiology, Svetlana Smirnova (CMC, 2011). century. However, this approach is also widely used in individual therapy (monodrama). Psychodrama is a study of the inner world of a person and his relationships with other people through role-playing. Moreno believed that our personality consists of separate interacting parts (or roles): the wider the repertoire of these roles, the better things are with mental health and personal development of a person. In a psychodrama session, the client, with the help of other members of the group, recreates and explores in action the complex world of his relationships and experiences. As a result, for example, he can understand how his "frightened" part blocks the one that strives for a happy life. In psychodrama, we not only meet with different parts of our personality, consider how they influence each other and our behavior, but we can also replace the mechanisms of interaction of our roles with more mature and productive ones. In the process of work, the client becomes both the creator and the protagonist of his drama. He reenacts significant events in his life in dramatic action, acting out scenes related to his problem as if they were happening at the moment. "Dramatic" is understood not as theatricality, but as dramaturgy: after all, a person, like a playwright, can review and remake the events of his life. You can talk about the inner world in figurative ways. To work with a client, we choose the one that is closer to him: with the help of a group, he can act out a dream, tell a fairy tale, embody the metaphor of a state, reproduce a scene from life ... One of the advantages of psychodrama is that not only the client acquires the experience of self-knowledge, but and all members of the group. They compare what is happening with their feelings, life experiences and begin to better understand what is happening to them.

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