My crazy beautiful messy life

15/10/2024

Wow

You're A Dysfunctional Husband

Every time you move on by pretending like nothing happened...

Your wife feels betrayed and alone.

You'd rather not face your wife so you act like her feelings don't matter.

You ignore her because you cannot take responsibility.

Staying silent when things need to be addressed.

You are telling your wife she doesn't matter.

She's not a priority.

But when you act like you have to be the bigger person...

To justify your behavior, you're patting yourself on the back to keep the peace.

Your wife can see your lack of integrity as you appease her with happy wife, happy life.

Until you finally address the situation or issue...

By puking your feelings all over your wife.

Pointing the finger back to her.

Talking yourself up to put her down.

Or putting her down to build yourself up.

By now, she's walking on eggshells because you can't manage your emotions...

You have no idea how to have conversations anymore because marriage got "hard".

Heck, you're so busy stringing words together, pretending you know how to communicate...

You never actually solve your problems.

You've lost the ability to set the tone in your home for you, your wife, your kids.

You can't reach goals because you can't structure your future.

You sit in your pain, blaming, rather than becoming disciplined and holding yourself accountable.

You are dysfunctional.

Don't YOU want laughter again?

Conversations where you go topic to topic without worrying who's interrupting who.

Where you aren't worried if either of you can talk, kiss and love.

Where flirting and dates are not just important and prioritized...

They are exciting and fun.

Where an "issue" can come up, but you get through it, and it brings you closer every time.

I know you do.

Stop sitting in your resentment, blaming your wife, long enough...

To realize, you aren't actually doing what's necessary to create this new life.

And don't say you are...

If you were, she wants those things too.

She'd be following your lead.

If you need a phone call for some direction, DM your phone number.

I got you.

12/10/2024

Silence speaks volumes.
When one person is crying out whether it be for help, attention, affection and your response is to ignore them, it’s time to walk away.

12/10/2024

09/03/2024

Check out Crazy Mess's video.

06/09/2023

Anyone else talk yourself into getting out of bed by telling yourself when you can get back in bed?
My first thought almost every morning is when can I take a nap today. Ok, 5 hours then you can rest. You can do this.

31/08/2023

🙌🏼 Being a stay at home parent doesn’t mean that you don’t work, it just means you don’t get paid. There are plenty of sacrifices made and so much of the mental load of managing a family and household that the other parent doesn’t share.
It’s also putting a ton of trust and faith in your marriage and your spouse. How can you think that you can leave when you have no income? How difficult is it to try to start a career later in life? There’s no retirement account.
Often, the working spouse feels like they are somehow superior to the other. You don’t work so therefor it’s your job to take care of EVERYTHING else and I shouldn’t have to lift a finger when I get home. Even if it was once a mutual agreement it still gets held over the other’s head that they aren’t working. If you’re not making the money maybe your opinion of how it’s spent or saved isn’t considered or isn’t as important.
I DARE my husband to make a comment like this man did. I’ve talked about getting a job and he told me I don’t have time for that and he’s not wrong! But as the stay at home parent I never feel like I’m doing enough.

960.1K likes, 16.5K comments. “Being a stay at home parent is work, and they should be recognized for the sacrifices they often make in order to further their partner’s careers ”