Ok, Let's Talk About it

19/11/2022

We are so excited to announce we have booked our first two engagements for 2023. We are elated to have the support of the community. Although we both speak and have our own specialty…We are open and qualified for the following types of bookings as a unit.

Key note speakers/panelist/ Host

Business seminaries
Healthy relationships
Hot topics
Mental health
Eliminating stigma
communication
LGBTQIA issues
Black/Le***an issues
School events

On the Turn Up side
Fashion shows
Club events
Parties
Competitions

Don’t be afraid to book the Brewers. 🫶🏽

Raquel B. and Tiara B.

10/11/2022

Relationships must be balanced.

All parties involved must have their goals, expectations, family, and friends embraced. It’s not a one sided exchange of trying to please someone for the sake of being together.

Being manipulated into thinking your presence is based off of what you can do for them and maintaining their happiness is not a partnership, it’s a dictatorship.

Have difficult conversations, see if you are truly supported, see if you are heard, set rules and boundaries and see if they are an inconvenience.

-Partnership is not just a title.

28/10/2022

Secure attachment attracts secure attachment.

If your partner constantly breaks up with you or plays hard to get…and you stay…you are dwelling in the realm of anxious attachment.

Want people who want you.

21/10/2022

Can you handle the emotional maturity this requires??

Will this turn into an argument or is this a safe space to express??

Will you be defensive or receptive to corrective criticism and growth??

Will you still mention the old me after I express I’ve changed??

19/10/2022

Things we don’t do in our relationship.

1. Talk about ex’s. You can talk about your experiences and things you learned without it being an ex conversation.

2. Villainize each other. Nothing my partner does is meant to spite me or hurt me, remembering that keeps us focused on the behavior.

3. Try to discredit the others feelings or reality. It’s ok to not have the same outlook, it’s not ok to act like your version is correct and the only perspective. Acknowledgement is key.

-Roc.

17/10/2022

When you think of relationship, whats the first thing that comes to mind?

15/10/2022

Our relationship thrives off respect. Maintaining respect in the relationship will always outweigh the feeling of love. Love will not withstand the things respect will get you through.

Shift your relationship to thrive off respect and function in love.

-T

11/10/2022

Healthy Habits that make our relationship flourish…

1. Accepting each other’s reality. We don’t try to change each other’s minds, minimize each other’s experience, or negate one’s perspective.

2. Healthy separation. Missing each other makes room for flirting, surprises, and mental clarity.

3. Intimacy. It’s a big deal at every stage in a relationship.

4. Loving the other how they want to be loved, and not just how we want to love them.

5. Date. It’s no secret you never stop dating, but let them be spontaneous, new, exciting. Discovering and trying new things keeps us evolving separately and together.

-Roc T.

08/10/2022

“I wouldn’t have my partner or the healthy relationship I do now if I decided to harbor everything I’ve been through in previous relationships. I stopped saying things like “I’m not doing this in my next relationship”, “I don’t trust nobody”…and anything else that showed I still needed to heal.”

-Raq.

07/10/2022

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30/09/2022

Who can agree this is the best feeling. That healthy balance between both your worlds and being the most important to one another.

“Healthy Obsession” does exist!

30/09/2022

One of the scariest things is arguing with your significant other, but the formula to healthy confrontation can be worked on if both parties are on the same side.

The formula needs calm. Without this everyone is not on the same side and effective communication can not happen.

…understanding. Go in understanding that this person is not out to hurt me, and we are seeking understanding.

…acceptance and accountability. Accept the person has their own version of reality, you are not there to change their mind. Be accountable for how you made them feel, not disproving your actions or intentions. Everyone has the floor uninterrupted.

…forgiveness. in healthy confrontation you cannot continue to bring up things that have been discussed. That is the exact opposite of forgiveness. You are apologizing for the feelings you caused (and vice versa). These cannot be used against them later or insight later issues, that means forgiveness didn’t take place.

-These are the very basic steps to healthy confrontation. Podcast on the topic coming next week! Remember you can’t use healthy tools in an unhealthy environment.

Comment healthy tips below!

26/09/2022

One thing my partner and I enjoy is writting to each other, as well as maintaining our journaling habits (separately and together). Writing is a release more couples should incorporate into their partnership. You’d be surprised at the effectiveness of such a timeless form of communication.

Let these prompts inspire you…

My favorite memories…
The first time I knew you were the one…
Our hardest moments…
In 5 years…
Today I feel…
When I look at you…
I need to tell you…
My favorite things about you…
The things I don’t say out loud…

Just begin writing, pick a prompt together and write a letter to each other, spray it with your signature sent and let your partner hear your voice as they read.

-Timeless

17/09/2022

If you could ask any question(s) about how to have and maintain a healthy relationship what would they be?

If you could ask questions about toxic behaviors/relationships, what would they be?

-Ask in the comments

16/09/2022

If I could give any couple advice, no matter how long you’ve been together…never stop dating. Letting my partner know she still gives me butterflies and makes me nervous is one thing that keeps us so connected. She is still the woman I was so excited to take out on our first date, and even on our 1000th date, I’ll still be just as anxious.

-T

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12/09/2022

One of the hardest things to experience in life is acceptance...
-The Brewers

10/09/2022

Boundaries are personal.

10/09/2022

How do you keep the relationship happy and healthy…

Let’s take about it.
-T’s perspective

09/09/2022

Late night scrolling…

07/09/2022

Trust isn’t a prison. The idea that trust is someone behaving how you want them to behave is limiting and unfair. Trust they will thrive and be the best version of themselves. Why limit someone you love to your expectations? Trust is a big word.

-The Brewers

05/09/2022

What would a ***an podcast be without the dominant perspective?!

As we prepare to launch episode one we want you to get to know who’s behind the show! Be sure to tell a friend to tell a friend to like, share, subscribe!

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05/09/2022

You have to become the best version of YOU, only then will your better half even exist.

-The Brewers

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05/09/2022

Get to know as we prepare for our first live and episode one, we want you to know us separately and together!!!

Up first.. Raquel

Feel free to ask us anything, and be sure to tell a friend to like, share, and follow!

The new and hottest le***an talk show and podcast.

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04/09/2022

Engagement post, we want to get to know you!!
Answer in the comments!

02/09/2022

Episode one is coming and our first live!!! Be sure to like, share, and follow so you can tune in!!!

What do you think our first topic will be?!
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30/08/2022

If we could describe us in one word it would be authentic. We don't pretend to be a perfect couple, or glamorize toxic patterns. We learn each other everyday. Learning how to navigate through healthy confrontation, healthy intimacy, and every day conversations and real world topics.

The community needs more access to real couples, healthy confrontation, and platforms dedicated too happy and healthy interaction. So here we are, Roc and T.

We look forward to weekly lives, q&a, sharing tips, date ideas, special guests, and of course sharing two different perspectives on hot topics!

-The Brewers

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26/07/2022