19/02/2023
What are the unacceptable behaviors of Filipinos?
Source: https://www.quora.com/What-are-the-worst-and-best-things-about-Filipinos
• Religious Hypocrisy. As a Filipino, this is what turns me off very often. Many Filipinos are devoted to their religion and all the ceremonies required of it are faithfully and wholeheartedly observed. But outside the church, mosque, temple and other places of worship, hypocrisy starts to surface. They tend to violate the very core teachings of their religion, its laws and restrictions. For example, many among those Filipinos who classify themselves as “religious” engage in premarital s*x, marital infidelity, political corruption, cheating, gambling, drunkenness, violence, greed, selfishness and other grave trespasses. It has much to say on our present status, because we are considered as one of the most religious countries in Asia yet our government is also one of the most corrupt. It is actually not different from other cultures and traditions in the world, whether Western or Eastern. Religious but hypocrites.
• Bringing uninvited guests in corporate or social events. This is one of the attitudes that would most likely p**s off many people, specially foreigners. It is annoying, because some Filipinos would bring their close friends, acquaintances and family members even if they are the only person invited. It would shock the host of such events, because the accommodation and food had already been estimated by head count per visitor, then unwelcomed guests would show up, and it could potentially ruin the plan or program of the hosts in these events.
• Lack of care for the environment. This is one of the many annoying attitudes that are prevalent in our country. Filipinos, in general, are clean inside their homes. Most parts of the house are spotless and tidy. But when someone observe the surroundings outside of their living space, it is usually dirty and messy, filth and trash are scattered all around. That’s the main reason why many urban areas in the Philippines are heavily polluted, because your average Pinoy is not very much concern of the conditions of his/her environment and the main focus is on the personal space or abode.
• Double Standard Racism. This one is top notch. It says much regarding our interpersonal relationships with foreigners. There is two types of racism in the country, which is positive and negative racism. The former applies to all guests in the archipelago that have typical Euro-American features: those who have blonde hair, blue/green eyes, pale white skin and superb English accent are seen as superiors by many Filipinos. They will typically be treated as honored guests by many. To put it, they will have the best treatment among the foreigners in the archipelago. I’ve read one of the answers here stating that many poor Filipinos knock on his door and begging for alms. I’m sorry, but they don’t have any sense of entitlement, just like what you’ve mentioned. Their doing this, because they have the mindset that because you’re White, you have the power and riches to potentially help them in lifting up their poor living conditions. Every white person is seen as a potential savior. On the other hand, foreigners with skin tones much darker to that of an average Filipino will experience being mocked, joked and made fun of in subtle ways. Filipinos rarely express an overt form of racism. But whether its overt or subtle, it is still an unacceptable form of behavior.
• The wrong concept of “hiya” or “shamefacedness”. Filipinos greatly value their individual honor, and they would do everything just to make their reputations honorable and presentable to the public. The sad thing is, an average Filipino don’t know how to handle individual criticism properly. An attack on a person’s wrongdoing or a public criticism on someone will be perceived as an attack on the honor and reputation of a person. This usually ends up in using violent means just to protect one’s personal honor, making sure that no one would reveal his/her wrongdoings that would potentially ruin his/her reputation. One of the best example on this attitude is the killing of media broadcasters by powerful Filipino politicians to prevent them from disclosing the filthy and disgusting practices they have in office.
• Too much care given by parents on children, causing them to be spoiled brats. This attitude is true mostly on the upper and middle class Filipino families. Parents are giving every bit of provision to their children, including all of the caprices and whims of the child, resulting in too much reliance of the children on the parents, causing most of them to be spoiled brats who would know nothing but to spend their parents’ riches on their wants. Most of the time, these children would not exert much effort and strive hard to fulfill their dreams because they were spoiled by their parents. The sad thing is when the world turned upside down and the family fortune were lost to bankruptcy, most of these Filipino children would be devastated and torned apart, because they are not taught by their parents on how to earn a living and have their own life. Many Filipino children are indeed reliant on their parents and other relatives. This is one of the bad attitudes that we have to change as a people.
• Crab Mentality. This toxic mentality is often seen in many Filipinos who are part of large, social circles. Many Filipinos who have this kind of attitude would be very envious and jealous if a certain person known to him/her would start to reach their dreams and begin to achieve goodness in life. What Crab Filipinos would do is they would spread false rumors and resort to character assassination to pull the other person down, ruining their reputation and harming their relationship with others. To a Filipino Crab, it is only them who are entitled to experience all the good tthings in life, and if they can’t achieve it, neither can you or should you. The pincers of such Filipinos with poisonous attitude should definitely be cut off.
• The toxic “Padrino” system. Padrino is a Spanish word which means “godfather”. This annoying behavior can mostly be observed in the corporate world. It refers to the unfair system of endorsing a person by someone powerful or influential in a certain company or organization that will cause a person, mostly a friend or family member, to easily get hired without having to go through the difficult assessment being expected by ordinary job seekers. The most annoying part of this attitude is that influential people promote their close friends and family members to important positions in a company or the government, no matter how incompetent or unskilled they may be for a certain position. These influential Filipinos serve as the protector and backer of those closest to them.
• Laziness at the workplace. Many Filipinos lack initiative and dedication in their various fields of endeavor and discipline, and most of these types of Filipinos would not put their 100% effort in maximizing the output, unless heavily supervised or have their work outputs scrutinized.
• Staying silent during tensioned and pressing issues, for the sake of the preservation of SOCIAL HARMONY. This one is pretty common. Many Filipinos would just bow and nod their heads when disagreeing with someone close to them. This is due to the fact that Filipinos, and South East Asians in general, value smooth sailing interpersonal relationships and social harmony, above the radical and hurtful truth. This attitude is also one of the reasons why corruption is so prevalent in the government. It is due to the fact that the colleagues, friends and family of those corrupt officials are just tolerating them of their wrongdoing, because they are afraid to openly confront or criticize a certain person, in order to prevent quarrels and tensions to surface between the person involved and the people associated with the issue. This type of attitude must be put to an end, and I hope the future generation of Filipinos would be confident, frank and brave enough to call out the people close to them in their wrongdoing.
These are just some of the annoying qualities of a Filipino that must be changed. I am criticizing my own country because I love it so much, and all of what’s wrong in our society today should be put on the surface, for us to be able to clean the entire mess and filth in the archipelago altogether.
