The Messy Bun Podcast (2024)

05/04/2021

Enjoy this week's outline! Ashley gave us TONS of good material. We learned so much. ⁠
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26/03/2021

Health is one of those shouldn't-be-confusing-but-is topics. 🙇‍♀️

And yet, it's also a BIG KEY to happiness! So, let's clear things up a little bit, at least according to Penny & Steph.

Health is more than just food and exercise. It also includes sleep, social time, work, school stuff, emotions... ALL those things come into play when we're discussing the kind of health that we want for our teens.

Penny & I had a really enlightening discussion when we were preparing this part of the episode, and we came to an astounding discovery!! 🥁 We are different people, so we need to focus on different aspects for our own health! Cue light bulb! 💡

Teen Steph would have interpreted any study linking more fruits, veggies, and exercise to greater happiness (like the one we reference in our episode) to mean: I need to eat 17 fruits and vegetables every day, and I need to exercise 60 minutes beyond the training I'm already doing for my marathon. This would lead to crazy obsession and probably insanity. 🤕 So, telling Teen Steph about a study like that (without some caveats) would have been harmful to her health. Teen Steph needed to chill out.

Teen Penny, on other hand, would have benefited from a study like that because, according to Adult Penny, she didn't do much movement beyond school and work, and, she ate only ice cream with Fruit Loops on top. 🍧 Teen Penny would have felt better with a little more focus on fruits, veggies, and exercise.

You have to know your teen BEFORE you talk with her about health. Does she exercise like a maniac to the point of missing out on social stuff and sleep? Probably not healthy. Does she sit on the couch all day? Also probably not healthy. Does she only eat a strict diet of zero sugar and zero chemicals and never go to parties because of what they might serve? Probably not healthy. Does she only eat cookies and donuts? Also probably not healthy.

And that's the bottom line. Is your teen more of a Steph or more of a Penny? Both are FANTASTIC ways to be, but both interpret the world differently - especially the world of health. KNOW YOUR TEEN. And help her find balance so she can be happy, healthy, and not go insane.

25/03/2021

Give us a ✋🏼✋🏾✋🏿 if you listened to Episode 21, Why You Should Tell Your Teen She's Not Special. ⁠
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Before you get mad (if you didn't listen), we're not saying you don't think your daughter is AMAZING and wonderful. We just don't want to encourage comparison, which is something I used to inadvertently do by praising how she got the BEST test score or was the FASTEST swimmer. ⁠
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Focusing on a growth-mindset helps our kids be happier because we are praising the effort over the outcome. Did they try their hardest? Do they feel good about their effort? Praise that! ⁠
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Studies have shown that overemphasizing achievements and focusing on perfection can lead to kids feeling more anxiety, depression, and struggling with substance abuse. That is certainly not the way to help your teens be happier. ⁠
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How do you help your teens focus on growth over perfection?⁠
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If you need help: ⁠
National Su***de Prevention Hotline: 800-273-8255⁠
https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/⁠
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24/03/2021

What’s something you’re grateful for that you’ve never thought about before? Toilet paper? Paved roads? Bug spray? ⁠
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This is a topic I was actually good at as a teen. My mom was so good at teaching us to be optimistic and show gratitude. ❤️ ⁠
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There are so many ways to see more good in the world, but one of my favorites is a gratitude journal. It’s easy and fast. I’m not the kind of person that can write a big account of the day every night, but I can usually think of at least one thing I’m thankful for. ⁠
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I know I’m happier when I try these things and I know my kids are when they do. I’ve seen it over and over! That’s why we have our gratitude wall where I force everyone that comes over to write one thing they’re grateful for. Even the plumbers. 😂⁠ -P⁠
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What are you grateful for? ⁠
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Tell us 👇👇👇⁠
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⁠If you need help:⁠
National Su***de Prevention Hotline: 800-273-8255⁠
https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/⁠
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23/03/2021

(Slide to read quotes on this 👉👉) The older I get the more I realize how important connection is to my happiness. If you listen to the podcast, you know I’m an introvert. I love being home. I love alone time. But that does not mean I’m happy without connection. ⁠
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New mom/wife Penny thought she wasn’t supposed to need connection outside of her kids and husband. 🙄 Anyone else fall into that stupid frame of mind? Thanks to one of my favorite people, , I had the mind blowing revelation that I should spend time with friends 🤯😂. And it made me happy which made me nicer to everyone. ⁠
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Studies have shown that connection is a major factor in happiness—especially for teens! Who doesn’t want their teen to be happier? So let’s encourage connections. Family connections and friend connections are both important. And so is getting off our phones and living IRL (in real life). ⁠
Also, listen in to the episode this week to hear the amazing study on how teens fared during the COVID shut down! ⁠
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(See our outline post for resources from this week’s episode).

22/03/2021

(Slide to read quotes on this 👉) The older I get the more I realize how important connection is to my happiness. If you listen to the podcast, you know I’m an introvert. I love being home. I love alone time. But that does not mean I’m happy without connection. ⁠
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New mom/wife Penny thought she wasn’t supposed to need connection outside of her kids and husband. 🙄 Anyone else fall into that stupid frame of mind? Thanks to one of my favorite people, , I had the mind blowing revelation that I should spend time with friends 🤯😂. And it made me happy which made me nicer to everyone. ⁠
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Studies have shown that connection is a major factor in happiness—especially for teens! Who doesn’t want their teen to be happier? So let’s encourage connections. Family connections and friend connections are both important. And so is getting off our phones and living IRL (in real life). ⁠
Also, listen in to the episode this week to hear the amazing study on how teens fared during the COVID shut down! ⁠
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(See our outline post for resources from this week’s episode).

22/03/2021

Enjoy this week's outline! 🙌🏾⁠
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Do you have any other factors that you think affect happiness? We'd love to hear! ⁠
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⁠Just in case: ⁠
National Su***de Prevention Hotline: 800-273-8255⁠
https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

15/03/2021

This week's outline is long because we covered a lot of definitions that we wanted to include. Go listen! This stuff is really, REALLY important.

01/03/2021

Enjoy this week's episode outline! For our references, head to our show notes. We list everything there.

23/02/2021

Enjoy this week's outline! Drop us a 🙋🏽‍♀️ if you wish you would have worn more sunscreen as a teenager!!! 🔆🏖

23/02/2021

Enjoy this week's outline! Drop us a 🙋🏽‍♀️🙋🏽‍♀️🙋🏽‍♀️ if you wish you would have worn more sunscreen as a teenager!!

23/02/2021

Enjoy this week's outline!! Let us know what you learned!

15/02/2021

Enjoy our outline for this week's episode! We are feeling so inspired by these amazing women!!!

08/02/2021

We said it earlier today, and we'll say it again ... Lauren Davis blew us away as we interviewed her! Here is the outline of our conversation with her, but don't stop here - go listen!!! Let us know what you learned!

25/01/2021

Enjoy this outline about our episode this week on self-compassion. ⁠
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And if you think the outline's helpful, you should hear the full episode! 😉⁠
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What can you take from this outline to talk with your teen about TODAY? ⁠
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I think I'm going to remind her that she doesn't need to be hard on herself to improve. Self-compassion can actually help her achieve an even greater growth-mindset! 💛⁠
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11/01/2021

Enjoy this week's outline on good friendships. After recording this episode, I was talking with my daughter about toxic friendships and it led to a really long discussion about a certain friend of hers who has been so draining. I had no idea how much my daughter was struggling! We came up with some good game plan ideas for how to set better boundaries. So go check out the outline - or better yet, listen to the podcast! The conversations we provide on this podcast REALLY DO open doors for good talks. Sometimes. And sometimes my daughter slams her door in my face. But always, always, always trying to start the conversations lets our teens know that we're there to talk when they're ready. 🙄

04/01/2021

Here you are! This week's outline gives you a sneak peak at everything we learned from Courtney . Did you learn anything new from the outline??

21/08/2020

🔥🔥🔥 While we are talking about finding positives in a tricky situation, can we acknowledge this amazing video by and Monroe High School. 😍

06/08/2020

Have you listened to episode 12 yet? Could Mia be any sweeter? We think not. The relationship she has with her mom is a for us.

Did you learn anything from this one? What resonates with you when you hear Mia talk about her life as a young adult?

05/08/2020

We can’t wait for you to hear our interview with cute Mia. She graduated this year and shares great advice for younger teens. The thing we were most impressed with was how she talked about her relationship with her mom. 😍

We left with good tips about being yourself that we can share with our girls and a healthy sense of hero-worship for Mia’s mom.

Listen on Thursday to learn the meaningful things Mia has learned from her high school years, as well as what her mom does to foster such a great relationship with her daughter.

30/07/2020

This is an actual photo of one of Penny’s daughters sleeping. She has super sleeping powers. Like many teens, she never gets enough.

Did you know that the average American teen gets 6.9 hours of sleep? And that they should get closer to 9.5 hours?

Episode 11 - “Why Sleep Matters” is up today. Tune in to see what is going on with our teens to make them so tired, why sleep is SO important and what we can do to help.

28/07/2020

If your teen is struggling in just about any aspect of their lives, try encouraging them to get better sleep.

In our coming episode, we are going to discuss how sleep deprived teens are, why that’s bad and what we can do to fix it.

23/07/2020

Don’t forget to listen to Episode 10, Saying Sorry II.

The talking points from this episode came in handy this week when the door handle to my car broke while my daughter was getting out. I was able to recognize her over-apologizing tendency and have a good conversation about when we need to say we’re sorry and when we don’t.

What did you learn? What ways have you incorporated the talking points into conversations in your home? Have a good story or idea? Send us a message! We’d love to hear how you’re using the tips we share.

21/07/2020

This week’s episode is our first Part II!

Last week, we talked about why saying sorry matters, why it’s so hard and how to do it effectively.

This week is a deep dive into what to do if your apology isn’t accepted, when it can backfire and how to live without apologizing for who you are. This is a really important conversation to have with your teen, especially during the dramatic messes that can happen middle school and high school.

You might enjoy Penny’s revelation that she has been holding an apology over her daughter’s head for the last few months. 😬 To be fair, she had a pretty good reason...

We want to know! Have you talked with your kids about apologies? How did you navigate it? Has anyone used our conversation tips from last week?

21/07/2020

This week’s episode is our first Part II!

Last week, we talked about why saying sorry matters, why it’s so hard and how to do it effectively.

This week is a deep dive into what to do if your apology isn’t accepted, when it can backfire and how to live without apologizing for who you are. This is a really important conversation to have with your teen, especially during the dramatic messes that can happen middle school and high school.

You might enjoy Penny’s revelation that she has been holding an apology over her daughter’s head for the last few months. 😬 To be fair, she had a pretty good reason...

We want to know! Have you talked with your kids about apologies? How did you navigate it? Has anyone used our conversation tips from last week?

08/07/2020

On this week's episode we recommend A GREAT book by called Vaginas and Periods. I've wanted this book for awhile and Penny gave it to me!!! 😍😍 It's SO good - I think every girl should have a copy and read it with her mom. It's a simple explanation of the beauty of vaginas and menstruation 🏵🏵. It's technically geared toward pre-menstruating girls, but if you're uncomfortable talking body parts with your daughter, this is a great place to start!! 🙌🙌 -S

07/07/2020

It can be hard to know how to talk to your daughters about s*x beyond “the talk.”

This week’s episode will help you open the many conversations you should be having about s*x. Talking about s*x isn’t just about the mechanics. It’s about a lot of other things, like consent. Does she know that she can set her own boundaries? Does she know she’s not an object?

Listen in to hear our tips for this conversation and hear about that time Penny taught her kids about condoms in an unconventional way. 😏
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02/07/2020

Don’t miss Episode 007 - Developing Confidence! Available now.

How much would you pay for magic confidence pills? We’re guessing most parents would fork out the big bucks to supply their teen girls with the confidence to stand up for themselves. While we can’t supply any magical solutions, in this episode we do offer some solid tips to help your teen gain and maintain confidence.

01/07/2020

Raise your hand (or like this post) if you wish you had been more confident as a teenager.🙋🏻‍♀️🙋🏿‍♀️🙋🏾‍♀️🙋🏻‍♀️

We both have cringe-worthy memories of times we didn't speak up because we weren't confident, or we felt like we were somehow less worthwhile than the people we were around. We don't want this for our daughters!

Thursday’s episode will provide some tips on how to have a conversation with your teen about developing confidence.

Did you know confident teens are more likely to be positive, assertive and engaged? Let’s help our daughters gain confidence so they feel empowered to share their opinions and stand up for what they want and believe. 👊🏾👊🏼👊🏿

25/06/2020

We are especially excited for today’s episode with !

She is a Registered Dietitian who owns her own private practice in Hyde Park, Utah, working with both local and virtual clients. She specializes in treating eating disorders, disordered eating and body image concerns. She is also the co-founder of Eat Confident Co., .co which offers group coaching programs for women struggling with disordered eating, and co-hosts the Eat with Confidence podcast.

We learned SO much about how to approach conversations about nutrition and healthy relationships with their bodies! We can’t wait for you to hear what she has to say. ❤️

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