Questioning LDS

04/01/2025

Not associated with the study, but I'm sure they will be grateful for anyone who wants to share their experiences ❤️

You can complete the survey regardless of where you live in the world. There are two main requirements needed to participate:

* Being 18 years of
age or older

* Having previously
been a member of a
Cult Group

After all of the research data has been gathered & compiled, the information discovered from it will be used to create future instruction, seminars & talks for future conventions regarding the impact Cult Groups.

The link to complete the survey is:

https://app.onlinesurveys.jisc.ac.uk/s/salford/health-wellbeing-former-members?fbclid=IwY2xjawHl_7ZleHRuA2FlbQIxMQABHfHP4GuHcP9fSzIQYxyyRh_HsCuFuXiOT06_ZOtlkOxYgL2vSoNKGnlI4g_aem_F3w-BgSrkdWjWAPEhe0mGQ

13/12/2024

I'm not one to brag but these results make me so happy! Things have been hectic this year so I have had to be selective with what gets posted due to my own availability...but this year has been my highest engagement yet! ❤️

25/11/2024

There are people who need to hear this! You are loved for who you are and there will always be a community there to support you if you need help ❤️

No one should ever be alone on their journey

Be loud. Really loud.

22/11/2024

This feels cringe to me! 😬

It feel like they are turning being "kind" into a something insincere and something that is more of a task that needs completing to check off being kind, rather than doing something to benefit another.

True kindness stems from a sincere desire to help others, not from a checklist or obligation. When we force ourselves to do something we don't genuinely feel, it can feel more like duty than compassion.

https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/light-the-world?fbclid=IwY2xjawGtqCpleHRuA2FlbQIxMQABHUb6smTa-oGohjS1yuPc1Ty4GSvO16fDhks5zRVAFSoTJKnjRxmN9qrJ5Q_aem_Mwf5PkHiuUfgc-pVMjiHjw

23/10/2024

Some recent posts on reddit have reminded me just how important this topic is to discuss.

The problem with a high control, patriarchal religion is that the actions of those in leadership are not always governed by a single quote or teaching

Ultimately this is not about some men in the church behaving inappropriately or going against guidance given to them, it is about how the LDS church systematically discriminates against women, often holding them (at least in part) responsible for the abuse they have suffered.

The problem with a high control, patriarchal religion is that the actions of those in leadership are not always governed by a single quote or teaching. They can be governed by the persons own views, their own upbringing, and their understanding of the churches teachings as a whole..So when an allega

13/10/2024

Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints faces 91 new child s*xual abuse lawsuits in California

In all, the lawsuits accuse 97 former Mormon leaders and church members of child s*xual abuse, including:

20 bishops
20 elders
8 missionaries
5 high priests
6 teachers
4 counselors
3 youth leaders
1 stake president
30 other leaders/members
On Sep. 6, the law firm submitted a petition for coordination to the Riverside County Superior Court, requesting that it consider the 91 separate lawsuits as coordinated actions.

FLOODLIT.org has learned of a new wave of 91 child s*x abuse lawsuits filed against The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in California. Starting on Aug. 26, the Slater Slater Schulman LLP…

04/09/2024

This is bravery and it demonstrates how true change happens. It is bravery to stand in the congregation at clearly state that you will be there while the other members sit by and do nothing...

Other members sit by obediently and oblivious to the groomers and pedophiles but sit there worried about the teenage trans child attending youth events because of the rhetoric spun to them by leadership.

The policy change is tragic and unfair to the LGBTQ+ community and I hope more members exhibit such support and understanding ♥️🏳️‍🌈

An LDS woman got up to bear her testimony during fast and testimony meeting recently and felt she had to address the updates to the LDS General Handbook rega...

04/09/2024

Unless you are an exmormon 🤣

03/09/2024

“The new transphobic church policies are the final straw for me and my family. I have a transgender daughter. My community is less safe because of these horrible policies.

Below is the text from the letter I sent along with my resignation:

We are writing this to make clear our desire to have our names and the names of our children removed from all church records. There are many reasons why we have chosen not to participate in church functions, but we have not felt the need to disassociate ourselves from the church until now. The latest policy revisions regarding transgender individuals serve as a stark reminder to us that this organization is not a kind or a safe space for anyone who differs from the rigid norms of the church.

The ongoing mistreatment of transgender individuals, now codified in this policy, is not consistent with the values the church claims to espouse.

The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints is the only organization with which we have interacted that has refused to recognize the legal name and gender of our daughter. Though we appreciate the accommodations made at the local level, we fear that under the updated policy, local leaders will no longer be granted the discretion to prioritize compassion and empathy over unbending adherence to pharisaical rules.

We are not naïve enough to believe that our actions will have any impact on policy or effect change in any way. The church has proven over time that it will only change when outside social (or legal) pressures threaten the organization’s prestige or financial condition.

Dissenters are not valued and are summarily dismissed with derogatory epithets and uninformed assumptions about their motives. Though we may be derided as lazy, lax, or sinful by men who claim to speak for god, we choose inclusion over exclusion by standing with the innocent victims of discrimination.

We will not follow or be associated with a church that sows division between parents and children by demanding blind allegiance to the organization, despite the direct harms such allegiance causes.

No policy or doctrine can ever justify the mistreatment of the vulnerable.

The church is hostile to our daughter. There is no place for her or for people like her, so in turn there is no place for people like us: those who believe nothing is more important than treating all people with love and respect – without exception and without reservation.

It is incumbent upon us to do all within our meager influence to minister to those who suffer as a result of the church’s actions. We can no longer do so in good conscience while knowing our names are upon the records and rolls of the church, an openly transphobic organization.

As for me and my house, we will serve the downtrodden.”

Author’s name withheld, by request.

25/08/2024

24/08/2024

Imagine an organisation having so much control over your actions and thoughts that you are scared that a legitimate medical procedure is going to be sinful.

Some of the comments were amazing and supportive of the OP, but others seemed determined to make commentors understand that ma********on is always a sin.

20/08/2024

These new rules are horrendous! Do you know who have historically been allowed to go to the bathroom unsupervised and hold callings with children/young people....convicted pedophiles!

The FLOODLIT.org website has so many instances it is heartbreaking.

The church should be addressing the homophobia and transphobia in the church and working to improve inclusivity, not buying into a rhetoric that trans people are inherently dangerous.

20/08/2024

My response to the suggestion that transgender members should find an "alternate solution" if they can't find a single occupancy bathroom.

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04/08/2024

A new article to start the week. This one is longer than a lot of my other ones but I wanted to try and cover a range of things which people may be struggling with and provide some specific scenarios and suggestions ❤️

As always I hope this is helpful and if you have any feedback or suggestions on other topics feel free to comment or send me a dm.

Leaving a high-control religion can be a profoundly transformative experience. While it often brings a sense of liberation and relief, it can also be accompanied by significant emotional challenges. Feelings of guilt, shame, isolation, and uncertainty can overwhelm individuals as they navigate the c

27/07/2024

Leaving a high-control religion is akin to waking from a prolonged dream. The world, once viewed through a singular, prescribed lens, suddenly explodes into a kaleidoscope of possibilities. It's a disorienting, exhilarating, and often terrifying experience. There are almost always worries about consequences of the decisions made, wether that is losing a community, or being shunned or ostracised by friends and family members. Some people risk losing their homes, their livelihood, or physical, emotional, or financial support when they walk away from a high-control group.

Remember, healing is a journey, not a destination. Be patient with yourself, and seek support when needed. With time and effort, you can create a fulfilling and authentic life. Rebuilding your life might feel overwhelming at times, but remember, every step you take, no matter how small, is a victory. You're not alone in this journey. There are people who care about you and want to support you. Healing takes time, and it's okay to feel lost or uncertain. You’re discovering who you truly are, and that's an exciting adventure.

Leaving a high-control religion is akin to waking from a prolonged dream. The world, once viewed through a singular, prescribed lens, suddenly explodes into a kaleidoscope of possibilities. It's a disorienting, exhilarating, and often terrifying experience. There are almost always worries about cons

30/06/2024

I'm using the final day of July to remind people that conversion therapy (also known as "reparative therapy" or "gay cure therapy,") is still legal in the UK today.

This "therapy" aims to change a person's s*xual orientation or gender identity by using a wide range of interventions, from psychological treatments to more extreme forms like exorcism, physical violence, and food deprivation.

While some physical conversion therapy practices are already prohibited under existing criminal law (e.g., r**e, assault, forcibly administering drugs) there are many survivors of this practice who have advised that these practices were used on them in attemt to "cure" them.

These individuals were vulnerable and felt there was no choice but to go ahead with "treatment" as the consequences for being LGBTQ+ seemed far worse than agreeing to treatment.

According to the Government's LGBT Survey, 7% of LGBT+ people have been offered conversion therapy, rising to 13% of trans people and 10% of as*xual people.

Behind those cold numbers are real people – many of whom still carry with them the long-lasting emotional scars of being made to feel broken. Of being told that who they are is wrong, and that they need to be ‘fixed’ or ‘cured’.

While the UK government is taking steps to outlaw conversion therapy, things are not moving fast enough, and remains crucial to raise awareness and advocate for the rights and well-being of LGBTQ+ individuals.

https://www.stonewall.org.uk/about-us/news/seven-survivors-conversion-therapy-describe-its-lasting-damaging-impact

19/06/2024

When you are so deep undercover doing exmormon research that the algorithm thinks you want to shop for "modest underwear" 🤣

13/06/2024

A lot of times when people think about high-control religions or cults they think about Charles Manson or Jim Jones, they don’t often consider some of the more mainstream religions currently active in the world today. There can be a perception that people who are in these religions have made an informed decision about their commitment to the religion and that they can leave with little or no consequences. Unfortunately, this is not always the case.

High-control religions, often referred to as cults or authoritarian groups, are faith communities that exert extensive control over their members' lives. These groups are characterised by a rigid structure that demands obedience, discourages questioning, and often requires members to conform to a strict set of beliefs and practices. Recognising if one is in a high-control religious group involves being aware of certain patterns and behaviours that are common in such groups.

I feel that a lot of times when people think about high-control religions or cults they think about Charles Manson or Jim Jones, they don’t often consider some of the more mainstream religions currently active in the world today. There can be a perception that people who are in these religions hav...