03/10/2019
CHOOSING A LIFE PARTNER...
Guys, when you pray about a life partner and God shows you the picture of a lady, don't just jump into conclusion that she's your wife. Many other guys probably saw the same lady when they prayed.
God shows us pictures for many reasons, but mostly because He wants us to model our choice based on the picture He showed us, not necessarily because He wants us to go for it.
As long as He didn't specifically say the person He showed you is your wife, then consider that person a model in finding a wife. Yes, you have to find your wife.
I've heard experiences of how God showed a guy a lady who eventually got married to another man. This guy waited and kept troubling that lady - even in her married state. Please, was he praying for her husband to die? Me I don't understand some guys o.
Since the time of Adam, you'd discover that there are very few people that God picked a wife for. I've come to discover that, as a man, you'd need a deep level of intimacy with God before He can recommended a wife for you. And that's because He knows you'd not push the blame on Him when crisis arise.
Never forget that it's "he that finds a wife", not "he that God finds a wife for". God may guide you into choosing a wife that would help you fulfill destiny, but don't expect Him to do the choosing.
Apostle Joshua Selman pointed this to be one of the reasons for late marriage in Christianity. Everybody is looking for God's choice for them; "God show me my wife", "God show me my husband". While that may be a plausible idea, that's a possibility that only comes through maturity and intimacy with God.
Some people have never heard God speak to them. But when it's time to marry, they'd claim they're waiting for God's direction. Seriously? Some of them even go to their pastors with names and pictures of "prospective" spouses - so that their pastor would pray and choose for them. Like seriously?
Congrats, you've just finished chapter one. Now let's see what chapter two holds.
So, God guides us into choosing a spouse that would support and help us fulfill destiny, but we still need maturity to manage the various crisis that arise in marriage. Haven't you seen those who married God's choice for them suffer pain? Of course, they do. God's will or not, marriage would be in dissaray without spiritual maturity.
Spiritual maturity is a measure of spiritual intelligence. So learn, learn how to keep a home together, learn how to be a father or a mother, learn how to respond to crisis. Don't just pray to have the kind of peace the Oyedepo's and Adeboye's enjoy in their marriage, learn the things they did to enjoy peace.
How did I even get here sef? I was just supposed to write a short quote on how many Christians misconstrue God's direction. Sorry, let me delete it.
Or should I write chapter three?
Oya bye...