31/05/2022
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MARRIAGE IN SOUTH SUDAN
OK , in as much as i am asking you guys for money but let me tell you'l astory small small .
So i spent anumber of years in south sudan and i can assure you that if there's ahard place to get awife or husband is South Sudan!
Let me break it down.
First of all their dowry is in thousands of dollars 💸 kale nze sometime i see you Ugandan men crying mbu because someone has asked you for ordinary transport and i wonder 😏 ! In South sudan to marry someone's daughter you pay cattle in hundreds, money in millions of pounds or thousands of dollars.
however, repeat after me HOWEVER it is harder for the girls to get men to marry than it is for the men getting those thousands of dollars, ask me why ?🤭.
Kakati South Sudanese have 4 categories of men .
First category are the rich boys 👦 . Usually these are sons of big men , these ones went to international schools preferably in Europe, Asia of atleast East Africa or khartoum. These boys have accents 😍 words flow off their tongues like the karuma falls . Actually they usually identify as non South Sudanese but we all see the melanin and know. These ones usually end up with good jobs due to konekison or perhaps merit i mean they attended real Universities that even Google recognises not your "Kyampene institute " . In as much as we spend most of the time with them at Pyramid drinking tea and discussing major causes of poverty in Africa during working hours , they somehow manage to hold down jobs and even afford big boy cars and nice apartments 😉 . Kati back to marriage, these boys either have their high school sweethearts whom they attended school with preferably Caucasian or atleast brown in colour that they will marry before they hit 30years of age or their dad has already paid dowry for adaughter of so and so and he is only waiting for her to finish high school and marry her in her first year at campus.
Second category is the "lost boy" this name continues through to the children of the traditional lost boys 👦. These ones are hustlers , despite being born in Europe they dont have accents! These boys have worked for years and surprisingly speak their local languages and actually know all local dishes ! Well as any African living abroad they will use all spare hours to call you at midnight to ask how "Africa" is doing! For christ's sake i dont even know what's happening in my neighbourhood ! 🤦♀️. These boys mastered the art of promising! they will promise you marriage year after year and their chorus is "i am coming next summer'.
These guys are usually already fully married in their country of residence or , i said OR they're planning on actually coming back to Africa to marry but you as an average lady in Juba going about your business are not their target! Their target is deep down in Bor looking after the father's cattle and being taught how to be a wife by the mum and aunties.
So when the lost boy comes back you as an average slay queen you might never know of his coming back . You will see him updating videos of his successful introduction deep down in Rumbek that's if you dont bump into him around konyokonyo with his wife looking for clothes for their new born baby. Well where does that leave you ? Single , now sisters resist from wasting data on these boys they will never marry you 😒 nor will they buy you iPhone 13 they understand the hustle and want someone very fresh .
Third category are our brothers that studied from East Africa, these boys came from not very rich backgrounds but they took their education serious and managed to graduate and since they have been in camps for avery long time, they know the courses on market hence easily landing lucrative jobs in their final semesters with Organisations. These boys know what it means to not have hence in their first year of working they will have to buy aplot deep down in Gudere and fence it .
After building they now have enough to buy a simple raum or Passo for purely transportation from work to Gudere ! No short cuts no nothing.
Ok unless invited by colleagues in munuki for asimple get together where they will enter the bar with their own drinks and might buy meat 🍖 you understand the meat i mean . They avoid slay queens like plague and usually marry fellow organisation employees that's if he had not gotten married back in high school.
The fourth category is the ones they "forced into marriage". This group i will put it last for a reason, you will be in ahappy relationship on friday and meet him on Saturday in a convey covered with henna heading to church and later freedom hall for his wedding reception 🙌.
I cant categories these ones because you cant know if the family really forced them or he judged you based on the number of sh**ha pots that you gulped and he knew you wouldn't make a wife especially since being awife in asouth Sudanese family comes with being agood cook otherwise the family is usually big !.
Now you see 👀 how getting ahusband in South sudan is hard if you're not adaughter of so and so , not brown or causian leero for the upcoming slay queens in town it's very hard because you're not atarget for any of the eligible men in town 😱.
Anyways all hope is not lost since South Sudanese men are true Africans and you can never know when position number two or three is needed for you to strategically position yourself.
That's all i had today dont forget to send your contribution for the young man , together we can help the young man get better 🙏.
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