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16/09/2020

Episode 13 is out and it's a long one but a great one!

Today our guest is Emily, a 23yr old student living in Austin, TX who has recently found her way out of a once-promising relationship.

Once she choses someone, Emily’s love is sincere and full. However, in her recent relationship, she experienced an initial overwhelming barrage of love signals from her partner only to have that attention and validation sharply decline once she made the move to live with her partner.

Emily teaches us about the dangers of the up-front love-bomb and how to look for signs of insecurities and emotional instability in a new relationship. She reminds us that the packaging does not always match the product, that it is important to wade into getting to know someone gradually while making sure both of you feel validated and heard.

It can be heartbreaking to find yourself in a relationship where you start off in limerence and then it fades. What do you do? What happens when conversation and validation sharply decline? What happens when your person takes away the attention after flooding you with affection initially?

Emily tells her story and shares her truth on this episode and invites us to come along with her as she re-examines her experience.

Today our guest is Emily, a 23yr old student living in Austin, TX who has recently found her way out of a once-promising relationship. Once she choses someone, Emily’s love is sincere and full. However, in her recent relationship, she experienced ...

13/09/2020

Episode 12 is out! Sorry for the delay, but this is a great one.

Today’s guest is Kaden, a 25yr old self-taught computer engineer who grew up in a small town in Alaska before moving to Austin, TX in his early 20s.

Lately, Kaden stumbled across an online group that believes they are the powerless victims of a brutal dating culture and that the only strategy is not to play, but in the end he rejects these groups and remembers his deep desire for intimacy and mutual companionship.

Kaden shares with us the confusion that many of us feel when trying to navigate love and the inner questions of “why am I not enough for this person,” “why do I feel overlooked by all the ‘good’ partner options,” and “should I just give up and resign to me being alone and that being enough?”

Through his journey through opening up his marriage in his early 20s, closing out his marriage in a crushing divorce, and desire to make sense of the seemingly senseless world of modern dating, Kaden shows us that our desire to find patterns in the world, to understand the why of being alone or frustrated can sometimes overshadow the deeper and harder questions of “how can I be less afraid,” and “is it wrong to just want to love someone and be loved?”

The answer? Listen with us as we discuss those very questions.

Today’s guest is Kaden, a 25yr old self-taught computer engineer who grew up in a small town in Alaska before moving to Austin, TX in his early 20s. Lately, Kaden stumbled across an online group that believes they are the powerless victims of a br...

24/08/2020

Episode 11 is out!

Today we visit with Stephanie, or Krimmie as her friends and family call her.

Krimmie shares her stories of attempting to navigate the labyrinth on online dating with us as she continues to run into dead ends and dead beats.

From deceptions to di**le picks, Krimmie reminds us of the difficult struggle to find a true companion, but also of the incredible worth and value that the right person can have in our lives.

August 23rd, 2020Today we visit with Stephanie, or Krimmie, as her friends and family call her. Krimmie shares her stories of attempting to navigate the labyrinth on online dating with us as she continues to run into dead ends and dead beats. From...

21/08/2020

More dating advice from the past!

A high school senior learns how and where to ask a girl for a date, where to take her for a good time, and how to avoid spending too much money or being bore...

21/08/2020

Want a peak into public service announcements on dating in the 1950s?

Gives students a basis for thinking clearly about real love and shows that mere conviction of love is not enough to insure lasting happiness. A drama. Courte...

19/08/2020

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17/08/2020

Thank you all for your support! I look forward to sharing many more stories with all of you!

Join host Thomas Tucker as we listen to heartwarming, inspiring, and devastating stories from people searching for true connection as they share their joys and struggles with finding, celebrating, and cherishing long term compatibility.

15/08/2020

Have you heard our episode with Sandy about the Back-out Boyfriend Bounce-back? You should!

15/08/2020

"What? Didn't you just release an episode?"

Yes, but here's Part 2! You're welcome.

When we last left off, Sandy had recently had her son at the age of of 20, caught her then boyfriend sexting with another woman, found out that he was still sexting with another woman while she was in labor, kicked him to the curb, moved back home, and began putting her life and heart back together.

Join us for the laughter and love of her journey from heartbreak to happy home on this episode.

August 14th, 2020 When we last left off, Sandy had recently had her son at the age of of 20, caught her then boyfriend sexting with another woman, found out that he was still sexting with another woman while she was in labor, kicked him to the cur...

15/08/2020

Just in time for the weekend, Episode 9 is live!

On this episode we are joined by Sandy, a young mother of 25 who had her son at 19 and had her heart broken at 20.

She shares her story of searching for her place in life after high school, falling for a boy she knew would let her down, and picking herself up after her trust had been betrayed one too many times.

Her personal strength and journey to self-discovery are just the beginning as she finds love again years later… just down the hall.

August 14th, 2020On this episode we are joined by Sandy, a young mother of 25 who had her son at 19 and had her heart broken at 20. She shares her story of searching for her place in life after high school, falling for a boy she knew would let her...

14/08/2020

Episode 7 is out!

Mandie starts to dive deep into her own feelings on when to follow her intuition with a partner regarding emotional shifts and when they might be emotionally distancing and how to communicate her preference with a new partner to not get physical quickly.

Join us as we explore a moonlight romantic encounter with a man and then tries to unravel the events that unfolded throughout that evening and the next day.

How do we deal with emotional dissonance? How do we deal with immediate feelings vs a slow burn?

Does getting physical quickly ruin relationships? (Spoiler: probably)

August 13th 2020 - Mandie starts to dive deep into her own feelings on when to follow her intuition with a partner regarding emotional shifts and when they might be emotionally distancing and how to communicate her preference with a new partner to...

12/08/2020

How crazy cool is this!? Thank you all for your interest in these fantastic stories and helping me to celebrate the bravery of our guests!

Join host Thomas Tucker as we listen to heartwarming, inspiring, and devastating stories from people searching for true connection as they share their joys and struggles with finding, celebrating, and cherishing long term compatibility.

12/08/2020

Here's a sneak peak at Episode 6.

12/08/2020

Episode 6 is out!

You know those conversations that just keep getting better? Well this is part one of my conversation with Mandie, a style consultant from Austin, TX, who talks about how important it is to feel comfortable and powerful in your own skin, your own clothes, and in your dating life.

How much should we prioritize gut instinct or intuition on attraction? How should we communicate where we are in the attraction process? Are we asking people to stick to our schedule and are we even telling them that we might have a schedule on which we want a relationship to progress?

How important is texting and should we talk about how the other person prefers to communicate?

Join us for part one of this interview with Mandie and think through these questions with us!

August 12th 2020 - Mandie, a style consultant from Austin, TX, talks about how important it is to feel comfortable and powerful in your own skin, your own clothes, and in your dating life. How much should we prioritize gut instinct or intuition on...

07/08/2020

Episode 5 is out now!

In the stunning conclusion of his epic search for true love, Jose takes us on an international journey to connect with a truly communicative partner who has stolen his heart by showing up for him, understanding where he was in his life, and the two of them making each other priorities day after day.

Jose journeys to the Philippines to meet the woman he believes will be the love of his life. Jose talks about the importance of building a solid bond with your forever person before including the physical parts of a relationship.

In the end, Jose's trust in love and hope bring him to a heart-healed place in his life where he loves himself, his family, and his journey through life.

In the stunning conclusion of his epic search for true love, Jose takes us on an international journey to connect with a truly communicative partner who has stolen his heart by showing up for him, understanding where he was in his life, and the tw...

07/08/2020

Episode 4 (Part 1) is out!

On today's episode, join us as we listen to Jose describe enduring the rough parts of a dysfunctional marriage as he struggles to find security and emotional safety in a relationship that seems toxic at every turn.

Jose shares with us his unfailing hope for a loving family environment, his fight for his first marriage, his healing after the marriage came to its conclusion, and his road to recovery as his heart learned to hope again.

The amazing power of a tightly-held dream and an unfailing belief in the goodness of others shows us that hope is never truly gone as long as we dare to dream of better days, and with a little luck and possibly a higher power, love may come into our lives again.

On today's episode, join us as we listen to Jose describe enduring the rough parts of a dysfunctional marriage as he struggles to find security and emotional safety in a relationship that seems toxic at every turn. Jose shares with us his unfailin...

01/08/2020

Episode 3 is out as a bonus episode so you can binge the show this weekend!

Sheena opens up about how she and I met during the confusing time of the Covid-19 outbreak and then breaks down for us why showing up for others is so important while setting firm boundaries.

We talk about feeling strong in your relationship vs walking on eggshells, starting with clear expectations, and showing up for the people that you care about.

Sheena reminds us that we make time for the important things in our lives and where we spend time tells us where our hearts want to be.

July 31st 2020 - Sheena opens up about how she and I met during the confusing time of the Covid-19 outbreak and then breaks down for us why showing up for others is so important while setting firm boundaries. We talk about feeling strong in your r...

01/08/2020

Episode 2 is out!

Ava and the Long Con Companion

Ava hears from an acquaintance from high school after 18 years and it quickly develops into the kind of conversation that you just can't put down.

We talk about the fascination of beginning to fall for someone's words, forgiving first impressions and false assumptions, and fostering long-term trust and intimacy.

Bringing her powerful sense of humor and self-deprecating demeanor, Ava teaches us to own our insecurities and bring the big issues to the front of the conversation when we are looking for true connection.

July 31st, 2020 - Ava hears from an acquaintance from high school after 18 years and it quickly develops into the kind of conversation that you just can't put down.We talk about the fascination of beginning to fall for someone's words, forgiving f...

31/07/2020

Do you and your dates/partner practice active listening?

Take a moment to check out this exercise from the experts at Greater Good in Action group at Berkeley.

Connect with a partner through empathy and understanding.

29/07/2020

Thank you for the likes! I'm hoping that we can reach more people and get some great volunteers to tell their stories!

29/07/2020

It is important to celebrate every win! Thank you for your interest and support!

The Dating Debrief is a podcast dedicated to spreading realistic depictions of modern dating through individual storytelling of dating experiences for others looking for dating direction in a confusing landscape of modern dating.

29/07/2020

Join us for Episode 1, where Gabriel and I start the discussion on modern dating and how we begin to explore sharing our dating stories.

July 29th, 2020 - We visit with Gabriel about the challenges of dating during the times of Covid and explore the idea of feelings at first sight.