YAYB - You At Your Best

16/02/2021

Thought of the Day

12/02/2021

Brené Brown is a shame researcher. She is amazing at teaching and her daughter a idea of trust being like a marble jar has stuck with me solid.

I want to make that idea a solid concept that is on everyone’s radar! Without a clear understanding of how we recognise trust in ALL of our relationships, we are not in a position to clarify what is our responsibility and what is theirs.

This was MY massive learning curve from last year. My mental break downs came from the belief that if someone is upset with me and there is nothing I can do to cheer them up, then I’m the bad person/the problem. NO WONDER I BROKE, I THOUGHT I WAS BROKE. But the lesson here was... TO START QUESTIONING THIS IMPOSSIBLE NEGATIVE SCENARIO.

If I’m such a failure of a human being to some people, then why not a failure of a human being to all people? Because when I thought about it there were people I could go to with the same problems and they would handle it in a much more caring and civil way.

So I’m not that bad...

NEXT QUESTION
WHO makes me feel uneasy? Like just being in their line of vision is enough to make them turn red with rage? And who hears me out no matter what the problem?

Already I’m starting to see there are two types of people I can go to.

So now the ball is in my court,I have the power the control with who I go to for advice/safety/love/nurture.

This is where the marble jar helps us to be clear on who the people we can trust are.

Once we notice the ones we trust, they are the ones we use to help guide us back on to our feet again... by giving us the space and support to figure ourselves out.

It is our responsibility to figure and find out who these people are. And the marble jar helps us to visually evaluate that.

12/02/2021

When starting anything in life, you are always going to be the same or similar as like minded things...

BUT... THE KEY IS: PERSISTENCE

We all need that foundation of knowledge when we start something. The difference only comes after building that foundation and we start to repeat the steps with our own creative spin and personality.

So!

KNOW YOUR CRAFT & KNOW YOUR SELF

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Thanks for your awesome videos! You’re one of them teachers where information sinks in!

10/02/2021

I love the old scooby doo episodes.

While watching them and hearing the intro repeatedly. A lightbulb moment hit me with the relevance of the lyrics to self help.

Change scoobydoo to ‘little old you’ and now it’s a conversation with your old self.

‘Pretending we’ve got to sliver’ and run away from our old subconscious problems. But we are not fooling any one, ‘because they can see the way we shake and shiver’.

‘You know we’ve got a little mystery to solve, so ‘little old you’ be ready for your act... don’t hold back.’

‘And little old you if you come through, you’re gonna have your self a Scooby snack! (a little nugget of wisdom) that’s a fact.’

‘Little old you, here are you... you’re ready and you’re willing. If we can count on you and present you, I know we will catch that villain (and solve the problem).

I loved scoobydoo before... but now I’ve found a new obsession. Dissecting my favourite spooky cartoons for self help content.

Me Instagram is going to be flooded!

I hope these posts will entertain, inform and inspire you, as much as they will me.

07/02/2021

31/01/2021

Shoutout to Craig Cassey Jr. for this quote. It’s so true. Relationships are amazing and they give you so much, but they don’t eliminate the need to put in work on yourself.

No one else can give you confidence, make you strong, or validate you. You have to do that all yourself. The moment you look to others for reassurance, you have chosen an unstable foundation.

Instead of looking outward, establish your own belief system, your own hierarchy of values. Once you have those in place, as long as you align your behaviors to them, you don’t need a nod of approval from anyone else - you know you’re moving in the right way.

If you want to hear what the most useful beliefs and values are for sustaining a long and fruitful relationship, check out our new YouTube channel, Relationship Theory. Link in bio. See you there!

26/01/2021

26/01/2021

Never underestimate the power of your words 🙌

25/01/2021

Amen!

Thought of the Day

25/01/2021

Repetition or hypnosis is the only way to change your subconscious programming.

Keep a gratitude journal and write three things you are grateful for first thing in the morning and AGAIN in the evening before you go to sleep... and watch how things change.

25/01/2021

“Joy... Why not have it now?”

25/01/2021

23/01/2021

The first one to realize they’re wrong and make the adjustment wins.

23/01/2021

LOVE this! Currently learnt about this the other month (from my guitar teaching course) Guitar Mastery Method Stressing the point that we need to keep meeting the frustration barrier to move the frustration barrier.

23/01/2021

Stillness Speaks - Eckhart Tolle📕
MY NUMBER 1 GO-TO BOOK - For both overwhelming moments and an everyday read/practise. This book is like my bible. 👌
I am my best self when I listen to this daily/every other day. It is great for anybody, especially atheists who seek to feel some form of connection in life.

There are no... “you must do this to be a good person.” comments. All the text is just “a signpost” for you to understand/ connect with ‘that inner knowing’, ‘consciousness’, ‘life’.

Remembering to ‘just be’ and ‘watch the thinker’. Why? Because that is your truest self and it makes it easier for you to get out of your own head/ ego created reality because you practise living outside of it.

I have this book in print and on audible so I fall asleep and learn from it in different ways too.

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23/01/2021

It’s your way or the highway. Show up unapologetically. You will encourage others to do the same. 🖤✨🎵

I think everyone should have an A5 Discbound journal. The total practicality and customisation with these things brings me so much joy. (I’ll be discussing a little more about getting organised in my second podcast!)

I live for my rock music it gives me life. I’m mad fan’ing on LimpBizkit the last year. COVID lockdowns have got me raving in front of the tv in the living room to their live shows and music videos on you tube. Thank you for giving me life! 😍

23/01/2021

“The only time is, now.” -

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23/01/2021

Happiness = Achievement

You can only be happy when you achieve something! Whether that is a big project or just getting some rest.

Facing challenges is the only way we gain confidence. SO WHAT CHALLENGE ARE YOU GOING TO FACE?

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For me guitar was something I thought I would NEVER get. I got my first guitar at 15 during my ‘mega Good Charlotte fan’ phase. I have always loved the sound of guitars, just never could get my head round it. 15 years later I pick it up again to everyone’s disbelief (she must just be going through a silly wannabe phase again) and I’m now playing chords and several of my favourite songs.

BUT as guitar players know, it is a non stop journey to mastering the guitar. A daily practice (at least if you want to be able to do solos.) I’d LOVE to be able to do the Metallica solo on ‘the day that never comes’ song haha one day I’ll make that ironic! 🖤

23/01/2021

When you can do this, it's freeing!

Your emotions are to be mastered, not become your master.

23/01/2021

It’s nice to see how your true friends see you.

I had this last minute idea for my 30th birthday. My partner bought this and I brought a silver sharpie pen for my friends to write me down in a word.

It makes me laugh and smile every time I read it. So sentimental.

This would be a great inexpensive but so thoughtful gift for somebody! - you are welcome :)

23/01/2021

BEETLEJUICE, BEETLEJUICE, BEETLEJUICE 🪲

My first tattoo will be of cartoon beetlejuice with this phrase. "IT'S SHOWTIME!" - A great moto to remind yourself to show up unapologetically yourself when facing life.

My cousin had the cartoon on video and I have been a massive fan since I was a child. Not many people know of the cartoon, but if you like cartoons it is a must to watch! (I only saw the movie a couple of years ago and while the movies is good. I much prefer the cartoon character. The movie character is too ‘perverted’ while the cartoon one is so LOVEABLE and just sees Lydia as a best friend and their friendship is amazing! - A great example of a healthy friendship where both characters are unapologetically themselves, but yet there for each other and willing to work through challenges together.

20/01/2021

Do what brings you true joy and you can’t go wrong. Like Marie Kondo says: “Does this spark joy?”

Surrounding yourself with people who are better than you is the best way to develop quickly. Don't be defensive or intimidated - embrace that you always have more to learn 🙏

20/01/2021

Remember that no bad days last forever. The sun sets, then the sun rises again. After dark comes light. So if you're going through tough times at the moment, know that better times are just around the corner.

20/01/2021

With my new blog/venture starting! I would love to know what self help and business related things you absolutely love and swear by!? For me Eckhart Tolle is my number one teacher/'signpost' for helping me understand life.

08/11/2019

05/11/2019

05/11/2019

Learn to love your faults so...

04/11/2019

Decide to put something good in the world instead.

01/11/2019

When you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that you’re living in alignment with your core values and leaving it all out on the field every day, nothing anyone says is going to hurt you.

You already know exactly who you are and you’re playing your hardest.

Tag your friends that don't give a damn what others think of them

30/10/2019

Hi, I’m Ashton!
A UK Blogger who loves all things self help related and capturing the joy in other peoples lives through photography and video.