Descending Into Oneness

12/09/2023

So much of the process of finding Oneself is letting go of everything that is not you. In my mind it is like picking out clothes. Maybe you wake up one day different. You no longer have to dress for anyone but you. So you walk to your closet. You see all the outfits hanging in front of you.

Oh, that outfit you bought to wear because your mother-in-law liked it. She felt it was conservative and looked like a "real mom," so you grab it and try it on. It doesn't fit right though. You check the tag and it is the same size you wear... nothing has changed with your physical body. Nonetheless, it doesn't fit.

Next you see an old outfit that an ex gave you for your birthday. You wore it all the time because it made them happy. You liked to make them happy but boy it felt all stuffy when you would wear it. You did it anyway. You grab it and hold it for a bit. What is it exactly that I don't like about it? You think to yourself, "He never really saw me. I always felt like he wanted me to be someone else." Just then you realize you don't have to wear it anymore.

Then you spot that beautiful hand-me-down dress your best friend gave you. You grab it eagerly. Hold it up to your body and you can already feel the grin on your face. Ahh, this feels just right. This dress is timeless, like the friend who gave it to you. She always saw the real you and she flowed with you as you evolved into the new you. She is a keeper, just like this dress. This is very rare. Keep those people close.

When you begin the journey of finding your true self and opening yourself up to the Oneness that connects us all, you have to be ready for some pretty dark times. Things will fall away... you can count on it. If they’re lifetime connections then they will evolve with you or close enough to keep you the same orbit. These people are rare.

The more NOT us that we shed, the happier we become. It is our responsibility to determine what outfits are right for us. We must be brave enough to sit with those old outfits and ask the hard question. Is this really me? When I wear it, does it drain me or make me more alive? Then you have to find the strength to let the old go. Likewise, you have to be brave enough to put on the new!! Nonetheless, it often comes with periods of despair. It is all part of the process. Trust it!

10/07/2023

I have found that archetypes help navigate the journey into our shadows. I believe the work of Caroline Myss and her 4 survival archetypes to be a great tool for the process. However, I have struggled when talking about the Pr******te Archetype during recent podcasts. The word carries a very biased and limited reaction. We immediately think of it in the context of a women who performs s*xual acts for money. The truth is it is so much more; there are many ways that we “sell” ourselves. Additionally, each of us, male and female, possess this archetype to some degree. Here are some thoughts to consider.

In what ways have you sold, sacrificed, traded, or negotiated your integrity, your beliefs, your talents, expression of self, or your power for physical survival or financial benefits?

Have you ever had s*x with someone out of obligation? Have you ever had s*x with someone to win them over? Have you ever used your body or your power to control another person?

Have you ever intentionally made someone do or be something they are not for your own benefit?

Have you ever stayed in a situation that compromised who you truly are because it provided you financial security?

Have you ever participated in a group where you had to “sell-out” to be accepted?

The goal of this archetype is to help us define and develop our soul truth. Our authenticity. What we stand for at our core. Through the lessons we develop the strength needed to stop compromising our body, mind, or spirit.

09/07/2023

What does love mean to you? How has it changed throughout your life? How does it feel to you? Do you believe you can effectively desribe it in words? Or is it only something that can be felt and not spoken? Listen to our latest episode to hear our thoughts on this topic.

05/07/2023

New episode ALERT 🚨!! More real talk with Melissa hitting your playlists tomorrow at 4am!! Check it out then come back here to share your feedback! We would love to connect!

29/06/2023

Don't forget to give the new episode a listen! Let's support our young adults as they explore healthy vulnerability. Give them a safe space to share their pain and their challenges, in hopes they can inspire others to do the same.

28/06/2023

New episode available tomorrow morning, 6/28/23 at 4am.

Just a mother and daughter talking about the challenges of being a young mother and the effects of growing up in a home where love was often lacking… or seemed to be lacking.

I just love this girl so much. I’m sure you will too.

13/06/2023

A little preview of my converstation with Kim. Episode will air on Wednesday, June 14th, 2023 at 4 am.

11/06/2023

What do you do for fun on a Saturday Night? Edit a podcast? No, just me... oh, ok. Haha. My amazing bestie, Kim, and I recorded a new episode today and it will hit all podcast platforms this Wednesday, June 14, 2023. It is a long one but we covered the 4 universal archetypes... child, victim, saboteur, and pr******te. It is a good one!!

"Being authentic means that I have to embrace all of the spectrum of who I am from my beauty to my beast."
- Kim Kalweit

Next up, Melissa is returning for some soul sharing. My daughter and granddaughter are visiting this month. So, I think we might carve out some time to chat. I hope you are ready for some honest, vulnerable, inspiring, REAL, heart sharing from us.

Now back to editing...

30/05/2023

Quick update!

Website is live!! It is still a work-in-progress but it is starting to take shape. All the current podcast episodes are loaded. I started the first blog post today but I still have a lot left to say before it is ready to be published.

I also published all the podcast episodes to several new platforms. Every new episode will be published on all the platforms.

I am working on a few episodes, probably 4, to review the universal archetypes; child, victim, pr******te, and saboteur. These templates show up in our daily lives. They show up in our relationships with ourselves and with others. I hope to use these motifs to provide structure to future interviews.

Descending Into Oneness Welcome to this sacred space, a place where we delve into the hidden depths of our being to discover our true selves. It is here that we come together to share our stories, experiences and struggles, in order to find the common thread that unites us all. We acknowledge that b...

02/04/2023

✨🤍 Phoenix Rising 🤍✨

You woke up today, not the same, as when you went to bed.
You look down and see the outline from the ashes of the person you had been.
The fire burns a little, as it sheds what you no longer need.
You stumble as you turn on the light to look at the new you.
You shake and tremble as you feel your fresh skin.
You stand at the mirror to admire your beautiful wings.

The excitement of new possibilities starts to creep in, with a tinge of fear, knowing you must release the past again.

You open your wings, astonished at the new wingspan. How far will you soar this time, you wonder?

You turn around to say farewell, to those not yet prepared to go, and you wish them well on their journeys ahead. Yelling back, “Maybe I’ll see you again.”

You look forward, pausing for just a moment to give gratitude for the lessons that brought you here.

You take flight into the wind, looking down and all around, admiring the newness while taking it all in.

You whisper to yourself, like you always do, “We got this.”

🤍rikki🤍

31/03/2023

✨🤍Healing ‘Not Good Enough’ Wound🤍✨

Even though it wasn’t a game of win or lose.
To say it doesn’t feel that way is a lie I just won’t use. Everyone’s ego tries to deny it, which only magnifies it.

I’m so mad right now that I didn’t win.
But really what did I lose?
The choice was really between me or you.
Of course, I wanted you to choose YOU.
But in my choosing ME, I was also choosing you and deep down I wanted you to do that too.

Wait, but I actually did win, you see. I won my ability to step into my truth.
I won my ability to embrace our love and the courage to see it through.
I won the ability to open up to the unfolding happening in me.
Most importantly, I WON the ability to be ENOUGH for ME.

🤍rikki🤍

Edit: thanks to my soulmate, Kimmie, for inspiring the ending.

30/03/2023

✨🤍 The Beauty of Heartache 🤍✨

Heart pain is the worst pain, because it can lead you astray.

You can try to bury it but it will eventually resurface in explosive ways. Demanding to be felt, heard and even understood.

You can use people to distract you but that only works for so long. Eventually, one day you’ll find yourself looking at them wondering where the love has gone OR questioning if it was really love at all.

You can mask it by obsessing about other things, to buy yourself a short reprieve but soon you’ll realize all the energy expended was make believe. Leaving you exhausted, unable to carry on.

You can try to starve it, by refusing to love again. Sadly, time will pass and you’ll look back and regret what might’ve been.

If you need a reminder, well here it is, YOU alone have the ability to change how it ends. You can let the pain define you or you can turn your cheek, look down deep, and rise up again.

Only you have the power to alter how your story unfolds. You can play the victim or you can be the hero for your soul.

If you choose to allow those who hurt you, to still dictate your path, then it’s time you faced up to the facts. You make the choice everyday to put your power in their lap.

Or you can let it refine you, cracking you open at your core, shedding the parts never truly you once and for all. Allowing your soul to fully shine, radiating out the love of the Divine.

It can teach you how your soul wishes to be loved and show you it needs to give love too. Showing you what you won’t tolerate again but also what you’ll no longer do.

Atlas, heart pain can be beautiful, once the anguish ends. In the state after the releasing, you meet your heart wide open and see you’re ready to love again.

🤍rikki🤍

28/03/2023

✨🤍 Unbalanced Masculine In Me 🤍✨

You stood strong when they pushed you around.
You moved those mountains to get to your crown.
You built your life standing on your own two feet.

Now you’re here, realizing the trade you made.

You lost yourself in your work, believing success determined your worth.
You controlled others in an attempt to feel safe.
You proved them wrong when they said you were weak.
You handled their misperception by suppressing your real needs.
You hide your fear when they screamed your name, by throwing your fire all over the place.
You pretended you didn’t need them because you knew they’d let you burn.
You then tried to chase them because you wanted someone around.

All your self-protection attempts disconnected you from your source.
Now that you know this truth.
You seek to balance and seek to transmute.

You see these two hands? They carried my own weight.
But these two arms are still stretched open because I never lost faith.
You see these two feet? They walked barefoot through the fire.
But these two legs have broadened their stride, eagerly walking me into the light.
You see this healed heart? It was once broken from pain but I mended it with my own love.

I now listen to my heart and let it guide my head.
I dug deep to unearth all the lies I was sold, replacing them with the truth of my soul.
I was not meant to play small and silence my heart.
I was meant to unleash my words with fury and light up what’s dark.

You see these two eyes open wide? They showed me the way.
Now I see clearly, as I create a beautiful new day.

Now do you feel me staring at you? It’s my heart inviting you to go do this for YOU!

🤍rikki🤍

27/03/2023

Updated Version

✨🤍Wounded Masculine Relating🤍✨

The freeze you feel when faced with a too familiar choice often causes you to run.

Other times you vacillate between absolute control or completely letting go.

Your controlling tendencies, only attracts the feminine yet to see they’re already whole.

Letting go can be healthy, if it’s not to protect your ego.

If you find yourself in an avoidant state, a familiar pattern that has kept you safe.
You will falsely think you’re living freely.
Only to find your soul still shackled beneath it.
Avoidance may make you feel less vulnerable but the fears still remain.

You keep your feelings unsaid thinking you’re avoiding pain.
Don’t be a fool, the silence still stings the same.

You keep her at a distance,
Afraid she’ll actually stay.
Your truth can’t be hidden from her.
She see’s it on your face.
Do not worry, she’ll still love and hold you.
She smells the longing on your breath
To feel safe again in her loves embrace.

You’re still fighting your way loose from the stranglehold of past.
Unsure of how to escape the bo***ge of pain.
Projecting their wrath on those undeserving of the blame.

If you find the the keys to unlock the chains.
Surrender just might seem possible.
And the urge to run will begin to fade.
Letting the universe guide you back home again.

For until you fully step into yourself.
Tomorrow will be just another day.

🤍 rikki 🤍

27/03/2023

✨🤍 Wounded Feminine Relating 🤍✨

It’s everything you wanted but now it’s not enough.
Nothing can make you happy when you constantly feel your stuck.

You search for love in everyone you meet.
But turn around and act surprised when you feel the defeat.

You give and give, expecting nothing in return.
Then wonder why you feel they never put you first.

Dancing around like you’re a beautiful, innocent, rose.
You try to hide your thorns to make them stay.
Don’t be naive, they will see them one day.
For the thorns that you fear,
Are exactly what drew them near.

Your constant urge to heal them.
Prevented you from seeing your real worth.
Or did you expect them to save you?
Instead of giving yourself the love you deserved.

Make sure to be honest of exactly where you stand!
Only a healed masculine will include you in his plans.

You can’t put them on a glass pedestal then wonder why they fell.
Crashing all around you, only after, ringing your head like a bell.

🤍 rikki 🤍

22/03/2023

If you haven't yet, head over to Spotify to listen to our newest episode. Very thought-provoking discussions. So much that both Melissa and I feel an urge to expand and clarify some comments. Look for more detailed content from us in the next few weeks. We are still working out the details of the format.

Every layer uncovers more layers. We are always in a constant state of change, ever evolving beings.

If you have listened please share your comments or thoughts here!

https://open.spotify.com/episode/1pJJaZKFtqszFEBV1CJAnv?si=e61cfeafea0c457e

21/03/2023

✨Episode loaded and scheduled to release at 4:44 am tomorrow (3/22/23) ✨

The podcast is really starting to take shape. We have several new guests planned for the near future. People are getting excited, and we are loving the energy. I know so many of you are sending us positive, creative energy and I very much appreciate it.

The intention for this podcast is to excavate all that is hidden within us and transmute into healing energy. To provide our souls a safe space to gather and honor our oneness. In order to collectively ascend, we need to first descend into our shadows, our wounds, with the goal of collectively stepping out of our victim-hood and rise up together.

Most of this work occurs within the space of relationships. Relationships with self, other people, our communities, our families and ultimately the Divine within each of us.

I planned to add an outtake as a little promo but the software I was using is very buggy and I lost the clip. So, I have decided to move to Adobe Audition and will be learning that software now. The learning curve is real people!!

Welcome to the Descending into Oneness Podcast. The intention for this podcast is to provide our souls with a safe space to gather so that we may honor our oneness. Trusting that by doing so we will be able to embrace each other's fullness, which integrates our darkness and our light. Join me as we....

20/03/2023

Posted • .dagba If your intuition always felt safe, then surrender wouldn't be needed. It would be just another regular choice.

Surrender is a beautiful expression of bravery. The very fact that you need to surrender means that a part of you would rather not do it, even if deep down you already know it is the right choice for you. Would you agree?

Asking of your intuition to guarantee safety before you move forward will often blur your guidance.

Your intuition is a redirection mechanism towards truth and freedom. And sometimes, some of the choices that will set you free, will also feel scary as hell. Love yourself enough to honor them anyway.

Leave a ❣️ below if this resonates with you and tag a friend who needs this.

18/03/2023

✨ This month’s episode will air on 3/22/23 ✨

Just wrapped up recording episode 3. Melissa is back for a deep dive into relationships. We share our perspective on what we think healthy romantic relationships look like. Real experiences. Real work. We both share a deep belief that lasting love is a thing and it is within our reach. Learning to be patient still gets in our way though!!

Best episode yet!

07/03/2023

Posted • Find the ones who will grow with you.

Find the ones who will see your potential and believe in it unwaveringly. Find the ones who will listen to your fears and still push you in the direction you know you need to go. Find the ones who will love the most honest version of you. Find the ones who will meet you on the other side.

Whatever you are afraid of losing on the journey of becoming the version of you that you will actually be proud of is nothing you really had in the first place. Anyone who loves the version of you that you do not also love is not someone who really loves you at all — it’s someone who is attached to an idea of you that complements an idea they have of themselves. Their presence is about circumstance, not connection — and so you are probably right to fear losing it. Deep down, you already know it is not rooted in something real, and so it will not weather.

Your growth will be uncomfortable to witness for the people who also sense the same desire for change within themselves, and deny it. It will be unsteadying for the ones who have rested their minds on the idea that what is in front of them is all there is; you forging into the vast, wild unknown will challenge that. It will pull that image apart by the seams. It will shine a light on all the parts of them that they have tried to hide. It will remind them of what might be possible and yolk up all kinds of dissatisfaction.

But it will also become a torch on the path. It will transform you into a way-shower. It will make you into an expander, and a guide. It will show you real love. It will deliver you true peace. It will teach you that there was never an actual choice to be made — the journey was only you facing what is your certain destiny, and deciding how much more time you would waste before you’d finally begin.

22/02/2023

Check out our new podcast on Spotify tomorrow morning.

Listen to Descending Into Oneness on Spotify.

21/02/2023

Episodes are officially uploaded and set to release on 2/22 at 4:44 am! Here is a little snippet of my chat with Melissa.

Quick story of how the making of the podcast went this weekend.

I had done some research but it had been a minute. I spent most of Sunday learning how to podcast. While doing so I noticed it could take 2-5 days for Spotify to approve your podcast AND you have to have an episode ready to finish the process. So I rushed around and got my welcome/trailer episode published. They approved it quickly. Spent the rest of the day figuring out how to edit in Riverside.fm only to find out several hours later that there was a software bug, that they did NOT even know about, that made you think you were exporting your edited copy but it was not. Turns out you can't export edited audio files.

So, I did some quick research and found some free software that was supposed to be user-friendly. It was for the most part. Anyhow, it is all good. Nothing was standing in the way of me meeting this release date.

The quality is definitely that of a novice but it will get where it needs to be.

Now, next weekend I am dedicating to celebrating and digging back into the other project my soul is leading me to develop.

20/02/2023

Posted • .dagba A little thread about heartcentered self leadership. [Please swipe ->]

I often feel like the collective heart of humanity has had a leash for the longest time, and that leash is being taken down. Collectively, we are doing that. Can you relate?

I am aware that it may not seem like that at times with all the trials that we are going through. Yet this is a deep knowingness within me.

That then comes with the question: "How does it look like at an individual level?"

What does it look like for you to have your heart unleashed?

What comes to mind when you think about it? Does that thought expand you or does it cause contraction?

What is it that you already know your heart wants to bring forth?

We have entered a paradigm where the highest currency is to be brave enough to be led by your heart. And I think you are right on schedule.

Leave a ❣️ below if this resonates with you and tag a friend who needs this.

19/02/2023

Attention: Descending Into Oneness Podcast going LIVE on 2/22

Such an exciting day today. I had the privilege to spend a few hours with Melissa. Together we recorded the first 2-part episode for OUR Descending Into Oneness podcast.

I say OUR podcast because I don't view it as mine. I see it as a collective space for us to join together, open our souls to one another and share our unique experiences with the world. The goal being that we find Oneness in our shadows and wounds so that others who have experienced similar do not feel so alone. Together we can transmute those experiences into light and collectively ascend. I think there is healing to be found in journeying the dark together... just as much as collectively celebrating our light.

I can't wait for the sessions to air so you can experience firsthand just how BRAVE Melissa is and how she is changing the world by understanding and loving herself.

Big stuff happening for her!!

Much love to you Melissa.

18/02/2023

The only way is through it. You can’t avoid your shadows forever. You can only ignore your souls calling for so long.

17/02/2023

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17/02/2023

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15/02/2023

Posted • IF you can determine someone's willingness at the beginning, you can save yourself a whole heap of trouble later....

14/02/2023

And I am the egg that surrounds and nurtures the seed of the God in me.

-C.G. Jung

14/02/2023

Posted • The body. The chamber of born again.