Please don't miss the broader context: Society's ideas about marriage and its purpose have changed over the last 50 years, yes...
But marriage was originally invented and ordained by GOD, not society - and He uses marriage in our lives, in part, to help us become less selfish and more like Christ...
...Even when we mistakenly approach it selfishly!
In this week's Married Up Podcast we talk about "Love is not self-seeking" (1 Cor 13) and how ALL community drives towards these ends... Marriage, family and church communities!
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Selfishness is a marriage-killer! ☠️ ☠️ ☠️
Selfishness is our human-born-default.
But if you and your spouse are each selfishly focused on getting your own way - that will be a recipe for DISASTER 💣️💣️💣️
Instead, the cure for selfishness is learning servanthood.
And in a marriage, if both spouses are sacrificing selfishness and growing in servanthood your marriage results will be SO GOOD! 😍
This weeks Married Up podcast focuses on the journey from selfishness to servanthood - the stark contrast, and how to grow towards it! You can subscribe to the Married Up Podcast wherever you'd get a Podcast! Just search Married Up!
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To honor your spouse is a commitment you made at the altar through all the highs and lows, death... sickness... rich... poor... etc. It was not conditional on if they acted a certain way that day week or month.
No would suggest this an easy thing to do. That's why marriage is hard and to do it right requires agape love (unconditional love) from The Father in heaven, the source of love itself.
Honoring someone undeserving will change you.
Honoring someone undeserving will move the needle with time.
Honoring someone undeserving will honor the God who loved you even though you are undeserving as well ❤️
Who is your spouse ALMOST? 🤩🤩🤩
One of the best ways to help your spouse live up to their full potential is to call them higher by honoring them higher.
Call out the greatness you know is in them and honor them like they are that ALREADY - rather than criticizing the negative you see in the mix right now.
Talk about tomorrows potential more than todays failures. Believe the best about them and tell them so - and you will become the wind beneath their wings.
And when they progress towards who they're becoming YOU will reap the benefits of it!
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If you're looking to your spouse to supply ALL your biggest emotional needs you are going to be left down. No human being, no matter how wonderful or well-meaning can possibly do that.
There are needs in your soul that only a relationship with Jesus Christ can fulfill. Until you enter into relationship with Him you will always be on the hunt!
And the needs we don't find fulfillment in GOD in we will tend to look to our spouse for. This is called the principle of transference and it's a recipe for conflict - because they can't do it! Look to Jesus first!
This clip is from an episode of the A Better Us @abetterus TV show!
Living close with another person gives us much needed perspective on who we really are - and it helps us on our journey towards Christ-likeness...
IF - we will lower our pride and allow it to do its work in us.
Has pride been a block in your marriage? Or has your marriage made you a less selfish and more humble version of yourself?
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Marriage is a HUMBLE PILL 💊💊💊
This is by God's design. Living in community and accountability brings our darkness into the spotlight and marriage is the closest version of that there is.
This is GOOD FOR US.
It's God's wise process for our betterment.
But it butts against self preservation and requires humility.
Embrace the process of mutually submitting in marriage and you will come out the other side so much better and more like CHRIST.
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How can you motivate or move your spouse in a direction you’d like to see them grow?
Well, we can’t MAKE our spouse change, but you are guaranteed to get a better result by praising the good then standing in a “high place” over them criticizing them!
Love is not boastful or proud. Criticism elevates you above someone else where you are observing and calling out their obvious faults. This will not help your cause, but alienate your spouse.
But LOVE covers weakness with its own strength. It hopes and believes for the best. It perseveres through the process. It is gentle in its assessment and delivery of the truth.
In this week's podcast we look at one of the best ways to combat envy and build contentment - Gratitude.
Sometimes we need to 'practice' gratitude even when we're not feeling it quite yet. That may feel bit like "going through the motions" but doing it will lead your emotions in the right direction.
Rather than following our feelings we can lead them towards a better reality and a better marriage.
Check out our newest Married Up Podcast episode. Available now anywhere you'd get a Podcast! This season we are going through 1 Corinthians 13 together and finding some fresh insight for marriage in an old passage we all know well!
A core need of a wife is "security" and sure, finances might play into that on some level. But the security she needs is bigger than financial stability - it is an emotional security as well.
Ultimately, men, the question needs to be answered over and over again by words and actions: "Would you marry me all over again?"
Don't over focus on finances 💰️💰️💰️ to the detriment of prioritizing her feeling loved, valued, pursued and cherished. 🥰
Dan and Danielle love being a part of the Canadian Marriage TV show "A Better Us"! @abetterus Find all episodes available free on YouTube!
❌️ Don't hold it back! ❌️
If you are thinking "thankful thoughts" about your spouse - positive things about them like:
👍️ They're a great parent
👍️ They're cute
👍️ They're a hard worker
👍️ They're a great spiritual influence on your home
SAY IT 📣
THEY need to hear it
YOU need to hear yourself say it too.
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This is why the best gift you can give your spouse is a healthy version of you.
Brokenness from your past, even long before marriage, as well as unresolved trauma and unforgiveness can leave you reacting and over-reacting to your spouse in harmful ways.
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Our Father in heaven can heal and repair ANYTHING. Make sure you're talking to Him about it. But you may need the help of a counsellor to truly heal and reframe what you've been through!
Don't run in shame and hold on to your hurts. Work through releasing them and God CAN make you whole again! 🥰
Original art by @visanstefan
Marriage is meant to be a place where you can be who you are in the most accepting and safe environment. A place to be loved and championed into becoming everything God intends you to be.
Not ashamed, but celebrated.
Video Credit: @dan_lian @xomarriage
Love looks at the person across from you and says "I am cheering for you. I am going to be your biggest cheerleader"
💕We win together. 💕
Check out our newest Married Up Podcast episode. Available now anywhere you'd get a Podcast! This season we are going through 1 Corinthians 13 together and finding some fresh insight for marriage in an old passage we all know well!
"Therefore encourage one another and build each other up" (1 Thes 5:11)
If YOU are not going to be intentional about building up your spouse with words than WHO IS 😱❓️
You ultimately benefit... if you make them feel like a million bucks, half of that is yours!! 😆
Dan and Danielle love being a part of the Canadian Marriage TV show "A Better Us"! @abetterus Find all episodes available free on YouTube!
Today's brand new Married Up Podcast covers the third descriptor of love in 1 Corinthians 13: Love does not envy.
It is possible to be envious of your even your spouse - until you realize that every good thing that comes to your spouse benefits you too!
When you are married, you are ONE.
Pray blessings for your spouse for the win! 🥇🥇
Check out our newest Married Up Podcast episode. Available now anywhere you'd get a Podcast! This season we are going through 1 Corinthians 13 together and finding some fresh insight for marriage in an old passage we all know well!
The main thing that sours a marriage is because people stop doing little things for one another... (Kindness)
Little things - giving compliments, helping out, serving one another, team work.
LITTLE things will sustain your marriage!
Video Credit: @247marriage
Parenting ain't for the faint of heart, y'all! 😁
COMMUNICATION between you and your TEAMMATE (your spouse) is key. Especially if you come from differing approaches in your family of origin.
Make sure you involve our Heavenly Father as well - He loves your kids even more than you do and can and will help! 🥰
Dan and Danielle love being a part of the Canadian Marriage TV show "A Better Us"! @abetterus Find all episodes available free on YouTube!
😍"Be NICE to each other!" she says! 😍
Just like we were talking about this week on the Married Up Podcast - "Love is KIND"
Then, she mixes in - "talk things over" and get on the same page! ♥️ Lovit
🤐🤐🤐 Don't say things you can't take back! 💀
Life and death are in the power of the tongue! 👅
Instead say things you WANT to hang out in the atmosphere over your spouse and your home!! 👏👏👏
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