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19/07/2023

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09/07/2023

Fun night out .misfit

12/06/2023

Today was a good day.

09/10/2022

E=P². The Empathy Equation

27/09/2022

Loved it so much, had to buy it twice

26/12/2021

Model S Palladium light show

05/12/2021

The view from our apartment

10/01/2021

Snow!

28/11/2020

Let’s do this

23/09/2020

Episode 12

09/09/2020

16/08/2020

Bonus episode this week

29/07/2020

Episode 66 -
We are all mad here 😜 is a conversation on mental health. As always Sarah and I bring a philosophical narrative to the topic.

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👉🏿Episode 66

26/07/2020

The first $100,000 in da bank requires an obsessive amount of focus. It gets easier after that.

19/07/2020

Episode 16:

Question as Old as Time

28/06/2020

SHOULD YOU WEAR THE DARN FACE MASK 😷

On this weeks episode, Sarah and I take a look at the two major opposing view points to the mask issue and lead you to our own philosophical conclusion.

A couple key points from this episode are

A. Creating a compelling narrative and being in control of that narrative is often times key to creating stability. In times of great uncertainty, people’s minds tend to wander and create their own individual narratives. You see how this becomes a major problem when you have over 300 million people creating their own narratives. The fundamental function of a leadership is to then create one compelling thought to guide and manage its people through the uncertainty

B. In a few day’s, months or years, we will look back and in hindsight realize what point of view got this one wrong. So we think it’s important to analyze this issue through the lens of “what is the worst consequence to my point of view”

C. The past has the answers. Sarah guides us through a similar pandemic in recent history with much promise of a cure that never came. But preventative measures to contracting the virus made the most impact in controlling its spread and existential threat to society. it was the change in human behavior and preventative measures and care that makes the biggest impact. Not the cure.

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27/06/2020

Spending my birthday weekend creating content for the podcast is more fun when you have a pretty girl with you Sarah Akingbade Don’t miss this one ☝🏿

Ep 62. SHOULD YOU WEAR THE DAMN MASK 😷

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25/06/2020

Right now, it is obvious that the American people do not have a shared reality about Covid - 19. And this difference in perspective about the virus is pretty scary because all 300 million of these people with different perspectives about the virus all truly believe themselves to be rational people

This lack of shared perspective is apparent in those who wear a mask because they perceive the virus as an existential threat to life and those who don’t because they believe the whole thing is a hoax.

This seems to summarize the overall sentiment amongst Americans. Some give a f**k and some people just don’t give a f**k. I have friends who have gotten the virus and given their account of it. Unless they are lying to me, I know that I don’t want the s**t.

I get it though, no one REALLY knows what’s going on. So much contradicting narratives, mostly along political lines.

BUT here is what I do know. HINDSIGHT REVEALS TRUTH. No matter what your perspective is on the virus, in a few days, months, maybe a few years, you will either be right or you will be wrong.

I like to consider myself a semi rational person who doesn’t like gambling with life. And who also considers things from a risk/reward, worse case scenario point of view.

It is from this point of view that I would rather wear the goddam mask and be wrong, than not wear it and be wrong.

Reality is subject to the point of view you choose. You can choose to see wearing a mask from a political point of view; Left vs Right, government encroaching on civil liberties etc. Or you can choose to see wearing the damn mask from a civic duty and citizenship point of view; empathy towards and collaboration with others

Both perspectives create 2 different realities to be lived. The choice on what your life lived will look like is yours.

Perception is a bitch and right now life be like the hunger games. This is the s**t Thanos was talking about.

May the odds ever be in your favor if you choose to play Russian roulette with yo life.

But, what do I know.... Perception is a f**king bitch mane!

23/06/2020

It is very difficult for people to change the way they think, even when they realize that their own views and perceptions are the root cause of many of their life’s struggles and adversity.

The level of commitment, fortitude, tenacity and dedication required to reframe your mind to new points of view will prove immensely difficult even for the wisest, most disciplined and most rational of individuals.


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13/06/2020

Not much to say. Those who know already know! Bitch I smell like money

10/06/2020

The biggest obstacle I ever faced was my own limited perception of myself. Your perspective or perception is the enemy within.
Perception is a bitch mane!!

10/06/2020

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04/06/2020

You need allies to fight and win a war. And no different, black people are going to need allies in this fight. These allies are disproportionately going to be white.

Right now, I am thinking about a personal trainer who has been working out 🏋️‍♀️ for so long, he has forgotten how hard his DAY 1 into the gym was. His novice days, the first time he lifted weights and stayed sore for days.

Now, the soreness is so common sense, it becomes very easy to loose empathy for a client who today, is his or her’s day 1.

My wife is white and she is not a racist. However, until she met me, she didn’t realize how deep the roots of discrimination and segregation went. For the most part, she was oblivious to the privilege she enjoyed for being white. I was Sarah’s DAY 1.

I too have been obliviously to the discrimination against other marginalized groups like my friends in the gay/lesbian, female community. And like white folks, I don’t think 🤔 I have ever given much thought to the privilege I have enjoyed for not being gay or female. So for these groups, some event is going to be the catalyst to my DAY 1. I do hope that they are empathetic to my ignorance and have the patience to school me. I knew you struggled. I am so sorry 😐. I didn’t know s**t was that deep.

For a lot of white people, is their DAY1. For others, it was and so on.
The point I am trying to make is that we “people of color” have been in this fight for so long, we forget that today is an allies DAY1. Let’s show some empathy and welcome these people to the fold. Let’s understand that they do not have to muscle memory that we have. For a lot of new allies, this is the event that convicts them to never be silent again.

Let us explain our point of view again for the millionth time with the same patience with with we explain s**t to our kids, even though you want to yell and be like “shouldn’t you already know this”

Perception is a bitch and no matter how thought out my thinking may seem, I am inspired daily to question my point of view.


We need allies.

02/06/2020

Black lives matter “TOO” Maybe if we change the language, we may articulate better that we seek inclusion, not privilege. We want a society that perceives value to black lives the same as it does white lives.

28/05/2020

On May 8th, I released a podcast episode - Perception is a Bitch #57 about

On that episode I talked about how, too often, black men are perceived as soulless animals. It is this flawed cultural perspective that normalizes the fact that we, black men, can be slaughtered in the street without any legal consequences or ramifications to the perpetrators.

The cops knew they were being filmed and were so confident in their protection as “officers of the law” that they made no move to alter the course of their actions as they slowly murdered a man in cold blood- on camera.

If you stomped a puppy to death in the street, people would loose their mind. If you stomped a rat to death, no one would bat an eye. Black men are the rat equivalent.

I am not mad at white people, or saying all white people are racist. I am speaking out against a culture and a system that has branded the black man as a soulless, inherently criminal being. Until we can bring the SYSTEM to trial and not just the individual, I will see you at the next black lynching in a few weeks. I sure hope it’s not me.

14/05/2020

On Podcast episode 58 of Perception is a bitch, we are talking about intentions

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/perception-is-a-bitch/id1467854817?i=1000474516991

14/05/2020

Quotable’s from this weeks podcast episode
🤓”intention is where evil goes to hide” 🧐
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09/05/2020

The system must be brought to trial.
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30/04/2020

Podcast alert!
Will religion ever be obsolete 🧐 🤷‍♂️ Let’s see what the philosophy tells us

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