11/02/2022
Mental health 2
A lot of relationships are not working out well, not because we are not trying our best but somethings tends to be wrong with we ourselves.
The greatest psychological need of a man is the need to feel loved, appreciated and the need to feel important.
Pretending not to want, pretending not to be jealous and pretending to be strong and not being affected by petty things has affected a lot of relationships.
It is hard dating people that hide their emotions. It is ok to feel weak, it is ok to get angry at the wrong things, it is ok not to be ok sometimes, the only thing is that we should be quick to stand back our feets.
It is hard dating people that always want to feel strong. Most times, it is like talking to a tree. A tree does not cry when it is hurt. It doesn't speak, it is hard to know how the tree feels. It is hard to know when the tree is sorry. It is hard to know when the tree is happy, it is hard to know when the tree is hungry, it is hard to read the emotions of a tree. It is so frustrating. "Don't do it", it is tiring.
I am not saying we should start acting like babies here, of course I will always stand on maturity. But maturity does not stop you from expressing your feelings. You don't have to cry always, you don't have to feel bad always, you don't have to nag always. Know the right time to do those things.
Know when to correct your partner, know when to tell them you feel bad about something. Know when to tell them you love them, infact always say you love them but some behaviors or things needed to be changed. "An action feels rejected when there is no reaction to the action".
When you don't communicate well, it is hard to understand what you need. it is hard to understand what you want. it is hard to read your body language. your partner won't know what to do!. These are most things that makes people fall out of love. When you ask them why, they don't know what to point at, they just know they are tired of the relationship. It is due to frustration but they don't know the language to call it.
It is not everyone that leaves a relationship that has started cheating or likes someone else. End those lame ideas!. Some people actually still love you, but it is difficult to cope with hiding emotions, it is difficult to read your body language. It is difficult to know what you want.
These actions stresses the mind. Most of us have seen marriages that the partners are scared of each other, but because they are married, they have to cope with it. Some of us that are close to them feel the heat also when we are around them.
Communication is the basis of every successful relationship. Don't be in the position to always manage each other. Communicate well in your relationship. These are things to learn!
Another point is know your partner's love language. It can be sweet words, it can be touch, it can be attention, it can be anything. When you understand your partner's love language, it's easier to make them happy, it's easier to understand what they need, it's easier to say you are sorry.
Understanding love language pays a major role in every successful relationship. You know what to do, you know how to go about it. You have to be close to your partner to understand their body language, that's why it's everywhere and I'm a big fan of getting close to someone you want to date before you decide they are good for you. Become best of friends.
Understanding the importance of closeness will save you from a lot of damages that you might cause. Some people are just ment to be friends with you and nothing more. If you are friends you are cool but as lovers, bad. These are things you will find out when you are close to them.
You are a very serious person, you can be friends with people that are always serious too, but you might not be able to date someone that is always serious, that's when the difference in relationships comes in, please understand this.
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