Hamza Khurshid Siddiqui

23/01/2024

Just completed the 3rd Live Book Reading session in the group and we discussed a lot of things to help us understand our current situations!

From introducing the concept of conscious, unconscious, scripts, homeostatic impulse, and more - we finally connected with ourselves on why we keep repeating certain habits and behaviours in our lives, and how shaming and criticising ourselves wont help either!

Tomorrow, we will explore on how to break free of these scripts and actually move forward in our lives, step by step, little by little.

18/01/2024

اپنی ذات اور زندگی کو بہتر بنانے کے لیئے یہ کتاب میرے لیئے بہت مفید ثابت ہوئی جب میں نے اسے 2023 میں پہلی مرتبہ پڑھا۔ سال 2024 میں دوبارہ پڑھنے جا رہا ہوں لیکن اس دفعہ آپ سب کو شامل کرنے کا بھی ارادہ رکھتا ہوں۔

اس کتاب کی مقبولیت کے لیئے آپ گوگل کر سکتے ہیں۔ میں نیچے آپ سب لوگوں کو شامل کرنے کے لیئے ایک گروپ کی تفصیل بتا دیتا ہوں۔

اس میں شامل ہونے کے لیئے لنک کمنٹس سیکشن سے بھی لیا جا سکتا ہے۔

اس گروپ میں میں لائیو بک ریڈنگ کرتے ہوئے اس کتاب سے جڑی اپنی لرننگز شیئر کرونگا - تا کہ آپ بھی اس کتاب سے مستفید ہو سکیں اور ہم ایک گروپ کی صورت میں اپنی ذاتی زندگیوں کو بہتر کر سکیں۔

اللہ کی مدد سے ہر رات 11 بجے لائو سیشن کا انعقاد کیا جائیگا اور کتاب کو چیپٹر بائی چیپٹر پڑھتے ہوئے اختتام تک لے جایا جائیگا۔

اسکے علاوہ کچھ ماہر نفسیات اور دیگر ماہرین کو بھی مدعو کیا جائیگا کہ وہ آکر اس گروپ کے ممبران کے لیئے اپنے خیالات کا اظہار کریں۔

ہوں اور پنجاب یونیورسٹی لاہور سے نفسیات میں بیچلرز کی ڈگری رکھتا ہوں۔ SEO & CONTENT SPECIALIST میں پیشے سے ایک

19/12/2022

Sawa Maheenay main 500 pageviews ki khushi

Phr November main 60k page views crossed.

Progress of the AI site, and the beauty of blogging

12/04/2021

I am looking for a content editor who can read through various articles on my websites & improve upon the content on the basis of Search Intent - SEO will be taught.

Understanding Search Intent, Improving Content, & sometimes writing new content will be the day-to-day responsibilities.

This is an office-based job - Monday to Friday - 10 AM to 7 PM

The candidate must have his/her own laptop.

Salary: 25k-40k (based on skills)
Location: Gulberg 3, Lahore

Kindly send your work & resume to [email protected]

04/10/2020

ادب کی ٹیکنالجی

میری نسل, مجھ سمیت, اپنے بڑوں سے سیکھنا چھوڑ چکی ہے. ہم سمجھتے ہیں کہ اتنی ٹیکنالجی کے بعد اب آخر یہ پچھلی نسل اور زمانے کے لوگ ہمیں کیا سیکھا سکتے ہیں.

اب تو ہمیں ہی انہیں ٹی وی سے یوٹیوب پر لانا ہے!

ہم اس حقیقت کو جھٹلانے کی ناکام کوشش کر رہے ہیں کہ ایک نسل دوسری نسل کو جو دے سکتی ہے وہ کوئ بھی جدید ٹیکنالجی نہیں دے سکتی.

لیکن یہ بابے اور بابیاں ہمیں کیا سیکھا سکتے ہیں؟

یہ ہمیں Whatsapp کے بغیر لوگوں سے رابطہ اور رشتہ قائم کرنا سیکھا سکتے ہیں.

یہ ہمیں Evernote پر لکھے بغیر باتیں یاد رکھنا سیکھا سکتے ہیں.

یہ ہمیں Dine out کیے بغیر مہمان نوازی کرنا سیکھا سکتے ہیں.

یہ ہمیں Teachers Day سے باہر استاد کی عزت کرنا سیکھا سکتے ہیں.

یہ ہمیں Mall میں جائے بغیر خوراک پیدا اور اکھٹا کرنا سیکھا سکتے ہیں.

اور کم سے کم,

یہ ہمیں Wifi کے بغیر سانس لینا سیکھا سکتے ہیں.

آپ بے شک ان بابے اور بابیوں کو ٹی وی سے یوٹیوب اور Netflix پر لے آئیں, لیکن اپنی بہتری کی خاطر ایک دفعہ Screen کی دنیا سے نکل کر انکی دنیا میں ایک دفعہ ضرور جائیں.

اور یہ سب کرنے کے لیئے آپکو کوئ جدید ٹیکنالجی نہیں, بس ادب کی ٹیکنالجی ہی چاہیے.

پھر کسی بھی Data Package کے بغیر سینہ بہ سینہ ایک خزانہ آپ تک منتقل ہو جائیگا.

03/06/2020

We have seen some really toxic behaviors online, the most recent one is the marriage of showbiz people.

Adult Bullying is common in real life & over social media in our behaviors. But what are the impacts?

I have discussed in this video while riding my way back home in Tarbela!.

The video link is in the first comment below.

02/06/2020

24/05/2020

Eid Mubarak to all of you from my side and my family.

Even if you have suffered loss before the Eid, know that the loss and gain is part of life, while Eid is all about gratitude to Allah for the month of Ramadan and all blessings of life.

Count your blessings, feel the gratitude from deep inside your heart ane wish yourself this Eid Mubarak!

23/05/2020

This is not the night of shopping, fireworks, night time out or anything of that sort.

This is the night of assessing oneself and to put the finishing touches to your month of work!

Even if you think that you have wasted ALL of Ramadan, try not to waste this night, a blessed night.

Also, pray for all those who suffered the loss of their loved ones in the plane crash, corona or for any other cause, this was the last ramadan that they spent with us.

12/05/2020

The biggest damage you can do to your 'self' is comparing yourself with others unfavorably.

We all compare ourselves with each other on different levels, we compare our dress, complexion and material possessions.

We do this even in our Ibadat to our Lord!

The danger rises when we compare ourselves with others in non-material things.

He owns a car while you are still struggling, she owns the latest model of phone while you are still using years old mobile!

BUT, and this is an important but, more often than not, you are glowing and blossoming in another part of your life!

May be you are emotionally more secure than her.

May be you have figured out your career in life while he is enjoying his initial success.

May be you have selected a path that is unconventional & will provide results later.

May be you are traversing on a road less travelled, or maybe a totally new road for that matter.

Therefore, only compare yourself with your past self, not with him, her or anyone else.

25/04/2020

Ramadan is here, let us realign ourselves and our lives. Its the most blessed month, offering us the opportunity to please Allah and mend our ways.

No black friday, singles day or any other mega sale of the world can even compare to what is being offered to us in this month of Ramadan

Therefore, try to make the most of it, even if you need to compromise a bit of work, do it.

Major things to learn and practice in Ramadan are two:

1. God Consciousness - The knowing and awareness that Allah is with me, watching me and listening to me.

2. Self discipline - Physical discipline, restraint of basic desires of food, thirst & s*x, enable us to learn restraint of basic emotions of anger, lust, envy and others, intellectual discipline of base thoughts and spiritual discipline of intent.

Therefore, be God conscious, learn physicial, emotional, mental and spiritual discipline in these 30 days.

As always, remembe me in your prayers.

23/04/2020

You choose the future with your actions each day.

Yes, even with inaction!

16/04/2020

Just stop scrolling and watch for 10 seconds! 💓💓💓

13/04/2020

We will be needing the help of mental professionals after the help of medical health professionals.

Look what Ed Yong wrote in his article for The Atlantic!

"After infections begin ebbing, a secondary pandemic of mental-health problems will follow.

At a moment of profound dread and uncertainty, people are being cut off from soothing human contact. Hugs, handshakes, and other social rituals are now tinged with danger.

People with anxiety or obsessive-compulsive disorder are struggling. Elderly people, who are already excluded from much of public life, are being asked to distance themselves even further, deepening their loneliness......Children, whose bodies are mostly spared by the virus, may endure mental trauma that stays with them into adulthood."

- Ed Yong

03/04/2020

Having an enviable career is one thing, and being a happy person is another. Creating a life that reflects your values and satisfies your soul is a rare achievement.

In a culture that relentlessly promotes avarice and excess as the good life, a person happy doing his own work is usually considered an eccentric, if not a subversive. Ambition is only understood if it's to rise to the top of some imaginary ladder of success.

Someone who takes an undemanding job because it affords him the time to pursue other interests and activities is considered a flake.

A person who abandons a career in order to stay home and raise children is considered not to be living up to his potential-as if a job title and salary are the sole measure of human worth.

You'll be told in a hundred ways, some subtle and some not, to keep climbing, and never be satisfied with where you are, who you are, and what you're doing.

There are a million ways to sell yourself out, and I guarantee you'll hear about them.

To invent your own life's meaning is not easy, but it's still allowed, and I think you'll be happier for the trouble.”

- Bill Waterson

01/04/2020

All companies & successfull organization think, plan and execute in terms of quarters.

Divide your year in 4 quarters, of 3 months each, even if you are organizing your own life and career.

1st April is almost about to end, fortunately or unfortunately, many of us have much time to reflect, plan and execute at our hand as well.

Give yourself a mini goal of 3 months. Work at it, see yourself going through it and act through that vision.

I had my plans for 1st quarter of 2020, two of them failed miserably, yet here I am, ready and ever more strong to face this new quarter with Allah's blessings.

I urge you to do the same. Its not about winning or losing, its about experimenting & trying.

13/03/2020

Government has taken really important steps regarding the Coronavirus!

Its time for us to be responsible as well.

I am sharing the following 6 points which we can and must do:

1. Do not panick. Everything is a test and with proper use of Aql and Faith, can be overcome. Allah has blessed us with both. Kindly use them.

2. Do NOT hoard anything. From soaps, sanitizers, masks to food. Take only what is really required. You will be becoming a part of the problem if you are not thinking it as a community, as a nation, as a Qoum!

3. Practice high level of personal hygiene. Its already there in our deen, its high time to put it in practice as well. Cough, sneeze and eat with proper manners. Oral hygiene is important as well.

4. Dont take this matter lightly. Its growing fast and taking it lightly will not make you cool, or a hero. Be a responsible citizen and follow the rules. Its not the time to visit malls and bazaar unnecessarily. These are not holidays, but time to limitize our social contacts.

5. Only share what is ACTUALLY verified. Sharing whatever looks real or interesting will only spread confusion. So, only share the verified and authentic information regarding the virus.

6. Have faith in Allah. Protect yourself with Dhikr and dua. Make lots and lots of Dua for yourself as well as for humanity. Learn the Prophetic Dua's regarding protection from illness and then have faith on the dua. (ONLY FOLLOW WHAT IS IN SUNNAH, RANDOM BABA OR TOTKAY WILL DO HARM ONLY)

12/03/2020

Keep kindling the flame of your heart!

08/03/2020

Just spending time with the "woman" of your family can help you empower them in the right sense.

Being a father of a beautiful daughter, of a girl who will become a woman, who will have to face the convincing yet confusing notions of what it means to be a woman, of liberty, freedom & empowerment, only makes me even more motivated to BE with my girl and to have healthy & constructive activities with her.

On this Woman's Day, I am sharing my own definition of women empowerment that I try to implement in my own home.

Let the woman define her own identity, you can give your own suggestions and thoughts, but let her decide it and travel her own path.

Then empower her to follow that path, even to change it when she deem it appropriate.

Do everything to help her develop a sound sense of self & identity, not relying on the external validations of beauty and 'worth'. Provide her the right education and worldview, but dont dictate her. JUST LET HER BE.

And lastly, be with her. In her all her achievements as well as failures. In all her joy as well as sorrows. In all her glory as well as her falls.!

We need to define Women Empowerment for ourselves, then to work on that definition at our homes.

Let the change begin at home.

08/03/2020

There are two powers in the world. One is represented by the sword and the other by the pen. There is a great competition and rivalry between the two. There is a third power stronger than both.

That is the woman.

06/03/2020

Importance of taking Time Out!

I have been busy in a lot of projects in last two weeks, from launching workshops to shifting the office, all required a lot of efforts.

Spending this evening with me, allowed me to look at the bigger picture again!

When one is involved with work, he cannot see the bigger scheme of things.

Therefore, reflective activities are recommended at least once in every 30 days!

04/03/2020

سنیں...آپ نے کرنا کچھ نہیں ہے... بس بات کے بیچ بیچ میں 'میرا جسم, میری مرضی' بولتے رہنا ہے.

اور یہ سوچنے کی تو بلکل ضرورت نہیں کہ بات کیا چل رہی ہے اور سوال کس سے پوچھا گیا ہے.... بس ایک ہی بات... میرا جسم,,, میری مرضی.

دعؤی آپ جسم کا کر رہی ہیں.. تو آپ سے عقل کے استعمال کی تقوقع رکھنے والے لوگ... سوری... مرد... جاہل اور "بڈھے" ہیں....

اور ایک اور بات بڑی ضروری ہے.....

"میرا جسم میری مرضی"

اوہ ہو... ابھی سے شروع نہیں ہونا... پہلے میری بات تو....

"میرا جسم میری مرضی"

وہ سب ٹھیک ہے پر میری بات....

میرا جسم میری مرضی"

باجی عقل کا تقاضا ہے کہ....

"میرا جسم میری مرضی"....
......

"میرا جسم میری مرضی"

29/02/2020

This women's day, let's talk about the men who support women.

How long will we complain about men who neglect women, men who reject or abuse women? Why not talk about men who accept women, who celebrate & support women?

Contrary to popular opinion, there are more men who are supportive than those who are abusive.

Look around yourself, at your father, brother, uncle & neighbors. How many of them are working day and night to:

1. Provide for their Families.
2. To make sure that there is a head over their roof.
3. To make sure that their girls are educated.
4. To make sure that their girls are LIVING!
5. To make sure that the woman of the house is well provided!

Think about all those men who supported you, understood you & empowered you.

Why not talk about those men? Right now, in the comments section below!

28/02/2020

Still waiting to be loved? Well, you have two options now!

1. Keep Waiting
2. Start Loving

You have already tried the 'waiting' option. Passively sitting, hoping that someone will recognize your inner worth, the uniqueness within you, the spark that is waiting to be noted!

But the harsh truth is, no one will recognize YOU if you are not recognizing YOU in the first place.

Loving yourself is not about granting your every whim & desire!. Its about connecting with yourself, discovering yourself & being true to your truth.

Still, waiting to be loved? Well, you have two options now!validating yourself deep inside yourself.

27/02/2020

Remember, there cannot be 'we' until there is an "I". It is a romantic misconception that someone will come in your life to 'complete' you.

You have to work on yourself, by yourself.

Work on your thoughts, beliefs, & paradigms. Work on your personality. Work on your life.

There should be something there, in order to share it with someone as a 'life-partner'.

23/02/2020

Love is not affectionate feeling...

22/02/2020

You always gain by giving love!

19/02/2020

A morning click in Punjab University!

18/02/2020

Some days in your life will be like the clear sky, bright, sharp and clear.

Enjoy these days as much aa you want. But know that there will be rainy days as well.

On some days, there will be clouds. You will go through unclarity, confusion and anxiousness. As the bright sunny day pass, these cloudy days pass as well.

The art of living, and the art of loving, is to go through all the seasons with grace and openness.

This is true for the hours in the day & for the moments in the hours as well.

Enjoy all seasons of life. Enjoy all seasons of Love!

17/02/2020

Introduced mind-mapping to my batch-8 students at E-Rozgaar!

Now they are mind mapping all they have learned in my class as of now.!