Laura Pires Brammer

17/03/2024

My learnings from the 39th year of my life.

It was one of the most transformational, most intense, most expansive ones until now.

For whoever is being touched by my words. With love.

💫Say YES to Life. As it is.
💫Love every piece of it.
💫Say NO to what’s not yours.
💫Put yourself, your body and your lovelies first.
💫Enjoy your time. Make choices that light you up.
💫Dance. It’s a non-negotiable.
💫Be the joy.
💫Follow your children. They know the way.
💫Take care of your body, your home, your money..
💫Listen within. Again. And again.
💫Your body knows. When you really listen.
💫When you move through your feelings, soften around it even more. Let go of the thoughts in that moment. And when there is space again, reconnect with the beauty that you can see in that moment and allow in more.
💫Hug the people you love. Often. And the ones you like.
💫Don’t TRY to bring in money. Don’t try to convince people of your vision. Don’t push, fight or try to enforce anything. Even in the tiniest bit of that. Just don’t.
💫Allow yourself to receive. Support. Love. Money. All of it. The way it comes. Endlessly. Effortlessly.
💫Trust. Really. Trust.
💫Keep moving, anywhere in any way.
💫It really is a choice.
💫Stop talking. You know when.
💫Put down your weapons. And walk towards what you desire.
💫What you desire is right there. It is now.
💫Allow your brilliance to be revealed to you. Don’t search for it. It will show, once you move with Life.
💫Say YES to life. As it is.

14/03/2024

✨ Ein magischer Tag! ✨
Ich habe meinen Geburtstag dieses Jahr anders gefeiert.
Ich habe mir eine Auszeit gegönnt. Ein Moment raus aus allem. Rein in die Natur. Mich treiben lassen. In Verbindung gehen mit mir und der Welt, ohne Worte. Den “ganz leisen Stimmen” zuhören, in mir und im Außen…
Um dies zu erleben, habe ich mich bewusst von der Idee gelöst, wie ein Geburtstag “auszusehen hat”. Um diese Entscheidung zu treffen, mich an meinem Geburtstag von meinen Liebsten weg zu bewegen, musste ich den leisen Anteilen in mir zuhören. Die Anteile, die eigentlich schon immer wussten, was sie sich eigentlich wünschen, aber meist nicht trauten zu sagen. Aus Angst, die Anderen zu enttäuschen, wenn ich mich an meinem Geburtstag zurückziehe und nicht “ganz normal” den Geburtstag mit ihnen feiern möchte.
Letztes Jahr sah mein Leben anders aus. Und so endete mein Geburtstag im Drama, gefüllt mit Ausagieren von großen Emotionen. (Aus meiner Sicht völlig verständlich und menschlich, wenn am Geburtstag starke Gefühle hochkommen). Nun habe ich mich getraut, hinein zu spüren, was ich mir eigentlich am sehnlichsten wünsche für diesen Tag.
Einfach ICH sein, genau so wie ich bin. Und dabei auf niemand anderen achten müssen.
Und so habe ich mir einen Raum geschaffen, mit genau dem zu sein, was sich heute zeigen wollte. Und ich bin tief berührt…
Denn ich habe mich wieder daran erinnert, dass ich das Leben in seiner Fülle genießen kann. Dass ich nicht viel dafür brauche, um in Glückseligkeit zu sein. Luft, Boden unter meinen Füßen spüren, freie Bewegung…
Und ich weiß, dass ich nur deshalb heute in so tiefer Freude sein kann, weil ich mir auch die anderen, die unangenehmen Gefühle in mir erlaube. In ihrer vollen Größe.
Und mir dann aber auch zu erlauben, das Wunder des Lebens zu genießen.
Pures Genießen der Schönheit dieser Welt.
Pure Freude darüber, dass ich hier bin.
Pure Dankbarkeit für mein Leben. So wie es ist.
Ein Meisterwerk.
Endlos viel Liebe dir,
Deine Laura.

23/10/2023

It was such a joy and honor to have been one of Julia’s firsts guests in her show for KindaSound Radio!! 💛💫🙏

Check out The Family Enrichment Hub!!

Today I pre-recorded my first show for KindaSound Radio chatting with the eloquent Laura Pires Brammer who shared some of her wisdom about how to create an environment for your child to flourish.

It was such a pleasure to interview Laura because her guidance has enriched our family, and it was meeting Laura, and feeling that every parent should have access to such support and knowledge, that sparked the idea to create The Family Enrichment Hub.

You can catch this show on Kindasound at 2pm on Wednesday 8th November. And with the big relaunch on Friday 3rd November there will be many fabulous shows coming your way from a variety of hosts and guests.

Thank you to Photography by Trish for the great action shot 😊

10/07/2023

Mein Arbeitssetup heute. 🤩💫 Ich habe die letzte Aufnahme für unser Audioprogramm „in Vertrauen wachsen“ aufgenommen, zusammen mit Corinne Sprecher. Ich bin sooo dankbar für dieses Leben!! 🥰🙏✨ hast du ein Kind zwischen 2 und 8 und bist du neugierig? Dann komm zu

09/06/2023

✨mein neues Branding 🤩✨.

14/05/2023

To all amazing mothers in my world today 🤍
I am giving away 3 sessions, supporting you on your next step to reclaim your true (loving) power as a mother.

30/04/2023

Egal wo wir hingehen, wir bauen uns ein Familienbett… wir lieben es beieinander zu schlafen. 🤍 Allerdings ist das nur dadurch haltbar, dass wir unsere Kinder so begleiten, dass sie sich von ihrem Stress lösen und dann ruhig und entspannt schlafen können… und wir somit auch. 😅🫶 das Wunderbare ist, das ist von Geburt an möglich. Es ist ein Missverständnis, dass als bindings-und Bedürfnisorientierte Familie schlaflose Nächte die ersten Jahre einfach dazu gehören würden. Es gibt so wunderbare Wege, dein Baby und Kind zu begleiten, wirklich in die Tiefe Entspannung zu kommen. ✨🌙💫

25/04/2023

1. Babys Schlaf Mythos: nein, dein Baby kämpft nicht gegen den Schlaf. Es liebt entspanntes schlafen… 🤍

10/03/2023

06/03/2023

I get so excited receiving this 🤍
“Having you as a mentor has been so empowering, and the deepening of our family relationships is beautiful. I hope many other mums have the blessing of your guidance ###”

09/02/2023

✨ Taking the courage to say this: I know the answer to the questions that parents hold. ✨.. Why is my child not cooperating, acting out, so challenging? What does my child need from me? Why is parenting so hard?
But, I don't yet seem to be able to transmit the full power that my answer holds. .. Sometimes missing clarity. Sometimes saying way too much. Sometimes forgetting the information that is needed to be said first. Sometimes being too much in my own head, speaking my own language and missing connection to the listener. Sometimes wanting so badly to be understood that I am standing in my own way.
Because I am human and walking in my own obscurity, with my insecurities, unfulfilled needs, big feelings, blind spots, self-beliefs and assumptions that all block me in communicating in clarity and connection with whoever is listening.
Because I hold my own stories and beliefs about myself as a mother. .. The stories of all the times where I am not able to embody what I want to stand for. All the times where I am doing things that I later wish I hadn't. All the times where I am overwhelmed, feeling powerless and acting out of my own hurts. All the times where I don't manage to put into practice the information that I have...
The more I allow all the pain of these stories come up, feeling it all, moving through all of it, the freer I am in my heart and mind.... .. The more inner peace and mental space I have to communicate my truth in clarity.
The more accepting I am of myself as the human that I am, with the stories that I still hold, the freer I feel to show myself. To tell what I have to tell. To have the impact that I am here to have. .. In clarity of what I am ready to show. In compassion with myself and in compassion for all human beings. .. Allowing what is. In me, in others. Allowing all of me, the beauty and the ugly, the clarity and the messiness, the knowing and the not-knowing... .. Allowing the world to be as it is. With forgiveness.
From this peaceful place I can speak my truth.
Over and over again. Because that's who I am.
The ones who want to listen, listen.
The ones who don't want to listen, don't.
The parts that resonate, take them.
The parts that don't, leave them behind.
The pieces that support you along your way, take them in.
The pieces that don't, let them go.
You know your truth. You own your power.
Endless love to you,
♡ Laura

30/01/2023

✨ Your healing powers grow, the more you understand and notice the balance of attention. ✨
This is for healing your own hurts, for supporting your baby or child or for supporting anyone in their process...
Healing occurs when two requirements are met in the right balance:
a sense of safety and being reminded of the painful feeling.
Too much of the one will keep the person in a state of (mild) dissociation.
Too much of the other will result in overwhelm or overstimulation.
Both feel uncomfortable, keep the person stuck and have longterm effects.
So you can ask yourself...
Is the person constantly avoiding the uncomfortable feelings?
or
Is the person in a state of overarousal and needs more emotional safety here?
Connection is key for finding the right balance of attention.
Connection either with another person, or with a part in yourself that does feel safe and powerful. And when you don't feel connected to this part in you (as it happens when being overstimulated), then look for someone who can.
The beauty here is, creating connection doesn’t necessarily need that much time (against many beliefs that most of us are imprinted with). It can happen through eye contact, through being present, listening with trust and observing with open curiosity what is showing up.
Whatever seems to stand in the way of connection is the place to increase it.
So much love to you and your healing journey,
Laura
P.s.: The concept balance of attention is described by Aletha Solter in her books about Aware Parenting.

13/01/2023

✨Your child gets to be the most self-expressed genius they can be. While you enjoy the time together in deep connection, ease and flow....✨

Does that sound like a far away dream to you...?

The more you learn to create an environment of freedom, deep connection, compassion and playfulness for your child (and yourself), the more they can flourish and be(come) the most amazing version of themselves.

✨ Can you start with bringing in even the tiniest bit of (one of) these qualities into your family system, today?

Trust, deep connection, compassion or playfulness...

This can grow more and more and more. If you are willing to follow the invitations your child is giving you.

No, this is not a quick fix or easy path. Because you need to look at the stuff in your family system, that does NOT support such an environment. To heal what sits in the way of true self-expression.
✨ The beauty is, this path can be so intensely fulfilling. Bringing you all closer together, while celebrating your uniqueness. So that everyone in the family feels more and more seen, heard, trusted and loved.

It does require your openness to inner growth.
Your willingness to learn and heal what is ready to be healed.
By observing your child and yourself.
By trusting the process.

By increasing connection. Over and over again.
With your child. Within yourself.

And the beauty is, it's never too late to start this journey of learning, healing and growth.....while the younger you all are, the easier it is...

💛 Sending endless love to your heart's deepest desires as a parent...
Laura

29/12/2022

✨ The key for both baby and mother experiencing deep relaxed sleep... is the mother getting out of the way of babies natural stress release mechanisms. And instead being present with what her baby is showing her. ✨
It's about observing more and doing less. With openness and tender curiosity.
🌙 Your baby knows what it needs to do in order to feel deeply relaxed and at ease in their bodies.
🌙 Relaxation is one of the key requirements for a baby to fall asleep easily and sleep deeply in long stretches.
🌙 Deep relaxation is a state of homeostasis that your baby always tries to get back to. The key is to trust what your baby does.
Our society doesn't know this yet. Instead the focus is "how do I get my baby to sleep? what do I need to do to get my baby to sleep?"
Our society isn't yet able to see that babies are actually trying to do exactly what they need to do, in order to come back to their natural state of relaxation. So that they fall asleep easily and deeply. Naturally.
Our society as it is doesn't have this awareness yet. How could mothers know then? As this awareness wasn't there for generations, how could you know this? .. part of the (re)learning of how to truly support the natural stress release mechanisms of your baby, is to become aware of your own automatisms.
Becoming aware of how people responded to your natural stress release mechanisms.
Becoming aware of the things that you have been conditioned to when growing up yourself. All the things you do automatically, because that's how you were brought up and what you see others do.
💛 There is so much, we are not able to see yet. Each of us have our blind spots. That's ok. We are part of the evolution. Each of us walk one part of the journey of our lineage.
💛 With every little thing you do differently as a mother than the generation before you, you are creating change in your lineage. Every step you take out of a conscious decision to parent from your values and self-reflected awareness, you are changing the course of the life for your child.
💛 We can (re)learn this. Step by step. And it's so powerful.
So much love to you.
Laura
📷 a big thank you to .sander.fotografie

12/12/2022

✨ The amount of stress and painful feelings that babies and children have from the start is so much bigger than you can imagine...✨
The amount of stress and painful feelings that you have stored in you since the start is so much bigger than you can imagine...
💫 The beauty here is, this does not have to define the rest of life....
We can support our baby and child in whatever they need to do to reverse the effects of such experiences. So that the tension doesn't build up in their little bodies.
We can find places where we are supported ourselves to do whatever we need to do to heal such experiences. So that the tension in us gets less. Each time a bit more.
💎 And this makes ALL THE DIFFERENCE.
But... THE PROBLEM is... .. our society isn't able to see the bigness of such uncomfortable and painful experiences, the bigness of the feelings about those. Yet.
The impact that stress, unpleasant and overwhelming experiences have on the little human. All the feelings that babies and children carry with them.
The impact that the stress and unpleasant and overwhelming experiences have on you. All the feelings that you are carrying in you. Because... you are this baby too... and so much more.
I am not only talking about traumatic events and extreme crisis.
I am especially talking about the DAY TO DAY stresses that EVERY FAMILY goes through.
Even when you are the most loving and caring mother.
Even when you have done already so much inner work and healing on yourself.
Even when you birthed your child in the most beautiful, natural way.
Still, we live in a society where stress and pressure is the normal.
And you still carry so much with you, that has not been healed yet. That has not been let go of yet. Because that's being human.
None of us is able to really truly see ALL of the feelings that a baby and child holds. Yet. All of the feelings that are stored in a babies body, from the start and that are building up every single day.
Because those feelings are many. They are big.
Every single uncomfortable experience becomes part of the human emotional inner world. And we have not learned to see all of it. Yet.
We are not able to see and feel all of our own feelings.
How could we see them then in another? In our baby or child?
❄️ Of course, we are not able to connect to all of our feelings. Yet. The generation before us wasn't able to see them in us. Responding in ways that fully acknowledge them in their full intensity and full bigness.
❄️ So, we learned to disconnect from them. We needed to do so, to be safe. To be part of the culture that we live in. To be accepted and loved. So, we learned ways to hide them. That was the safest thing to do. We did exactly what we needed to do...
💙 I am sending all my loving compassion to all the parts in you, that are hiding and that you are not seeing. Yet.
💙 I am sending all my loving compassion to all the parts in your baby and child, that are not being seen. Yet.
I want to tell you, there are ways to invite those hidden parts to show themselves. There are ways to start seeing them. In you. In your baby. In your child.
Held, supported and trusted with compassion.
💦 So they feel safe to start moving. Out of the system. Being let go off. Being released. Freeing the whole system.
Lots of love,
Laura
📷 a big thanks to kerstin.sander.fotografie

26/11/2022

Ich bringe eine ausgewählte Gruppe von Eltern zusammen, die ihr Kind darin begleiten lernen, sich von Stress zu lösen. So dass es ausgeglichen, zufrieden, sanft und selbstsicher durchs Leben geht. 🤍

22/11/2022

✨ Whenever you walk new paths, you'll get reminded of the time, where you learned to walk your first baby steps. ✨
Whenever you decide to go on a new journey, focusing on a new destination, a path you haven't walked before, you will fall down. If it's something truly important to you, it means a big (inner) shift is required. Repeating over and over again. Learning and growing.
You will experience failed attempts. You will do things, that you later wish you hadn't. You will do things without knowing how. Because that's part of the learning. You will feel insecure or anxious. You will get disappointed. At some point.
💦 The question is... how do you walk yourself through it? What is the quality that you bring in, while you are trying out those new things. While you do things, you have never done before, learning and growing along the way?
💦 The questions is... are you able to be a loving, kind, patient, encouraging, connected, playful grown-up for the little part in you that tries to take those first step? Falling down and maybe even hurting herself along the way.
💦 Can you show compassion with what little you is feeling? With what little you is experiencing?
💦 Can you show trust that she'll learn? As long as she keeps getting up?
💦 Can you stay connected with the powerful you from today who decided to go on to this new journey? While you connect with the little you from back then, as you try out the new things, taking one step at a time?
Whenever you don't seem to manage to do so, and you notice yourself feeling overwhelmed, frustrated, hopeless or helpless, it is likely that little you is taking up all the emotional space, with the bigness and intensity of the feelings.
In those moments, look for those encouraging qualities from others outside of yourself... So you can tap into it and get reminded of those parts in yourself, that are able to be kind, encouraging and fully trusting...
Sometimes it only needs a sentence from the outside to shift your inner conversation. Then allow yourself to receive it. Sometimes it needs more than that. A listener. A loving, tender heart who can hold you in your process.
Parenting in a way that is different than the status quo, is like walking a completely new path. You haven't or experienced something like that before. Be patient, compassionate, encouraging and trusting towards yourself along the way. That's how you can feel safe to learn and grow.
Sending love to you on your own path, whatever steps you are taking.
🤍 I see you. I trust you. I am here if you want.
Your Laura
📸 big thanks to kerstin.sander.fotografie (insta) ✨

08/11/2022

✨ Your baby knows exactly what it needs to do, to fall asleep easily and deeply. The question is, can you trust it and support it with your presence? ✨
Our society is full of advice for mothers to bring their baby to sleep. In books, in articles, at the paediatrician, in courses and in conversations with other mothers. Like nursing the baby to sleep, putting on white noise, bouncing or rocking the baby, walking with it in the carrier, sling or baby stroller, and so on...
I soooo understand the search for it... Sleep deprivation can be soooo excruciating. Having to go through the day, with only a couple of hours interrupted sleep brings mothers to their edge.
I know. I have been there. And the result was, especially in the evenings and night times, I was NOT the mother that I wanted to be. I was grumpy, putting pressure on my baby in desperation to finally have some rest... I am sending all my loving compassion to you, if you recognise yourself in this. 💙
The problem is, most advice that is given are a quick-fix attempt to get the baby asleep like right NOW. And then so many mothers struggle with a baby that wakes up after 10 minutes, or when you put it down in the bed after it had fallen asleep in the sling or your arms. Or you have a baby that sleeps restlessly, moving a lot and waking up several times a night. Or after a period of whole night's of sleep, the waking up starts over... So, sooner or later the restlessness in their bodies shows up again.
The reason is, those approaches don't address the reason for a restless baby, resulting in difficulties around sleep. They only address the symptom. But the problem remains, sooner or later baby wakes up again and it's an endless circle of exhaustion and desperation.
The wonderful news is, you can truly trust your baby. It's about understanding the root of the problem and responding to that. And even more excitingly, we don't have to DO that much. What it requires from us, is to be present. To listen. To observe. To be there with what your baby shows you.
It's simple, but it's a journey of growth and letting go of old ways of doing things. Because all of us have been brought up differently. And because our society, at this point, isn't aware of what the baby truly needs.
If you are ready to understand and tap into the root of sleep difficulties, then come join us. I'm bringing together a select group of mothers with baby's who will finally experience deep sleep with their babies, whilst building a deep, trusting relationship with them.
Love to you,
Laura
P.s.: !! Trigger warning !! I am strongly against letting the baby cry it out on their own, which is sometimes given as sleeping advice. It disrupts their sene of safety and has implications on their psyche. I am sending endless loving compassion to you and your baby if you have tried that or are still doing that. If it has been feeling misaligned for you, your intuition is right, and you will absolutely love what we are up to in our world.

29/10/2022

I'm bringing together a select group of loving mothers with babies, where they will be SLEEPING DEEPLY, with immediate results...

09/07/2022

BIST DU BEREIT, UNS EIN PAAR FRAGEN BEANTWORTEN?

💛ALS DANK GIBT ES EIN GRUPPENCOACHING FÜR MEHR LEICHTIGKEIT, FLOW UND VERBINDUNG IN DER FAMILIE.
✨Liebe wunderbare MAMA, lieber wunderbarer PAPA,✨
Wir sind dabei ein Gruppenangebot von “in Vertrauen wachsen” zu entwickeln für mehr Kooperation und liebevolles Miteinander in der Familie.
Wir würden uns mega freuen, wenn du dir ein paar Minuten Zeit nimmst und unsere Umfrage ausfüllst. Gerne möchten wir deine Frustrationen, Herausforderungen und Sorgen im Alltag mit deinem Kind besser verstehen.
Dies wird uns helfen unser Angebot genau bei den täglichen Themen von Eltern anzusetzen und Familien weiterzubringen, die ihr Kind in Vertrauen, Freiheit und tiefer Verbindung begleiten möchten. Um die gemeinsame Zeit mit dem Kind zu genießen und an einer starken, vertrauensvollen Beziehung zu bauen.
Als Dank laden wir dich zu einem Gruppencoaching mit Gleichgesinnten ein. Bringe eine Herausforderungen aus eurem Familienalltag mit und entdecke mit uns konkrete Schritte für mehr Leichtigkeit, Flow und Verbindung.
Machst du mit? Dann schreib mir 👇 oder eine persönliche Nachricht und ich schicke dir den Link. 💛
Die Fragen können anonym beantwortet werden. Wenn du am Gruppencoaching teilnehmen möchtest, brauchen wir allerdings deine Kontaktdaten.
Kommt dir für diese Umfrage (noch) jemand anderes in den Sinn? Dann fühl dich ganz herzlich eingeladen, diese Info weiterzuleiten. Wir freuen uns!
💛 Herzlich,
Corinne & Laura

08/07/2022

✨ Ein visueller Vorgeschmack vom gemeinsamen Projekt zusammen mit Corinne Sprecher ✨

07/07/2022

Yeay, es ist soweit! Es ist etwas Wunderbares entstanden. Gemeinsam mit Corinne. Das teile ich bald auch mit euch hier.

22/06/2022

✨ Die STÄRKE DER VERBINDUNG zwischen dir und deinem Kind, erkennst du daran, wie oft und lange es dir DIREKT IN DIE AUGEN schaut. ✨
Stell dir vor...
Du spielst mit deinem Kind. Dann sagst du, dass du noch etwas einkaufen möchtest. Es schaut dich an, nickt und sagt "ich möchte aber mit den Fahrrad fahren. Und das hier noch kurz zu Ende machen!". Das tut es, schaut dich anschließend wieder an, steht auf und geht fröhlich erzählend mit dir mit.
Stell dir vor...
Du hast dein Baby im Arm, es kuschelt sich sanft in dich ein, schaut dir mit entspanntem Blick direkt in die Augen und berührt deine Wange mit ihrer sanften kleinen Hand. Dann lächelt es dich an. Du versteckst dein Gesicht kurz, schaust es wieder an und dein Baby lacht frei aus dem Bauch heraus.
Beides Szenarien, in denen eine tiefe Verbindung zu sehen ist zwischen dir und deinem Kind.
Die Qualität ist hier zu spüren...
Sanftheit
Bereitschaft im Miteinander
Flexibilität
Freude
Verspieltheit
Klarheit
Leichtigkeit
Liebe
tiefe Verbundenheit.
Ich kenne diese Qualitäten in meiner Beziehung mit meinen Töchtern mittlerweile gut.
Seit 4,5 Jahren sehe ich wieder und wieder, wie der Aware Parenting Ansatz mir den Weg zeigt, die Zustände zu lösen, die sich anders anfühlen: Anspannung, Unzufriedenheit, Machtkämpfe, Vermeidung, Aggression, Rückzug, Angst, Versteifung, Erstarrung...
Wie ich meine Kinder darin begleiten kann, aus diesem Zustand zurück in die Verbindung und Sanftheit zu kommen...
Die enorme Power von Aware Parenting ist fast nicht in Worte zu fassen. Wir müssen es erleben, um es zu spüren.
Die wirkliche Bestätigung bekommen wir nur, wenn wir in die Erfahrung gehen. Wir können zwar darüber lesen und die Konzepte gedanklich verstehen, aber die tiefe Überzeugung setzt sich erst, wenn wir das NACHHER mit dem VORHER vergleichen.
Deshalb möchte ich dich einladen, dein Kind zu beobachten. Wie oft und lange schaut es dir in die Augen?
An welchen Signalen Deines Kindes erkennst Du, dass ihr in Verbindung seid?
Antworte gerne ins Kommentarfeld, um andere zu inspirieren, ihr Kind noch mehr zu beobachten.
Alles Liebe,
deine Laura 🤍