14/08/2024
Since I've been encouraged to manifest, I'm just going to leave this here as a little reminder for myself. It's a long list, but if I've learned anything over the last several years, it's best to be clear about what you want and need upfront. It is an evolving list.
• I want a safe, calm love.
• I want to feel safe, seen, and cherished.
• I want gentle honesty to be a core tenet for them.
• I want to laugh. A lot.
• I want music to be in the air. Always.
• I want trust in each other to be the highest expression of our love.
• I want a person who can express their needs openly and also understands that I am not responsible for meeting every need, so seeks ethical ways to take care of themselves.
• I want to meet someone who sees gentleness as a strength.
• I want open, calm communication.
• I want to hold myself accountable for my mistakes, apologize to those I hurt, and work to change the behavior that led to the mistake.
• I want to be involved with a person who also holds themselves. accountable, apologizes, and commits to doing the work to change the behavior.
• I want to meet someone who is capable of voicing hurt, fear, displeasure, and challenges they are facing or might have with me with clear communication, even if that requires some time to get to.
• I want a companion with whom I have enough common interests to share and enough different interests to learn from them.
• I want to meet someone who has and maintains deep and lasting friendships/family relationships and prioritizes those relationships in the best balance with ours.
• I want them to show up for me the way they show up for their people and show up for their people the way they show up for me.
• Consistency counts.
• I seek someone who faces challenges and fears with courage and resiliency.
• I want to meet someone who sees themself as a whole, grown person, but a continuously learning and improving one and maintains their sense of self in relationships.
• I want to meet someone who is committed to and nourishes the connection between us and is willing to put the work in to keep the connection healthy and strong.
• I want to meet someone who sees the ability to be vulnerable as a superpower and not a liability, trusts me with their vulnerability, and makes me feel safe enough to trust them with mine.
• I want to meet someone who sees moving through the world from a position of love as the most spiritual achievement possible.
• I want to meet someone who strives to bring their best self to every human encounter they have including me.
• I want to meet someone who is generous with their love, their kindness, and their grace with everyone in their sphere and every encounter.
• I want to meet someone who is authentically themself and seeks authenticity in others.
• I want to meet someone who defines relationships by the person and not the roles.
• I want to meet someone who supports and celebrates my wins and supports and comforts me through my losses.
• I want to meet someone who believes that lovers also need to be friends and puts as much effort into the friendship as they do the intimacy.
• I want them to be young at heart, wise in their soul, and always curious about people, places, and things regardless of their chronological age.
• I want to genuinely like them as much as I love them.
• I want to meet someone who sees affection as an important daily act of love.
• I want to meet someone who understands that intimacy is more than s*x and regularly practices the little intimacies that sustain a relationship.
I am asking for the moon, but I will show up with the stars.
