
21/05/2025
Yesterday my inbox said it was full.
While cleaning it out, I found a personal reflection paper from midwifery school (2016)… and it hit me hard.
One piece of feedback:
✨ “You need to be 20% more aggressive. Take the lead, especially during labour.”
At the time, I took it seriously. Lives were on the line. I shaped myself around it.
But now?
That same decisiveness, that clear-headed leadership, is NOT celebrated in practice groups or hospital politics.
It’s criticized. Called “too much.” Shut down.
And then I found the line that rocked me:
“I need to put my midwifery life before my personal.”
Excuse me?!
That was the culture. That was the conditioning.
Be a martyr for the system. Put work before family. Burn out in the name of being a “good” provider.
NO MORE.
I’ve left that behind.
Now I build with sovereignty. With nervous system regulation. With community and cash flow.
This is what feminine leadership in business looks like.
Not hustle — alignment.
Not self-sacrifice — self-trust.
✨ Share this if you’ve had a similar experience.
We’re building careers and businesses that are safe and sovereign.
On our terms. 🌀