Just Be Your Bad Self

02/10/2024

New Episode! "Perfectionism is the Enemy of Creativity |Episode 50"

[00:00:00] Hello, everybody. I felt like talking to you today. So here I am. I've been having a really hard time getting back to this podcast. I miss it. And I want to come back. But there are so many things blocking me. So....

[00:00:00] Hello, everybody. I felt like talking to you today. So here I am. I've been having a really hard time getting back to this podcast. I miss it. And I wan…

09/09/2024

New Episode! "Good Grief: The Stages of Grief as a Pathway to Presence | Drama Therapist Anna Beck | Episode 49"

Navigating Grief and Healing: Unveiling the Rest in Peace, Rise in Power Retreat In this episode, Kimber reconnects with drama therapist Anna Beck, one of her favorite guests, to discuss their upcoming 'Rest in Peace, Rise in...

05/12/2023

New Episode! "You Belong Wherever You Are | Episode 48"

In this episode of the Just Be Your Bad Self podcast, Kimber Dutton explores the profound impact of religious upbringing on the often overlooked connection between spirituality and the physical body. Drawing inspiration from ...

30/11/2023

New Episode! "I Want to Grow up To Be a Cow"

This is the voiceover of a Substack article I wrote on November 7 2023. The sound is weird for about the first 30 seconds and then it gets better, I promise. If you'd like to see the pictures or hear the songs I refer to in t...

This is the voiceover of a Substack article I wrote on November 7 2023. The sound is weird for about the first 30 seconds and then it gets better, I prom…

27/11/2023

New Episode! "The Stories We Tell | Episode 47"

Thanks for reading Kimber’s Substack! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit that...

Thanks for reading Kimber’s Substack! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss…

24/06/2023

New Episode! "Internal Family Systems: A Path to Freeing the Self"

I'm back! In this episode, I share and incredible (and raw) session with my life coach Melanie Hill, where we talk about the Internal Family Systems Method and use it to make some life changing breakthroughs regarding my inne...

I'm back! In this episode, I share and incredible (and raw) session with my life coach Melanie Hill, where we talk about the Internal Family Systems Meth…

12/04/2023

New Episode! "Human Design As A Permission Slip To Love Yourself | Episode 45"

In this episode, I had a deeply insightful conversation with Melanie Hill, a human design coach for life and business. We dove into the world of human design and how it can be a powerful tool for self-discovery, self-acceptan...

In this episode, I had a deeply insightful conversation with Melanie Hill, a human design coach for life and business. We dove into the world of human de…

11/04/2023

New Episode! "Kimber and The Never Pleased | Episode 44"

This episode was recorded back in January and somehow missed getting published--I was probably busy ignoring the Never Pleased. Also, I'm doing a pay-what-you-can come sit in your own enoughness retreat in Hildale, UT from Ap...

This episode was recorded back in January and somehow missed getting published--I was probably busy ignoring the Never Pleased. Also, I'm doing a pay-wha…

07/04/2023

When a sore throat strikes, reach for this soothing and delicious "Lemon-Ginger Soother" recipe! 🍋💛🌶️

Ingredients:

1/2 inch piece of fresh ginger root, peeled and sliced
Half a lemon
1/2 teaspoon ground turmeric
1 tablespoon honey
A pinch of cayenne pepper
1 cup of hot water
Instructions:

Heat up 1 cup of water in a saucepan or kettle.
While the water heats, peel and slice the fresh ginger root into thin pieces.
Cut half a lemon in half and squeeze the juice out of it into a mug or a teapot.
Add the sliced ginger, ground turmeric, and a pinch of cayenne pepper to the mug or teapot with the lemon juice.
Pour the hot water into the mug or teapot and stir well.
Let the drink steep for a few minutes to allow the flavors to meld and the ingredients to infuse.
Add 1 tablespoon of honey to the mug or teapot and stir until it dissolves.
Sip the warm drink slowly and allow it to soothe your sore throat.
Enjoy the soothing combination of ginger, turmeric, lemon, cayenne pepper, and honey that work together to ease inflammation and provide a comforting experience for your throat. Try it out and let us know what you think! ❤️

31/03/2023

Too many women are taught to not listen to their own voice.

We are taught that OTHER'S voices are the ones with authority. We dismiss ourselves as silly and naive. Emotional and overreactive.

We tell ourselves not to take ourselves too seriously, when the truth is, we don't take ourselves seriously ENOUGH.

Your voice--that inner voice that sometimes whispers things to you that you choose to ignore or shove deeper down inside--is meant to be let out and LISTENED TO.

There is wisdom and beauty there that is SCREAMING to be let out. It's time we promise to listen to and obey OURSELVES.

If you aren't sure how to go from keeping small and pleasing others to setting boundaries and listening to your own inner knowing, I can help you. I am a voice and Worthiness coach whose focus is to help women FREE their voices.

Reach out to me and let's talk about how I can help you free YOUR voice.

27/03/2023

In a world filled with AI, Autotune, and Photoshop, it's easy to feel like whatever we create is less than perfect at best, and embarrassing at worst.

But guess what?! Creativity isn't about perfection! It never was!

It's about EXPRESSION. It's about communicating to the outside world what we feel and who we are on the inside--and if our inner worlds aren't messy as f**k, I don't know what is!

Creativity is MEANT to be messy!

Time to give perfection the middle finger and create for the sake of creating.

Tag a friend who you are allowed to be messy with.

22/03/2023

There's this song called "If it's Not God" by Maddie Zahm.

The first time I watched the music video it completely wrecked me. Actually I've watched the video at least 20 times now, and it has never NOT wrecked me. Maddie wasn't raised Mormon like I was....but her story is still my story. It's the story of far too many women.

The second slide of this post is a picture of me about 8 years ago, playing Emma in a play about Joseph Smith.

When I played this part I was smack dab in the middle of a faith-crisis and was desperately trying to find a way to rekindle my faith in the religion that I had dedicated my entire life to.

I thought that playing the part of Emma in a play that was historically accurate, would be a faith-affirming experience.

NOPE. Instead of easing my cognitive dissonance--it made me more aware of the falsehoods within the narrative that I had been taught and made it glaringly obvious that the religion of my childhood was founded on oppressive patriarchal ideas.

I was stuck between what I had been taught and what I was now discovering. Like Maddie Zahm's powerful lyrics in "If it's Not God," I heard a voice inside my head that disagreed with everything I had been told. And as she sings "thank God it was me" - I knew I had to take control of my own narrative and find my own truth.

There is a powerful scene about 2 and a half minutes into the music video that depicts women with duct tape over their mouths while the religious white men in the same scene are smiling and talking and preaching like nothing is wrong.

Seeing those women who have been robbed of the power of their own voices feels like a punch to my gut EVERY SINGLE TIME. I want to reach into the video and rip the tape off of their mouths--tell them to yell, to shout, to scream, to cry, to laugh, to sing! To let them feel that their voices are powerful, and loveable, and important!

Join me in reclaiming our power and voices, to never let them be silenced and to find and embrace our own truth, regardless of society's expectations.

Lyrics to "If It's Not God" are in the comments--let me know if they resonate with you too!

17/03/2023

"Don't be afraid to proudly claim your power 🔥💪🧙‍♀️❤️ Let's reclaim words that have been used to silence us, and embrace the magic within ourselves 🙌 Who's with me?

16/03/2023

Breaking free from the chains of perfection and embracing the messiness of life is not just about freeing ourselves from unrealistic expectations, but also freeing our voices to be truly heard and celebrated. As women, we've been told for too long what is "perfect" and what we should strive for. By rejecting the notion of perfection, we give ourselves the space to love ourselves and each other for who we truly are, and the courage to raise our voices and use them for positive change. So let's reject perfection, embrace our imperfections and speak our truth loudly and proudly!

15/03/2023

You have some big shoes to fill - that of your future self.

It may feel like playing dress up, but sometimes, "being your bad self" looks like giving yourself permission to wobble, to fall, and to look a little silly as you grow into the person you want to become.

What shoes do you want to grow into that you still feel a little wobbly in?

13/03/2023

New Episode! "Battling Guilt and Shame | Episode 43"

Guilt and Shame--something we all struggle with as humans as a consistent basis. In this episode I talk about my own battles with guilt and shame, and some tools I use to battle and work through those feelings! I recorded thi...

Guilt and Shame--something we all struggle with as humans as a consistent basis. In this episode I talk about my own battles with guilt and shame, and so…

13/03/2023

Have you ever felt caught in your feelings?

Life isn't always in our control...in fact it's NEVER really in our control, we just trick ourselves into thinking it is.

Expressing our feelings can help us process and release all of the things that we just can't fix. Often expressing our feelings can alchemize our emotions from sadness to relief, or anger to action, or helplessness to feeling supported.

So, when you can't fix it, feel it--you might be surprised by the result!

11/01/2023

New Episode! "Use Your Own Chopsticks | Episode 42"

Today on the Just Be Your Bad Self Podcast we are talking about An old Zen Story about 3-ft long chopsticks The difference between Rescuing and Empowering The importance of keeping our own cups full An exciting new opportunit...

Today on the Just Be Your Bad Self Podcast we are talking about An old Zen Story about 3-ft long chopsticks The difference between Rescuing and Empowerin…