It's in these times that I try to remember how far I've come
My memories are coming back from that time in my life where I was in a complete daze. They are not all bad memories, there are good ones too. I always believed that that first year of my second sons life was awful, I'd blocked so much of it out that I thought it must all be bad.
The truth, is that I was just in a complete daze the whole time. I wasn't coping. Luckily therapy and a lot of mindset work has helped with that, I am now feeling so much better and connected with my children and family.
The memories that are coming back to me are good ones, really good ones. Not everything was bad. Yes there were really bad times and tough times. But those times were just for me, they happened in private, it didn't effect the way I presented myself as a parent.
I mourn the time that postpartum depression took from me as it took memories. I am however very hopeful that they will all come back in time 🤍
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Postpartum depression is still lurking in the background
I can feel it.
I have recently had so many good days. I've had down moments within those good days, but that hasn't impacted my day.
I've had no full days of feeling low.
This is brilliant, it's honestly so good and such a great feeling after having a year + of being in a daze and not remembering all that I wish I had.
But. And there is always a but. I am actually so scared of having a full 'bad' day. I can feel myself waiting for it. I shouldn't be waiting for it!
I find myself enjoying all these beautiful days and then I catch myself worrying about the bad day that will eventually come.
I say eventually as this has been a sort of cycle for the last few months, good days followed by a bad one.
But maybe I am out of that now. Maybe I have made so much progress that this will no longer happen. Or if I have a low moment, I now have the tools I need to be able to see past it and not let it effect my full day.
As you can tell I am still worrying about things unnecessarily, but I am working on it.
If I am able to lower my anxiety even a little I will do it.
So I am grateful for my online business that has allowed me the time to be able to heal from my postpartum journey. It has provided me the ability to be able to lower my nursing hours even further, so that I have one less stress to worry about and more time with my family 🤍
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I have recently chosen the first option.
It’s been amazing 🙌
In a short space of time I have achieved:
- Improved mental health
- Improved postpartum depression
- Improved relationships with my family and friends
- Reduced my hours working as a nurse
- Spending more time with my family
- Spending more time doing the things I love
- Improved confidence
- I am happy!
The list goes on 🤍
I was lucky enough to find something that would provide me with the time and support I needed to achieve all of the above, whilst still being able to provide for my family. No one wants to achieve all of these things but then to be struggling financially due to lowering their work hours.
Now I am focusing on mentoring others to achieve the same 🤍🥳
Drop me a message and I will send you the link to my free webclass explaining more about this opportunity 🤩
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Postpartum depression recovery is not a smooth journey. I've had huge ups and downs throughout.
But when I look back, I know that I would do it all again to relive these moments with my boys 🤍
Life is too short. I don't want to miss out on any moments, and of course I would want to relive them over and over again if I could.
I spent a good while of my postpartum journey in a complete daze and I will always look back and feel guilt for that.
So, I wanted to change things. I wanted to lead the life that I want to lead, not what society deems is normal.
It's still super important to me to have a successful career (or business in this case), and be able to provide everything my family needs and more.
I don't ever want to regret anything when it comes to my family.
I don't want to be sitting at work thinking about the great times I could be having.
This is why I have built my online business.
Time.
To be able to spend the time with my family doing the things we all love, creating beautiful memories, memories we can all look back on and think 'wow that was such a good time' rather than 'I didn't spend enough time with my loved ones doing things that I love'.
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Being that person who suppresses emotions is hard
It's hard because most people around you believe you are doing OK, because that is exactly what you want them to believe. But in reality you are struggling and unable to/unaware how to show it.
It's hard because when you do eventually say you have been struggling, people are shocked that it was even a thing and not sure how to approach you. Or they are upset that they didn't notice and offer support.
Both of the above are hard because you don't want loved ones to think they should have done more, at the end of the day I am the one who has hid the emotions and therefore they didn't know any better. But also you don't want loved ones to be unsure how to talk to you, or approach you, or what they should and shouldn't say.
The truth is, it's enough for people to just know about the struggle. It's not that anything different needs to happen. It's that if I am having a crappy day then I don't have to hide it or pretend I am OK (that is exhausting). It's that I can say 'you know what I'm not feeling all that great today' and they will understand what I mean no questions asked.
I am working my way through saying how I am feeling rather than automatically saying 'absolutely fine' 'great' 'all ok'. I find this so difficult!! But I am much better for it.
Pretending to be OK is exhausting and it ended up making me worse in the long run. Whereas being me, the ups and downs that come with me right now, that is way less exhausting and I now find I have WAY more good days than bad which is awesome 🙌😁
Sending love to those who struggle with suppressing emotions, I feel you, it's hard, but we can start to make small changes to make our lives less tiring ❤️
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It might seem impossible but it's not
Build your empire from home and take back your freedom 🙌
Follow the link in my bio to access my FREE webclass which explains it all!
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Note to self - don't forget this
Mum guilt rears it's ugly head whenever I have time to myself. Whether that be a walk on my own or a weekend away. It makes no different, mum guilt is present whenever I do anything on my own.
BUT having time for yourself is so good for you and everyone surrounding you 🙌
If this happens to includes working on myself and my business to improve the quality of life for myself and my family - even better!!
So screw the mum guilt, I am a great mum, having time for myself only improves that 😍
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My dreams were to be a mum and have a good career
Those are amazing dreams by the way 😍
But since becoming a mum my dreams have evolved, and that's OK. I now realise that becoming a mum and having a good career was not the end of my dreams.
My new dreams are to spend all of the time I possibly can with my children, family, loved ones. To not miss moments and make great memories. Life is too short and you never know what is going to happen, so I want to make the most of this time.
This takes me to my second dream of escaping my 'good' 'safe' nursing career, as I will be working till 70+ on pay that does not currently cover my families cost of living. To what? Enjoy a few good years of life before my energy and health deteriorates? No thank you.
My third dream, financially providing for my family whilst I complete dream 1 and 2 😁
Thanks to my online business I am now on my way to completing all 3 🙌. This is because I am able to work 1-2hours a day around my boys, meaning they are the priority, whilst my business runs 24/7 in the background ☺️
Want to know more? Follow the link in my bio to watch my free 25minute webclass 🤍
If I can do it, anyone can ✨
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Most of us know what we need to do to get to the places we want to be, but we don't actually do it.
If you want something, it's there for the taking.
Dreams don't come to those who wait on the sidelines, they come to those who take action.
I sat there last year dreaming of a better life, time freedom and financial security, and I chose action. It was scary, but I did it anyway. Because at the end of the day I didn't, and still don't, want to sit there wondering 'what if'.
Regret is worse than failure.
Will you be the 1% who take action, or the 99% who sit and wish to take action but don't?
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What helped me was...
Taking a step back and realising that my children were the most important thing in the world to me.
It didn't matter what other people were doing, as long as my boys are happy that is all the mattered to me.
Going at their own pace in day to day life really helped me see that when I had been rushing them they would just get frustrated and upset. Eventually ending in all of us being upset! Who did that benefit?
I have always done things around my boys. I learnt early on that they were always going to dictate how my days looked, and that's OK! I really don't mind. If they are happy then it makes my life alot easier and happier, so it's a win win.
Once you have children you don't really ever get back to your pre baby self. And I don't mean physically. You change as a person, things that were important before are less important now, and things that weren't important are now super important. It is so hard to recognise this and come to terms with it too. No one really tells you about the change you have becoming a mother. I think we have all fought it and mourned the person we once were, and that is natural. Realising and accepting that things are different is OK and makes things that bit easier.
You are a new self! Invest in her! What does your new self want to achieve? What are her new goals? What does she need to feel rested and happy?
A new wardrobe? New mum friends? Enjoying the outdoors more? Day dates with friends rather than evenings out? The possibility of being a stay at home mum?
Go out and make it happen! Whatever you need to do to invest in your new self, it is achievable. Us mums can make anything happen 🙌
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I was scared!
I didn't know if it would work.
If I would be good enough.
If I was brave enough.
If I had it in me to be confident enough.
I was scared I would fail. Fail myself and my family.
Putting trust into yourself, being in full control of your own work and income IS scary.
But the reward is SO much better. Being able to be present with my boys, enjoy my time with them, enjoy the life I am living, enjoy watching them grow up. All whilst still being able to financially provide for them is a much better reward than staying in the same situation year in and year out.
All of the above worries did not matter AT ALL. Being a mum means you are more than capable of making anything work. Your WHY for doing anything is that much bigger and more important than anything else in the world that you WILL make it work. NOTHING will stand in your way of creating a better life your your children.
So - are you ready to trust yourself?
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Free webclass?
Yes
A coach/mentor?
Yes
Step by step training?
Yes
For absolute beginnings with zero experience?
Yes
A supportive community?
Yes
Location freedom?
Yes
Working 1-2 hours a day?
Yes
Time back with loved ones?
Yes
Take a look at the links in my bio for more information. If I can do it, so can you 😁
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Do you prioritise less stress in your life?
If the answer is no and it's because you don't think there is another way. I'm here to tell you that there is ☺️
Whether that is prioritising 30minutes a day as time for self care. Or 1 hour as time to spend with your loved ones. Or a whole day to go out and enjoy each moment, see the good in everything and be 100% present.
Whatever it may be, doing something that makes you happy and reduces your stress is so worth it in the long run. It can allow you to be less irritable (I know for a fact this is true for me 😅), reduce anxiety, improve your mood. There are a whole load of positives that can come from doing something you love and reducing stress.
Now don't get me wrong there is no way to have no stress in your life. But you can certainly reduce it to a point where you are happy and feeling great.
I enjoy being outside, spending time with my loved ones, being present in the moment and enjoying everything around me. I think I have always been that way, but it's only recently that I have really dived into doing it more regularly. It always always improves my mood and reduces my stress levels - which is great not only for me but for my family too 👌
I found a way to make this happen more often, work around my family instead of work taking my time away from them 🤍
Follow to find out how ✨
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It's not essential
But it is important!
It was my first full day all on my own away from the boys since they were born. If I am honest? It was wonderful! I got a chance to do all of the self care things that are important to me.
I layed in, had breakfast uninterrupted, walked Ralph and got myself a hot chocolate, sat and watched a full film start to finish, had a bath, then had a shower because why not 😅, did ALL the skin care I could possibly do, made Harry and myself dinner for when he got back from work (this was so nice as I didn't have the boys shouting at me, hanging onto my legs or the rush to get them fed bathed and into bed), watched a second film (with Harry this time), went to bed and had a full night's sleep.
I felt so rested. I had experienced zero stress all day and I'm sure that did me the world of good. It gave me the chance to fully recharge for when the boys came home.
~> Self care is so important when you have your own family. I didn't quite realise that until this day.
I felt guilty for part of the morning for actually enjoying myself - how bad is that?! Why are us mums like this?
I did miss my boys and I was looking forward to picking them up. They didn't quite feel the same, they love their grandparents and didn't bat an eyelid when we went to get them 😅. Which was actually lovely because I know that if they ever stay at my parents again, they are happy and not worried about where mum and dad are 🥹
So my aim is to focus more on self care, whether that is just an hour out of a day or a whole day, whatever I can get. Make the most of that time and feel refreshed so that my family get the best of me ❤️
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I made a big change in 2023 ✨
I decided to set up my own automated online business.
Why? I wanted to escape the endless hustle of shift work and the thought of working around my children, missing out on moments, for the rest of my life until I hit retirement age. No, I wasn't going to allow this to happen. So I started something new.
It was scary. It was new. It was out of my comfort zone. It was daunting!
BUT I invested in MYSELF. What better thing to invest in? At the end of the day it is you who makes things happen. You are in charge.
So now I am here with the aim to let as many other mums out there know that this can happen for them too! You can be a present parent whilst financially supporting your family, it IS possible 🙌
There is no reason at all to be worrying about finances and missing moments in your child's life. This doesn't have to be the norm. You can change it, we ARE changing it.
It takes consistent work. 1-2 hours a day. But wouldn't you rather be working hard for yourself and your families wealth and freedom rather than working for someone else?
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