02/11/2022
8 Lessons to Learn by Age 40
#1. Embrace the Journey
Most of your life will be spent in the journey, not the destination. Life is precious and each day isnโt guaranteed. If you put all your happiness in the destination, youโll be very disappointed when you get there. This goes for physique changes, financial health, and relationships; once you reach the goal you have set it surprisingly isnโt as sweet as you imagined it. Find solace and peace with the journey to getting there; this is where the real magic happens.
Acknowledge the stage youโre in and be grateful for the experience. The hard times wonโt last and instead of feeling overwhelmed, stressed, and negative, are knowing that on the other side youโll be wiser and more resilient.
#2. Take the Leap
Spend too much time thinking about โwhat ifsโ and youโre just going to delay the action. None of us can predict what the future holds and no matter the outcome, have confidence in yourself that you can handle it. Often the hardest part is letting go of expectations of what things โshouldโ be or succumbing the trap of perfectionism, when what we really need to do is let down our walls, invite possibility of failure in and ACT.
#3. Be Intentional and Live Powerfully
With your time, your money, your actions. With your training program, your nutrition plan, which people you choose to be in your life. Seek to find the โWhyโ behind everything. Be present, refine your skills, choose to respond vs. react, and expand your thoughts and comfort zones. Increase focus on creating the experience rather than letting things happen to you.
#4. Discipline Equals Freedom
Be afraid of failure. The only person you can control is you. So focus on making yourself who you want to be: Faster. Stronger. Smarter. More humble. Less ego. Act in according to your values and your goals; Discipline means taking the hard roadโthe uphill road. To do what is right, for you and for others so you can achieve the greatness you have envisioned for yourself. It will put you on the path to strength, health, intelligence and happiness. And most important, discipline will put you on the path to freedom.
#5. You Are Your Thoughts
Ghandi said:
โYour beliefs become your thoughts,
Your thoughts become your words,
Your words become your actions,
Your actions become your habits,
Your habits become your values,
Your values become your destiny.โ
Excuses only sound good to the person making them. The only way to truly become the person you want to be is by acting in the way that she acts; starting right now.
Your thoughts control your body and your body reciprocally controls your thoughts. If youโre feeling sad, try putting a smile on your face, even if it is the last thing that you want to do. Fake a smile, and feel how your body starts to feel lighter. Sometimes a change in our physical state is all that it takes to create a change in our mental state. Smile more, laugh more, and donโt take life so seriously.
#6. Failure Only Comes If You Quit
Otherwise it just gives you lessons and perspective for new opportunities. Life is too short to not take those chances, to not take that leap. Every experience is an opportunity to learn from and be better the next time around. We only truly fail when we decide to give up instead of finding another way. Time cures all and youโll live with much less regret by trying and failing, rather than not trying at all. Donโt take no for an answer, especially when it comes to your goals and dreams.
People on a high slope skiing
#7. Trust Your Intuition
When something feels off, it is. Be in or be out. Let your yes be yes or your no be no. Be 100% in the relationship, in the job, in your travels, in your decisions. We all have that little voice inside us telling us what we should do; donโt be afraid to listen to it.
#8. Never Compromise on Yourself
Your integrity is the thread of your existence. Live according to YOUR values, no one elseโs and do what you know in your heart is right. Donโt let the judgement of others stop you from speaking out or doing what you need to do. In the end, your word, your follow through, and your perseverance when things are tough are what will matter most.
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