08/05/2024
My advice to single ladies about marriage:
1) Never leave your career because of a man. You will regret it later. A man's money is a bonus but your money as a woman will save you from lots of casualties.
2) Don't marry a man who feels like he is doing you a favour marrying you. He will always belittle you.
3) If his family doesn't like you, call off the engagement. Else you will see shege in the marriage.
4) Don't live with a man, he will delay marrying you because he is enjoying what married people are enjoying.
5) Avoid unprotected in*******se before marriage. Don't get pregnant before marriage. If possible, avoid in*******se before marriage.
6) Don't compare your sugar daddy with a legit struggling young man. Sugar daddy is your dad's mate.
7) Don't marry a man who doesn't take correction. He will frustrate you.
8) Don't compare your relationship with others. Every relationship has a manual. Do what works for your relationship. If cooking for your man, makes the two of you happy, do it.
9) When you want to invest in a man you're not married to, invest and have limit. Don't allow yourself to be used.
10) When your husband is quarreling or having a misunderstanding with his family, don't put your mouth. They will later forgive their son but they won't forgive or forget what you said.
11) Don't report every little issue to your family. It will make them devalue your man.
12) Don't discuss every thing happening in your marriage to friends. They can ruin it.
13) Be a supportive woman. Help your man achieve alot. Bring out ideas during discussion.
14) Pregnancy is a risky journey. Consider your health and life before getting more babies. Else you may lose your life in labour room trying to impress a man. And if you don't make it alive, he will marry another woman.
15) Don't allow the responsibilities and weight in marriage make you forget your life goals and purpose in life.
16) Don't f0llow trends. Everyone is doing it doesn't mean it's right. You can do it doesn't mean you should do it. There are things you do today that can spoil your reputation tomorrow when you outgrow.
17) The person you marry will determine your lifespan, mental health, physical health, faith, finances, appearance, how your children will turn out, it will also affect your ambition in life, choose wisely.
18) Most times the guy that will treat you fine may not be your spec. Change your perspective about relationship.
19) Your mother inlaw is not your mother. I understand some mother in-laws can become real mothers but not always. So, have a healthy relationship with your mother in-law but relate wisely.
20) If you're a career woman, marry a supportive man. Don't marry a lázy or unsupportive man, he will drag you to his level of laziness, he will see your success as intimidation.
21) Try and marry a faithful man, a man who understands loyalty and commitment else you could be loyal to him while he is jumping around with women outside. At the end, he could bring infection to you.
22) Becareful of the standard you compromise else you will keep compromising in marriage. What you don't like, say it out. If it's about the way he spends or personal cleanliness, say it out. Once you condone, you will keep condoning in marriage. If he is not hardworking, say it out else if you keep helping him with all financial responsibilities, you will continue in marriage.
