wecallmelinds

10/09/2022

This app doesn’t show my content anymore so I guess we just post WHATEVA the heck we feel like now right???

Hi, I’ve been having a hard week physically in my body I feel like something is always fighting me and it’s hard. It’s really hard. I’m in a constant state of “what’s next” and that makes me sad. But today, I am feeling better and for that, I am lucky.

ENJOY MY //

30/08/2022

Sad to think one month from now it’ll start getting too cold to wear a bikini 👙

SWIPE through for cute views and pics 😏

Spent this past weekend camping with a few of my favourite human beans 🫘 and feeling V thankful for that right now.

We stayed in Cape Croker, a hidden gem on the Bruce Peninsula where our impeccable views consisted of beautiful bluffs, nearly clear water and a peaceful oasis 🌊🏕

Cape Croker is super close to Tobermory, Sauble Falls and Lion’s Head - highly recommend if you’re looking for a new place to camp. We will definitely be back 🏕🤍

24/08/2022

A few months ago, I decided I was tired of settling for the bare minimum when it came to relationships (cough *men* cough) and so Ive been working on raising my standards.

By raising my standards I’ve learnt to focus more on myself, the things that I want, what I know I deserve and the types of self-care practices I implement in my daily life.

I’ve slowly been learning to master what self-care means to me whether it be taking yoga classes, therapy sessions, sensory deprivation floats, spending intentional time alone and something that is new to me… self-pleasure 🤍🤌🏼

And then I was introduced to SWAN 🦢
The SWAN is petite, cute dual-ended vi****or that comes with a teasing tongue on one end and a vibrating head on the other for maximum pleasure.

Check out their products through the link in my bio or stories and you can use my code for 20% off your purchase if you find something you like: LDSY20 ✨

22/08/2022

Highly recommend saying yes to a plus-size pool party to fill your cup 😻🤍

Thank you to Danielle, Alicia, Lisa and Carissa for putting this all together. It rained the entire time, but no one even minded. It was so beautiful, fun and refreshing to me surrounded by so many likeminded humans simply… existing.

A reminder to Take UP Space and never apologize ✌️🤍

Special thanks to for hosting us 💕

15/08/2022

I call these my Standing Pants 👖

You know those pants/shorts that fit comfortably enough when standing up and they make your butt look nice overall but as soon as you sit down you feel like you can’t breathe? Yeah, that’s these shorts.

Old me would’ve buried them in the bottom of closet blaming my body for not fitting in them properly. Old me would’ve self-sabotaged trying to fit in them better. Old me would tell this version of me that she is gross and unworthy of jeans that make her butt look cute 🍑

THIS me understands that pants aren’t built for all types of different bodies, and that’s on the companies that make them - not on me. THIS me understands that I like the way these shorts look when I’m standing or walking around in them so I’ll still choose to wear them from time to time. All I have to do is unbutton them when I’m driving 😂

Do you have any standing pants hahah? 👖👖👖👖👖

02/08/2022

Highly recommend splurging on a floating island and inviting your friends to watch the sunset with you 🌅

Thankful for these people, this sunset and that my phone survived the water damage 😆

12/07/2022

HI FRIENDS, let’s catch up ☀️

The last few months of my life have been super busy… I’ve been working 3 very time consuming jobs, still sitting as president of a busy volunteer committee, be as good of a fur mom for Nell & Pinot as I can be and still trying to maintain a social life all at the same time. Because we can never do enough, can we?

Truly, I don’t advise ever working three jobs but unfortunately that’s the financial reality of many of us these days. And here we are, still struggling 💰 because f**k the patriarchy and f**k inflation TBH 💪🖕🏼

The one day I typically get to myself is Sundays so I’ve been trying to jampack them with all the fun things that fill my cup and bring me joy 🥹

But I’ll be honest when I say I’ve been feeling a little “left out” and a little jealous of all the things I miss out on or all of the things I don’t have. Safe to say, the comparison game is REAL BB. I can understand that every person has their struggles, their vices and things they wish they had that they don’t - I can acknowledge all that but still understand my feelings are valid. So I’ll never apologize for that.

So in a world where this app is no longer what it used to be, thanks for being here and thanks for sticking around 💗

Female blogger, mental health, fat blogger, imposter syndrome, plus size

03/07/2022

Perpetuating the myth that I’m spending the summer by the pool in a swimsuit ☀️🍹

(when in reality I work 3 jobs and this is a rare occurrence 😝)

Summer weather, girls in bikini, londre, swimsuit, bikini season, plus size babe, plus size blogger, londre body wear, yeti, poolside

26/06/2022

the never ending stages of my PRIDE 🌈🌈🌈🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

19/06/2022

25 year old Linds would be so proud.

She used to cover up.
She used to feel so much shame in her body.
She used to be so scared to show it off.
This journey and this recovery, it’s not easy. I don’t always love my body but I will always be proud of where I am now.

✌️ & 🤍

07/06/2022

Tay said it best,
“I’d like to be my old self again, but I’m still trying to find it”

You ever feel like the more work you do on yourself the harder that it all gets?
It’s like the more you open the wounds, the more you’re forced to feel your feelings and process your words - the more difficult it all becomes. Life used to feel so easy, but it wasn’t real. I never used to feel anything other than self-hate and a lack of confidence at the end of the day.

And now it’s like the more therapy I do, the more self-love I practice and the more I try to heal… the more I realize I never knew who I was before. I never knew the real me. And sometimes that was easier, sometimes it’s easier to play pretend than it is to constantly feel so much.

Sometimes I think I used to be a happier person but was I really happy if I was just playing pretend? And now I’m here, with happiness and self-love in my life but also with an immense amount of darkness and sadness. Only this time I’m working to figure out what causes the darkness and the sadness and sometimes that is all consuming and sometimes I’m just left feeling… empty?

Sometimes I feel empty.
But I think that’s ok.

29/05/2022

The Sunday Scaries don’t have to be all that scary 🤍

What are we doing today my little loves? Tell me down below, I miss y’all and feel like chatting.

Myself, Pinot and Nell had the most lovely day lounging in bed, watching tv and napping and now I’m going to get ready and enjoy some food and drinks with friends.

Perfect way to spend the day off if you ask me 😚

19/05/2022

My favourite city, my favourite bean 🫘 🌃

No matter how many times I visit Chicago, I never tire of it - I wish I could explain how at peace I feel everytime I come back to this place but I truly do. I wish I could call it home.

But as much as I love Chicago, I’m currently adding to my list of places to travel.

Last week I added Greece to my list, what else should I add? Drop your recommendations below ⬇️

16/05/2022

TW ⚠️ self-harm recovery

This is a heavy one.
One because I don’t want to cause any triggers for anyone. Two because it’s a truly sensitive and personal topic. And three because posting anything on the internet opens the door for judgement.

But today I am 100 days self-harm free.
And today, I am damn proud of myself.

In the last 100 days, there have been hard days and days I didn’t think I’d make it through the day without caving in. There were days when I almost didn’t.
In the last 100 days, there have been some really good days.

In the last 100 days, my scars have healed.
In the last 100 days, I have felt shame and resentment.

The shame of self-harm can make it very difficult to celebrate my recovery and leaves me anxious because the opportunity to harm again is always a possibility. A relapse is always a possibility. The urge never completely subsides but I know I feel more pride, more happiness and more love for myself when I resist so I will keep resisting.

And celebrating my accomplishments lessens the urge, although the urge never completely fades away. The urge is always there in the back of my mind, when I’m feeling sad or hopeless or if I just need to FEEL anything in general.

Celebrating my accomplishment lessens the shame, the hurt and the pain I otherwise feel.
If you’re reading this and you feel alone, scared, alienated, unsure - just know that I’m here for you if you need a lending hand 💕

Today I am celebrating 100 days self-harm free and gosh, I’m so proud of myself 💕

05/05/2022

Here’s something I wish 30 year old me could tell a younger Linds…

Showing off your skin does not make you a “slut”
Being “slutty” does not make you a bad person
The word slt is just a made up word
Wearing clothes that make you happy also make YOU the best version of yourself 🤍

I felt HOT this night 🌶

First Chicago photo dump of many, swipe through to see our hot asses 🔥

03/05/2022

I’ve had an abortion.

The statistics tell us 1 in 4 women will have an abortion in their lifetime. So I guess I’m 1 in 4.
I never really thought this would be something I’d share publically although I hold no shame and I speak actively about it to those in my life. I’m sure there are some people in my life who will read this and it will come as a shock, for that I am sorry. I’m sorry if this is the first time you’re hearing about it. But it is my body. As I sit here and take in the news of the US Supreme Court’s decision to overturn Roe v Wade, I am physically ill. Sure, I can share articles, scream , advocate for all of those with uterus’ but when something hits this close to home… when you’ve been in a situation where you yourself had to make a choice, I felt ready to share my experience. A choice that came easily, but not without repercussions and not without lasting affects on my health and my body.

I chose to have an abortion.
It was the best decision I could have made for myself. I do not wish to give birth, I do not wish to bear a child, I do not wish to raise a child in a world that I can’t financially afford and a world that is literally falling apart at the seems. When I fell pregnant, I chose to end that pregnancy. I stand by my decision, and I will not be silent.

Leave our bodies alone.
You don’t want to have an abortion? COOL, don’t have one.

I am blessed to live in a country where abortion is (currently) safe, accessible and free. I am blessed to have been able to make the best decision for myself and my body with very little judgment. And I do not for a single moment take that for granted nor sit here ignorantly and not believe that at any given moment that right can be taken away from me. Please do not for a second believe our right to choose can’t be revoked.

Just like it is being taken away from so many of you right now.

I am so sorry. Please know that you do not have to endure a FORCED BIRTH. Please know that those 9 members that may decide you should no longer get to choose what you do with your body are WRONG.

I had an abortion.
You deserve that right too.
Just as you chose to be a mother, I chose not to be.

03/05/2022

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01/05/2022

THESE ARE A FEW OF MY FAVOURITE THINGS: 🍷🥒💨

Today, I am 30. Wow.
Thank you for being in my life, thank you for lifting me up when I am down, encouraging my quirkiness and being so god damn amazing. I love every single one of you. Now wish me a HAPPY BIRTHDAY 🎂 🥳

26/04/2022

Want to come over and have a pillow fight? ☁️

Ok, cool. Meet you in the living room 😘

You know in movies how the girls always had sleepovers and they ALWAYS ended up in pillow fights? Like did that ever happen to anyone IRL? I’m genuinely curious, cause it just seems like some sort of made up fantasy (probably by a man 😂)

24/04/2022

One week until I’m officially a 30 year old so here’s a little birthday party photo dump 🎂thankful for everyone that was able to make it 🤍❤️

19/04/2022

a wild linds,

caught dreaming, thinking and missing the warm sunshine on her face and was instead yesterday met with snow on the ground… ugh

What’s the weather like where you are?
Tell me in emojis below ⬇️

I’ll go first: ❄️☀️💨

19/04/2022

How do you stop yourself from missing someone?

Is it even possible to force yourself to stop missing someone? And if you can… Should you?
I can go through the steps, I can understand why right now is not the time and I can validate all the emotions going through my body.
But how do I stop missing them?

No matter how much progress I make, at the end of the day when I’m alone with my thoughts - there they are.
There we are once again in his room, sitting cross legged on the bed, eyes fixated on me telling each other the things we want to hear but also the things we know will destroy us.

There they are.

I didn’t mean to love you.
It was never my intention.
I could never even admit to it when you asked. I probably still couldn’t if you asked me right now.
But then just like so many times before it feels like our time has passed. We’ve never been known to have good timing. But this time it was different, this time it felt more real.

But just like before it was gone again.
And just like before we will wait our turn once again.

11/04/2022

⚠️ tw: healed scars

Body acceptance is hard work.

Loving the skin you’re in is hard work. Luckily, there are some things that help make it a little easier…

My girls over @ recently released their new and we’re kind enough to send me over a set in ALL BLACK (that I’ve been living in) ✨

And in case you needed an extra reminder, your body is a masterpiece 🤍

07/04/2022

I felt good on this day ✨

I felt goofy and excited.
I felt the warm sun on my face after the darkness of winter and it felt good. So good.

I tasted happiness on this day.
Those are the good days 🤍

[outfit details tagged - bag and top are thrifted]

31/03/2022

Imagine a world where we grew up never hearing people whisper about our weight. Imagine a world we weren’t told we’d look prettier if we just lost some weight?

Honestly, just imagine that world.

Imagine how different we’d view ourselves now. Imagine how much more kind we’d be to ourselves now.

Just imagine it.
Imagine a world where we were simply encouraged to love our bodies.
Imagine a world we were all encouraged to Take Up Space. To honour or bodies and the space we govern.
Now let’s go build that life for those growing up below us.
Let them have the life we all deserved.

[set purchased from

28/03/2022

I’ve been scared to be myself before, to show up as the whole version of me.
Gosh, I’m sure that we all have.

I’ve been scared to show the goofy, the weird and the sad before. I’ve been scared to show the vulnerable and the struggling, the happy and the excited.

Scared that if people knew I didn’t have it all together they’d somehow think different of me. Scared that if people knew I find crying therapeutic or that I cope with pain and anxiety through dark humour that they’d somehow think less of me.

And while some may, the rest of us just want to know that all these things that we feel - all the pain and all the happy, we are not alone. We’re not the only one who dances in our underwear, smiles when they’re hurting, loves with whatever they have left or cries themselves to sleep at night.

We’re not the only ones who don’t have it all together. But regardless of where we are, how successful we are or how happy/unhappy we are - we are good enough, we are.

[⚠️ Transparency/Self-Harm scars: some healed scars have been covered to protect myself and other from sensitive subjects although I do NOT care any shame]

25/03/2022

I’ve teamed up with the local Glam Squad and IG influencers to give you the chance to win a $800 self care package! Good luck 😘⁣⁣
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21/03/2022

MY MONDAY FEELINGS:

Here’s how I’m feeling today:
Happy, confused and lonely (at the same time)

KK, jk those are Tay’s lyrics but also kinda valid you know???

But actually, today I am feeling:
THIRSTY 🍹
LUCKY
EXCITED
AND like my brain is not in a fog for the first time in a few days 👌🏽

How are you feeling, cuties?

17/03/2022

Celebrating my parents anniversary the only way I know how, green beer and avoiding my problems for the day 🍀 🍺
(My parents are divorced BTW, love you mom & dad 💋)

HAPPY ST PATRICK’S DAY 🍀 FOLLOW ALONG IN MY STORIES TO SEE WHAT KIND OF TROUBLE I GET INTO TODAY HEHE 🍀🍀🍀

14/03/2022

Growing up, I was only ever taught to hate my body.

Hate the way it looked.
The way it felt.
Hate the way it moved and giggled and squished. Hate the way that it looked in clothes. Hate the way that people would know, underneath my clothes that my body was bigger than others. Hate that it was bigger than “normal”.

Maybe hate isn’t the right word, but over time it became the word because of the constant pressure to change the way I looked.

Growing up, I was only ever taught ways to try and change my body.
To change me.
And while a part of me will hold onto that feeling of shame and hate forever, because well… I’m only human. It’s exhilarating and thrilling to learn to love the body I am in.

07/03/2022

I’m a day early but I saw do this on her post this morning and in honour of International Women’s Day tomorrow I thought this would be a great way to celebrate and recognize some of the womxn in your life! ✨

Compliment one of your favourite people in the comments below and let them know why you think they’re an amazing, badass, resilient and f**king awesome womxn 💪


[Swipe to end for a very… humbling photo 😂]

03/03/2022

When they first told me I needed glasses, I was hoping it was for the booze 👓🍷

has been my go-to online eyewear store for years now. They have 1000’s of choices from RX, to blue light to sunglasses and contacts - something for everyone!

I’m wearing the ‘TR69309’ in tortoise for reference but you’ve all seen me wear a few different pair over the years!

Firmoo has given me a discount code for all of you - use the link in my bio and code “LINDS” at checkout for 50% off your purchase 👏🏼🍷

28/02/2022

2022 is the year all bodies get to feel confident in lingerie 🌶

I picked out some AdoreMe items when I was having a really low body image day because I had never owned any before. Stores never carried my size and if they did, it was few and far between (and usually had very strange patterns 😂

25/02/2022

PICK ME UP FRIDAY 🎉

Time for a GIVEAWAY 🎁

This giveaway was supposed to happen a while back, but as life would have it - my mental state had other plans. But here we are!

For this giveaway I want to do things a little differently, instead of 1 big winner I’m going to choose 3 different winners and each of you will receive something different! Thanks to the help of two of my favourite small businesses to support we’ve got some goodies for y’all to win!

1 - $25 gift card to
2 - You Grow Girl keychain gifted from .laneco
3 - Crewneck sweater with YOURS TRULY’s LIPS (aka mine) on them gifted from

To enter:
LIKE this post
SHARE to your stories! (Be sure to tag me/send me a screenshot if your account is private)
TAG 2 friends in the comments (1 time only)

✨ Don’t forget to shoot and .laneco a follow to show your support!

Giveaway will close Sunday, February 27th at midnight.
All postage fees will be handled by me. Open to Canadian and US residents.
This giveaway is in no way sponsored or affiliated with Instagram.

22/02/2022

Giving myself the hug it deserves ❣️

What ever do I mean, you might ask?
With .laneco ‘s cute huggie earrings my ears have never felt so loved. The cute satin scrunchie is also a must have!
laneco is a small Canadian womxn-lead (local to Chatham-Kent) jewellery and accessories business and they were sweet enough to send me over some pieces 😍 I talked about the pieces in my stories last week but will be sharing more!

I’ll share links in my stories for you.

Bonus points, you can use code “LINDS15” to save 15% off anything on their website! Happy shopping ladies 😘

15/02/2022

Sexy is subjective ✨

The word s*xy has been tossed around for years and used to describe so many things that it’s almost become… meaningless.

Sexy has been used to describe good things and bad things (by societal standards) and more often than not, used to describe the way someone else perceives your body. As if someone else gets to decide your value and your worth. As if our value and worth is determined by how attractive someone else finds us.
When s*xy isn’t being used to describe the increased level of physical attraction of someone, it’s being used to diminish their level of attraction by labeling them “too” much of something. “Too s*xy” for the internet, that skirt is “too s*xy” to wear in public.

But being s*xy is subjective, feeling s*xy is a feeling that comes within - not some form of validation needed from an outside source. Especially not one needed by the opposite s*x.

Sexy is jeans and a t-shirt.
Or lacey lingerie.
Or sweats and a hoodie.
Or a simple monochrome set.
Sexy is complete nudity or s*xy is knowledge.
Sexy is compassion and understanding.

Sexy is whatever you want it to be 🌶

08/02/2022

I hadn’t smiled in a while

And I really hadn’t been doing my best to change that. Like, I was doing things but I wasn’t doing my best.

So I brushed my hair and I put on a cute outfit and I smiled for the camera.

The smile, the happy feeling may not have lasted forever but it felt good in the moment 🧡❄️

[outfit details in my stories]

01/02/2022

1 year of therapy ✨

February 1st, 2021 I had my first therapy session. I remember sitting on the floor in my Take Up Space sweater in front of my couch, legs crossed with a blanket and Nell on my lap.
I had no idea what to expect.

Would this cure me?
Am I even broken enough for therapy?
Would I be “fixed”?
Did I even know what needed fixing?
Honestly, I didn’t know what to expect other than I knew I needed someone to talk too, someone on the outside of my life.

I could sit here and list all the things I’ve learnt or unlearnt about my life and my trauma over the past year (and boy has it been a lot 🤭) but I feel like I share that enough already.

Today, on my 1 year anniversary - I am thankful.
I am thankful to be alive. I am thankful for my therapist and my doctor. Thankful for my loved ones who support me even if they don’t understand.

Ultimately, I’m thankful for the chance to get to know myself… because I never really knew me before 💕

PS, I wasn’t wearing pants when I took these 😏

31/01/2022

26/01/2022

I come on this platform 365 days a year and preach about mental health and it’s importance in our every day life.

So today is just like any other day, although different in some ways. Today we’re going to talk about some things that mental health means to me… two words strung together with thousands of meanings.

⚠️ TW: eating disorders, self-harm, depression, anxiety ⚠️

But for me…
- It’s never having to apologize for feeling sad (although I still do almost every time, I’m learning not to)
- It’s no longer allowing my eating disorder (I have a history of Binge Eating Disorder and Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder [AFRID] to control me, the food I eat, the places I eat and the shame & disgust I feel around food
- It’s never apologize for taking up more space on this planet than society tells me I should
- It’s not wanting to be alive every day but not willing to leave my loved ones behind. It’s keeping me on this planet because I know this is where I am supposed to be, even if I don’t feel it everyday
- It’s the unpacked childhood trauma and resentment I spent decades hiding from
- It’s my inability to maintain any long-term emotional relationship because I hold onto the emotions that ruined me years ago
- It’s my overall inability to be emotionally available to myself or anyone else
- It’s the never ending feeling like you are constantly losing control of just about everything in your life
- It’s coming to term with the facts that the scars on my body do not define me, even if I put them there (41 days today self-harm free I’m proud of every one of those days 💪)
- It’s being free to love who I want, when I want and how I want. Periodt.
- It’s understanding that every person deals with their health in a different way and sometimes that isn’t easy to understand and sometimes it’s easier to lash out. But if we take a step back and reevaluate the situation we usually find that that persons boundary was set for them. And we must accept that.

Mental health for me is this and so much more. It’s you and it’s me.

Tell me what mental health is to you ✨
(I attached some photos of me going through the motions too in the carousel. ALSO, Please don’t worry about me, I am OK)