Nope We're Not Monogamous

17/07/2024

🎙️ Episode 79 of our podcast features Kathy Labriola, discussing "Polyamory: Beyond the Misconceptions | Changing Perceptions and Building Community."

In this enlightening conversation, Kathy sheds light on the true essence of polyamory, debunking common myths and showcasing the inclusive, family-friendly nature of the community.

🌟 "It's just a way that we can show people that we do exist and that we are not like drooling psychopaths. A lot of the events are very family-friendly with picnics and children's activities. We’re presenting a more comprehensive picture of who polyamorous people are, beyond the media's focus on s*x. It's important but not the main event."

Tune in to explore how polyamory is more about connection, community, and love.

🎧 Don't miss it!

17/07/2024

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16/07/2024

Essential for personal growth and well-being. Never stop nurturing yourself.

15/07/2024

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12/07/2024

This is a super eye opening conversation with Kathy Labriola, a seasoned therapist and author, on this weeks podcast. In this episode, titled "Polyamorous Elders: Planning for Your Future," Kathy shares invaluable insights on the benefits of polyamory for older adults, effective communication, managing jealousy, legal and financial planning, and fostering intimacy in your golden years.

Don't miss out on this chance to learn from Kathy's extensive experience and expertise!

12/07/2024

It's like trying to bake without a recipe. Let's talk about how to make this journey easier together.

11/07/2024

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11/07/2024

Love and connection don't have an age limit!

Do you ever wonder what polyamory looks like as we get older? This week on the podcast, I chat with therapist, nurse, and author Kathy Labriola, who's been rocking a poly lifestyle for 5 DECADES!

We explore:
+Building strong, lasting connections over time in poly relationships.
+Essential communication skills to keep things clear and avoid jealousy.
+Legal and financial considerations you might not have thought of.

This episode is packed with valuable insights for anyone curious about polyamory, seasoned veterans or newbies alike!

Ready to learn more?

Drop a comment below and I'll send you the link!

10/07/2024

Struggling to find your way? Comment “Guidance” for support and let's take this journey together.

09/07/2024

Sometimes, seeing things from a different perspective can be a game-changer, especially when navigating tricky situations.

08/07/2024

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04/07/2024

03/07/2024

Struggling with self-doubt in your relationships? Confidence can be built with the right steps. I recorded you a video that will guide you through practical strategies to boost your confidence and enhance your relationships. Want the link?

02/07/2024

Ready to ditch the self-doubt and create SPARKLING relationships? Feeling confident can be a game-changer in love. I'm recording a video that unlocks practical tips to build unshakeable confidence and watch your connections THRIVE! Want me to let you know when it's ready?

01/07/2024

Do you ever feel like you're twisting yourself into a pretzel to meet your partner's desires?
Yeah, I’ve been there.
But what if the key to hotter connections wasn't about pleasing each other, but knowing ourselves?

Here's a spicy (but not X-***ed) tip: Take 10 minutes alone with a pen and paper.
Write down your deepest turn-ons, the ones you might be too shy to share (yet!).
No judgment, no performance anxiety, just pure exploration.

Notice how your body reacts as you write.
Where do you feel a little zing?
Don't worry about acting on it, just breathe it in and let yourself fully experience that desire.

The more you connect with your own sensuality, the more confident you become in expressing it with your partner.
It's not about seeking approval, it's about sharing your authentic self.

Imagine two partners who both know their own turn-ons.
Suddenly, the relationship becomes this amazing dance of mutual inspiration and deeper intimacy.

Bam!

Forget lukewarm connections, this is passionate alchemy!

Go listen to the newest episode of Nope! We’re Not Monogamous to hear some more juice.

28/06/2024

As a relationship coach, I often emphasize the power of authentic self-expression and vulnerability in fostering deeper intimacy. Many couples struggle with fully sharing their desires, fears, and emotions, leading to misunderstandings and unfulfilled needs.

One transformative tip I've learned is to practice relentless truth-telling with your partner. This doesn't mean blunt honesty without care, but rather a commitment to openly and vulnerably expressing your authentic experience, even when it's challenging.

Too often, we withhold parts of ourselves out of fear - fear of our partner's reaction, fear of rocking the boat, or fear of being truly seen. However, this withholding ultimately breeds resentment, disconnection, and a sense of not being fully known.

True intimacy arises when we courageously share our whole selves, not just the parts we think our partner wants to see. It's about saying, "This is me, with all my messy emotions, unfamiliar desires, and hidden vulnerabilities. I'm inviting you to know me deeply."

Of course, this level of transparency requires a foundation of trust, respect, and a willingness to hold space for each other's experiences without judgment. It's an ongoing practice of staying curious, compassionate, and open-hearted, even when confronted with parts of your partner that may initially trigger discomfort.

The rewards of relentless truth-telling are profound: a sense of being fully seen and accepted, deeper emotional attunement, and a richer, more fulfilling connection. It's a brave act of love, one that strengthens the fabric of your relationship and allows for ever-expanding levels of intimacy.

So, I invite you to explore how you might bring more radical honesty into your partnership. What parts of yourself have you been withholding? What fears or barriers are keeping you from fully expressing? The path to profound intimacy begins with the courage to be vulnerably, authentically you.

28/06/2024

Emotional Growth: Non-monogamy has been a journey of empathy, patience, and understanding. It's enriched our bond by nurturing deeper connections and honoring each other's needs and desires. 💕

28/06/2024

By promoting visibility, challenging stereotypes, and celebrating love in all its forms, we can pave the way for a world where non-monogamous families and relationships are not just accepted but celebrated. Save the date for the global Week of Visibility for Non-monogamy: July 15-21, 2024. Visit www.weekofvisibility.com to learn more and get involved!

27/06/2024

Non-monogamy isn’t about 'having it all' or avoiding commitment. It’s about cultivating meaningful, authentic relationships that resonate with everyone involved. Embrace the unique journey of love and connection. 💖✨

26/06/2024

Ever feel like monogamy just isn't clicking? You're not alone! More and more couples are exploring ethical non-monogamy (ENM), but it can be a confusing world to navigate.

Feeling curious but clueless?
In our latest podcast episode, relationship gurus Sasha and Moritz Kirkman Hood are here to guide you! They dish out real talk about the complexities of desire, jealousy, and communication in ENM relationships.

But it's not all butterflies and rainbows!
Sasha and Moritz also equip you with practical tools to build strong, authentic connections. They'll help you foster vulnerability, growth, and open communication – the keys to thriving in an ENM dynamic.

Ready to explore your desires with courage and compassion? Listen to the full episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you get your podcasts!

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26/06/2024

Communication is Everything. Open and honest dialogue forms our foundation. From discussing feelings to setting boundaries, we ensure we're always on the same page.

25/06/2024

Love, trust, and honesty pave the way to deeper connections and self-discovery.

Let's learn on this journey of growth and intimacy. 💖

24/06/2024

So, I just got back from the wildest (and most educational!) experience - S*x Geek Summer Camp! Talk about learning how to be a better s*x educator and relationship coach, right?

But seriously, it was amazing. And guess what else was amazing? Spending a magical weekend after that frolicking in the woods with some incredible friends and...well, let's just say it wasn't just campfire stories we were sharing. This whole experience just solidified something for me: embracing non-monogamy has been a total game-changer.

Now, before you get any ideas, it wasn't all sunshine and rainbows. When I first started exploring this path, I was a total mess of excitement and confusion. Society basically tells you love equals one person, forever. But my heart? It craved something bigger, something more expansive.

Here's the thing about non-monogamy: it's all about authentic connections. You get to be upfront and honest with everyone involved, which means way deeper connections with your partners. Plus, being able to talk openly about your needs without judgment? It's seriously liberating.

And let's talk self-esteem. Living authentically means embracing everything that makes you, you - desires, vulnerabilities, the whole package. As I've explored non-monogamy, I've seen a huge boost in my confidence. The love and acceptance I get from my partners? It's shown me just how awesome and unique I am. Forget fitting into some mold society made up, I'm thriving in the freedom to just be me.

But it's not just about romantic love, you know? The joy and fulfillment I get from my relationships spill over into everything! My happiness isn't tied down to just one person, which brings a whole new level of peace and stability. And sharing love and intimacy with multiple people? It's enriched my life in ways I never even thought possible.

Speaking of enrichment, S*x Geek Summer Camp and that magical weekend in the woods? They were amazing reminders of the incredible community I've built. Being around people who celebrate love in all its forms? It's seriously empowering. This community is a space where I can be my true self, learn from others, and keep growing.

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15/06/2024

Discover why traditional first date questions are becoming outdated in the modern dating world. From giving out numbers to texting, find out why phone conversations are uncomfortable and how texting has become the new norm. Join us as we discuss the changes in dating dynamics.

14/06/2024

Nervous about navigating communication on your first non-monogamous date? Here's a secret weapon: ask about their preferred communication style!

Think about it - do they light up when you text a funny meme, or would they rather have a deep conversation over a phone call? Understanding their communication sweet spot goes a long way in establishing a comfortable connection and avoiding misunderstandings.

But it's about more than just convenience. By asking about their communication needs, you're showing respect for their boundaries and setting the stage for trust and intimacy. Remember, communication isn't just about information exchange; it's about creating a safe space where both of you feel heard and valued.

Here's why prioritizing communication from the start matters:

Smoother Sailing: Knowing their preferred method avoids texting marathons when they crave a call, or lengthy voicemails when they'd prefer a quick text.

Building Trust: Asking about their needs shows respect and builds a foundation of trust, essential for any relationship, especially non-monogamous ones.

Deeper Connection: When communication flows effortlessly, you can delve into more meaningful conversations, fostering a stronger connection.

So, ditch the jitters and embrace this opportunity to learn! Ask about their communication style and watch your non-monogamous dating journey unfold with a newfound sense of ease and understanding.

Want to become a master of navigating conversations about ethical non-monogamy? Download your free copy of my ebook, Let's Talk About It: Your Guide to Ethically Non-monogamous Conversations! Link in Bio

13/06/2024

Do you feel like first dates are a minefield of awkward questions and uncomfortable silences? You're not alone! That's why on our latest episode, we're getting real about the world of non-monogamous first dates.

Danny and I share our own experiences, both hilarious and cringe-worthy, to help you navigate those exciting (and sometimes intimidating) first encounters. We'll toss around some stellar first date questions that go beyond the tired "What do you do for a living?"

Plus, we've got tips on handling rejection gracefully (because let's be real, it happens) and fostering open, honest communication from the get-go.

Wherever you are in your non-monogamous journey, this episode is packed with valuable insights to make those first dates easy, breezy.

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