29/11/2023
I want to thank all you guys for the prayers!
It’s been a tough couple of weeks, but with the grace of God, I’ve gotten through them. What made this particular break up extremely hard was because my ex was not just someone I had loved romantically, but he was also my best friend. So it was extremely painful to have lost that so suddenly, and in so awful a fashion.
But the thing is, we don’t own people. Sometimes people stay. Sometimes they don’t. But at the end of the day, they were never ours- they are God’s. We own nothing- people and relationships all belong to Our Lord, all for His glory. God lends these people not for us not *purely* for our own sake- because in this sense it’s not love anymore as we are using people for selfish reasons, and love is never selfish- but for us to love. If there is one thing I regret from my relationship with my ex, it’s that I didn’t work hard enough to bring him closer to Christ; I had gotten so complacent that I didn’t pray for his soul as much as I should have. And although it’s entirely over, I continue to pray for his soul daily, because I did love him once, and I think that ought to account for something.
I was listening to Fr Chad Ripperger give a talk about signal graces, and to be honest, this whole experience was a signal grace. When the break up first happened, I’m not going to lie- I was mad at Our Lord. It’s embarrassing to say this, and it really shows how much I still have to grow in my spiritual life. I was mad because I had always wanted to get married, and I was certain my ex was the one, and it seemed like some kind of horrible cosmic joke to put a man into my life who I thought would fulfill my dream of a family, only to show later he wasn’t the man I had thought him to be. Can you believe how evil I was to be mad at so good a God? But Our Lord was so gentle to me, and patient, letting me realize that He allowed all this for the good of my soul. I began to see that I had put the desire for marriage even before my love of Christ. And so I’m working on that right now, working on making God really the center of my life. It’s only when you love Christ entirely that you can truly love others. So when finally the right one comes along, he will not only love me as Christ loves his Church, but I will also love him with a love centered on Christ.
And yes, I know I promised more comics my last post, but the past weeks were really tough on me, tougher than I had anticipated haha but I’m much better now, and this time, I will really come up with a comic this week hahaha
Please continuing praying for me, and God bless!