Raise your hand if you’ve had those days when grief had you feeling like this 🙋🏾♀️Trust me I’ve been there! I would be sad for days, hide the pain, & create scenarios of my parents being there knowing they wouldn’t and it made me sadder. What I did to stop feeling this way was: ✨ Allowed myself to be sad and stop suppressing it ✨ Didn’t hide when I was sad and communicated that with people ✨ On those days, if I couldn’t do anything, I didn’t ✨ Went to therapy That last one is 🔑! My therapist helped me understand my “toolbox” and now on the days I’m able to work through these moments or as I’ve learned, allowed myself to actually feel. That’s why I partnered with @betterhelp to give you access to affordable, accessible therapy so on these days you can easily reach out to someone to talk to. And because of that, I asked them to give us 10% off our first month! All you have to do is go to Betterhelp.com/Thistooshallsuck and you’ll get 10% (no code needed) or click the link in my bio 💖Dont wait, you deserve it 💖..#betterhelp #betterhelppartner #griefandsadness
Y’all remember when we use to just lash out, shut down, or fully avoid our feelings instead of acknowledging we were grieving? What a time! But no seriously, my life and relationships have gotten SO much better now that I understand my triggers and can respond in a healthy manner instead of within my grief and trauma.What are some ways you used to respond before you acknowledged your grief? ...#traumaresponse #grief #grieving
It’s not even 9:00AM and your already acting wild? 😂Whew, I have been in situations with people that I have to get off the phone with them or go in another room because they say something that sends me over the edge. But thank goodness for @betterhelp because I can text my therapist and she gets right back to me so I’m able to move forward in my day without losing it on someone. And because I love y’all so much, I partnered with them to give us 10% off our first month! All you have to do is go to Thistooshallsuck.com/ttss and you’ll get 10% (no code needed) or click the link in my bio! Ps. Don’t let these folks bother you before you had your coffee, but if they do, text your @betterhelp therapist so you can have an amazing day you deserve! 💖..#betterhelp #betterhelppartner
Wouldn’t that be a blessing to just “get over” your grief? Well unfortunately we don’t live in the upside down and we don’t just not grieve and we DEFINITELY don’t get over it.Grief is a lifelong journey that you adjust to so please don’t let anyone make you feel like you are crazy for grieving however long you need to. You’re healing, you’re growing, & you’re adjusting. Don’t let anyone tell you any different 💖..#grief #gettingovergrief #upsidedownworld #strangerthings
I can write a book about people thinking you are grieving too long but I won’t today 😂Don’t let society make you feel like you are supposed to be a certain type of way in your grieving journey, there is no right or wrong way. You are doing the best you can my love 💖...#grief #griefresources
Does anyone feel like their grief gets really loud or annoying when you try to avoid it? 🙋🏾♀️Before therapy, I would try to avoid my grief (really cope with it) by any means necessary because I didn’t want to deal with it. But it was always there waiting for me when I got back lol How many times have you tried to suppress your grief instead of just facing it head on? Trust me, it’s going to hurt at first but you have to go through that hurt in order to get to your healing 💖..#grief #griefsupport #griefandmeditation
Drop a 🙋🏾♀️ if you’re ready to hang it up after having too much social interaction with people when you’ve been grieving hard coreThis was definitely your girl after my parents died. I would be super social and then gone for a week. That was my way of recovering from days of triggers and emotions. Thank goodness Therapy helped me in being able to communicate my feelings and gave me the tools to manage it instead of staying in bed for days. What do you do when you have these moments? Do you self isolate or use tools to manage? Let’s talk about it!
I’m not saying your lying, I’m just saying maybe we have different understandings of how grief works 🙃😂
But honestly, I will always say this. You don’t “get over” grief, you get through they heavy part of it but it’s a lifelong journey.
Because that loss, no matter how “big or small” made an impact to your life. For the good or bad. That’s a journey that you’ll be on forever.
So no judgement, I would just love to dive deeper into what you mean when you say that! 🤔
I am the QUEEN of falling asleep on you if I’m triggered. Be better than me 😂
All jokes aside, in these situations where you want to keep your commitment but also are feeling uncomfortable, try a few things:
🌟 Take a moment to step away if you need it to realign
🌟 Let your friend know that your are feeling triggered and ask them would it be ok if you left
🌟 Let your friend know that you are triggered so they can possibly help you through the situation (whether changing the conversation, etc)
Has this ever happened to you before? If so, how did you handle it?
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Can we talk about family functions and triggers or is it too early in the week? 🫠I have been to family functions and left early and even blocked family members on social media for doing things that trigger my grief and I’m not sorry about it. When it comes to knowing your grief triggers, you have to protect your peace and mental health at all costs and sometimes family can be the biggest triggers. If you’re at a family function and get triggered, here’s some helpful steps: 🌟 Have an exit plan ready at all times 🌟 Explain to them your triggers and ask them to respect it 🌟 Take a moment to get away even it is to sit in the bathroom and regroup Family can for sure mean well but protecting yourself in those moments when grief is loud is also really important 💖
Sometimes in our grieving journey we feel like we HAVE to do it alone when in all actuality, we just have to hold space to ALLOW others to help us heal. It’s much easier said then done but I talk about some simple ways to do that in the most recent episode discussing navigating the quiet moments in grief. Do you hold space for others in your grieving journey or have you been trying to go at it alone? ...#griefandloneliness #griefpodcast #griefprocess #grievingresources #griefresource #griefjourney #griefsucks
Roe v Wade and Grief
I’m finishing up answering emails and then I’m going to take it easy the rest of they day but I’m here for you. I got you and trust me we are all feeling the same 💖
Ps. If this doesn’t resonate with you, no need to stop & comment. Just be kind and have some compassion for those who it does. Any unkind comments will be removed because we show grace & compassion on this page 💖
Grief can be dangerous if you let it accumulate & don’t process it as it comes.
Over the past few years we’ve all been collectively grieving and it’s been constantly accumulating day after day, year after year and we HAVE to process it in order to move forward and live our fullest life.
Check out the full episode on collective, anticipatory, & cumulative grief available now on all listening platforms & YouTube.
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Collective Grief
“Collective grief happens when a community, society, village, or nation all experience extreme change or loss. Collective grief can manifest in the wake of major events such as: war, natural disasters, or others that result in mass casualties or widespread.”
I see you, I feel you, and you are not alone 💖
Quarterly estatw planning reminder
90% of people know the importance of having and end of life plan yet only 27% of people have done it! 🥴
Do you have an end of life plan? Did you at least have the conversation with the necessary parties?
We talk about the important of having that and how a death doula may be able to help in that in my most recent episode, check out the full episode on all listening platforms & YouTube!
How a Death Doula Can Help Your Grief
As exhausting as grief can be, it’s a journey that you HAVE to be active in.
On todays episode I had the pleasure of speaking with Elizabeth Karansky to discuss her journey on becoming a Death Doula and how they can help you in your grieving journey.
In this episode we discuss:
✨What is a Death Doula
✨ How a Death Doula Can Help You in Your Grieving Journey
✨Why you should embrace your grief
✨What it really means to have an end of life celebration
Check out this clip and listen to the full episode on all listening platforms, YouTube, or click the link in my bio.
Don’t you love that you can be “too emotional” in your grieving process but if you aren’t emotional enough you are brought into question. 🙃
Someone literally told me as I was planning my fathers funeral that if they didn’t know I loved my dad, they wouldn’t be able to tell because they hadn’t seen me cry yet. 😒 Meanwhile I have everyone from the funeral home to his old friends calling me asking about information 🙃
If you see someone who isn’t “emotional enough” for you in their grieving process, try these:
✨ Create a safe space for them where they are able to be emotionally vulnerable
✨Pitch where you see they need help instead of just asking where they need it (typically a grieving person honestly doesn’t know)
✨ Understand that everyone’s journey looks different so don’t judge or assume because they aren’t grieving in the manner you think they should
The scary truth about being with a narcissist
The scary truth about narcissistic is that many of them become violent and some even kill from what they call “narcissistic rage.”
A friend personally shared with me that he lost a friend to murder - suicide from her narcissistic boyfriend and that’s unfortunately not a rare occurrence.
Listen to this clip from Wrenetta Williams sharing her true thought of not making it through the night because she was finally able to get free and check out the full episode at the link in my bio, all listening platforms, & YouTube!
The shame of being with a narcissist
Anybody else been ashamed to say they were with a narcissist 🙋🏾♀️
You think there is no way you can end up with someone like that and Low and behold you end up with EXACTLY that person. 🤦🏾♀️
On todays episode, I had the honor of bringing on my good friend Wrenetta Williams to discuss her journey with surviving being with a narcissist.
In this episode we discuss:
✨How to recognize the signs of being with a narcissist
✨The grief of being with a narcissist
✨ How narcissist can manipulate & control you
✨How to get out of a dangerous situation with a narcissist
I highly suggest listening to this episode and sharing it with anyone you know you think may be in this situation, it could save their life 💖 Available at the link in my bio, all listening platforms, & YouTube.
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