Put yourself out there. Do it SCARED
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3 REAL-LIFE EXAMPLES: What does people pleasing look like?
People pleasing is such a habitual, natural behaviour for so many people, that itâs almost a subconscious practise â you may not even realise youâre doing it.
And if you donât realise youâre doing it but youâre starting to wonder if thatâs you, or you know itâs you, here are 3 REAL-LIFE EXAMPLES of people pleasing and what it looks like.
ACADEMIC ACHIEVEMENTS: were you the kid in school who got straight As? Maybe you worked your ass off to do the best you possibly could. This is a common situation where people pleasing arises. Living up to the expectations of parents, teachers, peers, and even those you would put on yourself. Trying to receive that external validation was your driving force in school and education.
INAUTHENTIC FRIENDSHIPS: do you find yourself drained after hanging out with certain friends? You might want to head home after just an hour or two. When building friendships as a people pleaser, you tend to go out of you way to meet the other personâs needs, without thinking about your own. You might be looking for cues to see how theyâre feeling and act in a way that you think you should. When you look at your friendships, there might be some you realise wouldnât have stood the test of time if you werenât a people pleaser.
LACK OF SELF: people pleasing usually means acting or behaving in ways there ARENâT aligned for you. The more you do this, the more you lose yourself as you step away from your likes, desires, and preferences and into the mirroring of someone elseâs. This looks like a lack of confidence or an inability to speak up about what you want, lack of self esteem and constantly questioning yourself.
People pleasing can show up in more ways that we realise: at work, at home, in our friendships, and even with ourselves.
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The impact of MOTIVATION vs. TAKING ACTION
On social media you scroll past a lot of posts talking about loving yourself and how it helps.
But do you do it?
If youâre one of those people who reads something, feels inspired, and then scrolls to the next post, you are MOST people.
Everyone, including myself, has done this. BUT why are we so addicted to the IDEA of loving ourselves, living an amazing + dreamy life, and becoming the best versions of ourselvesâŠ
You simply let it stay that way: an IDEA.
If you want this to be your reality, if you want to be accepting of yourself, if you want to be able to set boundaries for yourself (and stick to them!), if you want to feel confident in making the right decisions, you need to start taking ACTION.
Iâm not saying everything you see a motivational post on instagram you need to put your phone down and do what it says, nor do I believe you should take on every piece of advice you find on social mediaâŠ
But I DO believe you should understand what matters most to you, and take action based on your values.
This could look like wanting to spend more time on a passion project, so making sure you wake up half an hour earlier to get yourself more time before work.
This could look like wanting to be able to focus more in the afternoon, so taking yourself on a 20 minute walk on your lunch break.
Whatever this looks like for you, create a small, actionable goals around it. And stick to it. Make it a habit.
Thatâs real self love.
And that builds your bank of evidence that YOU show up for yourself which, in turn, majorly increases your self worth, confidence, and self esteem.
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The cost of not learning to love yourself.
Self love is about more than showering yourself with gifts, praise, and admiration. That can be a part of it. But to its core, itâs about acceptance.
Learning to accept who you are and where youâre at is arguably the most important lesson of all.
No matter what you go through in life, YOU will always be with you.
Becoming your ally, rather than your enemy; your biggest cheerleader over your loudest critic, is the most important shift to make.
And youâre human. You make mistakes, youâre not always going to act or behave in a way youâre most proud of. Maybe youâll wish you went about it differently. But donât beat yourself up. Take a moment to reflect on the situation. Understand why you went about it in that way. Note how you want to show up going forward.
â My biggest reminder, whether itâs physical, mindset, action, behaviour, a social situation, remember this: you are in control of you. You can control what you do and say, how you act, how you show up, and how you decide to use this moment, right now.
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Doing the work takes MUCH less energy than avoiding the work.
How much time are you spending thinking
âIâm not good enoughâ
âWhat if I mess up?â
âIâm not capable of thatâ
âTheyâre just so much better at it than I amâ
âWhat if I made the wrong decision?â
If youâre a fellow overthinker, overachiever, or people pleaser, i know youâre relating.
All of this energy spent working against yourself; pushing yourself further from the desired outcome.
You build up all these barriers + obstacles for you to have to clamber over when you get the motivation or a spark of inspiration.
STOP BEING YOUR OWN WORST ENEMY.
I know itâs difficult. I know it doesnât come naturally. But hereâs what I want you to doâŠ
Start RECOGNISING those thoughts, everytime you have them.
And when you hear yourself working against yourself, start to pick the thought apart, reframe it, and pose a more optimistic question to yourself, or even positively reaffirm yourself.
I.e. âI AM good enoughâ
âWhat if I do mess up, and what if I learn from it?â
âI am capable of anything I put effort intoâ
âIf they can do it, I can do itâ
âHow will I know if I donât try?â
This way youâre becoming your NUMBER 1 CHEERLEADER + once you start advocating FOR you, it will become a heck of a ton easier to start doing the thing!
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3 misconceptions about success + careersâŠ
Thereâs so. MUCH. pressure on your success and your career, where in reality, these really donât need to be linked at all.
Itâs like a venn diagram, success can overlap with career, and some people sit in that overlap, but for others, theyâre completely separate.
Here are 3 common thoughts around success + careers that donât need to be true for you, if theyâre simply not
1ïžâŁâSuccess is always rooted in your careerâ â the whole âstudy, figure out what you want to do in life, start your career, work your way up the ladderâ thing sounds all great and planned out, but thatâs a) not always how it goes and b) not what success may look like for you. Success can be starting a family, success can be travelling to a new country every 3 months, success can even be maintaining your morning and evening routines.
2ïžâŁâThe promotion is the end goalâ â as with any goal, once you reach it, it can feel slightly anticlimatic. Once you get that promotion, something youâve always worked towards + dreamed about, you may be left thinking ânow what?â. There is no end goal, not really. Learning and continuing to grow in all areas of life are so important to find your fulfillment OVERALL, and not just in your career.
3ïžâŁâYou canât change your mindâ â maybe youâve reached your career goal, and itâs not all it cracked up to be. Or perhaps youâre still working on it and starting to think itâs not for you, and something else is. Donât fall victim to the sunk cost fallacy. If this career isnât for you anymore, and you want to try something else, NO MATTER how much you have invested into it or worked on it, DO IT. It is all EXPERIENCE, and it wasnât a waste of time.
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A MESSAGE FOR ALL OVERACHIEVERSđđ»
You wonât get it all done, all the time, and thatâs okay.
Are you the kind of person who wants to wake up at 5am, meditate, go to that gym class, tick 20 things off your to-do list at work, get your food shop done after work, hang out with friends, cook dinner from scratch, organise your pantry, and have a 35-step skincare routine all in a days work?
And then set your expectations this high everyday?đ
I know you want to be on top of every part of your life all at once, but itâs okay if you donât, in fact itâs NORMAL.
Some seasons of life will be career focused, some will be more focused on your passions. Some youâll be hanging in the same 2 places, others youâll be travelling the world or doing your THINGâïž
Yes, you want a bit of everything, and thatâs the beauty of work life freedom. But the so called âwork life balanceâ implies everyday needs to be perfectly balanced between ALL THE THINGS.
But it doesnât. It canât always be. Itâs not SUSTAINABLE.
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Hereâs a sustainable change you can make:
Set 3 non-negotiables across all aspects of your life, for the day. That way youâre prioritising the activities (whether career, self love, relationships, travel, etc) that you want to focus on just for that day. And itâs okay if tomorrow looks a lot different. Thatâs freedomđ«
Letâs rewrite the narrative and encourage greater work life freedom. Balance in a way that works for YOU, not what you think it SHOULD look like.
Save this to remind you!đ€đ±
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REMINDER: you can have passions outside of your career
You get told your purpose should be your career
You get told your purpose should be your passions
But what if those are different?
Thatâs okay!
Some people get paid for doing what they love, some people get paid to support a life they love - one isnât better than the other, one isnât more purposeful than another.
Remember that no matter how much you love or donât love your career, there will ALWAYS be a part that someone DOESNâT like about their work. Thatâs normal.
Your career, your work, your job, should support the lifestyle YOU desire.
The point of working, whether purposeful or not, is to allow you to live the life you truly want.
So, whether you want freedom to travel, you want to dedicate your life to a meaningful cause, or you want the time to spend with your loved ones, your career should support that.
You can love to crochet, to paint, to write, to dance, and not get paid for it, or get paid for it.
The point is that youâre able to create a life that prioritises your values and passions, whether thatâs directly or indirectly involved in your career.
Donât put all this pressure on making your passion your career, if your career supports your passions and youâre okay with that. Youâre allowed to be okay with that.
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If you took a peek in my journal right nowâŠ
Youâd see JUST how much more positively I speak about myself compared to a year agođ
My only regret? That I didnât try to help myself or seek help sooner.
I spent YEARS struggling on my own before I started journaling and hired a coach.
I was just about staying afloat, trying to keep my head above waterđ„Č
I was overloaded with projects + doing favours for others that I couldnât sleep through the night.
I felt like my boundaries with any sort of routine I had for myself were being pulled from beneath međ„ș
I was constantly thinking about everyone else, but myself.
I had anxiety about not perfecting a particular post or project at work.
I swore that I would slow down and take more time off (SPOILER ALERT: she did not.)đđđ
And then I realised, if I were to have figured it out on my own, I would have by now.
đđ»Since journaling and hiring MULTIPLE coaches, I have prioritised self care, regained energy for every aspect of my life, and created peace in my days.
Because I rebuilt my foundations, understood what was holding me back, and took action (IMPERFECT action) on my goals + the outcomes Iâve always wantedâĄïžđ±
It comes down to this: if you want to have something youâve never had, youâve got to do something youâve never done.
Nothing changes IF NOTHING CHANGES.
Hereâs your chance đREBUILD + SOAR is open for enrolment, and when you apply this week, you get this price locked in forever (yes, it will go up in price THIS YEAR). Oh, and itâs tried and tested, to get you the life you REALLY want and break free from the OVERWHELM SO. MUCH. QUICKER.
If youâre a people pleaser battling constant stress and overload from ALLL the directions, this is your chance to break that cycle.
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Apply now through the link in my bio, and lock in your set coaching price for life, and letâs do this!
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3 TIPS TO achieve your goals without worrying about other peopleâs opinionsđđ»ââïž
Iâd like for everyone reading this to feel confident in striving for their goals regardless of what anyone says about it, but we can work towards thatđ
As a recovering people pleaser, validation seeker, overachiever, Iâve pushed down my fair share of goals and dreams for what I âshouldâ do, or because what IF so and so says X, or they Y of meâŠ
đ€Quite frankly this has totally limited my potential in the past, squashed my ambition, and made me feel like my dreams werenât possible for me.
That is NOT TRUEđ
And here are my 3 tips for you to keep moving forward with what your heart desires, no matter what.
đ€©Remind yourself of your value
If someone else can achieve something, you CAN too. Even if youâve not seen someone like you achieve it, why canât you be the first? You TOTALLY can. It might take hard work, dedication + consistency, yes, but that pays off. Remind yourself that you are WORTHY of achieving those dreams in your soul, working towards goals for YOURSELF, and making it all happen for you. Your possibilities in life are endless and abundant.
đ€©Focus on whatâs in your control
Everyone has an opinion. Whether itâs good or bad, you hear about it or you overthink it, theyâre there. And thatâs okay. You canât do anything about them. You can live your life trying to change them, or you can accept them for what they are, and know that they arenât entirely in your control. But taking steps towards the dreams you have IS in your control.
đ€©Live for yourself
This one gets a bit deep, but I want to make the point: you have one life. Are you going to spend it living for someone elseâs dream, or for yours? It can be all too easy to get caught up in comparison, in societal expectations, in the shoulds and what ifs, but none of these are important. None of these will lift you up. None of these will fulfil you. Donât do you
HEREâS HOWđŻ
To fully take hold of your desires, to stop pushing them down and instead embrace them, you must do this one thingâŠ
âĄïžTAKE A CHANCE ON YOURSELFâŹ
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I know it sounds daunting, I know it sounds overwhelming, but you CAN do thisđȘđ»
Take it from somebody who followed the path society said I âshouldâ and felt miserable. Somebody who climbed the ladder even when she didnât truly want to. Somebody who listened to all of the opinions - even those from people I hardly knew.
But after none of that working out, none of that making me feel good, none of that feeling right for me at ALL.
I took a chance on myself.
I hired a coach, I invested in myself + my goals, I showed up for myself - consistently, everyday. I worked out what I wanted, I put words to what I truly value, I found my purpose.
I took risks, I failed, I learned, I grew, I accomplishedđ„đ
Itâs not about getting it right first time, itâs about trying and believing in yourself that youâre going to get there.
But if you donât yet have that belief in yourself, let me be the person who believes in you, until you do (because you will!).
Working with coaches and mentors has taken me from skeptical, unsure, and riddled with self-doubt, to a place of harmony, going all-in on my goals, and filled with confidence in myself.
I never thought Iâd get here, but I did. Because I had someone who believed in me, until I believed in me.
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HEREâS THE DEALâŹïž
There are only some things you can control, and others you cannot.
So focusing on those that you canât control may lead you to overthink, to ruminate, to cause turmoil in your mind, but with no positive outcome.
If they evoke very strong emotions for you, itâs super important for you to process and sit with them to move through these feelings (you canât go over or under or aroundâŠ)đł
These 3 methods will refocus your mind, ground you, and bring you back to centre, to see what IS in your control, and what YOU can do about it.
Write it down
đ„Braindump everything that IS within your control - your outlook, where you spend your energy, how you use your time, how you fuel your body, how you move your body, which projects you work on, etc etc. This will not only help to provide some perspective, but also give you an agenda to switch your focus to.
Take action
đ„Start taking small steps and making progress on your goals, and the items written on your list. Once you start showing up for yourself and building evidence for the person you want to become, the magnitude of everything outside of your control becomes smaller, and eventually diminishes completely.
Work on your mindset
đ„Showing up and taking action is going to help in making huge strides towards how you view yourself. The more you do this, the easier that telling yourself youâre proud of yourself, that youâve done a good job, and complimenting yourself will become. Be your greatest cheerleader and stay focused on where youâre going.
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Mind gardening đ±đȘŽđș
This concept is something I came across recently and it really resonated with me. You get to choose which thoughts you allow to grow, allow to evolve, allow to take over your entire mind garden.
Overthinking, ruminating on thoughts going round and round in your mind is easier said than done to stop doing. But if you pay attention, become more aware of your thoughts, practise mindfulness and hone in on the things youâre telling yourself: you can change the narrative.
You get to decide your story. đ
You can put your all into your career, but if itâs at the detriment of your health, itâs not worth any raise, praise, or title.
I learnt this the hard way.
Iâve always been an overachiever. Anything I did achieve was never enough. I grew up in an environment in school where more was better. So I did more.
Throughout my education and my journey into the real world, I kept giving more, doing more, being âmore availableâ when I really and truly wasnât. And couldnât give ANY more, do ANY more.
I was going above and beyond to the point where I was, to put it purely and simply, living to work. I was relentless, I was drained, I was lost.
That wasnât the life I wanted. I had big dreams: to travel regularly, exploring new cities, meeting new people, spending quality time with those I loved â freedom.
Something about being at your lowest, depleted, exhausted, and weak, thereâs a spurt of energy. It spurred me on to get a coach, to figure it out: how to WORK to LIVE, and not the other way around.
Since then, Iâve opened my mind to possibilities that once, I would have never considered for myself, because I âhad to keep climbing the ladderâ, Iâve expanded my network professionally, and personally, Iâve built solid foundations for myself to work through the overwhelm and out to the other side where Iâm able to bring my dreams to life without burning out!
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Weâre not holding back—ïž
Weâre done with the excuses, the what ifs, and the âIâll start whenââs
The reason youâre feeling exhausted, depleted, drained + utterly overwhelmed is because youâre putting all of your efforts into the wrong places.
You want a new reality, youâve got big visions for yourself, but they stay a vision, because you donât have the capacity to make them real.
So somethingâs gotta GIVE.
And youâve got to put yourself first. Youâve got to remove the areas of your life (your job, that friend, a relationship) thatâs holding back from your dream career, meeting people you vibe with, or visiting that exciting city!
Making the change may not be easy, it may not be a walk in the park, but it WILL be worthwhile to get you the life that FULFILS you. The life you DESIRE.
What change will you be making? Let me know in the comments đ
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Letâs talk guilt + resting đđ»đđ»đđ»
If youâre reading this Iâm guessing your life is made up of a whole lot of working, hustling, socialising, building, growing⊠but not a whole lot of restingđŹ
And itâs easy enough to get like that, especially if youâre an overachiever or people pleaser who doesnât want to let anyone down, puts a lot of pressure on yourself, and even expects the world of yourself at all times.
Iâm here to tell you itâs okay if things arenât okay all of the time.
You can go in with good intentions for the day, and sometimes itâll go to plan, other times maybe not.
Thatâs usually down to:
đđ» how ambitiously youâve scheduled your time
đđ» how much rest youâve scheduled in
Iâm a big advocate for time blocking, if youâre smart about it.
If you schedule in ENOUGH rest, your plan will become so much more realistic and youâll probably achieve it.
From one overachiever to another, my BIGGEST tip is to listen to your body cues.
If youâre lacking motivation or youâre just not feeling it, okay, maybe you need to just take action and get that task ticked off your list.
If youâre lacking focus and youâre trying to work endlessly, but youâre not getting anywhere, take some time out. Have a break, have a rest, take the rest of the day off if you need.
You are FAR more likely to get things done after rest than by powering through and going against your body.
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The SECRET to finding your purposeđ
Recovering from burnout and finding your purpose sound great, right?
Itâs the best feeling Iâve ever had - i wouldnât be standing here as a Burnout + Purpose coach otherwise.
But that doesnât mean itâs not hard work. It requires LOTS of self growth.
If I were talking to my past self a year ago, Iâd sayâŠ
You can:
đ§ listen to all the personal development podcasts
đ read all the self help books
đ€łđ» follow all the instagram coaches and gurus
đ± watch all the motivational tiktoks
But until you ACTION what youâre listening to byâŠ
âïž forming healthy habits
âïž practising mindfulness
âïž taking yourself out of your comfort zone
âïž working through your mindset blocks
âïž believing in yourself WHOLEHEARTEDLY
Youâll find it hard to get the results youâre looking for.
You can be inspired sure, but the difference is in BECOMING the inspirationđ
Thatâs EXACTLY what I teach in my REBUILD + SOAR coaching program.
Once you have the right mindset, itâs like looking at life through a totally different lens; a new perspective.
Youâll realise JUST HOW capable you are, plus youâll be surprised at how many others notice the change in you.
These spots are limited, so to get your hands on one, DM me âREADYâ and Iâll add you to the waitlist
(AND youâll get your hands on my special offer price for Black Friday toođđđ»)
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âI donât even know who I am anymoreâ
Something Iâve heard all too often from clients, friends, and past me.
Ah, growing up.
For some reason, the older we get, the more we seem to lose ourselves.
The further away we get from what we really want and have always loved, since childhood, as we try to appease society, family and internal pressures weâve developed over time.
Growing up and becoming an adult is a fact of life that we have zero control over.
But what we DO have control over, however, is our mindset.
Who said you had to have that career, you need to study that degree, you musnât let x see how you really feel.
I know itâs not just me thatâs had enough.
As a grammar school girlie, who followed the Biochem degree to unfulfilling post-grad 9-5 pipeline, I never even considered taking the opportunity to reflect on what I wanted in life.
That didnât seem like a reality I could live. It didnât match up with the life I was told would make me happy, successful, richâŠ
But I did what was expected of me⊠and I wasnât any of those things.
So what did I want in life?
đžFinancial freedom
đTo explore the world
đTo make a difference to the lives of others
Iâd lost sight of my true values, my big dreams in life ⊠because it felt UNREALISTIC.
Well, hell no to that mindset.
I decided that was the life I wanted, and now thatâs the life Iâm living.
I put the work in every single day to make the life I want NOW.
Iâve never felt more myself, as opposed to the detached, lost people-pleaser I used to be.
If this is the first time youâve come across me, hi! Iâd love you right now, to take a step back from whatever youâre doing and imagine your dream life. Are you working towards it? Are you taking steps in the right direction? Or are you moving away from it?
If you do one thing after reading this, I urge you to do one small thing every single day, that brings you closer to becoming the person you want to become.
Be
Showing up for yourself is the most important thing you can do for yourself. Even if its small, even when youre not feeling it. Do something for you. #Meme #capcut #priortiseyourself #prioritiseyourhealth #mentalhealth #putyourselffirst #prioritiseyou #settingboundaries #mindset #personaldevelopment #findingyourself #selfcare #selflove #mindsetmotivation #mindsetcoach #mindsetshift #personalgrowth
