Mama Rece

23/10/2021

I always believe in expressing your love for your loved ones everyday. Kaya palagi kong pinaparamdam sa baby ko ang pagmamahal. Me and my daughter’s love language are hugs and lots and lots of kisses. Whole day hanap hanap ang yakap ni Baby.

Pero teka lang?! Pano kung amoy kulob ang damit ni baby?

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01/09/2021

9 months in my womb.

Tapos carbon copy ng Tatay. Bakit naman ganun? Mga inay ganito din ba ang hinanakit ninyo?
Left: Rece Right: Papa

28/08/2021

A MOTHERS CRY : Parenting Our Inner Child

Have you ever questioned yourself if you could be a good parent? Anxious that you would hurt them just like how you lived through pain and trauma in your childhood? Overwhelmed with the new life completely dependent on you because you can barely get through with your own life?

Mommy, you are not alone. It may not be completely ideal to nurture a child when you are still healing but it is possible. We can choose a different path and end the cycle of pain and trauma.

Parenting our inner child is a conscious effort to understand, love, care for our self and recognize what we can cut off in our life. By acknowledging our pain and fear, we can start reparenting that part of our self that needed compassion. We can be the person that we needed in those trying time. Hug ourself. Tell ourselves everything is going to be alright. Cry. Set boundaries. Express our thoughts. Learn to say no. And a lot of other things we have kept ourselves in because we used to live in fear.

In the process of reparenting our inner child. We are also slowly building ourself to be a better parent for the child in front of us. In our healing we start to recognise the things that was shut out, neglected, and forced to us by adults. Then make a decision to let go of these behaviours & practices.

It is not shameful to start from the scratch. Growing our inner child together with our child. Admitting mistakes along the way. Apologizing for our shortcomings. Learning to let go of control. To respond with empathy.

To be our own safe space.

24/08/2021

SPILL : OPPORTUNITY TO STRUGGLE AND MAKE MISTAKES

My daughter is 1 and a half years old. According to her pedia, she have an advanced motor skills compared to other kids of her age. My secret 🤫🤫. I let her make mistakes so she could learn from them. I often get criticized by this parenting style and I'll probably raise an eyebrow to my readers.

You see, I see my role as a parent to support, guide and to ensure her safety. She is not an extension of myself. She will have her own values, beliefs and how she see the world. Naturally, in order for her to survive and become a successful adult. She needs to face the truth that we all make mistakes. We can improve to be better but we will never be perfect. I see a lot of people my age suffer emotionally and mentally from being a perfectionist. What they all share in common is that they were scolded and ridiculed for making simple mistakes while they were growing up.

What other problems did I see adult struggle with? Getting stuck in a difficult situation that is easy to solve but they just don't have the confidence to face it. If you grow up in an environment that punishes you for making mistakes. What are the chances of growing up with a low-self esteem and distorted self-concept? 🤷 I know it doesn't apply to everyone but what are the chances?

When I see my daughter crying whenever she's stuck in a place where she managed to put herself into. I check if she's safe but I don't rush into getting her out of that spot. My reason is simple, I want her to manage her own emotions and build her skill to solve problems on her own. So far, she's doing good. She's smart and confident and I hope she stays that way as she grow older.

I know it's not convenient whenever they make a mess. I know it's too hard to resist helping them but problems exist in our day to day life. Fortunately we can either solve them or accept failure/defeat. Our children will face this world on their own and we are doing them a disservice by not giving them the opportunity to fail. They need to develop their resilience, critical-thinking, and judgement to become a capable and successful adult.

12/08/2021