08/03/2022
Manoj is our mother's only brother. I, Okha, recently felt called to visit him to begin a dialogue of forgiveness. My siblings were so proud of me. It ended with Manoj laughing & yelling at me and I was not able to speak. Now, I will speak through words on a post w support from my siblings.
Manoj, I feel my mom’s presence is all around me, I think because I was meant to go with her to pick up my sister (the day she was taken away from us). She has a strong will to protect me and I feel it. In this moment, she protected me from yelling back and kept me calm. I know she is utterly disappointed in her siblings. The most important thing to her was me, my sister, and brother -hands down and she was vocal about that as she was many things. In this instance, she would have been very vocal as to how to treat me and Manoj, you and I both know that is not how she would want you to have addressed me.
Do we (Div, K, and me) blame you? We think you are naive and got convinced of things that aren’t factual. For sometime to start the first conversation we ever had off to be “Don’t you dare blame me” means you probably blame yourself. You did have a hand in this as you had nothing bad to say about my dad after this happened to my mom, it was only now that you made all these false claims. Also, your dad had a $150K policy on my mom and had been arrested in Africa for robbing trains. He was known as a shrewd corrupt businessman and even you were scared sh*tless of him, with all the threatening calls to him about paying up and that and this would happen to another daughter, you would never think to look into him and his dealings, I'm sure out of fear.
I came with the intention of forgiveness and to start dialogue.
My mom is disappointed in you. You had a hand in mentally hurting her children and taking away the kindest man they know away from them and for that I think you do blame yourself cause deep down you know the truth.
With Forgiveness and Strength,
Divya, Kartik, Okha