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It’s World Su***de Prevention Day. A day that reminds us we MUST be having these hard conversations online, at home, in ...
10/09/2024

It’s World Su***de Prevention Day. A day that reminds us we MUST be having these hard conversations online, at home, in our workplaces and in PERSON.

If you are someone affected by or thinking about su***de, please remember:

You are seen.
You are loved.
You are not alone.

There is hope.
There is help.

There’s so many people around us struggling in silence. I was one of them. I know what it feels like to feel hopeless and want to disappear. I’m so grateful I reached out and told someone.
I’m so grateful I’m still here. If you are struggling with suicidal thoughts, please hold on. Seek help right away.

The world needs you.
Your story is not over yet.

Holding onto hope,
Shaley

***deprevention ***deawarenessmonth

It’s a good day today! Birthdays always lift my spirits. We may have botched your cake and forgot to write in your card ...
10/09/2024

It’s a good day today! Birthdays always lift my spirits. We may have botched your cake and forgot to write in your card but we did it all with love! 🤣

Happy Birthday to my favourite guy ! Looking forward to doing life with you for many more messy & beautiful years! You probs won’t go on Insta & read this so I’ll tell you all the thoughtful things IRL. 😆😂❤️

04/09/2024
It’s su***de awareness month. Sending love to those who:❤️ have felt suicidal ❤️ attempted su***de❤️ currently feel suic...
01/09/2024

It’s su***de awareness month.

Sending love to those who:
❤️ have felt suicidal
❤️ attempted su***de
❤️ currently feel suicidal
❤️ survived a su***de attempt
❤️ love someone who is suicidal
❤️ lost someone to su***de
❤️ feels alone

Use link for worldwide Su***de Hotlines:
www.su***de.org/international-su***de-hotlines.html

28/08/2024
What would you add to this Dos or DONTs list? I’d love to hear.Repost •  ⬇️“As an anxiety therapist, I see so many clien...
28/08/2024

What would you add to this Dos or DONTs list? I’d love to hear.

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“As an anxiety therapist, I see so many clients engaging in behaviors, beliefs, & ways of coping that actually make anxiety worse.
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Here’s my tried & true list of anxiety DOs & DON’Ts
DO:
-Identify the triggering situation or thought
-Practice exposing yourself to anxiety-provoking situations
-Feel the feeling & let it pass
-Breathe & practice mindfulness
-Thank the anxiety for trying to keep you safe
-Make decisions based on your values
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DON’Ts
-Suppress anxious thoughts
-Avoid anxiety-provoking situations
-Ignore the feeling & try to get rid of it
-Constantly jump ahead to the future
-Judge yourself for feeling anxious
-Make decisions based on anxiety”
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Save this one to refer back to. Follow for more anxiety & mindfulness content.

Somedays are for doing my own work. I dig deep and use all my coping skills to get through. Somedays I need others to re...
23/08/2024

Somedays are for doing my own work. I dig deep and use all my coping skills to get through.
Somedays I need others to remind me my brain is lying to me. I need to keep going and trust life is worth living,

We’ve been on this hard,  messy, beautiful and delightful journey together for 23 years today  We have been through so m...
18/08/2024

We’ve been on this hard, messy, beautiful and delightful journey together for 23 years today

We have been through so many ups and downs and twists and turns. I’m so glad we still choose each other.

PS I love you to the stars & back.
PPS You said stars are farther away than the moon. I believe you ‘cause you are a scientist. 😆

What’s something you are proud of right now? Big or small, I’d love to hear your ‘Wednesday Win’ below 👇🏼 We made it to ...
14/08/2024

What’s something you are proud of right now? Big or small, I’d love to hear your ‘Wednesday Win’ below 👇🏼
We made it to Wednesday! I know I need to remind myself of my wins. I get way to focused on the hard heavy things in my life and the world around me. Life is so hard and it’s easy to beat ourselves up for all the things we think we are failing at. It is even harder for those of us that have brain disorders. Our thoughts can lie to us or focus on all the mistakes we’ve made. Tell us we are not alone with the 3am feelings of worry or embarrassment over things that happened 10 years ago? 😩
I am here to remind you that you are doing the best you can with what you have. I also believe in forever chances so it is never to late to get help. It’s never to late to start again. Let’s share and celebrate all our wins together!
I’ll be behind the screen yelling into my megaphone 📣 waving my pompoms for each and every one of you.

Stay Messy & Beautiful,
Shaley xx



 

Anyone else have travel anxiety? Tell me I’m not alone below. ⬇️ I’m feeling both/ and as we head out for our first trip...
06/08/2024

Anyone else have travel anxiety?
Tell me I’m not alone below. ⬇️

I’m feeling both/ and as we head out for our first trip of the summer.

I’m grateful to recharge in nature and super anxious. We are on the road and I can feel my shoulders relaxing and I can breathe a little easier. I’m cranking the tunes and getting out the snacks and distracting to combat the travel anxiety. I’m focusing on breathing deep and letting the thoughts of all that could go wrong float by.

We have someone taking care of the house and hubs is good at driving with our trailer! I remind myself of that because I don’t want my disorder steal my holiday joy. I’ve learned that accepting the both/and helps me move forward and focus on the fun.

Bring on the swimming and s’mores!

Thinking about all those with anxiety and hoping you can find moments of peace and calm today (and if not that’s ok). It’s ok to not be okay.
Love & calm hugs,
Shaley

P.S. I’ll be checking in if there’s service 🤗❤️

***Image credit- unknown- if you know please let me know so I can tag right away.

 

Do you feel overwhelmed about travelling/vacations? Even though you want to go and are equally excited to go? Ya, me too...
05/08/2024

Do you feel overwhelmed about travelling/vacations? Even though you want to go and are equally excited to go? Ya, me too.

I’m overwhelmed. I’m struggling to make decisions that have come easily in the past. I’m then judging myself & feeling embarrassed that I’m making everything a big deal. Food, packing & even picking books & games to bring was almost bringing me to tears. What the heck? Bipolar rears its anxious head even in exciting times. I’m second guessing everything. It’s so frustrating & exhausting.

When my daily rhythms and my emotions are feeling out of my control, I try to focus on one step at a time. I chunk the activities & I over pack. WHO FREAKING CARES? It makes me feeling in control to have ALL my things abd choices. There is room in our car & trailer. I’m pushing back in the embarrassment of overthinking & overpacking.

I’m focussing on what I CAN control. I can control what I bring. I bought myself a Barbie puzzle as a reward for planning, buying all the food & extra supplies. Thinking about doing a bright pink puzzle brings me joy!

If you are feeling the same, I invite you to take a few deep breaths with my & write down the things you can control. Do those things. Maybe buy a ridiculously bright coloured puzzle to do. It might help 🤷‍♀️😆

Love you all,
Shaley xo

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Note to self 🌷📝

Have you heard of or tried DBT? I’d love to hear below ⬇️ I’m so excited! NEW EPISODE DROPS TOMORROW!!!!We are diving in...
04/08/2024

Have you heard of or tried DBT? I’d love to hear below ⬇️

I’m so excited! NEW EPISODE DROPS TOMORROW!!!!

We are diving into DBT (dialectical behavior therapy) with Diana Partington. I cannot wait for you to meet and learn from her & her book ‘ DBT for Life- Skills that Transform the Way You Live’. I am convinced that these skills are helping manage the big feelings and mood changes I experience living with bipolar 2 disorder. I’m looking forward to hearing what you think!

FOLLOW the podcast wherever you listen or check back for links TOMORROW.

P.S. There will be discount codes further book & for Diana’s different DBT workshops!!

Meet Diana:
Diana Partington is a licensed professional counselor and author of DBT for Life: Skills to transform the way you live. She offers online DBT skills classes, workshops, and training for clients and clinicians across North America. She wrote her master’s thesis at Vanderbilt on effectively teaching DBT skills for different learning styles. Passionate about making DBT skills accessible to everyone, Diana also speaks at major conferences and provides bespoke training for mental health professionals. Her website, DBTforLife.com (https://dbtforlife.com/talking-and-training/www.DBTforLife.com), is a hub of information about Dialectical Behavior Therapy, her educational offerings,
her book, and her podcast
Suffering Optional: DBT and the Dharma. You can also connect with Diana

What do you need MOST today? Share below & take it, it’s yours. 🤍Today I need connection! I am experiencing lots of anxi...
03/08/2024

What do you need MOST today?

Share below & take it, it’s yours. 🤍

Today I need connection! I am experiencing lots of anxiety today and so I’m looking for more connection and reassurance that there are good things to look forward to. Things like catching up with one of my dearest friends that has known me for over 29 years! She’s seen me in all my phases. Love you to bits

I am also giving & taking big virtual calm hugs!

Shaley xo

Your presence matters to me. Knowing I’m not navigating this life with bipolar disorder alone makes me stronger.Read the...
28/07/2024

Your presence matters to me. Knowing I’m not navigating this life with bipolar disorder alone makes me stronger.

Read these gorgeous words below.
My story isn’t over yet. Our stories aren’t over yet!
🤍 Shaley xo
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“We need you here.
We need your presence,
you laughter,
the little facts you remember
that don’t seem to matter,
your favorite song,
movie quotes,
your puns,
inside jokes,
screenshots of poems
and anecdotes,
your texts,
and handwritten notes,
we need you here.

Your photographs of flowers,
taken at golden hour,
we need you,
we need you,
and all of the things
you don’t think anyone
is noticing.

We need your strength
and your tenderness
that comes from everything
you have been through,
even if no one tells you this today:
I just hope you we need you.
Because when we are all
on this journey
traveling through time
our stories became a part
of one another’s survival guide,
and it is here you will find
through every trouble
that has found you
there is always someone else
who will tell you
“I have felt that too.” And in that moment
she now knows
she has never been alone
and she begins to believe
after everything,
there is hope
for belonging.

And for every love letter
that she never received
and for the story of her pain
that was never believed,
your story can remind her
she is loved and she is seen
and she is still on a journey
where she was meant to be.

Your story of resilience
audacious hope
and bold unbridled faith
to carry on with courage
yet another day
is the kind of story
that goes a very long way,
from the safe place
with friends where you finally
feel heard
to the moments
where you are unsure
why you were invited
and you never uttered a word,
no matter what anyone has told you
no matter the things you fear:
breathe deep and trust:
we need you here.
We need you here.”

MHN

Posted  • .is.bipolar What’s something you are proud of right now? Big or small, I’d love to hear your ‘Wednesday Win’ b...
24/07/2024

Posted • .is.bipolar What’s something you are proud of right now? Big or small, I’d love to hear your ‘Wednesday Win’ below 👇🏼
We made it to Wednesday! I know I need to remind myself of my wins. I get way to focused on the hard heavy things in my life and the world around me. Life is so hard and it’s easy to beat ourselves up for all the things we think we are failing at. It is even harder for those of us that have brain disorders. Our thoughts can lie to us or focus on all the mistakes we’ve made. Tell us we are not alone with the 3am feelings of worry or embarrassment over things that happened 10 years ago? 😩
I am here to remind you that you are doing the best you can with what you have. I also believe in forever chances so it is never to late to get help. It’s never to late to start again. Let’s share and celebrate all our wins together!
I’ll be behind the screen yelling into my megaphone 📣 waving my pompoms for each and every one of you.

Stay Messy & Beautiful,
Shaley xx

* See mine on slide 2! I’m proud of how I let myself have fun this weekend without letting anxiety take over. I was excited but not totally hypomanic over the top. Phew! I’m proud of how I kicked butt at Rumoli! I actually don’t even know if I won, but I was pumped about this hand.


 

Do you do any of these sleep tips? Do you struggle to do any? I’d love to hear below ⬇️ Bipolar disorder deeply affects ...
19/07/2024

Do you do any of these sleep tips?
Do you struggle to do any? I’d love to hear below ⬇️

Bipolar disorder deeply affects sleep & energy. Bipolar convinces me to stay up too late or sleep too much. It’s a struggle I’ve always had.

Going & staying asleep are my biggest struggles. I don’t always make the best choices. I look at my phone too long and I don’t have a consistent routine. I read but sometimes too late. I’m trying to make better choices. I do make my meds every night and have a routine. I’m starting to sleep with a fan.
In 2024, my commitment is to focus on sleep. I’m going to make small changes. It all helps.

Sending calm hugs & sweet dreams,
🤍 Shaley xo

Image credit .positive


Posted  • .is.bipolar What’s something you are proud of right now? Big or small, I’d love to hear your ‘Wednesday Win’ b...
17/07/2024

Posted • .is.bipolar What’s something you are proud of right now? Big or small, I’d love to hear your ‘Wednesday Win’ below 👇🏼
We made it to Wednesday! I know I need to remind myself of my wins. I get way to focused on the hard heavy things in my life and the world around me. Life is so hard and it’s easy to beat ourselves up for all the things we think we are failing at. It is even harder for those of us that have brain disorders. Our thoughts can lie to us or focus on all the mistakes we’ve made. Tell us we are not alone with the 3am feelings of worry or embarrassment over things that happened 10 years ago? 😩
I am here to remind you that you are doing the best you can with what you have. I also believe in forever chances so it is never to late to get help. It’s never to late to start again. Let’s share and celebrate all our wins together!
I’ll be behind the screen yelling into my megaphone 📣 waving my pompoms for each and every one of you.

Stay Messy & Beautiful,
Shaley xx

* Mine is my making my bed, house, keeping my room tidy & eating regularly most days. Lack of routine on the summer makes it hard to do the little things. Making sure I keep some routines or rhythms is key for me to manage well.


 

What is a small thing that warms your heart today?Repost•  “May you forever stay in pursuitof the small things that warm...
14/07/2024

What is a small thing that warms your heart today?

Repost•

“May you forever stay in pursuit
of the small things that warm the heart—
not because these small things
fix or solve everything,
but because they are reminders that perhaps,
even in the waiting,
there is room to counter the cold
with flickers of hope that remind you:
you are still alive.

I know that at times the word “hope”
may feel too vague or too loose
to carry any significant meaning,
especially when you have heard it
time and time again.
But this is also true:
you’ve witnessed the sun rise
time and time again, too,
and even if you don’t notice it
or say anything about it,
it still has profound significance,
each day.

So if you happen to notice
any flicker of hope today,
I hope you feel free to take it in.
I hope the warmth of the smallest,
most seemingly insignificant thing
creates space for you to breathe.

You have been through so much,
and it only makes sense
if the heart gets heavy.
You are worthy of the time it takes
to do the things that heal your heart.”

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Image description: the foreground is an illustration of a tea cup that has a flower in it. The background is a watercolor-esque painted background. The text on the image reads : “may you forever stay in pursuit of the small things that heal your heart.” There’s also a line-drawn tea tag that reads “breathe”

What’s something you are proud of right now? Big or small, I’d love to hear your ‘Wednesday Win’ below 👇🏼 We made it to ...
10/07/2024

What’s something you are proud of right now? Big or small, I’d love to hear your ‘Wednesday Win’ below 👇🏼
We made it to Wednesday! I know I need to remind myself of my wins. I get way to focused on the hard heavy things in my life and the world around me. Life is so hard and it’s easy to beat ourselves up for all the things we think we are failing at. It is even harder for those of us that have brain disorders. Our thoughts can lie to us or focus on all the mistakes we’ve made. Tell us we are not alone with the 3am feelings of worry or embarrassment over things that happened 10 years ago? 😩
I am here to remind you that you are doing the best you can with what you have. I also believe in forever chances so it is never to late to get help. It’s never to late to start again. Let’s share and celebrate all our wins together!
I’ll be behind the screen yelling into my megaphone 📣 waving my pompoms for each and every one of you.

Stay Messy & Beautiful,
Shaley xx

* See mine on slide 2! I’m back in my office working on the podcast after 10 days of no editing!


 

Go follow Sarah & her powerful podcast!REPOST• .edges.podcast Happy Minority Mental Health Awareness Month!! 🎉✊🏾💪🏾Here a...
02/07/2024

Go follow Sarah & her powerful podcast!

REPOST• .edges.podcast

Happy Minority Mental Health Awareness Month!! 🎉✊🏾💪🏾

Here are some helpful tips for cultivating mental health for the BIPOC community.

Which tip did you find the most useful or interesting? If you have more tips or suggestions, please share them below 👇🏾

References: Psychology.org, AltaMed, HopeWay.org, & MSW online programs

[tw: trauma, abuse, sa] It’s PTSD awareness day. Please read through these slides from .love.project and learn the facts...
27/06/2024

[tw: trauma, abuse, sa] It’s PTSD awareness day. Please read through these slides from .love.project and learn the facts. Chances are you know and love someone suffering in silence with PTSD right now. My heart goes out of all affected. Let’s learn more together.
Love,
Shaley xo

Repost• .love.project here are some common misconceptions about ptsd - i hope this helps you understand ptsd more

Anyone else? Tell me about it or Drop a 📱 below if you struggle with going down the scrolling spiral.Sometimes I make am...
23/06/2024

Anyone else? Tell me about it or Drop a 📱 below if you struggle with going down the scrolling spiral.

Sometimes I make amazing choices for my mental health and then sometimes I don’t. Yesterday was one of those days. I went down a true crime reels spiral.

I worry sometimes that my Bipolar besties think that I am really good at making all the “right” choices. I struggle just as much as everybody else. Sometimes disassociating is all I can do to avoid the overwhelm. Sometimes it makes it worse.

I’m trying to focus on the little things. Lately I’ve been trying to fill my feed with things that make me smile or bring me joy AND all the amazing mental health accounts and mental illness activists.

I need a healthy balance of sarcastic, memes, pandas, falling over, baby sloth as well as ALL the mental illness information AND bipolar besties sharing their lived experiences.

I also need to be sure to put my phone away even if it is my ‘job’. It’s a fine line between working and disassociating. My therapist always says self awareness is a big step.

I’m choosing to believe a bad choice day doesn’t equal a bad life. In fact maybe the choice wasn’t ‘bad’ at all. Maybe I don’t need to feel guilty, I just try to do the helpful things the next day!

Showing up & keeping it real.

Your bipolar bestie,
Shaley xo

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Do you struggle to practice self-compassion & forgive yourself?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀REPOST  ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀Forgive yourself for...-Decision...
19/06/2024

Do you struggle to practice self-compassion & forgive yourself?
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Forgive yourself for...
-Decisions you made in the past.
-That thing you said or didn’t say.
-Making mistakes & not being perfect.
-Repeating the same old patterns.
-The time you “wasted” before you started.
-Staying in that relationship.
-Doing what you needed to cope.
-Changing your mind & choosing a new path.
-Letting your emotions get the best of you.
-Having a hard time sticking to a routine.

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Father’s Day weekend can be really hard. Holding space here for everyone who is struggling. Take care of yourself. Sendi...
16/06/2024

Father’s Day weekend can be really hard. Holding space here for everyone who is struggling. Take care of yourself. Sending all my love and big long hugs.
Shaley xo

 

What’s something you are proud of right now? Big or small, I’d love to hear your ‘Wednesday Win’ below 👇🏼 We made it to ...
12/06/2024

What’s something you are proud of right now? Big or small, I’d love to hear your ‘Wednesday Win’ below 👇🏼
We made it to Wednesday! I know I need to remind myself of my wins. I get way to focused on the hard heavy things in my life and the world around me. Life is so hard and it’s easy to beat ourselves up for all the things we think we are failing at. It is even harder for those of us that have brain disorders. Our thoughts can lie to us or focus on all the mistakes we’ve made. Tell us we are not alone with the 3am feelings of worry or embarrassment over things that happened 10 years ago? 😩
I am here to remind you that you are doing the best you can with what you have. I also believe in forever chances so it is never to late to get help. It’s never to late to start again. Let’s share and celebrate all our wins together!
I’ll be behind the screen yelling into my megaphone 📣 waving my pompoms for each and every one of you.

Stay Messy & Beautiful,
Shaley xx

* See mine on slide 2! I’m proud of how I let myself have fun this weekend without letting anxiety take over. I was excited but not totally hypomanic over the top. Phew! I’m proud of how I kicked butt at Rumoli! I actually don’t even know if I won, but I was pumped about this hand.


 

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