Not Another Mum Pod

25/12/2022

"When I embraced Islam, it was like shedding all the parts of myself I once knew.

There was a period of time when I was redefining my identity – what I valued, how I wanted to show up in the world, upon which principles did I want to live my life by? Navigating my feelings and more importantly, the expectations of my non-Muslim family at Christmas time, was all part of this. I didn’t want to be the OTT ‘extremist’ that couldn’t utter a bit of festive cheer. At the same time, I didn’t want to compromise my firm belief in the oneness of God."

Over the years, Christmas has been filled with a myriad of different feelings. Before I became Muslim, I always had quiet hopes for a joyful family time, for the usual struggles to float away and to

26/10/2022

The Annual Lecture in Ethical Leadership 2022

We have an amazing upcoming event that we want to share with you, discussing Ethics & Values in the Media. Featuring Dr Khadijah Elshayyal who is currently researching Digital British Islam.
With our very own Nafisa Rahimi, platforming Muslim Mamas.

You are invited to join (virtually) by registering via the link below!

Date: Saturday 5th November 2022
Time: 11:45am to 2pm (GMT)

In the last two years alone, we have witnessed the role and impact of unapologetic and uncompromising journalists and social media activists in inspiring and mobilising grassroots movements; from the global response to the murders of George Floyd, Al-Jazeera journalist Shireen Abu Akleh, to the fearlessness of activists like Muna and Mohammed El-Kurd and the frankness of Greta Thunberg.

Join us for an afternoon of invaluable insights, reflections and discussion on how the media through ethical leadership has impacted key events of our time. We will think about our role in how we maintain authenticity, integrity and truth in a world of stereotypes and misconceptions while reporting in an age of misinformation.

The main lecture will be followed by three interactive workshops delving deeper into topics discussed.

1. How to tell our stories authentically (Rakaya Fetuga - award winning poet)

2. Navigating the world of journalism/media as a woman of colour (Laila Al-Arian - Emmy and Peabody award winning journalist)

3. Digital British Islam (Dr. Khadijah El-Shayyal - Research Fellow, University of Edinburgh)

We are also platforming Muslim Mamas - a digital space for muslim mamas to connect, support, share knowledge and experiences and will be joined by Nafisa Rahimi from Muslim Mamas.

Spaces are limited so don’t delay!

https://zoom.us/webinar/register/WN_OM7s8tvTRQi9QXsJNXuC2Q

18/07/2022

Join and live on the today show discussing all things related, Tasneem’s book launch of Finding Mr Perfectly Fine, the accelerator and more !!

Watch them live at ‘The Today Show’ on Islam Channel: Monday 18th July 2022 at 7pm (sky channel 737)

To watch live https://watch.islamchannel.tv/live/

10/06/2022

We have a new article over on Muslim Mamas by our lovely Tasneem Abdur Rashid.

https://muslimmamas.com/toxicfriendships/

Tasneem Abdur-Rashid explores the impact of toxic friendships, and why it might be time to let them go. I lost a friend recently. There was no spectacular showdown; it was more like a culmination

08/06/2022

Treat your words as energy! And energy sure isn’t free these days!

01/06/2022

We asked our podcast co-hosts what inspired them to start and here is what they said:

“It was about giving women, mainly Muslim women - a platform to have their voice heard and their story told the way they want to tell it. It was about empowering our speakers to share their stories - and inspiring our listeners through them.”

“I was tired of Muslim women being portrayed in a certain way. Mainstream media always talks about our 'hot' topics but using their own misguided extremes. I wanted to grab the mic and take ownership of our narrative and talk about Muslim issues in our own voice, on our own terms.”

The pod is an amanah to us, we never realised it would become this way and it feels like a massive responsibility towards our audience. We feel like they need and want more and it’s our job to figure out how we can provide this.

What would you like to hear more of on ? Do let us know in the comments.

31/05/2022

Read this beautifully raw article by our co host Tasneem Abdur-Rashid on the pressures that come with trying to do it all.

https://muslimmamas.com/im-not-a-superwoman-or-a-supermum/

Superwoman. I’ve lost count of the number of times someone has called me that. Or supermum. It alternates between the two, and for a long time, I thrived off it. I blossomed under the praise of fa

20/05/2022

Our very own will be appearing on the panel of this incredible networking event hosted by .in.business

These events are known for bringing like minded women together to talk freely about the challenges of entrepreneurship.

We will be chatting about finding balance as a woman who wears multiple hats in her life.

There is so much that goes behind the scenes with our businesses and lives and .in.business is a platform where you can share, unwind and feel seen and heard!

Swipe across for more details and to see what other power houses are on the panel!


Where:
When: Saturday 28th May 6-9.30pm

You can get your ticket via the bio link on page.

10/05/2022

Join us for this month's chat show where and co-host will engage in an open conversation about the latest shenanigans in mama life.

We will talk with highly esteemed relationship expert, to unpick some of the challenges in marriage and more! We’ll explore important issues surrounding marital relations and sexual assault, including the best help and advice to access, should you ever need support.

World renowned author Shelina Janomohamed will also join us to discuss the concept of beauty in children and the inspiration behind her new book 'BeYOUtiful' that launches this week.

✨As always, a special song will end the show featuring nasheed artist Omar Esa!✨

This is one not to be missed!

Thursday 12th May, 9pm in the Muslim Mamas Facebook group!

04/05/2022

Not Another Mum Pod is currently ranking way up there in the apple podcast charts in Nigeria, Kuwait and Sweden. In Kuwait we actually placed at no. 16!!

It’s absolutely incredible to see the diversity of our listeners and the places we are reaching that we never could have imagined!

That’s the beauty of podcasts, when the story resonates, there are no physical boundaries that stop it from being shared!

Where are you tuning in from? We would love to see who’s with us here!

27/04/2022

Here at Not Another Mum Pod we are in the business of speaking out! Speaking your truth, sharing your struggles and deep diving into the heart of things.

Whilst we always hope our space opens up many opportunities for women to be heard and their experiences validated, nothing can beat what the last days of Ramadan can bring.

If you truly want to be heard, now is the time to speak up to the only One who will always have your back.

Laylatul Qadr is the night of power, a night that has the potential to change your whole life. Now is the time to super charge your Duas and use your voice. Whatever it is your need, whatever in your life needs to change, whatever is deal breaker for you- now is the time.

On this night, the angels descend and see who is in servitude to their Lord, who is present, who is asking.

Make sure they don’t miss you.
Make sure you don’t miss it.

24/04/2022

Podcasts are amazing! But maybe we are biased!! But here are five reasons why you can benefit from dropping other forms of media and sharpening those listening skills!

✨Multi - tasking makes work easier

Listening doesn’t require too much focus, your hands are free and your eyes are free, which means it’s perfect to do it whilst getting on with other things!

✨ Cut down on screen time

The great thing about podcasts is that they provide an entertaining alternative to visual media. They don’t cause the same strain or mental numbness as video.

✨Learn directly from industry experts

instead of reading confusing manuals or becoming bogged down with useless information, you can learn directly from knowledgeable people in a simple and engaging way!

✨ Avoid the bias of mainstream media

You can always find a variety perspectives on any given topic. Listening to original thought adds diversity to the media narrative you’re accustomed to hearing.

✨ Keep storytelling alive!

Written and visual media has nearly killed the storyteller, but there is so much value in sharing stories through oral traditions. Podcasting has rejuvenated the art and power of telling your story!

Can you think of any other benefits? There are so many really we can’t wait to get recording more Podcasts for you to enjoy!

11/01/2022

And here it is. POLYGAMY - the second wife’s perspective! Listener discretion is advised.

Salaams!
If there’s one topic than can get everyone’s blood boiling and heart racing - it’s polygamy! It’s probably THE most polarising topic in Islam and understandably, most women in that situation prefer not to talk about it in detail.

When recent discussions about polygamy were escalated by a prominent sister in our community, we thought that as podcasters, it was the right time to cover this hot topic - with an objective view where we could 😅

We’ve put together a two-part series on polygamy, and in part one we speak to a second wife who reveals the truth behind why she became a part of a polygamous marriage, how she navigates her relationship with her husband and the impact it has had on the kids.

Episode details are below. Would love your feedback and thoughts!
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Villain or heroine, friend or foe? We’ll let you decide as we speak to second-wife Layla who shares her story of how she became caught up in a love triangle.

From dealing with sharing her husband to revealing what goes on behind closed doors, we ask Layla all the difficult questions about her life with the ‘man who has it all’ … or does he? Tune in and let us know your thoughts!

This is the first part of two episodes covering stories of polygamy in Islam, hearing directly from the wives in question. Listener discretion is advised.

Listen to the full episode:

http://www.smart.bio/notanothermumpod

Or on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, Alexa, Amazon Music etc.

Hosts: Nafisa Rahimi () and Tasneem Abdur-Rashid ()

02/01/2022

With the start of a new year, many are reflecting on their lives and plans for the coming months. This episode delves into how mental health issues can be managed in effective ways with small changes. Why is it an issue in our community?

“There isn’t a lot of language around how to describe mental health within our community. The first thing that I used to think about is I’m going to get labeled as someone who’s just mad and crazy because that’s how people start to see you. They start to think that there’s something very wrong with you. They might not want to talk to you because they think that you’re not normal.
I think that’s very sad. The more that we do share, the less shame. And the less insecurities we have about sharing our stories, the more it will become a normal part of a conversation as we do with other things, so it’s really taking back that control.”

Mental Health is a topic that is still massively misunderstood in our community. This episode is the first of a series that will be looking at the challenges women face that impact their mental health, and how we can acknowledge, heal and protect it.

In today’s show, sister Harmeet Bharya speaks candidly about her mental health and the impact it has had on her life and health from losing her baby to feeling suicidal. Join our conversation to find out how Harmeet faced some incredibly dark moments in her life and how she came through it stronger, empowered with a positive attitude and outlook.

Trigger warning: viewer discretion advised – themes of baby loss, postnatal depression and suicidal thoughts.

Article: https://muslimmamas.com/mental-health-an-epidemic-since-the-pandemic-by-muslim-mamas/

For the full episode, please click here:

https://notanothermumpod.com/ep-13-how-i-survived-mental-health-with-harmeet-every-mind-matters/

30/07/2021

“When it comes to abuse my advice is this: there are two sides to every story but it is a fact that there is only one side if someone is being emotionally or physically abused.

Once abuse is part of the story, immediate help should be recommended to the victim of abuse.

I don’t care if she is supposedly the worst woman on the planet according to her husband.

Her right to be safe in her own home can not be violated. Period.

There is divorce for hating one’s spouse, but abuse is never tolerated.

Those who keep saying, “but what about his side” may mean well but their priorities are out of line.

Safety first.

Then two sides.

Otherwise, there may never be another side to tell their story because they are no longer with us.

Any woman experiencing abuse and writing about it is desperate for help.

She is also terrified of seeking it.

She hates abuse and also fears change. Maybe she fears being on her own, has financial fears, how her family might blame her fears, etc.

She is afraid.

Next time you reply to any woman – think of the frightened little girl inside of her needing help.”

Megan Wyatt, thank you for your wise words.

This article is a good reference point if you know anyone or is somebody who needs help. We get so many anon mamas, please have a read of this and share it with your contacts. You never know who needs to hear this codeword.

https://muslimmamas.com/subjected-to-domestic-abuse-ask-for-ani-by-muslim-mamas/

“When it comes to abuse my advice is this: there are two sides to every story but it is a fact that their is only one side if someone is being emotionally or physically abused. Once abuse is part of

12/07/2021

Whilst watching the match last night, I couldn't relax and not solely for the reasons generally expected. I couldn't relax because I kept wondering about those women who waited in the wings wondering if a loss of the match would rain down more fists and kicks that night. What state would their partners be in when they came home? Domestic abuse after a loss of such a game rises by 38%.

38%!!!

We are supporting the campaign 'Ask for ANI', Action Needed Immediately.

Apologies in advance for the tag without prior notice. I have tagged you seeking support to help raise this awareness where you can, publicly and privately by sharing.

‘Ask for Ani’ is a domestic abuse codeword that stands for Action Needed Immediately.
In pharmacies showing the Ask for Ani logo, the pharmacist will safely take you to a private area and
provide a phone to call the police or support services.
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This episode highlights the suffering of what domestic abuse can do to a person but also how you can get the help you need and turn your life around. You don't have to put up with it. You are not alone. Ask for ANI at any participating pharmacies where you see the ANI logo.

You can listen to the full episode here:
https://notanothermumpod.com/child-bride-story-of-survival-self-discovery-with-samra-zafar/

Please help raise awareness by sharing. If it helps even one person, then alhamdulillah. You never know who needs to hear this behind closed doors.

12/07/2021

‘Ask for Ani’ is a domestic abuse codeword that stands for Action Needed Immediately.
In pharmacies showing the Ask for Ani logo, the pharmacist will safely take you to a private area and
provide a phone to call the police or support services.
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12/07/2021

‘Ask for Ani’ is a domestic abuse codeword that stands for Action Needed Immediately.
In pharmacies showing the Ask for Ani logo, the pharmacist will safely take you to a private area and
provide a phone to call the police or support services.
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07/07/2021

Episode 12: Child Bride: A Story of Survival & Self-Discovery (Samra Zafar)

WARNING: this is an explicit episode with adult themes and language; themes of abuse and violence.

“People have this idea that child marriage is like a child being taken, kicking and screaming into a room and being chained or roped up or tied up, and then forced to sign somewhere. Force is not a gun to your head or a knife to your throat.
Force is coercion. Force is pressure. Force is that invisible, intangible cycle that is created around you, that if you say no, you're damned, and if you say yes, you're damned.”

How many of us know someone or have heard about someone who has suffered from domestic abuse? How many of us know someone or have heard of someone who has been pressured or coerced into a marriage? This episode delves right into a harrowing story of how Samra Zafar was pressured into a marriage at a young age only to be stifled into an existence of abuse from her parents to husband and mother-in-law. From emotional abuse to spiritual, from verbal to physical, from sexual to financial abuse - there was no stone unturned. Samra rose from the ashes by finding the courage to learn what was happening to her. Armed with knowledge, she began to plan her escape. Samra Zafar is now an award-winning international speaker, author, scholar, and entrepreneur who advocates for equity, inclusion, and human rights.

You can listen to the full episode here or on any listening apps (Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google, Alexa/Amazon, Audible etc).

www.smart.bio/notanothermumpod/

This podcast is campaigning against domestic abuse with: gov.uk/domestic-abuse, supporting the ‘Ask for ANI’ scheme, which allows those at risk or suffering from abuse to discreetly signal that they need help and access support.

Anyone who is experiencing domestic abuse and needs immediate help can Ask for ‘ANI’ in a participating pharmacy. If a pharmacy has the ‘Ask for ANI’ logo on display, it means they’re ready to help. They will offer you a private space, provide a phone and ask if you need support from the police or other domestic abuse support services.

Action Needed Immediately!
Do you feel controlled, belittled or isolated by a partner or family member? This is domestic abuse and it is never your fault. Help is always available and You Are Not Alone. You do not deserve abuse. You deserve support. If you are experiencing domestic abuse, Ask for ANI in pharmacies displaying the 'Ask for Ani' logo to get immediate help to call the police or support services.

For free helplines support and advice visit gov.uk/domestic-abuse.


https://notanothermumpod.com/child-bride-story-of-survival-self-discovery-with-samra-zafar/

29/06/2021

11.1 Bonus Track: The Story of Palestine with Eman Askar - .101

Instagram sea shanty on the ‘Story of Palestine’ was viewed 10 MILLION times in 48 HOURS! In honour of Palestine, especially for our audience, from the singer/songwriter herself, Tiktoker Eman Askar, an Egyptian mother of two, who became an overnight sensation when she sang an adaptation of “The Wellerman” sea shanty, shares her own story for you.

Her song went viral after she replaced the lyrics to explain the history of Palestine and how the illegitimate Israeli occupation came about, resulting in 10 million views!. She has a special message for our listeners and talks about her story of how this song came about from a picture from her childhood.

Listen to the her story (around 10 minutes long) on our podcast! https://notanothermumpod.com/11-1-bonus-track-the-story-of-palestine-with-eman-askar-emmasworld-101/

Would love to publish some of your comments/reviews, so drop them below!

Thank you Eman! ❤



Eman Askar

25/06/2021

EPISODE 11: LIVE FROM THE GAZA STRIP: THE UNTOLD STORY BEHIND THE HORROR
This was probably one of the most important conversations we have ever had. It was a privilege and an honour, and to be honest, sometimes a little bit scary. We just didn't know if our guest would live long enough to have this conversation. We recorded this on the day of the ceasefire after Eid.

We are being censored and this is not showing up on feeds. Our insta post got the least traction compared to other episodes so this censoring of Palestine is real. Share the link everywhere and let's combat this together.
Please have a listen, and share all feedback with us. Nisreen will be reading everything. Share this episode with all your contacts and help her story get out.

Today’s episode is hard-hitting and at times emotional, but really, really important. As the world dissects what’s happening in Palestine, we’re putting aside the politics for now, and focussing on the humans of Palestine: the souls behind the statistics, the reality on the ground, what it’s really like to live and grow up in the Gaza Strip, and what life is like under occupation and under siege.

In this episode we talk to Nisreen Al-Khatib, a married, 27 year old mother to a one year old baby boy, living in the Gaza Strip since she was 5 years-old. She is the Co-Founder of Quds News Network and tells her story from the heart.

Trigger warning: This episode has themes of war, violence and terror. The audio on this post is a short taster clip.
To listen to the full episode, click here:

https://notanothermumpod.com/11-live-from-the-gaza-strip-the-untold-story-behind-the-horror-with-nisreen-al-khatib-from-quds-news-network/

For all our other episodes: www.smart.bio/notanothermumpod/

02/06/2021

Message as received:
"As part of our campaign for , we have create two impactful steps:

There will be an important debate on parliament on 14th June on sanctions. Meet you MP online a few days earlier no 9th June to ask them to attend that let them know why they should call to support sanctions on Israel. Info on the lobby:
https://www.foa.org.uk/campaign/meet-your-mp/

We want you all to come out and protest with us for sanctions on Israel. This will be at Downing street on Saturday 12th June, the weekend before the parliamentary debate.
Make sure you do both these steps. Sanctions helped end the apartheid in South Africa, lets push for sanctions on Israel!"

20/05/2021

An excellent, excellent summary of the government polices that are present yet not implemented when it comes to the rights of Palestine. Absolutely love Baroness Syeda Warsi for her outspoken, unapologetic stance where she didn't just speak, but acted too.

In 2014, Warsi resigned from the Government citing concerns that she was no longer able to support the Cameron Government's policy on the escalation of violence in the Israel–Gaza conflict, describing the Government's position as "morally indefensible". In her resignation letter, Warsi wrote that the UK Government's "approach and language during the current crisis in Gaza is morally indefensible, is not in Britain’s national interest and will have a long-term detrimental impact on our reputation internationally and domestically" and that it was "not consistent with the rule of law and our long support for international justice."

17/05/2021

This list is from the Palestine Ministry of Health. Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raaji'oon.

Our hearts bleed for Palestine and the loss of our children. Our mothers. Our fathers. Our brothers. Our sisters.

When I think of Palestine, this painful poem comes to mind...

Later that night
I held an atlas in my lap
ran my fingers across the whole world
and whispered
where does it hurt?

it answered
everywhere
everywhere
everywhere.

- Warsaw Shire

14/05/2021

As hard as it is to read this, please do. This is why we keep on shouting. 'A voice to the voiceless.'

13/05/2021

Assalaamu'alaikum! Eid Mubarak! Praying you all have a wonderful day inshaallah, ❤️

13/05/2021

UPDATE:
The same BBC journalist who 'questioned' the Palestinian Ambassador to the UK, grilled the Israeli Ambassador to the UK! She did not hold back at all!
WATCH IT HERE: https://fb.watch/5saaZj3M7Y/

12/05/2021

Okay, let's try saying Eid Mubarak again...
..nope, that's not it...👀🤦‍♀️

11/05/2021

"It ordered that the Palestinian families must hand over the legal ownership of their houses to the Jewish settlers, and then they were given two choices but only after accepting this ridiculous judgment—vacate the houses immediately or live in the houses and pay rent to the settlers who have now become landlords through a court-sanctioned daylight robbery!"

An excellent open letter written by Ajmal Masroor who is not afraid to say what everyone is thinking. At the end, there are some good, informative links to show how you can support via donations, campaigns, protes, boycott, writing to your MP, collective dua etc. Do share far and wide.

Dear people of the world, I write this letter in the holy month of Ramadan when I am one hundred percent focused on my devotion to God, developing and refining my conscience, character and

11/05/2021

An excellent discourse between Palestinian Ambassador to the UK with a BBC journalist. Watch his frustration against Emily's incessant questioning regarding Hamas and rockets.

"You always start with the symptom of the illness and not the illness itself...you always start with the reaction rather than the act itself."

UPDATE:
The same BBC journalist who 'questioned' the Palestinian Ambassador to the UK, grilled the Israeli Ambassador to the UK! She did not hold back at all!
WATCH IT HERE: https://fb.watch/5saaZj3M7Y/