29/05/2020
When you fall in love and get married you want to âgive your heartâ to the other person, but the Bible tells us that out of the heart flows the issues of life. There are a lot of hidden or latent issues that we would definitely think twice about giving to another person. When we think about falling in love and being ready to commit to someone such that you would give your heart to them, there is always stuff that we need to face up to, own and get rid of. These issues mostly come to the surface when we are squeezed or under pressure. In the context of a marriage setting, when life happens, at one stage or another these things come out and get exposed. The issues range from all sorts of things that you would want to hide from someone you love such as laziness, selfishness, unforgiveness, bitterness, anger, lust or even something like the love of money as we share in our first episode.
When we are preparing for marriage, we should definitely not be deceived that they will be sugar-coated and masked with love that we have for the other person who we are giving our heart to. Nor can we believe that these issues will disappear because we vow âI doâ. Marriage in itself definitely doesnât make them disappear.
One important lesson from our first episode is that becoming a Christian doesnât mean that issues of the heart that you had previously simply vanish. We need to take them to God and actively work on them. Allow the Holy Spirit to perform a heart transplant and get rid of those things that you donât want anyone else to see or to âhaveâ. Then at all costs we guard this new heart by being alert, reading Godâs Word, staying prayerful. This is how God transforms us to be the lover that we desire to be.