The Cozy Hermit (2026)

07/11/2022

"A Sigil for Joyful Abundance"

Generated via Midjourney v4

10/10/2022

Chaotic Consistency

These two words, in that specific order, are a good summary of who I am, both as a person and as a business owner. Even though my business is me and being me and doing what I want to do and sharing that with the world and hoping someone's watching.

On any given day, you can't predict what I'm going to be writing about, creating, making, posting, sharing.

But you can count on me showing up consistently, day after day after day.

At least on my personal profile... Gotta work on getting better about showing up *here* and weaving life into this page with my words.

Chaotic Consistency

If you're neurodiverse, especially if you have both Autism and ADHD (aka AuDHD), you need to find the balance point where you can revel in your chaos in a way that still allows for consistent personal and professional development.

For me, that looks like creating my weekly flow where each day has a Daily Focus word as well as themes and categories of things that I do specific to those days. Consistency. And that allows me to spend the rest of my time doing whatever I want to do. Following whatever rabbit trails I want to follow and tripping into other worlds on a regular basis.

Service Days are how I built that consistency in my business. 2 set Service Days a week and 1 or more random ones that pop up when I'm feeling like it.

That consistency means people know when to look for my posts - and so they *do* look for my posts, and see all my other stuff as well. Which can be about anything and everything because the periodic consistency creates a foundation for the chaos to flow in productive and helpful ways.

09/10/2022

I haven't talked about my B.E.N.D. Cycle in a bit, and since it restarts with Boundaries today, it's a good time to do that.

B.E.N.D. stands for:

Boundaries
Expectations
Needs
Desires

I have them on a four-week cycle, shifting every Sunday.

They are one set of several sets of words that I use in a sort of Algorithm for Personal Development.

And they started YEARS ago with my dissatisfaction with the Law of Attraction, evolved into a Psychic Bitchslap, and then took final form a B.E.N.D. just in the last couple years.

The path was basically... LoA is all about Desires, manifesting what we want, blah, blah, blah. Great.

But what about our Expectations? Our EXPECTATIONS affect our behaviors, they affect our reactions to situations and people, and thus our Expectations affect our abilities to manifest what we desire. We might *want* to be X, but if we *expect* to always be Y then we'll act accordingly.

That worked well for a bit, life improved, but then progress stalled again.

What was missing?

Needs! This is where I started really railing against Law of Attraction and other similar teachings as the Capitalism infiltrating spirituality. Because if your basic Needs aren't met, you're always gonna be struggling to manifest your desires. So I started focusing on my needs. I didn't diminish my Desires, but I looked to see what root Need I was trying to fulfill with my Desires.

Lots of big transformations started to happen after that. Big progress.

And then, as before, big stall.

Something was missing from the formula. (I'm neurodiverse... we love formulas and rules...)

Boundaries. Oof... that s**t is hard. But I did the work. I learned BOUNDARIES. My toxic as f**k abusive ex finally moved out for good, we got divorced, I cut other toxic people who only ever wanted to use me out of my life, and wow. Things are so good.

Not perfect. I'm not rich, still struggle financially, and my retirement plan is revolution, but on that's all systemic s**t that has to be tackled on societal levels.

Personally, my life, since beginning to implement the ideas that led to B.E.N.D., has transformed RADICALLY.

Like holy f**k, y'all, my life is so different than it was just a few years ago - and many of y'all got to watch it happen in real-time!

B.E.N.D.

Boundaries
Expectations
Needs
Desires

Putting them on a four-week cycle means that at least once a month, I'm checking on those things.

How are my boundaries?
Am I managing expectations well?
Am I getting my needs met?
What do I really desire?

If an article goes by on my feed that has the B.E.N.D. Word for the week, I'm gonna read it. Videos, podcasts, etc.

I do sometimes actively seek out stuff, but I don't really have to.

Because every morning, I write my Words, including that week's B.E.N.D. Word, and so they're fresh in my mind daily, just sitting, waiting, tuning my attention so that when something crosses my perceptions, I'll notice and follow where it leads.

02/10/2022

Consistent Thriving

I wrote those two words in a Discord channel on my private server and immediately recognized those as what might be called "Compass Words".

I work with Words.

Yes, as a writer, of course. And in the creation of prompts on Midjourney, too.

But on a mystical level as well.

I have Yearly Words, Seasonal Vows that are single words, Monthly, Weekly, and even Daily Words, all in a sort of Algorithm for Personal Development.

I am a contemplative, and many of the practices I do involve words on multiple levels. Reading words, saying words, praying words, writing words.

Of course, being a Contemplative Sorceress and a Q***r Heretic Nun means I have a far wider variety of source material with which to work the Words than other Religious people do, which is wicked awesome. Heresy is delightful. You should look up the etymology of that Word. Go ahead, open another tab, it's okay ;)

Anyway... back on track...

Consistent Thriving

The path I've been following with the Words and the Devotional Polycule have led me to a place where I have periods of actual thriving, whereas in the past, it was just all non-stop survival mode.

But I still have dips where I'm barely keeping my head above water, which while better than drowning, is still exhausting.

I want Consistent Thriving.

And so these are Compass Words.

When I'm doing Vision Mapping work and connecting to potential Future Selves, I'll center into those words to point the way to the versions of Future Me who are experiencing Consistent Thriving so that I can discern the steps and paths to follow to get there myself.

30/09/2022

An image for contemplation.

The prompt was, "Transmuting Sadness Into Joy."

As you gaze at the image, repeat that phrase in your mind, or softly out loud. Doesn't haven't to be for long, practice can be simple.

28/09/2022

Connection

It's my Daily Focus Word for Wednesday's - rooted in Mercury being the god of communication, which is used primarily to make some sort of connection between two beings.

It's the day I schedule phone calls like scheduling appointments and such which are annoying and take my Neurodiverse brain a whole lot of energy to perform. Though I actually don't really have many of those anymore cuz I've arranged my life to run almost fully online.

As a hermit, the vast majority of my connection with other people happens digitally.

I live in solitude with my rescue cats and an ongoing rotation of foster kittens.

I don't really have friends - and not in a sad, "I have no friends," way because friendship isn't really something that's important to me.

I am a Hermit through and through. Leave me alone and let me do my own thing!

But I *do* still need *some* connection, and for that, I am infinitely grateful for the ability to connect through wires and air, regardless of location.

This image is one way that Midjourney interpreted the word Connection.

27/09/2022

Momentum.

It's my Daily Focus Word for Tuesday.

And like this image that I generated in Midjourney using just the word "Momentum," I came to that Word for Tuesdays in a winding sort of way.

For years, I used the planets associated with the days of the week for planning my week.

Mercury is associated with Wednesday, so Wednesday became my day for Psychic DJ Day as well as for scheduling phone calls I'd otherwise avoid.

Jupiter is associated with Thursday, and I'm a devotee of Juno Moneta, who is connected to Jupiter as his wife and his sister (mythology is messy, y'all...), so Thursday became my money day. Money magic, of course, and also, budgeting is on Thursdays for me.

For a long time, Tuesday was Motivation - distilled from the association of Tuesday with Mars, the Roman God of War (though He's more than that. I'm not a devotee of Him, but we're friendly enough.)

But Motivation is... well... it's bulls**t really.

Motivation is hard to grasp. Can't really be controlled.

ESPECIALLY if you're neurodiverse!

Because motivation is useless when you have wonky brain chemicals and borked executive functioning!

I'm SUPER motivated.

While screaming in my head to just get up and clean the f**king house!!! Why can't you just get up and clean the f**king house!!!

But that wasn't helpful to me. It just made things worse.

So I changed Motivation to Momentum.

It works much better for me.

What can I do today to sustain and/or gain momentum?

It might be the smallest tiny thing.

But since shifting from a "Motivation" perspective to a "Momentum" one, I've made way more progress than I ever did when I was beating myself up for not being able to overcome my natural limitations and the systemic barriers that prevent progress.

25/09/2022

For each day of the week, I have a Daily Focus Word and Sunday's is Slow.

A reminder to slow down.
To observe.
To be.

Part of living a Hermit lifestyle is letting going of the fast pace demanded by the systems of domination and oppression that seek to run, and ruin, our lives.

Slowing down is an act of radical rebellion in a world that demands faster and faster, more and more.

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