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29/07/2020

1. When we are in denial due to difficult feelings, we are actually running away for the confrontation we so much fear or look up to.
2. When we are protecting ourself through denial, we actually say that the confrontation or situation is to big for us to handle or that we are not good enough to whatever that comes our way. 3. When we are not ready to accept the truth and instead choose for denial, it means we can’t or do not want to face the reality. This mostly is the case when reality is to painful to face or when we didn’t learn the right coping mechanism. 4. Denial turns into survival, when reality becomes to threathening and when denial seems to be the only way to feel safe in the current situation. 5. Denial is a way to bide time, to be able to feel a short relieve from the negative situation until it recurs again. 6. We use denial when we do not feel ready to change. This can happen when we do not want to get out of our comfort zone or when accepting something is hard. 7. We use denial in change, when we keep holding on to the past. 8. As mentioned before, denial helps to relieve stress from unpleasant situations and seems like a great solution. Mostly it is just a short-term solution which in the long-term turns into a bigger problem as the current problems don’t get solved.

08/07/2020

Posted • Do you see your partner through rose-colored glasses? ⁠
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The Negative Perspective, or Negative Sentiment Override (NSO), distorts your view of your partner to the point where a majority of positive or neutral experiences are perceived as negative. NSO is built on the belief that your partner is not just thoughtless on occasion, but thoughtless in general. As a result, it rewrites the Story of Us with a persistent negative spin, putting the relationship at risk.⁠
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The Positive Perspective is something that couples can work on every day. Dr. John Gottman refers to the Positive Perspective as Positive Sentiment Override (PSO) because in relationships that succeed, the positive overrides the negative. It is a profound force that maintains trust and gives each partner the benefit of the doubt when conflicts inevitably occur. ⁠
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Take a closer look at the three ways you can work on seeing things more positively on the . Link in the bio from

05/07/2020

Who has ever slept badly before?
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23/06/2020

Posted • "When we show ourselves to another in this moment, we are not just being courageous now – today – but also risking rejection and loss in the next moment – tomorrow. ⁠
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It is fragile but can be healing. This beautiful process is full of responsibility. As such, we should be cautious who we choose to co-create such intimacy with so to as avoid unnecessary destruction. It is harder to go back and save our hearts, than to go forward and offer them." ⁠
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contributor and writer Lucy Fry explores boundaries, space, and details their journey to deepen their understanding of intimacy. Link in bio from

21/06/2020

Posted • Don’t let your emotions rule you life. Let your feelings wake you up you then get back to a place of peace before you take action. You can’t sustain anger, resentment and insecurities. They drain you, make you physically weaker and you become a prisoner to them over time. But you can sustain LOVE ❤️

20/06/2020

Posted • I had an A HA moment a few years ago when I realized each person coming into see me all struggled with similar issues: unresolved childhood trauma and how it affects their relationships today.

Whether those relationships had to do with the mother wound, dad issues, being the child/partner of a narcissist/emotionally abusive parent, issues with coworkers/friends, attachment problems, people-pleasing, boundary stuff - it all related back to trauma along the way.

𝐀𝗪𝐀𝐑𝐄𝐍𝐄𝐒𝐒: Awareness of our trauma is key. Trauma doesn't always look like what we think. It can be as simple as maladaptive ways in which our parents coped with disappointment or to the other end of the spectrum with life threatening trauma.

𝐃𝐈𝐒𝐂𝐎𝐕𝐄𝐑𝐘: Understanding how your trauma shows up in your life today is key. Do you have issues with a female boss because of the messy relationship you have with your mother? Do you find yourself people-pleasing in relationships because you had to perform for love as a child? Do you accept physical and emotional abuse because you watched your father call your mother awful names growing up? Our awareness and insight serves as the catalyst for initiating change.

𝐔𝐍𝐃𝐄𝐑𝐒𝐓𝐀𝐍𝐃𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐑𝐎𝐋𝐄 𝐎𝐅 𝐑𝐄𝐏𝐄𝐓𝐈𝐓𝐈𝐕𝐄 𝐂𝐎𝐌𝐏𝐔𝐋𝐒𝐈𝐎𝐍
𝐀𝐍𝐃 𝐓𝐑𝐀𝐔𝐌𝐀 𝐁𝐎𝐍𝐃𝐒:
We are biologically compelled to repeat the past. This is how our brain keeps us safe - via familiarity, patterns and generalizations. We find people, audition them for old roles from childhood and repeat the past which become painful trauma bonds.

𝐇𝐄𝐀𝐋𝐈𝐍𝐆: True healing involves an integrated process that heals the mind AND the body. You know that feeling when you're triggered? They don't call back? You find out that you've been ghosted? Yes, those feelings that hijack your nervous system tripping you into fight or flight. As long as we are in fight or flight we will find it difficult to truly heal.
𝐓𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐢𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤 𝐭𝐨 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐥 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐬, 𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐛𝐨𝐝𝐲. It starts with an awareness of what happened, how it shows up today.. (see more )

19/06/2020

New research begins to reveal how disrupted sleep leads to the fatty arterial plaque buildup known as atherosclerosis that can result in deadly heart disea | Cardiology

17/06/2020

Maybe you've been told that you are too sensitive, or you know someone who has strong reactions to positive, negative, or intense experiences. | Genetics And Genomics

16/06/2020

Posted • Observe how you and your partner interact. For every negative interaction that happens, are there more positive interactions?⁠
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The difference between happy and unhappy couples is the proportion between positive and negative interactions. This is a very specific ratio that makes love last called the "Magic Ratio" based on research by Dr. John Gottman and Robert Levenson. ⁠
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That “magic ratio” is 5:1 during conflict and outside of conflict is even higher. This means that for every negative interaction during conflict, a stable and happy relationship has five (or more) positive interactions. By focusing on the positives of your relationship such as the good moments from your past and your partner’s admirable traits, you infuse positive energy into your relationship.⁠
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Read more in-depth about the list of interactions that couples can use to maintain positivity and closeness. Link in bio of .

14/06/2020

While people usually put a lot of effort into finding a partner, recent research suggests that our bodies are choosy in their own ways. | Genetics And Genomics

11/06/2020

Posted • It's often easier to set goals than it is to accomplish them. You may have so many other demands on your time that after a few minor setbacks, it's tempting to throw in the towel and focus your energies elsewhere. But if you're determined to really make a change, there are steps you can take to make that more likely. PT contributor and therapist Jelena Kecmanovic offers science-backed tips for achieving your goals. To see all of them, click on the link in the bio of

28/05/2020

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28/05/2020

Posted • Read your rights in this image... then, read them again. Save this post. Share it, print it and hang it on the wall so it’s the first thing you see in the morning.

When you know and assume your assertive rights, you begin to behave more respectfully towards yourself. You end up constantly sending your brain the message that YOU MATTER, that you are a priority for yourself, that you love and respect yourself. As a result, you raise your self-esteem.

When, in parallel, you are aware that those rights also belong to others, you begin to respect their rights and you stop taking them personally.

You begin to relate to these people in a way where no one is superior or inferior, without anyone deserving more or less.

You start to let others be what they are and you let them make their own decisions while you make yours. Without stepping on anyone's foot or letting others step on yours. Simply letting be and choosing to be, from a place of consciousness.

It is important to understand that this does not mean that you will always get what you want; it's about recognizing your own needs, expressing them assertively, and radically accepting that people won't always agree. And then ... negotiate. Or let go. Or leave if the situation requires it.

I think that practicing your rights and making them a part of your daily life will be radically beneficial for you and for those who surround you.

Which of these rights would you like to start exercising? I read you.

27/05/2020

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