10/06/2023
Here are some key biblical things needed to get to 23 years of marriage. I am sure many more could be added, but not doing these can break a marriage.
23 years of marriage
1. Takes commitment. Commitment helps you not quit in the hard times. Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. “What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” Matthew 19:6
2. Takes saying no to sin. The temptation will come along stay faithful in mind as well as the body. Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, “Thou shalt not commit adultery: But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.” Matthew 5:27-28
3. Takes walking in the Spirit. Walking in the Spirit fixes bad days. You don’t want to be yourself you want to be walking in the Spirit “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law. And they that are Christ's have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts. If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit.” Galatians 5:22-25
4. Takes hard conversations. Somethings require holding each other accountable and talking through issues. “Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him. And if he trespass against thee seven times in a day, and seven times in a day turn again to thee, saying, I repent; thou shalt forgive him.” Luke 17:3-4
5. Takes forgiveness… “And if he trespass against thee seven times in a day, and seven times in a day turn again to thee, saying, I repent; thou shalt forgive him.” Luke 17:3-4
6. Takes growing in love. Love is action. When you focus on growing yourself and taking action to show love your emotions will follow. “Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
7. Takes giving yourself physically “Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.” 1 Corinthians 7:3-5
8. Takes putting no one or anything before your spouse except for Christ but making sure your put Christ first “And he is before all things, and by him all things consist. And he is the head of the body, the church: who is the beginning, the firstborn from the dead; that in all things he might have the preeminence.” Colossians 1:17-18
9. Takes leaving and cleaving “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” Genesis 2:24
10. Takes getting love at it source. “He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love.” 1 John 4:8
11. Takes realizing it is not your job to “fix” your spouse. That is God’s job. You can only “fix” yourself.