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01/01/2023

Happy New Year

08/08/2022

Before you get married, discuss:

-bills
-career
-religion
-finance
-dream home
-political views
-parenting style
-family influence
-childhood traumas
-family health history
-sexual expectations
-partner expectations
-beliefs to be instilled in your kids

Love is not enough!!

12/12/2021

I welcome new energy, new thoughts, and a new outlook that lifts me higher. I can do anything. I can manifest. I can make my dreams a reality. It’s all within me right now. I choose to see greater in everything and believe in unexplainable possibilities. Life is magical!

12/07/2021

Dear God, tonight we lift up the mama with depression. Her mind has a mind of its own, and she struggles to not believe the lies that it tells her. Tonight she feels lost and hopeless. But God, you are full of hope and are this sweet mama’s true North. Remind her tonight to cling to the hope that is found in you, medication, and counseling. You are a God who have given people great wisdom to help restore her mind and heal her heart, and when she leans into you and these tools, her healing becomes your glory on display in her life! Remind her to light is just around the corner. And so is hope. In Jesus’ name we pray, Amen!

23/06/2021

Hey Mums, This group is for anyone who is a Mother. Whether single or married. It's the Journey of motherhood, not the taglines.

22/06/2021

Dear God, tonight we lift up the mama who needs advice. She doesn’t know where to turn, and what she really wants right now is just a friend to listen to her. But God, you long to provide this sweet mama with both wisdom and friendship. Remind this mama that you are more than capable to give her both of these things, and that she can find both of them in your Word and by your Spirit! We ask for bold discernment in her life, we also ask for a deep comfort in you! And that when she has both of those things, that you would give her peace. In Jesus’ name we pray, Amen!

22/06/2021

Tonight we pray for the mom whose mind never gets a break. Lord, from the time her eyes open until she falls asleep, she is thinking about what she needs to do next. She makes the hard decisions and the easy ones. She decides when to let things go or take things on. She says yes when she wants to say no and says no when it would be so much easier to say yes. Her mind is in constant motion. Tonight, Lord, we thank You for the rest You give her. You don’t just bring rest to her body, You bring rest to her thoughts. Settle everything that is racing within her. Help her sleep tonight. We ask in Jesus’s name, Amen.

19/06/2021
14/06/2021

Dear God, tonight we lift up the mama who is in need of support. She has so much going on in her life, but doesn’t feel like she has anyone to step in and help her. She feels so alone, but doesn’t want to burden anyone and ask for help. But God, you created this sweet mama for community and friendship. She isn’t designed to carry her burdens alone, but to come to you with all things and invite others into her life. Remind her that her asking for help isn’t weak or burdensome, rather an opportunity for others to step in and love her well. In Jesus’ name we pray, Amen!

02/06/2021

Lord, I pray for the woman who is in the middle of a season of suffering that seems like it will never end. Give her strength to endure what she is facing right now. Help her to surrender the heavy load she is carrying over to You. She needs Your comfort, Your hope, and Your peace. Bring her good news, Lord. Cover her with Your grace and be ever near to her tonight. Amen.🙏🏼♥️

31/05/2021

Dear God, this morning we lift up the mama who is hurting. Her pain doesn’t have to be known by anyone except for you, but her pain is deep and real. And today, her heart is so heavy from it. But God, you hold this mama while she hurts, and you know her pain better than anyone else ever could. And in this pain, your deepest desire is to draw her close to you so that she can experience you in ways she never could otherwise. Remind her today how much you love her and that in her pain, she can still trust in your goodness. In Jesus’ name we pray, Amen!

30/05/2021

God, this evening, we lift up the one who feels distant from you.

Perhaps she’s been praying for something for a long time with seemingly no response. Maybe she longs to connect with you, but the words won’t seem to come. Maybe she’s experienced hurt or brokenness so painful that she’s just not sure what to say.

God, whatever the reason, we yearn to feel connected to you, but sometimes struggle to do so. Sometimes, many times, we wish you’d just sit here beside us, holding our hand, and telling us where to go from here.

But God, even when we dare ask, “Where are you, God?” we are reminded throughout scripture that you are with us. And even when our heart cries out, “I can’t feel you, God!” scripture teaches us that you never leave us.

So God, tonight I ask that you touch each person’s heart who reads this. I ask that they will be reminded of your presence and your steadfast love for them. And I ask that you remind each of us of your promise found in Psalm 139:7-10...that there is nowhere we can go where you aren’t there with us.

Thank you for your promises. Thank you for your faithfulness. In Jesus’ name, we pray, Amen.

26/05/2021

Lord, I pray for the woman who feels like she can't go on. Help her to have strength in what feels impossible. You see her pain and You love her so very much. Overwhelm her with Your comfort and care tonight. Give her eyes to see Your good gifts in the midst of heartache and faith to trust You with tomorrow. Cover her with Your grace and be ever near to her tonight, Lord. Amen.🙏🏼❤️

Lord, I pray for the woman who feels like her circumstances are too much for her to carry. Remind her right now Lord tha...
24/05/2021

Lord, I pray for the woman who feels like her circumstances are too much for her to carry. Remind her right now Lord that when it seems like she can't go on, You are there to hold her up. You've got her! Nothing is too hard for You! She can lean on You. Give her Your strength and give her Your hope. Help her to release her worries to You. Cover her with Your grace and be ever near to her tonight, Lord. Amen.🙏🏼♥️

Co-Parenting with a narcissistic, toxic co-parent...somebody needs to hear this...In an upcoming book, I write about the...
23/05/2021

Co-Parenting with a narcissistic, toxic co-parent...somebody needs to hear this...

In an upcoming book, I write about the co-parenting aspects of narcissistic abuse. The key for anyone dealing with a toxic, narcissistic co-parent — by necessity or involuntarily, is keeping your emotions out of the reach of their behavior and recognizing that you’re dealing with an emotional “Kidult.” The disconnect from empathy and the depraved indifference of a Kidult, drives their destructive behavior. Understand, a narcissist will use children as pawns in their games, and a garbage can to deposit their poisonous garbage about the other parent. For as long as they possibly can. But if you maintain a healthy standard for dealing with them, the child will eventually recognize the craziness and benefit from your non-participation. The narcissistic co-parent will, inevitably, even turn on their own child if/when the child isn’t completely loyal/compliant to their craziness.

To the extent possible, you manage the narcissistic co-parent by mastering the art of anticipation. Narcissists need fuel, reactionary and easily provoked participants, for their emotional games. They relish in the power to be puppeteers and to manipulate or control other people’s emotions. This is why it is important for you to “Resist and Remove” yourself from their game.

Narcissist are, behind their craziness, fragile, insecure and emotionally immature individuals — Kidults. To effectively co-parent with these emotional Kidults you have to:

1) Cut off all conversation and interactions that don’t expressly relate to the children. As tempting as it might be or as normal as it would be under any other circumstance, do not forget who you’re dealing with and do not let a moment of good behavior lure you into thinking that the narcissist has changed. With narcissists who have not changed, their moments of decency are like recesses between the hell.

2) Practice responding with no response. In other words, take your emotions out of it. The less you sponsor their emotional tirades with emotional reactions, the less power they have, the sooner they’ll recognize their behavior cannot and will not reduce you to being emotionally manipulated, and the sooner they will be reduced to a flicker rather than a flame.

3) Do not participate in poisonous, toxic, dysfunctional conversations/exchanges. If engaged with poisonous or toxic or dysfunctional conversation, develop a canned, emotionless response — i.e, “I’m sorry but I won’t participate in negative conversations as a means of achieving our goal of being healthy co-parents. Let’s talk again when we can honor our goal.” Be consistent with cutting off negative conversations and removing yourself if at all possible from them — calmly and nonthreating. They will be initially stumped and irritated by your refusal and drop dead seriousness about not participating in their crazy. Be willing to reopen necessary conversation when they are able to do so. If they don’t reengage the conversation and there is an important matter to be discussed or resolved, send the details by text and know they received it whether they acknowledge it or not.

4) Be The Light for your child. The positive force in their life. Do not refer to the narcissist co-parent in any way negative to your child or, say anything to anyone (including the narcissists family members and protectors) that you don’t want repeated or to add fuel to the narcissists adolescent, insecure fire. Keep your conversations with your child focused on your child’s feelings, emotions without discussing the narcissistic parent in derogatory/unhealthy ways. Remember, the narcissist is your thorn but they’re your child’s parent — good, bad or indifferent. Your goal is to offer your child a counterbalance to the narcissists craziness and to ensure that your child is comfortable talking to you about their feelings. You’re your child’s listener, safe place to vent, but do not throw gasoline on the fire. Your counterbalance will train up your child to see and understand the difference between controlled and out of control emotions.

5) Set and maintain healthy boundaries that remind them of and reinforces your attempt to be a healthy, respectful co-parent to honor your child. And whatever you do, stick to your boundaries even if it initially infuriates them that you are withdrawing from their game and establishing healthy and reasonable rules for co-parenting. Don’t be tempted to relax your boundaries when, and it’s inevitable, the narcissist tries to love bomb you to seduce/manipulate you back into their game.

6) Communicate in advance. Confirm appointments or deviations from agreed upon schedules far enough in advance to minimize the narcissists need to argue for the sake of arguing over last minute changes/notices.

7) Record and Repeat: Record and document every call with an abusive narcissist. I would even suggest including someone who is neutral to listen in on and be a witness to the abusive narcissists conversations. This may be fruitful if you ever have to go to court. Repeat by text and/or email (whichever is the most effective) every agreement with the narcissist who frequently feigns amnesia.

8)Formalize custody agreements. If you haven’t done so and need to, have a formal/court ordered custody agreement. Nothing gives a narcissist power like no rules. Visitation days and times including holidays and birthdays, summers and vacations, need to be spelled out in detail so as to take all power away from the narcissist to manipulate and create chaos around visitations.

9) Do not tolerate threatening behavior. If necessary, get a retraining order for an abusive, malignant narcissist co-parent. Child support and visitations aren’t altered by restraining orders. It just alters/neutralizes the interactions — for communication, drop offs/pickups, and may require a neutral location or a neutral third-party for the exchanges. There is also an option to have a court appointed “Guardian Ad Litem” (“GAL”), who is (neutral) person, usually a lawyer, who looks out for the “best interest of a child.” You can request that one be appointed in family court. The GAL serves as a lookout and investigator into any and all matters that effect the child — including abusive co-parents.

You don’t have power to change a narcissist, you can however choose the role you play in their insidious game. Prayer should not only be focused on the narcissist but also on your own strength to keep your emotions out of their reach. Understand, you aren’t their therapist or God, you are protecting your child/children by minimizing the effects of the narcissists behavior. They may never change — they have free will of choice, but remember, you aren’t in it for the rest of your life, you’re in it for the rest of your child’s adolescence/pre-adult years.

Prayers for your strength!


20/05/2021

Dear God, tonight we lift up the mama who is searching for peace. In a world that seems so very out of her control, she is tired of trying to find moments of peace but instead coming up empty handed. But God, we know that no matter what this precious mama’s situation is, that you will provide her with your perfect peace when she seeks you. Your peace covers any understanding or questioning that she might have, and you long to pour it out over her. Remind her that you are waiting with open arms, Lord. Grant her peace tonight. In Jesus’ name we pray, Amen!

16/05/2021

Dear God, tonight we lift up the mama who is discouraged. She does her best to keep a positive attitude, but lately it’s just so hard to. She wants to hold her head high, but the defeat she has been feeling is too much. But God, we know that you see this precious mama’s discouragement and want to replace it with encouragement in you. You long to reach into her circumstances and walk through this season with her, giving her strength to endure the disappointments and prepare her for something great that she can’t see ahead. Give her peace tonight, God; give her peace and allow her to wake up with a new perspective in the morning. In Jesus’ name we pray, Amen!

Happy Blessed Sunday!
16/05/2021

Happy Blessed Sunday!

14/05/2021

Lord, I pray for the woman who is struggling with anxiety. Calm the chaos that is in her heart and mind tonight. Overwhelm her with Your peace. Help her to wholly trust in You to take care of every detail of her life. Give her wisdom to seek help if she needs it. Settle her soul, cover her with Your grace, and be ever near to her, Lord. Amen.🙏🏼❤️

11/05/2021

God is going to do something extraordinary in your life today. He is going to show up in ways that you didn’t expect him to. He is going to move a mountain, part the seas, cut a path and open a door.

Even if it’s in a way that you aren’t expecting, keep an eye out for his movement. Ask the Spirit to show himself to you. Be on the lookout for his faithfulness.

Because often times, we are so focused on looking for how we want him to move, that we don’t even realize when he is working on our behalf. Don’t miss it today.

“Now to him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen.” Ephesians 3:20-21

10/05/2021

Dear God, tonight we lift up all of the mamas. We praise you for the gift of motherhood and how you created us to be a part of it. We ask you to provide us with strength and dignity as we love and care for our children, that you would cover us with your wisdom and kindness. We are so thankful that in the hard places of motherhood that you meet us no matter what; that our struggles aren’t meaningless to you, and that you long to draw us closer to you in those seasons. Thank you God for your great love for us and faithfulness in our lives! In Jesus’ name we pray, Amen!

10/05/2021

A simple prayer of surrender as we start this new week...

Lord, I'm so grateful for Your everlasting love and vision for my life. Help me embrace the fact that Your plans are so much greater than mine. Humble my heart in the moments when I try to maintain control so I can fully serve You. Amen.

I am very passionate about motherhood!My prayer this afternoon is for any woman believing and praying for the fruit of t...
09/05/2021

I am very passionate about motherhood!

My prayer this afternoon is for any woman believing and praying for the fruit of the womb. May God bless you in double portions! May it be done for you exceedingly and abundantly beyond your imagination!

I believe Motherhood is a blessing and a responsibility for the born and the unborn child.

In any category you are may our God in heaven give you the strength, courage and honour to pursue all that is before you.

May the abundance of peace, love and any other provision be your portion.

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY.

I love you all!

03/05/2021

Lord, I pray for the woman who is struggling as a mom. Remind her right now that You have chosen her to be the mom that her kids need.

When she feels like she is failing, help her to surrender outcomes to You. She won't do all the things right and You don't expect her to!

You love her kids even more than she does and she can trust You with them.

Give her wisdom, cover her with Your grace and be ever near to her this week, Lord.

Amen🙏🏼♥️

01/05/2021

The role of a Godly wife is to glorify and submit to her husband. I know the “S” word is not easy for some of us. Especially when it goes against everything society says we should be.

Yes, we may be strong, independent, successful, etc. But sassiness, back talk, eye-rolling, the silent treatment, withholding affection, what does that have to do with submission?

Let’s keep it real, some days you don’t even feel like trying. You’re tired. Life’s hard. Not to mention, some days you don’t feel like your husband’s behaviour is deserving of an excellent wife. (You probably don’t always get excellent-ness back.)

But Ephesians 5:33 tells us to respect our husband. It’s not conditional. It’s a command.

I am not advocating being a doormat or treating your husband like a god. But loving and knowing God gives us a desire and the strength to become more like Him. In doing so, we become more excellent as a wife.

Am I perfect? Not. Not even close. I fail daily.
But God has placed a desire in me to want to be the kind of wife He wants me to be. Not excellent compared to others, but excellent by His standard...

Love & Light Mama boys!

Good night

01/05/2021

What is one of your favorite Bible verses? Why?

30/04/2021

I often say you can not force a cow to drink from the well, but what makes a man neglect his flesh and blood?

Some friendships have seasons. Sometimes they're your person for a while, and then your paths dramatically or gradually ...
30/04/2021

Some friendships have seasons. Sometimes they're your person for a while, and then your paths dramatically or gradually part ways.

It's important to remember:

You can love someone and still let them go.

You can part ways and still honor the time that you spent together.

You can stop being in each other's day to days and still treasure them in your heart.

It's okay to realize that a friendship has run it's course and that you're not on the same path anymore. It's also okay to celebrate the heck out of the time that you were.

Love and light ❤️

It's that time again, Thankful Thursday! I'm a firm believer there is always much to be thankful for, but a hug from my ...
29/04/2021

It's that time again, Thankful Thursday!

I'm a firm believer there is always much to be thankful for, but a hug from my son tops the list this week.

I'm thankful for the gift of being called mommy even when sometimes I don't feel mummy enough!

I'd love to hear what you're feeling grateful for this week.

Love & Light Mama Boys!

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