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28/02/2024

Very soon, two of our girls will be turning "double digits"...10! Their first decade has very much been under the watchful eye of their parents - Being guided along the way:

Learning to walk and talk
What to eat
How to learn
What clothes to wear
"Yes" to those friends, "no" to those

But now, as they embark on their second decade, arguably the most influential, as they start to spread their own wings, meet people outside of the family, start romantic relationships, learn to drive, choose a career path, drink alcohol, navigate peer pressure, leave home (!)...
..What one piece of advice would you have for them? A wise word, something you wish you knew, a poignant poem, a piece of scripture from a Holy book - What word could you give them to hold onto as they navigate the next 10 years?

Happy birthday girls - Go for gold 🥇- You got this 💪🏾🙏🏾❤️

12/10/2023

⚠️Trigger Warning⚠️

It's okay to be okay. Yes, you heard me right. Baby loss is real and is painful, but it is also okay to feel okay about it, whether that's soon afterwards or years later.

My daughter died in the womb 5 years ago and this is the first Baby Loss Awareness Week since, that I've actually felt "unmoved". I started questioning my headspace, worried that I was repressing the memory or that my heart has gone cold. Also, on her anniversary just last month, we accidentally celebrated her on the wrong date...The day before. Again, I was questioning how I could make such a mistake. And lastly, when my husband went to visit her grave for the first time in a very long time recently, her plaque was missing - We have no idea how long it has been missing, but if we visited regularly, perhaps it wouldn't have happened.

Putting all these situations together, almost made me hang guilt over my shoulders. It almost made me believe that I don't care. It almost made me think that I have forgotten her.

Never.

And I never will. That day. Those fingers. Those toes.

But what it has made me realise, is that by God's grace, I am okay...I have peace...I have taken another step forward. When you go through a loss, there is a danger of feeling that we always have to stay in that place of hurt and misery to almost prove to ourselves (and sometimes others) how much that person meant to us. But grief is a journey and we each move through it differently.

So today, during Baby Loss Awareness Week, if you have experienced a baby loss but you're NOT feeling particularly triggered, and you're NOT planning to light a candle, and you're NOT teary, please know that that really is okay...Don't feel guilty. YOU know your baby will forever be with you in your heart - Because your baby has shaped you - And your baby's smile lives on through your smiling face.

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If you would still like to get help and speak to someone, have a great team, including who specifically helps the Black community.

01/06/2023

Girls seem to grow up so fast!! I have one girl and 4 boys, but I feel like one of my greatest parenting challenges may be trying to stop my daughter becoming a woman at the age of 9 😂😩

I'd love to hear your thoughts and experience...

- When do you allow make up?
- Do you allow her to wear cropped tops?
- How do you explain that if they wear certain clothes they will look over sexualised even for a child - Or is that already too much for their young minds to handle?
- What about all those tiktok dances with the "mature" moves!

Or, do you just let them be?? Because we want our kids to take pride in their appearance and grow in confidence...?

I think I'm in the middle - No cropped tops, no posing with her tongue out (!), maybe a little gloss on the lips for a special occasion. I will let her wear short(ish) shorts because I also don't want to rob her of a carefree Summer...But some Black girls at age 9 are already way more shapely than their white peers, so the shorts hug differently 😩

Would love to hear from the men/dad's too!!

I don't normally post my kids on the forever grid but she was fine with it and even wanted me to choose a picture without her sunnies so her whole face can be seen...I'm still not budging on that one though...only in IG stories...

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17/02/2023

Oh don’t mind us…. Just sitting here dreaming about summer. 😎☀️👙👗

04/02/2023

Today is World Cancer Day and here is my Cancer story

I was 12 when my mum was diagnosed with Cancer and if I’m honest I didn’t have a clue what that meant. I just knew that she had to go to the hospital for chemotherapy to try and make her better.

Mum was a fighter, but first and foremost during that period she was a Mum. She shielded us from most of the realities of what it meant living with Cancer. She’d have chemo in the morning and then go into work in the afternoon, something that now as an adult I’ll never understand how she did that. A lot of our childhood made Cancer normal, sitting on the bed at Greenwich hospital doing homework whilst nurses “made Mum better”. Mum finally went into remission when I was about 14/15.

I remember being on a ski trip in Switzerland with school at 16 and whilst I was away, every time I asked to speak to Mum I was told she was at work, or busy. On my return in the car my Dad told me Mum had been in hospital and the Cancer had returned and there was nothing they could do. Mum died 12 days after my 17th birthday at the age of 47.

Because my paternal grandmother (last picture), maternal grandmother and my mother died from Cancer it was always a worry for me that I one day would have it so I had the predictive genetic test a few years ago and although I didn’t have the BRCA gene, I could still develop Cancer.

Black women are more likely to be diagnosed at a later stage of Cancer compared to White women, when treatment is less likely to be successful.

On I’m asking you all to know the symptoms of Cancer and get checked even if you think nothing is wrong. Be persistent with Doctors if you think something is wrong. We don’t have to just be a statistic.

09/01/2023

With permission from my friend and her daughter I’m sharing this.

Over the weekend my friend’s daughter was out enjoying herself with her friends (she’s over 18) and they were doing “balloons” aka Nitrous Oxide which are “legal highs”.

She ended up in the back of an ambulance being rushed by blue lights to hospital as she started having seizures. She lost all control of her body and bladder. Her eyes were rolling back, she was vomiting and on arrival at hospital was rushed straight to resus before my friend could even make it to the hospital. The medical staff told my friend, she could have died.

Even though she’s been discharged, she’s had a number of seizures at home since and we’re hoping this isn’t short term and doing balloons hasn’t caused any long term damage.

Parents please have open and transparent conversations with your kids and friends about the dangers of doing balloons. Just because something is legal it doesn’t make it safe.

02/01/2023

The public have been submitting their nominations since the 14th November 2022 apparently you like us….. you really like us! ❤️❤️

You can now vote for us via the website at www.glomamaawards.com (link in bio) and voting is open for two weeks, and closes on Monday 16th January 2022 (11.59pm).

Winners will be announced at the 5th Annual GLOMAMA Awards on Saturday 11th March 2023, in conjunction with International Women’s Day.

Thank you for listening! We truly appreciate the LOVE! Now…. Go vote!!! 🤌🏾🤌🏾🤌🏾

01/01/2023

3 things …. for 2023 …. from 3 of us….. 👩🏾‍💻🧘🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️

29/12/2022

What does 2023 have in store for you?💫

DOUBLE TAP TO OWN IT & @ someone who needs to see it. After all…. Seeing is believing ✨

#2023

17/10/2022

Earlier this year we were asked to contribute to an important programme about being Black, female and invisible.

A lot of difficult conversations took place around what it means to be a Black woman today in the UK.

Even though sometimes these conversations are difficult, they very much need to take place and we were honoured to lend our voice to the programme.

we’re so incredibly proud of you and the whole production team for making this and allowing our voices to be part of this important conversation.

Judi Love: Black, Female & Invisible airs tonight on Channel 4 at 11pm.

15/10/2022

Trigger Warning⚠️

Behind every smile there hides a story but we’re reminded that there’s a rainbow after every storm 🌈 🙏🏾

Meet the amazing we had the pleasure of sitting down with her for this week’s Baby Loss Awareness Week podcast episode.

Aliyah has endured what many of us would call our worst nightmare, she’s not just had one stillbirth but two.

We chopped it up with her about her devastating experiences, how she coped and how she remains so positive and optimistic about the future.

Kamal & Aniya will never be forgotten & live on through Aliyah🕊️🤍

If anyone has been affected by baby loss please contact for specialist support and advice. Sands also have a dedicated support officer support families and women from Black backgrounds.

18/09/2022

In our latest Blog post shares some powerful words. ✊🏽✊🏾✊🏼

“Will Chris Kaba’s murder be just another black square? Another mother and father grieving for their child, with pain so deep it hurts their souls and every cell in their bodies? As I write this as a mother of three black children I cry.”

Read more on our website www.blackmumsupfront.com or link in bio

16/09/2022

Happy Friday 🥳

We’ve teamed up with and have 3 pairs of brand new Air Force 1’s to giveaway.

Most parents will know these trainers are like gold dust at the moment and have also increased in price but we are giving away 3 pairs, any size!

To be in with a chance of winning, comment with the size you need and we will pick 3 winners at random.

Good luck!

19/08/2022

I saw this article today and it was an interesting read. I’ve been leaving Sophia home alone since she was 10. She’ll be walking to senior school alone so I’ve been trying to build her confidence and independence. Also, I can’t take her everywhere. Especially if I’m just running to the shop quickly.

But maybe aged 10 is too young?

There is no legal age a child can be left home alone as every child matures differently.

What age did you leave yours? Or are you dreading the day you do?

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12/08/2022

6 MONTHS OF YOU 🌒 ✨❤️.

My god new motherhood is a trip. This insane mix of love, chaos, boredom, fear, joy and exhaustion. I’d almost forgotten.

And then there’s motherhood as a FREELANCER.

🤯

How come my never ending TO DO list never features *sustain a human?

Lovin the rawness though. Life on the edge. Trying to write a screenplay. With breast pads. ✌🏽

30/06/2022

We are SISTERHOOD🌸❤️

We’re still gushing from our Bubbles & Brunch event last weekend.

Thank you to everyone that came out💜

28/06/2022

Eat, play, SLEEP, repeat! I envy this toddler so much right now.

He woke up SO early, wouldn't go back to sleep, then played so hard this morning and literally fell asleep like that...WHEN he wanted, HOW he wanted. Meanwhile, me and my red eyes are crawling to the finish line.

Mums, do you nap when you get the chance?? What do you do when the kids wake at stoopid o'clock? Do you get up with them or pass them your phone? 😩

And how long is the perfect nap? Coz I'm ready for one, now!

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21/06/2022

📣📣📣📣 Breaking News 🎉🎉🎉🎉 All Ladies, All Mums, All Friends!

With 4 days to go until our brunch we’ve added a small limited amount of spaces! 🎉

Spaces include 3 course meal plus welcome drinks and lots of fun!

Also pleased to announce we have all partnering with us for our brunch to provide goodie bags for all attendees!

Grab your tickets now and if you just fancy coming down (without meal & drink option) then pop on in, we’d love to see you.

Link in bio - see you Saturday 🎉🙌🏾

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Two years ago we all watched for 8 mins and 46 seconds as George Floyd was murdered by a police officer. Two years ago we saw the explosion of Black Lives Matter and globally Black people across the world said is enough is enough. We were tired of the injustices, tired of being judged and tired of being discriminated against just because of the colour of our skin. As Mums, the last two years and beyond, we have fought for equality, we’ve fought for change, we’ve fought to try and make this world we live in just a little bit safer, kinder and more equal for our Black & Black mixed children to exist in. It’s been hard. We’ve cried, we’ve been angry and we’ve had to watch whilst cases like #ChildQ exist and we have the same conversations over and over again about how our children (and us) shouldn’t have to experience traumatic situations just because we are Black. In the midst of those tears and anger we’ve seen so many allies step up and say “this is OUR fight, I want to help, I want to use MY privilege to help.” These conversations aren’t easy, they never are but neither is experiencing racism. In two years since George Floyd died, a lot has been learned, a lot of steps been made, but there’s still lots to do and we hope our current and future allies continue to stand with us and use their voices. #GeorgeFloyd #AntiRacist #Allies #StandWithUs

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Heartbroken that you and so many families went through this. 💔 Thank you for this moment, thank you for saying what we are all thinking, thank you for your courage and thank you for your eloquent words. Disgusted and embarrassed by our government is an understatement. @charlenewhite @loosewomen #StandUpForWhat’sRight #Covid #Hero

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