Understanding Coercive Control and Stalking

07/01/2024

Work on yourself, build confidence and become the fierce badass you were made to be.

06/01/2024

Remember who you are and that you deserve to be treated with care and respect.

05/01/2024

Your mental health, wellbeing and peace take priority over everything else, especially over an abusive partner.

04/01/2024

Once you learn to consistently set boundaries you can create some wonderful friendships and relationships based on kindness and mutual respect. You may be shocked by how many compassionate humans are out there just waiting to be discovered.

03/01/2024

Remember that everything they say is a reflection of them. If they say something mean, it's because they're mean.

02/01/2024

You can do this. With some planning and safety measures, you can take back your power.

01/01/2024

Show yourself compassion. You're a human dealing with a tough situation. How would you act towards a friend going through this? If you would be kind and understanding to them, extend the same gift to yourself.

31/12/2023

Give love and respect to yourself, model it to your children, spend time with friends or family who love and respect you. Please don't lose sight of the fact you deserve it.

30/12/2023

Disagreeing and stating your opinion isn't an attack. If your partner reacts like they're being attacked everytime you express an opinion or thought that isn't in 100% agreement with theirs then you may become anxious to speak up for y yourself. This is very unhealthy.

29/12/2023

This is hard. You'll do things you regret. You'll forgive more times than they deserve to be forgiven. You'll hand chances out like candy on Halloween. Be kind to yourself, you're human.

28/12/2023

You're probably blamed for everything and feel like everything is your fault but it isn't. You're not responsible for your partners feelings, actions or emotions. They're responsible for it all.

27/12/2023

Stand firm. They have no right to tell you what to do.

26/12/2023

You may have been made to feel like you can't make decisions for yourself, like you're not capable, but you are, I promise.

25/12/2023

I hope you enjoy your day today and manage to find some time to do things you enjoy with people you enjoy. Have a safe day ❤️

24/12/2023

Boundaries are so important. They're to protect you. They're what you will accept in your life. They're not to control others, others can do as they like but you decide if they do it around you.

23/12/2023

It can feel like living in a nightmare at times, you're scared, frustrated and confused. You can keep going though. Better days are yet to come.

22/12/2023

They won't change. The only thing you can change is your response.

21/12/2023

Stop using all your energy trying to make them happy and follow their rules, the rules change every day and they'll never be happy. Make yourself happy!

20/12/2023

Treat yourself with the kindness and love you deserve, even if someone else doesn't believe you do.

19/12/2023

Your thoughts, feelings and values are valid and worth hearing because you are a worthy human being.

18/12/2023

Realising that every word, remark and complaint is carefully crafted to manipulate, coerce or destroy you gives you your power back. You can let it go in one ear and out of the other.

17/12/2023

Of course this needs to planned carefully and thought out to keep you safe but when everything is in place you absolutely have the power to walk out of that door.

16/12/2023

If they can't see your worth that's their problem! You are a worthy human being and don't deserve to be spoken to or treated like you're not.

15/12/2023

We know that leaving is hard and it can sometimes take time to put a plan in place to leave safely. It's important we take care of ourselves while we're living in this toxic environment.

14/12/2023

You're not making them do anything, they have full control over themselves and if they don't, they need to spend time in therapy and away from you!

09/07/2023

Setting boundaries can feel like you are being horrible when you’ve spent years not being able to have any. Keep going, it will get easier.

09/07/2023

08/07/2023

Yes!!!!

08/07/2023

I'm finding it very hard now I'm in a safe relationship, to figure out what I like to do for people.

I like looking after people and caring for people but after being in an abusive relationship I stopped doing anything for anyone because the thought of feeling like I was being used and abused was too much.

Now I'm in a good relationship, I want to take care of them, I want to cook nice meals for them and wash their clothes for them but there's part of me that won't do it because I don't want it to become expected or required. They do lovely caring things for me all the time but I'm still fighting this thing inside me that feels like it makes me a mug.

My ex used to call me his mug all the time. I'm hoping in time it will get better. Has anyone felt like this before?