24/10/2020
Dear brother,
Take a few minutes to imagine a woman you love genuinely. A woman you love enough to ask her to be your wife. A woman for whom you can do it all.
Now imagine committing your all to that woman. Imagine building a marriage and home with her. Imagine being loyal to her.
Now imagine her picking another to join you.
Be sincere, how do you imagine that would feel?
It would be crushing. It would hurt and confuse and break one down. It would tear the heart apart in shock, sew it together in hope and disbelief then tear it apart again, over and over again.
That is the reality many have got to face. They face it because of their faith and because the choice was never there.
This could be you!
This could be you!
Brother, this could be you!
Yet, this is not you.
This, more than anything else should hand you extra empathy for that who you claim to love. This should make you worship your Lord who is Most Beneficent and Most Merciful even to you when you err (and you err a lot)
Treat your wife with empathy when you consider adding another. Let her emotions count a lot in that decision not because you cannot do otherwise but cause you truly care and because you know if tables were turned, you would want it better.
There are many painful stages a woman has to go through in accepting polygyny no matter her faith.
There's the initial shock, the anger, the disappointment, the hurt, the disbelief, the anger again, the disbelief, the plea, the questioning, the anger again, the hurt, the realisation, the hurt, the crush, the acceptance.
Think about this. Please, think about this.
Remember your Creator, remember all the emotions and let them reflect in your actions.
You alone will know how you want to give account of your treatment of those handed to you to protect.
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