STOP I've just been triggered (2024)

04/07/2023

Just go ahead and ignore the typo in the attached image 🤪

Have you listened to our latest episode of STOP! I've just been triggered?

Natalie and Candice have created this podcast as a bit of a passion project to help shine a light on emotional triggers and help people to navigate them in a mindful way.

Let us know if there is topic you would like us to cover in an upcoming episode!

28/06/2023

Recognising the emotion you are feeling is the first step to healing or moving through that emotion.

Then try to acknowledge your sadness and the situation that prompted it. And give yourself time to deal with any problems and feel better. You also may want to call on resources that could help you (such as friends and family, a psychologist, or another health professional).

25/06/2023

Did you know that that feeling sad might be masking other feelings?

Tune into Season 2, Episode 12 to listen to Nat and Candice chat about when we feel sad.

20/06/2023

We are back today to chat about when our triggers cause us to feel sad :(

"This is one I really struggle with for many, many, many years. Everything made me feel sad. I think it’s my default emotion." says Candice

And that not uncommon for empathetic people.

Sadness is one of those things that we all feel from time to time and all sorts of things can trigger us to feel sad.
- having trouble at home (for example, family fights or domestic violence)
- having trouble at school or work, or feeling pressure there
- moving home
- losing a loved one or a friend
- being ill, or caring for someone who is ill
- experiencing chemical changes in your body (from puberty, drugs or medicines)
- experiencing changes in your thoughts (for example, developing an unhelpful thinking style such as being self-critical, or learning new information about subjects such as poverty or terrorism).

Sadness often occurs at the same time as other feelings, such as anger, stress, guilt, grief, anxiety or hopelessness.

Sometimes, the other feeling may be so strong that you don’t realise you are sad. Or the sadness masks those other feelings. So sadness is one that often needs a little investigating to get to the root cause.

Tune in to hear us chat about navigating sadness....

12/06/2023

Feeling safe also means being self-assured and ditching the self-doubt.

It means waking up in the morning and deeply knowing that you deserve to live in a safe space and have the happiness that it brings.

It's the ultimate goal of Holistic Therapy or any other means of self-exploration.

Tune in and listen to how to start to find your safety within.

07/06/2023

Have you listened to our latest episode yet?

In our therapy practices creating a safe space is essential, not just in the room we meet in, but creating safety resources within our clients - it's a very powerful and essential tool in healing.

04/06/2023

Many of us have no real concept of what being safe means.

Many of us did not received reassurance from our parents that no matter how horrible our life was going, we would eventually not just be ok, but thrive.

That sense of hope and faith was never instilled.

If you haven't already, tune in and listen to Season 2, Episode 11 and listen to us chat about safety and how to start to access your inner resource of safety.

30/05/2023

Season 2, Episode 11 out now!

It’s nice to be back after a little extended break! We thought we’d run a little series called Behind the Triggers to look into the emotions behind our triggers…

A lot of us have that anxious feeling running through our bodies on a regular basis, and those feeling comes in a variety of states -
from intense alarm bells loudly ringing to fear running in the background of our thoughts.

And when this happens, we may withdraw socially, rely on substances or get caught up in drama to escape this feeling of impending doom.
Truth is we end up walking through life fearful of looking at what causes this overwhelming worry & we begin to believe that we are just anxious because one or both of our parents were worriers.

It’s amazing how quickly we accept this as truth, instead of we are in fear because we have been traumatized at one or more points in our lives.

Tune in and listen to us chat about finding safety when triggered.

30/04/2023

SEASON 2, EPISODE 10 - out now!

We have been chatting about how to make this podcast as impactful as possible, so we thought every now and then we would include an episode that is a guided experience to help people navigate particular triggers or the impacts of triggers.

This is one of those episodes 🌿

In Service
Nat and Candice

24/04/2023

Have you tuned into our latest episode and followed our guided self-help process to help feel more confident in sharing your needs and wants?

We would love to know what you think!

22/04/2023

We have been looking at the podcast analytics and it would appear our most popular episode was at the end of season one when we were chatting about what happens when you don’t feel heard.

The latest episode (season 2, episode 10) is an extension on that conversation and includes a guided process to support our listeners to start to feel more confident in putting out into the world what they need and want.

If you want you can always go back and have another listen to Season 1 episode 20 and listen to the first conversation again.

18/04/2023

NEW EPISODE OUT TODAY

We are changing things up with this episode and sharing a full guided process to support people who don't feel confident to share their needs and wants.

This may stem from past experiences like being raised to be seen and not heard, or it might be an accumulation of events like in your childhood when you wanted to play soccer, but you were made to play basketball, you wanted to write and be creative but you were raised in a family where that was seen as airy fairy and not allowed to explore your creative side and so on. When we grow up into adults, often we take all this with us, this lack of trust in self, feel isolated and super vulnerable to put yourself out there.

This process is influenced by narrative therapy, hypnotherapy, meditation, parts therapy and somatic release.

If you don't fee like you are heard - or don't feel confident sharing your needs and wants this one is for you!

14/04/2023

Honestly, there is no easy way to heal trauma, we all know this. But generally, treatment of generational trauma involves holistic therapy or therapies.

But there is something you can do as an individual to support your own healing journey through generational trauma and that is to learn about it and talk about it with other people. When we start to understand things, and learn that we are not alone, and learn we are not helpless in our situation, we start to naturally find our own inbuilt coping mechanisms, we can start to seek the right support for ourselves, and break the cycle of generational trauma.

Open and honest conversations with friends and if it feels safe to do so, family, can be really nourishing on so many levels primarily because we start to understand that we aren’t alone in our suffering. We might all be dealing with different things but a struggle is a struggle and just because we are struggling doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with us. Social Media isn’t real life, we need to start having more and more uncomfortable and honest conversations so we can feel connected and empowered.

10/04/2023

There isn’t actually a specific diagnosis of generational trauma in the standard classifications of mental disorders, but it is widely accepted by the mental health community.

Intergenerational Trauma can show up as all the normal ways we recognise trauma but another tell is through learned beliefs, behaviours and patterns that become engrained, and this kind of wires in personality traits, relationship and parenting styles, communication styles. Just like all sorts of positive generational traits are passed down, the unhelpful trauma and survival traits are passed down.

Generational trauma can also show up as behaviours that repeat as generations continue. For example, domestic abuse, or in**st are traumatic experiences that can repeat for generations. These horrible experiences become accepted by the family because over time they have be desensitised to the experience, they feel helpless and then the trauma continues on and on and on….

Season 2, Episode 9 is all about Generational Trauma.

07/04/2023

Have you listened to the latest episode of STOP! I've Just Been Triggered? We are chatting generational trauma.

Generational trauma is something as therapists we are discovering more and more with our clients (and within ourselves if we are honest).

Tune in and let us know what you think!

04/04/2023

All sorts of things can get passed down through families generationally, physical characteristics, personality traits, genetic conditions, and in some cases trauma can also be inherited.

Fascinating isn’t it. Now there is still a stack of research that needs to happen to really clarify exactly how this happens and how it all works. But at the moment there are theories around it occurring through in-utero exposure to things like stress hormones and also trauma being passed down and activated through epigenetics.

If you think of it from an evolutionary perspective, because our brains are hardwired to keep us safe, for our survival we are passing down what our brains/bodies think are essential survival traits, but is actually trauma… Humans are a very clever species, but we all still have these primitive survival instincts that happen on autopilot unless we do some work essentially rewire those instinctual responses and make changes in our life around the things that trigger those responses.

Listen along to this fascinating and often forgotten part of the trauma experience - NEW EPISODE OUT TODAY

31/03/2023

In every episode we try to provide a little information to help people grow their understanding of trauma and emotional triggers, but we also try and share techniques you can use to help support yourself.

Have you listened to our latest episode? We would love to hear what you think!

In Service
Nat and Candice

27/03/2023

The effects of trauma can be long lasting & negatively influencing daily functioning and relationships, as well as overall mental health in the long term.

It's important to remember these things may have happened to you, but it's not who you are.

24/03/2023

Did you know:

The nervous system can’t always distinguish between an actual threat to physical safety and an emotional or mental threat.

This is one of the reasons traumatic events and reactions are held as somatic memories in the body. Even if the traumatic event/incident or if ongoing trauma happened a long time ago, a traumatized brain and body can go into this series of reactions whenever the individual experiences a trauma trigger.

The nervous system of a trauma survivor can sometimes remain in a state of hyperarousal & hypervilgence even when there is no immediate danger.

This occurs because the brain and body have not yet found a way to process and let go of trauma.

Tune in to listen the latest episode on Big T Trauma.

21/03/2023

New Episode out today!

In our latest episode we are chatting about Big T Trauma. It's a bit of a heavy on, just a heads up!

Big T Trauma is a reaction to a deeply disturbing, life-threatening event or situation — so for example, war, natural disasters, violent crimes, a school shooting, a serious car accident, or sexual abuse. In addition, the death of a parent or loved one can be a big T trauma.

These are the types of trauma that can lead to PTSD. For trauma to be considered PTSD, symptoms must last more than a month and be severe enough to interfere with daily functioning.

Acute big T trauma results from a single traumatic incident, while chronic big T trauma is the result of repeated, ongoing trauma, such as physical or sexual abuse or domestic violence. Bullying or cyberbullying can also qualify as chronic trauma, particularly if it is severe and ongoing.

Big T trauma and PTSD have serious mental, physical, and emotional impacts on people.

As we said it's a heavy one, but it's worth a listen. Tune in on your fav platform.

In Service
Nat and Candice

17/03/2023

STOP! I've Just Been Triggered is a passion project for us (Candice and Nat) and we are really proud to be demystifying trauma and emotional triggers. We are also here in service and sharing ther**eutic tips and tools you can use in your own trauma healing journey.

In each episode we will be sharing simple techniques you can use to support yourself in your healing because not everyone needs therapy! But if you do, we both have Therapy Clinics and can support you 1:1.

Check out - www.empoweredbynat.com and www.thekindnesscouch.com for more information on starting therapy with us.

Blessings
Nat and Candice

13/03/2023

In out latest episode we are chatting about Little T Trauma and how it can be more difficult to sport because there isn't necessarily one specific event that obviously triggers the trauma response.

Have a listen and let us know what you think?

In Service
Nat and Candice

11/03/2023

Have you listened to our latest episode? We are chatting about Little T Trauma (FYI -there's nothing little about it)

The events or circumstances that cause Little T or Big T can create the same symptoms of trauma, and might include:
• Confusion, difficulty focusing, trouble making decisions
• Feeling nervous and overwhelmed in everyday situations
• Trouble sleeping
• Feeling guilt of shame
• Panic attacks or feeling anxious a lot of the time
• Having trouble enjoying the things you once did
• Emotional numbness
• Being on edge
• Depression and grief
• Avoiding things
• Unhealthy thoughts

And as you can imagine this can impact all areas of life, relationships, work, friendships, health…

In Service
Nat and Candice

07/03/2023

New Episode OUT TODAY and we are focusing on Little T Trauma, which has a very deceptive name because there is nothing little about it!

Often when we think of trauma we think of catastrophic events. And for a long time in the trauma space even professionals were led to believe that trauma only existed when we experienced life threatening events, like war, r**e, and horrible things like that. But over time it became overwhelmingly obvious that people were experiencing events not typically defined as trauma and having the same emotional and physical impact which led to a huge expansion in the definition of and our understanding of trauma.

Little T Trauma refers to events that typically don’t involve violence or disaster, but do create significant distress. Meaning, things like an ongoing situation what causes you to feel distress, or a sense of helplessness can cause little T Trauma. So it might be a relationship breakdown, loss of a job, financial worries, not being heard, seen or validated as a child, times where you felt isolated and alone.

These trauma’s can often be a little more difficult to identify because there wasn’t necessarily one big obvious event that stands to cause the trauma to be trapped in the body.

**Remembering that trauma isn’t the event, it’s the response that happens within you.

Check out the full conversation on your fav podcast platform.

In Service
Nat and Candice

03/03/2023

We are getting ready to record episode 7 on Little T trauma and it's going to be a good one!

But before you tune into the upcoming episode make sure you check out episode 6 (season 2) first and learn about how to instil a safety resource within.

x Natalie and Candice

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