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05/04/2023

Will there ever be a time in the world when problems will cease?

Some say "Yes...but". They say that this will only happen,

"When human beings cease to be inhabitants of the world,

They believe that when humans are no more in the world, the air, the water and everything in it would be spared of the poison humans with flesh and blood, have injected into the world.

As long as humans are still in the world they infer, the world will continue to present you and I with problems to solve. And they add that the world will continue to show you and I how to solve these problems.

But... as it's natural and normal, only very few of us will continue to solve problems for most of us. Why?

The few that say "yes, problems will end in the world", think may be correctly, only very few of us will continue to place problems of others in place of personal problems. So they conclude, only the selfless will continue to live without personal problems in the world.

These selfless few that can erase the satisfaction of the needs of their flesh and blood for the filling of the needs of others love without personal problems in the world.

It's these selfless few that understand that personal problems will never end. They also understand that, no matter how much wealth one accumulates, the cessation to problems will never come.

But burdens are lightened, a legacy is bequeathed and a lasting memory is created in the world by solving the problems of others.

For the selfless, there's an end to personal problems. They live everyday to solve the problems of others and for this cause, they cease to worry about the needs of their flesh and blood.

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22/03/2023

Why Is Self-Care Much More Important Now?
Self Care

If you don't take care of you, no one will,
if you don't take care of you, you cease to dream,,
when you cease to dream,, purposeful living ceases,
and life without a purpose is life without a meaning.

Some of the things you are going to see:

1.What is self care?

2.Why is self care important?

Areas of self care?

4.What are the things you should do to take care of your well being?

The pursuit of money and career excellence has led many to ignore taking care of their well being.

Many have sacrificed well being for other priorities only to have those things but have no good health to enjoy what were prioritized ahead of well being.

The consequences of ignoring self care are enormous. They include increase chances to fall into depression, a cycle of anxiety attacks and have recurring bouts of frustration, anger and sadness.

Life is meaningless without enduring feelings of happiness and inner peace. Self care has been clinically proven to increase happiness, improve energy, reduce stress, eliminate anxiety, improve concentration, reduce stress and improve other positives.

These are the reasons self-care is very important.

What is self care?

World Health Organization (WHO) defines self care as the ability of individuals, families and communities to promote health, prevent disease, maintain health and to cope with illness and disability with or without the support of health care providers.

Self care covers those routine activities we should engage in to maintain and promote well being. The following areas of self care have been identified;

1. Physical,

2. Emotional,

3. Psychological,

4. Financial,

5. Social and,

6. Professional,

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22/03/2023

How to get whatever you want.

Whatever you want is not in your possession right now,
but you can bring it home by;

1. defining it clearly,

2. knowing the path that leads there,

3. having the courage to turn back when you fail and begin again,

4. and finally, by refusing to quit,

until you win.

Those who win in life are those who have dreams,
dreams that make them sleepless and restless,
dreams that make them understand and accept that friendship begins
and friendship ends,
dreams that make them realize that life goes on and that happiness is within,
and it comes from living,
to do what others call work but winners call play.

Then when you live everyday to play the game you love,
you put yourself in the position
to have anything you want;
because your love would get you out of the bed every morning,
to traverse the earth with the rising sun, when others are still dreaming,
then love gives you the humility to surrender to nature, the greatest teacher;
to teach you and lead you to get whatever your heart desires,
now follow the path you love
and you'll have whatever you want.

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10/03/2023

Can you find yourself in a relationship?

is self discovery possible in a relationship?

For the person on the unfovaroble side of an imbalanced relationship, self discovery is an uphill task.

A balanced relationship where partners share love, attention and support equally, self discovery is made easy

As a victim of a lopsided toxic relationship, finding the time, space and energy to focus on the task of finding oneself is always going to be extremely difficult. A victim of a loveless relationship could only find their authentic self by reason of accidental awakening.

But for someone in a great relationship where good love flows, the process of self discovery is rarely accidental. It's often a conscious effort, borne out of a genuine support by one for the personal dreams and growth of another.

Whether your relationship supports your self discovery efforts or not, it's worth it, because the benefits are many.

So, make the commitment to understand the real you and your real worth. Because after you've discovered and accepted your real you, you would stop wasting time and resources in futile attempts to be like someone else. And you would also stop living your life the way that makes you unhappy but makes someone who doesn't care about you happy.

Understanding your real values opens the door to the discovery of your true talent. It is also the real driver of self motivation, which is the only form of consistent motivation that no one else can give to you.

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This self knowledge and acceptance of real talent and self motivation make it easy to reach any lofty height you set for yourself.

The awareness of this possibility waters the ground for a life of happiness and inner peace.

Yes, happiness and inner peace are found where self doubt and inner critic are replaced by self confidence and inner coach

The consistent feeling of happiness within, found upon acquiring self knowledge would pervade all aspects of your life including your...

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07/03/2023

How to break up nicely in 5 Easy Steps.

When you come to the end of the road after traveling together with a partner for so long, goodbyes have never been easy to say.

The difficulty to say goodbyes have caused many to quietly withdraw. They suddenly cut off communication links with former loved ones and fade away with no reasons given.

The sudden disappearance leaves the abandoned ex confused, heartbroken and wandering often, "What did I do wrong?"

But relationships don't have to end this way between two adults who one time seemed inseparable and were a source of strong support to each other. You can end a relationship without burning the bridge of friendship.

So, how can you break up nicely with your partner?

1. Be sure you really want to break up:

Be sure that it's what you really want. Some have broken up abruptly with someone, moved on to have other failed relationships and realizes later that the one they ended abruptly was their best.

Breaking up and regretting later coule be avoided when you're absolutely sure that there's no future in it.

When you're sure that you really want to quit, search for valid reasons before you sit down with your partner to have a discussion.

2. Know and be certain about the "why".

It's easier to sit down with your partner, have a communication and say good bye when you have valid reasons and are definite that they're enough.

Before you give your reasons, it would be appropriate to state up front that at the end of the discussion, there wouldn't be a change of mind because you've crossed the bridge. Then go ahead and state your reasons, say goodbyes and walk away

3. Walk away quickly.

When you're done talking, walk away quickly. Don't prolong the discussion; be emotionally detached and avoid a back and forth question and answer session. A prolonged session could stir up old feelings and rekindle the desire to stay together a little bit longer.

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01/03/2023

What are your five biggest fears and why?

Is it the fear of death?

Or are the fears of boredom, rejection, suffering and self confrontation hunting you?

If it’s the fear of death then you have nothing to fear because everyone will die. For every living human being, the real purpose of life lies between the beginning and the end. Now what is this real purpose?

The real purpose of life is not to live forever but to use the gift of life to do what you love and share your love with a world that never forgets worthy contributions. Chuck Palahniuk captures the purpose of life in the following words;

”We all die. The goal isn’t to live forever, but to create something that will.”

Set goals for yourself and go about working hard to achieve them. Be absorbed in your pursuits and when the fear of death occasionally sneaks up on you, find strength in George R.R.Martin’s words and push it aside;
“What do we say to the Lord of death? Not today.”

Are you afraid of boredom? You don’t need to be, you can create excitement for yourself everyday of your life, just by following your heart. The feeling of boredom usually comes from either doing what you don’t love or from being overwhelmed by loneliness.

You can overcome boredom and loneliness by doing just two things,

Create exciting moments for yourself. Live life by your terms and make every minute count. Look forward to exciting moments you create and they would get you out of the bed every day. When you succeed at this, boredom loses its grip on you.
Another way to drive away boredom and loneliness is to make you into a great company to be with. This comes easily to the person that accepts who they are and are comfortable being who they are. Knowing how to belong to oneself is the antidote to loneliness. Michel de Montaigne puts it this way,

“The greatest thing in the world is to know how to belong to oneself.”

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28/02/2023

Personal failure?

Personal failure arises when you fail to direct your control over resources and events to a successful end. It may be a result of carelessness at some point, error of judgment about something or someone, inadequate preparation and overconfidence in your abilities.

Personal failure is not produced by an external power or an uncontrollable event. What this means is that, you have the power to get a satisfactory result the next time

The next time you have to begin again, use the opportunity and the lessons learnt from the last failure to prepare adequately. The lessons should guide you away from carelessness and overconfidence.

“Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.” Henry Ford.

When you have the opportunity to begin again, focus on the task at hand and maintain the focus till the end. Keep every distraction out of your mind till you get to the end.

Succeeding the next time is not guaranteed, but the good news is that the right attitude after every failure guarantees success. What is that right attitude?

The right attitude is, ’never stop trying.’ Personal failure is about you not doing right what you have the power to do right. As imperfect human beings, we face daily distractions; some of them could cause loss of focus. The consequence of loss of focus is failure to do the right thing at the right time.

Loss of focus disappears when the determination to succeed at what you really care about is at its strongest. So, if it’s something you really care about and you really desire to succeed at, you’re going to find the power to focus at some point. When this power is found, success is a matter of time.

The truth about personal success is, it’s achieved when the rate of personal failure is increased. The more you fail, recover and use the lessons learnt to try again, you become a better p

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25/02/2023

Where Can You Find Real Treasures”

Real treasures are found in places you’re less likely to search.

You would find real treasures when you choose to embark on the journey you have always avoided.

You would find real treasures when you walk the upward path which has signposts, written in strange tongues that take patience and perseverance to read and understand.

You have been missing real treasures because you have stuck to and still believe lies and illusions you were told from birth.

If you knew how much those lies accepted as truths have stopped you from living a happy life, you would begin now to ask tough questions and discover truths for yourself.

The best person to ask tough questions is you. Real answers to your questions would be found in places where learning, your driver would lead you.

Nothing is hidden from a mind that is willing to probe beyond the superficial and dive into the darkest depth, the home to the real light.

Learning is not always going to be fun but it will never cease to demystify mysteries and give peace to a persistent seeker of real treasures.

In specific terms, the journey to uncover real treasures is the search for self. Discovering one’s real self is discovering real treasures hidden within everyone. Knowing and accepting your real self, your real strengths and everything about you will open the door to real treasures within you. It’s this simple. Unfortunately, only very few accept their real self.

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21/02/2023

How does a man make a difference in his home if he can’t show up for any big decisions?

“The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson.

This purpose is defeated when a man doesn’t show up for the big decisions. When he ceases to be useful, his presence in the home stops to give confidence and security to other members of the home,

Without the assurances of his security for others, his presence leaves no long lasting impact. This lack of impact is primarily demonstrated when a man repeatedly fails to provide financial security for the wife and the children when they really need one.

When this happens, they gradually cease to look up to him for financial support. Consequently, everybody at home gradually begins to see the man as a liability.

The failure to provide financial security for members of his home has a negative spillover effect. Almost everyone at home stops going to him for advice when they want to take a big decision.

They stop going not because he may not have something of value to give but because he has habitually failed to prove his reliability by being a stable financial support. The man is abandoned.

To make his wife and children need him again, he must make a major difference in his life. He has to make the decision to take actions that should improve his self worth. Where does he begin?

He should begin by setting small goals. As a man, set small goals for yourself because if you don’t have one, you would be too comfortable to leave the rut. Bill Copeland says,

“The trouble with not having a goal is that you can spend your life running up and down the field and never score.”

It’s a goal that makes all the difference in life.

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20/02/2023

Love has a home. Its home is in the heart.

Love can’t be described because no one can choose in advance, the time, the place and the one they love. And no one in love has ever been able to wrap their head around the reasons they do the things they do for love sake. In love, everything just happens for no sensible reason.

Anyone in love, who stops at any point to use their head to try to find reasons to justify the feeling, always ends up finding faults and finding excuses not to continue loving. Then they quit!

So, love ends when it’s led by the head and blossoms when it’s led by the heart.

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20/02/2023

How Do I Come To Terms With Being Alone Despite Wanting Company Constantly?

Solitude is the price for self awareness. Self awareness is the light, from which self-doubts and insecurity disappear.

A conscious mind that seeks and is desperate for the truth about self, realizes that it needs to travel alone often. The conscious mind shuns the company of people, who most times constitute the pressure that forces many to abandon the path less travelled.

It’s the path less travelled that is still green, still paved with pleasant stones and still offers true peace of mind, at every milestone reached. All other paths are overcrowded, polluted and infertile.

So everyone who desires true wealth and profound happiness, must choose to spend most of their times in solitude rather than in the company of others.

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13/02/2023

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13/02/2023

You spend quality time with your partner but you still feel feel lonely and not only that? What else?

You've so much on your mind still you don't know or can't create the atmosphere to share with your partner and lighten the burden? Why?

Because your partner seems to be adding to it with their demands, impatience and refusal to understand. You are stretched, almost bursting at the seams and the stress in your relationship, is squeezing the life out of you.

Now, you're thinking that if you could manage the stress in your relationship very well, then you just might be able to achieve a satisfactory level of stability in your life.

You may be right. Here are two basic ways to manage relationship stress.

1. Do this when your partner presses your anger button

It's inescapable that your partner would sometimes do something in words and actions, not on purpose, to get you angry.


If you react naturally by being confrontational, like most of us would, you're going to be stressed out the more. It could lead to a fight that may not end soon.

The opposite reaction to the call-to-anger; being calm should stop the approaching storm from escalating and adding to your feeling of stress.

Sometimes you need to overlook and give others the feeling that they've won in order to have tour space to enjoy peace of mind.

2. Sometimes, choose to talk things over.

Whether it's about your own challenges in the office and at home, sharing your feelings and thoughts with your partner could relieve stress.

A word of caution, to have any meaningful discussion when you're stressed, create a conducive atmosphere for everyone first.

Listen more and, seek to always see and understand your partner's perspective before you share your thoughts.

Your thoughts should create out of everyone's divergent perspectives, a common ground.

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08/02/2023

“Failure will never overtake me if my determination to succeed is strong enough.” – Og Mandino.

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07/02/2023

How to know that the one you love loves you too.

How do I know that the one I love, loves me too?

The signs are more in their actions and less in their words.

They would readjust their list of priorities and make you number one.

The number one priority on that list gives you the right to the lion's share of their love, time, care and orher resources.

When something out of their control, stops them from giving you the majority of their resources, they would humble themselves to apologize, then tell you the truth and appeal to you for understanding.

They would never hesitate, to show you their imperfections, share their embarrassing moments with you and hope you love everything about them.

One more thing, they would always share in your dreams and support you to achieve everything that rocks your world.

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05/02/2023

It's certain that everyone at one point in life has been in a situation where they couldn't make the right choices. The consequence of that was a state of confusion.

Decision making is not supposed to be a difficult task. By knowing the right decision making process, decisions could be reached effectively and effortlessly every time there is a need for it.

01/02/2023

Having a bad time?

If you're going through difficult moment at the time, what're you doing about it?

Are you busy worrying or you're busy focusing on things within your control?

A bad time is made worse by a state of confusion, which is where worrying leads to. On the other hand, control empowers you with the positive belief and the right level of confidence you need to haul yourself out of a bad time quickly.

So, when you have a bad time stop being busy worrying and start being busy taking control of the things you could. In most cases, things within your control would light the torch for you to find your way out of a bad time.

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28/01/2023

The day will come when history will speak. But it will not be the history which will be taught in Brussels, Paris, Washington or the United Nations…Africa will write its own history and in both north and south it will be a history of glory and dignity.

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27/01/2023

Gold is found in places away from plain sight,

found below the ground where easy wins are hard to have,

It's hard to find gold when the going is smooth

but where you stumble and fall, there you will find gold.

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26/01/2023

Life happens to you everyday,

So why postpone happiness to a future date.

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26/01/2023

For five consecutive years, Finland has been number one the World Happiness Report's list.

How's that possible in a country where cold weather is a perennial problem?

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26/01/2023

For five consecutive years, Finland has been number one the World Happiness Report's list.

How's that possible in a country where cold weather is a perennial uproblem?

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26/01/2023

Yet another mistake? This time, one too many?

Well, you can start again, yes from the beginning.

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