Break up and Break free

15/05/2022

Note to self

15/05/2022

Follow the magic!

15/05/2022

I finally did it!

02/05/2022

I’m back!

01/05/2022

Hello!

18/01/2022

Model Behaviour

05/01/2022

When you decide to 🔥 up the past and 🥂 to a brand new future.

04/01/2022

Happy New Year

04/01/2022

21/12/2021

Christmas blues

28/11/2021

When your back sets you back

28/11/2021

Staying the course through setbacks

17/11/2021

Just breathe...⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I'm not sure if there is one moment when you finally let go. My experience has shown me it's more of a process, a series of moments of letting go. It takes time and healing and growth to finally close the door on something that was so pivotal to your world.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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My second husband came into my life during my divorce from my first husband. I was madly in love with #2 but still stuck in the mire of #1. #2 told me it takes 5 years to get over someone. That timeline proved to be true, although it wasn't so much about getting over the person as it was about getting over a way of life, an existence that you held sacred and thought would continue for the rest of your days.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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It took me 5 years to create a brand new life--5 years to fully accept that life as my new normal--5 years to forget the old life ever existed. Now I start again.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Exhale and inhale. Over and over and over. Until the day when what will be becomes what is and what was fades into a distant memory.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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16/11/2021

Staying the course

15/11/2021

Whose storyline is it, anyway?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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When you build your life around someone else, you become a supporting character in their story. When you live to make someone else happy or complete, you make yourself a plot device in their narrative.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Breakups give us the chance to change the script and remember that WE are the protagonist. The person who left is just a foil--a transient character meant to help us realize our strength and purpose as we travel along our hero's journey.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Step up, take the lead and put the focus directly on you. You get to write the next chapter.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I can't wait to find out what happens!

14/11/2021

Sad tale of woe

12/11/2021

It's the end of world as we know it...⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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When your world is upended, and you find yourself deep in the valley, the thought of scaling the mountain one more time seems impossible. You've never been in so much pain and you are convinced you will never climb again. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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But wait a sec. Remember the last time you were facedown in the valley? Did you stay there? For a while, perhaps. Then you took your little broken self and made your way back up.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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You crawled at first, had to be pushed for a bit, took some time to rest, then set off once more. Eventually you made it. Like you did the time before and the time before that. It's not fun, and it hurts like hell. But you did it. And you will do it again.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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And so will I.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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11/11/2021

Unexpected pleasures

10/11/2021

So what's it gonna be?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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When my second husband came into my life I thought he was the polar opposite of my first husband. In my mind, they couldn't have been more different. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Yet, their words upon leaving me were exactly the same (I don't love you anymore) as were their cold and cruel attitudes toward me in the aftermath. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Why did my second marriage end the same way as the first? Because I didn't do the work. I didn't learn the lessons the Universe set out for me the first time around. I made decisions about my future without fully examining the past.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I see the pattern now. I see the things inside me that need to change. I recognize that the only chance I have to "find my true essence in love" is to address my own behaviours, my own triggers and and my wounds and walk the path of transformation. I need to love me best, and the rest will follow.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I will never let myself down again.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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08/11/2021

Wedding Blues

25/10/2021

Fact or fiction?...⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Human brains are notoriously bad at assessing what is true, especially when dealing with something that involves another human brain.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I was 100% certain my marriage would last forever because I was 100% sure of my love for him and his for me. Turns out I was 100% wrong. (Clearly, no one should ever go to Vegas with me.)⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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So when assessing my odds for ever getting over this, I've decided it's best to NOT listen to myself. Like Jon Snow, I know nothing.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Have you been certain of something that turned out not to be true?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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24/10/2021

Who are you?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Good question. And one that eludes so many women of a certain age. We've spent our lives in service to our children and spouses. As time goes on we forget who we are outside of our roles as moms and wives.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Breaking up or divorcing interrupts that thought process and gives us the chance to remember who we were and decide who we are going to be. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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In high school, I was a smart, pretty, popular girl who knew she was all that and a bag of chips. Opportunities came my way because, as my BFF and I used to joke, I'm Kimberly Wright, damn it. I forgot that for a while but I've officially reclaimed the sentiment.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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As you move into your single life, take the time to search your soul, ask the necessary questions and lean into the discomfort. Self-discovery and self-knowledge take time and can bring up some painful things. But it's the most important work you can do.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I'm Kimberly Wright, damn it! Now who the f**k are you?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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23/10/2021

I am worthy.

22/10/2021

This is f**king hard...⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Your life is in shambles, your dreams shattered, finances in question and any semblance of safety and comfort are long gone. So be good to you.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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You are moving through one of the most difficult chapters of your life. It's awful and relentless but this pain does have purpose. It's taking you where you need to go.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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But while you are in the thick of it, love yourself extra -- love yourself best. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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It's f**king hard but it won't be forever.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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21/10/2021

Sometimes it just hurts

21/10/2021

S**t happens...⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Life NEVER turns out as we plan, and yet we are SHOCKED when things go awry.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Joseph Campbell reminds us that we must relinquish our hold on what we thought life would be and embrace the possibility of what is to come. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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That also means letting go of the person we loved. The person we shared our most intimate moments with, the person who said they'd love us forever, the person who we thought would always have our back -- that person is gone. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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But there is something or someone else waiting for each of us. Let's keep the faith.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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15/10/2021

Big girls do cry...⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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My divorce mediator asked me why my marriage ended. I told him I had no f**king clue. You see, I didn't end things. My husband did. And he never bothered to tell me why.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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In my last conversation with my husband, after he had told me he no longer loved me and as I struggled to understand what had happened, I asked him why. Why did his love fade? Why didn't he mention he wasn't happy with us? Why did he hide his feelings from me? Why did he lie and say he would love me forever? Why did he drop a life-destroying bomb on me without any kind of warning?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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His answer: Apparently it was IMPOSSIBLE to tell me anything because I cry. My tears rendered him mute. My emotions prevented him from truth telling. My sensitivity disqualified me from knowing what was going on.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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He actually said that perhaps one day, when I was calmer, he would reveal the reasons for his radical change of heart. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I may never know why my husband decided to leave. But I do know this: my depth of emotion was not the problem, his lack of it was.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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12/10/2021

THIS! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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After a brief but memorable meeting in 1985, this man literally chased me over three decades. Every few years, he'd contact me to see how I was. When we finally connected in person after my first marriage was over, he told me he loved me for 30 years. He told me I was the woman of his dreams. He told me I was the only woman for him.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I believed every word and gave him my heart completely, unequivocally. Ours was a love story for the ages. People would tear up when I told them of our miracle, magical love.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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And then one day, he FaceTimed to say he no longer loved me. He never returned home. He never came for his things. He never explained why. He simply disappeared like our love and our life never existed, never mattered.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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So you wonder why I am heartbroken? It's because I mean nothing to the person who was my everything.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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20/09/2021

Til death do us part. Seriously, who can you count on more than your pretend husband? He loves you more than life, he’s dead sexy and he will never leave you.