01/09/2024
9 SIGNS YOUR WIFE IS EMPTY
I have three daughters and I love them so much.
As their father, I make sure that they are not just well taken care of, but they are also being prepared for their wonderful future—as future wives and future moms.
Kapag usapang pag-aasawa na ang topic namin sa bahay, palagi nilang sinasabi noon na, “Daddy I wanna marry you”. But after explaining how marriage work, they now say, “Daddy, I wanna marry someone like you”.
And I hope so too.
Ayaw na ayaw kong mauwi lang sila sa isang lalake (boy) na yuyurakan at wawasakin lamang ang kanilang mga pangarap at pagka-babae, at sisirain lang ang lahat ng pinag-hirapan naming mag-asawa.
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Since the month of July up until today (August 27), I’ve counseled 53 wives and 14 couples… and one common denominator that I noticed is that 99%, the wives are always empty—and it really breaks my heart.
Kaya sa mga husbands na makaka-basa nito, let me share 9 INDICATORS that YOUR WIFE IS EMPTY.
(NOTE: Wives, kung ayaw mag-basa ni mister, basahin nyo ito sa kanila out-loud and share your thoughts to him as well.)
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🪫SHE DOESN’T DREAM ANYMORE
Noong dalaga naman sya at bata-bata pa ay napaka-dami niyang gustong makamit sa buhay—even the impossible dreams. But because most husbands are disengaged, doesn’t ask, do not listen, and aren’t that interested, maraming asawa ngayon ang nawalan na ng pangarap sa kanilang sarili.
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🪫SHE’S BECOMING MORE INSECURE
Every wife just want to be beautiful in front of their husband. But due to multiple pregnancies (or none at all), gained some weight, at tinubuan na ng white hairs and wrinkles—samahan pa ng panonood ng mga asawang lalake sa mga babaeng “sexy” sa Tiktok—women tends to question and doubt themselves. They are not that confident anymore… they are not that secured anymore. They feel ugly, worst, useless and hopeless.
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🪫NOTHING SEEMS TO EXCITE HER ANYMORE
Dati naman she’s always excited.
Excited sa date n’yo.
Excited mag planning with you.
Excited sa solo moments ninyo, at marami pang iba.
Then all of the sudden, the husband stopped showing up. He’s not that concerned anymore. Mas pipiliin pa n’ya mag barkada at sumama sa iba. Noon naman, halos gawin niya lahat makasama ka lang—kahit saglit lang.
When “that thing” stops… then it breaks her especially when the only thing that would excite her the most is her husbands concern and care for her—just like the old days.
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🪫SHE AUTO-PILOTS
Noon naman she finds joy in every single thing she do. Preparing breakfast and meals, doing house chores, taking care of the kids—just to please her husband. At dahil maraming husband ngayon ang “absent” emotionally or physically (worst, both), she sees things as routines nalang at dahil “kailangan” lamang—when in reality, it doesn’t give her any fulfillment at all.
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🪫SHE ISOLATES HERSELF
Pagod na sa bahay, samahan pa ng trabaho para sa karamihan, emotionally drained na at mentally exhausted, mag-aalaga pa ng mga bata, wala na siyang time para sa kaniyang mga kaibigan. Bigla nalang naubos ang mga friends niya. At dahil namumuo na ang insecurity and unhappiness, she’d rather isolate herself nalang. She’s too broken and empty para “ma-judge” pa ng iba.
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🪫SHE’S DEPRESSED AND LONELY
100% of my clients (wives) said they feel “all alone” in their marriage relationship. 32% were diagnosed with clinical depression and anxiety.
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🪫SHE DEVELOPED A ROTTEN ATTITUDE
The Bible says that our hearts are the wellspring of life. Jesus also told his disciples that “out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks”. So kung hindi maganda ang lumalabas sa bibig ng asawang babae, o nagpapakita ito ng hindi magandang ugali, it simply shows how broken and empty she is. What else can we expect kung yun ang naitatanim ng asawang lalake sa babae? Remember, every wife is a reflection sa kung paano siya inaalagaan at tinatrato ng asawa nito.
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🪫SHE LOOKS 20 OR 30 YEARS OLDER
Stress + worry + emptiness + loneliness + physical restlessness = zombie mode.
Yung ang ganda niya noong dalaga pa siya, ngayon muka ng lola. Tapos panget na panget yung mister. Pag nag-paganda naman pinaghihinalaan pang may-iba.
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🪫SHE CAN’T GENUINELY SMILE INSIDE HER OWN HOME
Few women say they are happier outside.
Most would say they still feel empty regardless kung nasaan man sila. Women who feel empty have difficult time pursuing happiness, how much more “joy”?
Madaling makita kung genuine ang ngiti ng isang babae just by looking to their eyes.
There’s an explanation to why some marriages aren’t working, and there are many factors involved why it happens.
There are ways and “interventions” available to either save, restore, nurture, and establish your marriage. Remember, your marriage deserve to thrive because YOU are worth it.
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