Date Me or Hate Me

24/09/2021

It has been a minute, hasn’t it? Don’t let the title fool you, I am still happily taken. But I wanted to use this come back episode to really highlight some things I have learned along the way (which you will hear also why I find that important). I hope you enjoy it 💋

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25/06/2021

I decided to make this week’s episode about the person who has been my (very pleasant) distraction from recording episodes, my man. So here is a little intro for him and our story, so far 😉

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29/04/2021

I hate using the word “crazy” (and you’ll see why in the beginning of this episode) but sometimes it is sadly true. Some people are just plain crazy, but not all of them. In this episode, I explain my thoughts on “crazy,” tell my own crazy story, and share your experiences to really get to the bottom of this phenomenon. Hope you enjoy 💋

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29/04/2021

I hate using the word “crazy” (and you’ll see why in the beginning of this episode) but sometimes it is sadly true. Some people are just plain crazy, but not all of them. In this episode, I explain my thoughts on “crazy,” tell my own crazy story, and share your experiences to really get to the bottom of this phenomenon. Hope you enjoy 💋

08/04/2021

You can’t even act like you don’t know what a friend with benefits (FWB) is.. most of us have been there. Someone you enjoying hanging out with, who you’re friends with, then 💥 BAM! 💥 here comes the ✨benefits✨ 😉 Some end in love and most end in a mess/loss of friendship.

**Not to be confused with a b***y call**

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19/03/2021

It’s about time I put my two cents in on some topics I have been seeing more of lately. And those topics revolve around ✨toxic✨ masculinity. No, it’s not all men, but some things just need to be said 👀

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05/03/2021

Men aren’t usually the people who come to mind when you hear the word “bougie” but they are often the ones acting like it. Yeah, nice things are nice. But they aren’t everything. That’s what we discuss in this episode.

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19/02/2021

I have talked before about doing an episode that is all about your questions, concerns, statements, etc. and the time has come. Check out the first dating Q&A episode through the link below, and I hope you guys enjoy it!

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07/02/2021

I hate it here

05/02/2021

Next up in the athletic roaster of men I have dated is the baseball player. ⚾️ This story is one of my favorites and you will find out why. Dating a professional athlete is far from easy, but it makes for a great story 😉

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22/01/2021

This episode is for the boys... and le****ns ❤️ Talking to anyone can be difficult but when it comes to making the first move to show someone you’re interested, that can be even harder (and scary tbh). Find out the best ways to speak to women both online and in person and how to handle what comes after that 😉

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01/01/2021

Welp, we made it to the end of one of the worst years of all time. I think I speak for most everyone when I say that 2020 will not be missed. In this week’s episode, I recap how dating has been this year and talk about all the lessons this wild year has taught us. It was rough, but 2021 will indeed be our year! 💕

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17/12/2020

Hear me out: there are good rebounds and there are bad rebounds. And just like everything else in relationships and dating, they can be very ✨complicated✨

In this week’s episode, I talk about my biggest “rebound” experience and give my thoughts on the concept. 🤔 Also, go listen to music while you’re at it! You won’t regret it.

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15/12/2020

This man DOES NOT want to meet blackout Nicole 😂 but I do love mimosas 🤔

04/12/2020

I’m sorry it’s been a minute, babes. Life has been a wild ride (it is 2020 but I wasn’t expecting THIS much struggle). But, I am back and I wanted to explain where I was (and still am) at recently. If anyone else is ever struggling, reach out to me ANY time because I am always here for you! 💖

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24/11/2020

Now this one, is actually really good 😂

29/10/2020

This one goes out to you, Granny 🍓

I recently lost one of the most important people in my life. My best friend, my support system, my biggest fan, my grandmother. I will miss all of our talks and time together more than I can say.

This episode is about our time, what I learned from her, and your grandparents’ advice ❤️

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09/10/2020

This week’s episode is a bit of a touchy subject, toxic relationships.

Toxic relationships are intense, hard, emotional, damaging but also can make us stronger, more confident in ourselves, help us create better boundaries, and become better people in the aftermath. Usually the hardest, darkest times teach us the most valuable lessons and it just proves that relationships are no different.

05/10/2020

Not sure if this date can be topped tbh

24/09/2020

“lOvE yOuRsElF!!!!¡” is something every girl has heard at least once or twice. And usually after a breakup. (Guys, do you tell your bros this? Genuinely curious) It isn’t wrong to say, but I think it’s time we chose our words a little more wisely when we have this talk with our friends. So here is my take on the new “love yourself” 💕

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22/09/2020

A great take from the male perspective! 👏🏽

Fellas.

The perfect woman doesn’t exist.

They all have their level of crazy.

Just like we do.

But 10 years after divorce and dating a few women, I’ve figured a few things out about this relationship deal.

Here’s one of the biggest lessons I’ve learned.

CHOOSING.

We must CHOOSE.

I played small for a long time.
I had trust issues so I didn’t trust.
I had fear so I kept my distance.
I had resentment that I projected.

In the back of my mind I had the idea that one day the perfect woman would just kick down the door and save me. That This bad ass chick would trump all the others and it would just be rainbows and kittens 24/7.

All the while over the years I used the story of HER insecurities, or HER crazy, or HER issues as my excuse to why I couldn’t make a relationship work.

When in reality I simply hadn’t CHOSEN.

Most of all I hadn’t chosen ME.

To work on me and do some dark, scary, humbling work on ME. To see what I didn’t want to see and change what I was too damn stubborn to change.

Fellas you and I could bounce from woman to woman easily. That’s simple, it takes zero effort. We can say she’s got this problem or that problem, and we are probably right. We can move on over and over and at the end of it all that a pretty hollow existence.

Keeping her at a distance.

But the truth is there is only one way we are going to BUILD (not find) love.

And that’s if we CHOOSE.

CHOOSE HER.

Choose her and choose to do whatever work necessary to BUILD with her.

CHOOSE to own your s**t

CHOOSE to close other doors.

CHOOSE to get off the fence.

CHOOSE to dive into the deep and dark s**t.

CHOOSE you man.

More than anything, CHOOSE YOU.

CHOOSE to honor yourself by not playing small.

Look, if you want to be Hugh Hefner and have 47 girlfriends so be it. No judgement at all.

However.

If you truly want to build an empire with a queen, YOU MUST CHOOSE TO BE A KING.

When I quit LOOKING for a Queen and I CHOSE to go all in on me, the little girls disappeared and she showed up.

Yea she tests me. A good woman will.

Yea I still have fears. I suspect I always will.

But from one dude to another I can attest to you that the biggest thing I’ve changed to bring this Queen into my life is ME.

I CHOSE ME.

I CHOSE to quit lying and blaming.

And once I made that choice and did that work, the game changed.

Fellas, CHOOSE YOU.

Surround yourself with other men building REAL relationships. With men who will hold themselves and you to a higher standard.

Much love y’all.

03/09/2020

Long Distance Relationships, some have experienced them. Most fear them. On this episode, we discuss the truth about LDRs and how (or even if) they can really end up working out in the long run. It’s all about what you put your mind to, baby.

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03/09/2020

Lmfao, this can’t be serious.

He then proceeded to ask me if I wanted to be a part of this group... I really don’t hate men but y’all make it hard 🙃

27/08/2020

First things first: if a man is not verified on Bumble ladies, make him do it! We don’t have time for any catfish around here.
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Second, is anyone else use to getting like a million different things in one message from men? Also, if I wanted your mArKeTiNg AdViCe I would ask for it. I work in marketing also but you wouldn’t know that because you just bombard me with a million things in the first message without knowing anything about me.
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So, you won’t get an episode, Michael, but here is your 15 minutes of “fame” 😘

20/08/2020

SEASON 2️⃣ WHADDUP!

What do you get when you mix a dating podcaster with wine? 🍷 Drunk DMs!

We have all done it at least once (unless you’re under 21 👀). Besides being entertaining, I threw in a few good tidbits of dating advice towards the end 😉

Link is below for the new episode and here are some of the DMs for your viewing pleasure.

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09/08/2020

This one comes from one of my friends on her hunt for a decent man.
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Guy either loves knees and is using some reverse psychology to get what he wants. Or actually hates them and is torturing himself by putting it out there so soon.
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Maybe we will find out the truth one day.

30/07/2020

So a girl goes to work in another city for a weekend, Bumble profile in tow, and ends up matching with a former reality star. A few text message and FaceTime conversations later, and he’s on the podcast. Find out Zach’s perspective on dating and other hot topics in this week’s episode!

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24/07/2020

This isn’t the most well known saying but we all know it basically means prioritize your friendships when you’re in a relationship. It may seem obvious but it isn’t always easy to balance your friendships and relationships. The important part is realizing what is happening, communicating with those involved, and making any necessary changes in your life. Take if from the Spice Girls, if you wanna be my lova ya gotta get with my friends 💋

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09/07/2020

I am sad to say there won’t be an episode today 😔 but we will be back in action next week!
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In the meantime, enjoy Henry shooting his shot not once, but TWICE. 👏🏽 The first one is a classic and the second is pretty creative, it’s a hard choice.

Which one is your favorite line?

02/07/2020

Ahh the “good ‘ole days” as they call them. Honestly, high school was not my favorite time of my life 🙅🏽‍♀️ but I was fortunate enough to have a pretty great guy as my first “real” boyfriend.

Let’s uncover our high school lessons in this week’s episode!
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